Konnected Minds Podcast with Derrick Abaitey

From the dangerous mindset that the devil is the one destroying families to the revolutionary truth that until you tame the common enemy you and your spouse can never be on the same wavelength, and why the brutal truth about why millennials and Gen Z don't trust marriage is because the Bible has been corrupted, ministers and preachers have messed up, the older generation managed broken marriages, and some never saw any marriage at all leaving them with no examples to glean from and take into their life journey, the young people coming from broken homes who came from homes that seemingly looked as if they were standing but had no examples they could use as blueprints for their own marriages, the realization that changing the narratives of corruption surrounding marriage so we can trust again is not about money because if your mind is right then as a man thinketh so everything about your perception of marriage is your mindset, the wisdom that until this mind is reguided whatever conversations we hold about marriage will not go far because it's a thing of the mind, the dangerous saying that love is sweet but when money is inside the love is sweeter which is taking advantage when you must understand the purpose for marriage and the purpose for money in marriage, the candid admission that money is sweet, money is comfort, money makes love go to hell but to make that money work for us there also has to be a corresponding peace on understanding and intentionality, the critical question of should women tell their husbands exactly how much they earn with the answer that it depends on who the woman is married to because it's not a blanket yes or no, the right thing being 101% financial transparency but the reality that not every marriage is the same, the marriage where if a spouse knows everything you earn the children's school fees may not be paid, house rents will not be renewed, certain basic needs and utilities will not be taken care of not because the other person is bad but because of the antecedents that need to be understood going back to how we were raised, the man counseled who said all through his life before he married he never had savings, never opened accounts, chopstick finish and start again chopstick which you can't blame because of the effect of upbringing, the woman who should open up completely if she has a husband that understands management and how to handle finances so the two can join heads together making the best out of finances, the dangerous reality of having a man who even when he knows how much you earn finishes it with drinking or taking it to take care of people when thousands of human beings have been exposed to this reality, the man who when the wife used to hand 100% of her salary to him wasn't unfaithful, wasn't playing around with women but used that money to visit people who are not well and the money finished in two weeks leaving children's school fees pending and money for food finished while he filled the car to run around contributing zero to the household.

Guest: Mama Cathy

Host: Derrick Abaitey

From the dangerous mindset that you need huge capital to start a business in Africa to the revolutionary truth that coconut sellers make between 300 to 500 cedis profit daily; proving that genuine wealth building starts with determination and a mindset shift not money.

Guest: Priscilla Atta Peters

Company: 30Seeds

Host: Derrick Abaitey

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From the dangerous mindset that women initiate divorces because they get in there and discover comfort is not just about money to the revolutionary truth that they want time, attention, affection, and a number of things beyond financial provision, and why the brutal truth about why divorces skyrocket is that men don't understand that male and female are wired differently so even when the provision is needed and appreciated, if you do not want to become a victim you've got to come up with a shared vision of what kind of family do we want to be, what kind of legacy do we want to create, what kind of inheritance do we want to give our children, are we going to raise survivors or dynasties, the deep conversations around these areas that make a woman know she's not coming into a situation of unilateral decision making when it comes to finances but based on these parameters and a common shared vision, the realization that divorce will really try to be a thing of the past when communication is prioritized but most times divorce comes as a result of the fact that not much is communicated and you just take what you see without engaging on the modalities that make the person feel a part of it, the brilliant question that takes us back to shared vision: should the woman support the business to allow the family to build a legacy or should she do her own thing, the reality that not many women will come into the life of a man who has clarity with regards to where they are headed as a business wanting to expand and build a dynasty unless you've communicated with your wife, the lunch of information that stops women from joining forces because she stumbled on stories that some woman supported a husband and at the end she was thrown out or the mother was thrown out, the effect of upbringing and what she saw that creates premonitions making her unwilling to support based on antecedents, the slice on the husband to bring her to a place where she understands that whatever produced her good or bad is not what is going to be the outcome of who we are, the balance where the man asks about her dreams and aspirations no matter how small because God never created any junk so he believes she has dreams and can encourage her to do something on the side that will bring the best of her out, the peace that reigns when it's not just the woman coming to support the agenda of the man which is 100% good but seeing a man who is also interested in digging deep into who she is and trying to bring her out so that in supporting him her dreams are not dead, the women who completely ignore the fact that they were supposed to come and support and encourage because they feel left out when limited information comes and they feel a sense of threat that oh my god I don't think I'm a part of what is going on, the wisdom that nobody is really wired a certain way, it's the effect of upbringing, effect of environment, and significant emotional experiences that contribute to who you ultimately have as a support base or as a counterproductive human, the football analogy where there's nothing like competition when we have the winning team but how do you have a winning team when everyone has got their dreams and aspirations, the quality of players where competition is knocked out when two partners come to a place of knowing the quality of their lives, and if they cannot fish it out themselves they pay professional help to bring them to the place where they know, the potential wife that will support you so much but if you do not dig you may not know whether she was raised in a home that was dysfunctional and even though she tries to put up a front there will be triggers that will make her go back to her upbringing and the things she saw which you may not even know,

Guest: Mama Cathy

Host: Derrick Abaitey

From the dangerous mindset of sizing people based on physique and six packs to the revolutionary truth that nobody will remember you for your work achievements more than family and the children that carry the legacy, and why the brutal truth about marriage longevity is that the older generation had a level of tolerance the younger generation doesn't have because younger people are not ready to put in so much and leave when they're not happy when happiness is not a gift that comes in a breath of gold but something you work out with a threshold of patience, the powerful manifesto every couple needs before engaging: a blueprint, a working document that maps out where you want to see your marriage on your 10th anniversary covering finances, children's upbringing, career, spirituality, sex, everything so you don't marry blindly and walk into it without direction, the woman's perspective that values transparency, honesty, truthfulness, faithfulness as four words describing one thing because faithfulness means you are faithful to me and not cheating unless the woman didn't love you and you have somebody outside and it's only psychoning from you to fix the one she's interested in, the 33 years plus of marriage proving that date night and spending quality time means so much to a woman who wants a man whose presence they can feel, the revolutionary advice that most women choose men they can allow themselves to respect because a man is wired for respect as their greatest desire and love language, the capital letters warning to never marry a man you cannot respect because no man wants to marry another man and your intuitiveness as a woman should be mixed with humility because men are logical and don't want to be challenged even if you have a point to make, the realization that you can say good morning and it means good morning or you can say good morning and it means disrespect so if a woman wants their marriage to work and have the man feel like the man in the home give that man respect, the marriages that are not really getting better because the younger generation doesn't have the tolerance older generations had and are not ready to put in work, the happiness trap where everybody thinks if there's no happiness we work out when if everybody is working out what will be left of this institution, the early years of marriage being the most challenging season filled with expectations that get smashed coupled with raising children when you have a husband that is extremely intelligent, hardworking, and out there achieving so much but wasn't really available and you hadn't planned for the lack of availability, the seven years with four children that was big challenging but they set out, understood themselves, and gave him the space to become the best thing he was, the endurance through eight years that was a bit unstable and then started settling in bringing them to a season where father is seven on earth, the other couples whose early years are thrilling and then suddenly something strikes and the storm comes in and you compare the past and the present discovering the early years were extremely smooth but now you're in this challenging and testing season, the sitting back now to say I bless God for everything that happened because it brought the best out of us, the secret to surviving your early years of marriage, and why the ultimate truth is this: stop sizing people based on physique and six packs because that six packs man can put you in grief tomorrow and that lady that is like an angel that got missing from heaven can send you to an early grave, beauty is good and six packs is good but you should slow it down and promise yourself that you receive family that in the midst of the confusion and chaos in the world you will stand out.

Guest: Mama Cathy

Host: Derrick Abaitey

From the husband who wants to check out because his wife nags and doesn't reason with him to the revolutionary truth that every person has a melting point that determines who they ultimately become, and why the brutal truth about why marriages collapse is that we spend years learning careers like medicine and law but expect to master marriage in six months when the microwave mindset of competing with AI and technology will never work in relationship, the wisdom that nothing good comes easy and if we want to fix society we must be willing to pay the price to reorder and rewrite the storylines, the realization that most families have broken people terribly and immensely but it's only the clothes that cover their idiosyncrasies, the challenge to the younger generation that you may have been broken in the family you come from but you mustn't repeat the cycle, the warning that if you haven't looked critically at how to affect the things in your childhood you wish had not happened you're going to give a double dose of that to your children, the dangerous reality that some ladies picture an image of a husband as just an ATM machine which is a very faulty and erroneous mindset to have, the call to raise daughters who would not think like that by looking frantically for whoever can take you through psychometric analysis that can tell you about you beyond you to clean the contents of water that had been infiltrated and corrupted, the powerful statement that women don't just blame the ladies, blame fatherhood because the woman is created by God to draw inspiration from the father, the message to present fathers to bless your daughters and look for a woman you can trust to help the process of healing and restoration, the quantum reality check that helps discover the reason why a person is the way the person is because nobody is created to be a nag or irresponsible, something was broken somewhere, the woman who nags because her husband never listens to her and really hears her out, never pays attention when she's talking so she forces him to hear what she's saying without knowing that men are not wired to handle nagging attitudes, the man who goes or complains that she doesn't reason with him and even when he wants to have a conversation it doesn't really happen so he's lost the desire to even sleep with her and is checking out, the question that determines the next line of action: what effort have you made to seek help for both of you, the wisdom that nobody has monopoly of knowledge and you may be excellent at your work and business but you may not know everything when it comes to relationship, the realization that there is no situation that cannot be handled and made better when it comes to these dysfunctionalities if you're willing to pay the price and say I want to marry right, I want to have my marriage work, I want to be a blessing to my partner, the revolutionary belief that we are not also willing to pay the price to fix the family institution and the responsibility raised on the head of the male because they are the heads but the neck turns the head, the neck that you allow to be dysfunctional will tell you the wrong direction so why don't you fix the neck, the critical truth that the content must be sorted out before marriage not six months after you thought you knew them because will you practice medicine or law just by being exposed to tutelage in two months or six months when careers require years of exposure, the challenge that this generation wants to bring microwave mindsets into relationship.

Guest: Mama Cathy

Host: Derrick Abaitey

From coming into marriage as a fresh graduate with zero income to 33 years of partnership built on redefining contribution beyond money, and why the brutal truth about why 40% of marriages fail because of finances is that couples limit provision to just the person bringing in monetary means when domestic needs, spiritual assignments, and taking care of children are resources that cannot be quantified but amount to so much, the young bride who wasn't working so her husband was really the one in charge of providing finances but there was no control or superiority because in those times there were no televisions giving so much information about relationship struggles, no telephones, no influence, so information was limited making it easier to respect what each partner brought to the table, the realization that if you don't redefine contribution you destabilize the equation of marriage because the person not bringing in money may feel dehumanized and brought to a level where they feel inferior and not needed, the candid admission that no matter how the other partner tries to make you happy you still feel you could have been better off if you had your own money because of the value society places on money, the wisdom that money is not the only parameter that makes marriage work because there's somebody taking care of domestic needs which might not be quantified monetarily but it's something, somebody taking care of spiritual assignments praying for the family to thrive and succeed, somebody taking care of children which you don't quantify in monetary terms but somebody does that, the husband who recognized that even though she wasn't gainfully employed she was taking care of the home front so there was equal balancing out of what each brought to the table, the respect and management that meant she wasn't scrambling for leftover bread crumbs which happens when people in control of money in a particular season do not value what the other partner brings in, the generational difference where married couples in the past didn't have much marriage counseling and you married based on connection socially or spiritually, where in the context of Christianity once you were Christian you were open to marrying another person who said they were Christian, the modern reality where younger generations must know it's not only money but other things that matter, the ladies who picture an image of a husband as just an ATM machine when marriage requires seeing the full picture of contribution, the statistic that women initiate divorces the most because they get in there and discover the reality doesn't match the picture, the question of whether marriages get better or worse after 33 years, the debate about whether if you contribute 50% of your salary to the family and I do 50% should I also help you in bathing the children and cooking, the principle that men should also support their women not just in the home but in business, the wisdom that in your view if a man starts a business the woman should support it not just do her own thing because the quality of the players in marriage determines whether you seek competition or collaboration.

Guest: Mama Cathy

Host: Derrick Abaitey

From the dangerous mindset that no one is coming to save you to the revolutionary truth that when you realize at age 12 or 13 that your entire family is waiting for someone else to rescue them you get an awakening that changes everything, and why the brutal truth about becoming a millionaire at 25 and losing it all by 27 is that the first thing that comes to an average Ghanaian person's mind when given an opportunity in business is steal. A deep conversation about the mindset of success with Christian Amoh

Guest: Christian Zen Amoh

Company - Ohemaa Rice

Host: Derrick Abaitey

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From the nagging wife who feels unheard to the husband who shuts down because he cannot handle her communication style, and why the brutal truth about why marriages collapse is that every person has a melting point that determines who they ultimately become, the woman who nags because her husband never listens to her and really hears her out, never pays attention when she's talking so she forces him to hear what she's saying without knowing that men are not wired to handle nagging attitudes, the realization that addressing brokenness, mindset, worldviews, ideologies, beliefs, and most importantly values is the only way to save a marriage because a woman who has exasperated her husband has not been able to actualize what her values are, the wisdom that when both partners are taken through proper help and therapy they could have the most excellent marriage thereafter because for lack of knowledge people perish but when knowledge hits you realize who you're married to, the revolutionary belief that any two people can make a marriage work excellently well because there is no wrong person only a wrong choice founded on ignorance and things you were not exposed to, the couples who separate over irreconcilable differences and then sit in front of a counselor and independently say I understand now why my husband or my wife was acting that way, now I understand myself, now it's like the veil is lifted, the 25 years of counseling and life coaching and 33 plus years of staying married that proves no matter how much we think we know there is a place of knowing where every veil that contributed to challenges is completely taken off and you see things for how they truly are and then you come to a place of healing, the internet coaches and counselors giving blanket marital advice when what works for one marriage may not work for another because how one person manages their marriage must not ultimately be the way you do yours, the joint accounts that work in some homes but may never work in others, the separate bank accounts that can exist while being one in spirit as long as you know exactly what you are doing financially as a home where you have different accounts but the family income is one, the common purse where both partners send percentages to with investments and children's education funds where you bring 50% of your income into this account, 20% into that account, and leave a percentage for personal allowance, the debate about

Guest: Mama Cathy

Host: Derrick Abaitey

From coming into marriage as a fresh graduate with zero income to 33 years of partnership built on redefining contribution beyond money, and why the brutal truth about why 40% of marriages fail because of finances is that couples limit provision to just the person bringing in monetary means when domestic needs, spiritual assignments, and taking care of children are resources that cannot be quantified but amount to so much, the young bride who wasn't working so her husband was really the one in charge of providing finances but there was no control or superiority because in those times there were no televisions giving so much information about relationship struggles, no telephones, no influence, so information was limited making it easier to respect what each partner brought to the table, the realization that if you don't redefine contribution you destabilize the equation of marriage because the person not bringing in money may feel dehumanized and brought to a level where they feel inferior and not needed, the candid admission that no matter how the other partner tries to make you happy you still feel you could have been better off if you had your own money because of the value society places on money, the wisdom that money is not the only parameter that makes marriage work because there's somebody taking care of domestic needs which might not be quantified monetarily but it's something, somebody taking care of spiritual assignments praying for the family to thrive and succeed, somebody taking care of children which you don't quantify in monetary terms but somebody does that, the husband who recognized that even though she wasn't gainfully employed she was taking care of the home front so there was equal balancing out of what each brought to the table, the respect and management that meant she wasn't scrambling for leftover bread crumbs which happens when people in control of money in a particular season do not value what the other partner brings in, the generational difference where married couples in the past didn't have much marriage counseling and you married based on connection socially or spiritually, where in the context of Christianity once you were Christian you were open to marrying another person who said they were Christian, the modern reality where younger generations must know it's not only money but other things that matter, the ladies who picture an image of a husband as just an ATM machine when marriage requires seeing the full picture of contribution, the statistic that women initiate divorces the most because they get in there and discover the reality doesn't match the picture, the question of whether marriages get better or worse after 33 years, the debate about whether if you contribute 50% of your salary to the family and I do 50% should I also help you in bathing the children and cooking, the principle that men should also support their women not just in the home but in business, the wisdom that in your view if a man starts a business the woman should support it not just do her own thing because the quality of the players in marriage determines whether you seek competition or collaboration, the transparency question of should women tell your husband exactly how much you earn with the emphatic answer of 101% yes, and why the ultimate truth is this: life itself is very challenging and finding solutions to issues that have been problems most especially as it relates to relationship requires bringing people to a place of peace, giving clarity on the issue of relationship, family life, marriage, and helping people navigate the rough terrain of life because we are created for relationship, understanding that there are things that should be sorted out before marriage because if you wait until after it's too late, recognizing that being creative for relationship means balancing your pursuit with peace, knowing that transitioning from where you are to where you ought to be within the confines of relationship requires gaining insight and knowledge and wisdom that will guarantee peace for the next 40 to 50 years, and if you want to make money not the problem in a relationship or marriage you must be careful to know that money is not the only denominator because there are other things brought in that if you quantify them amount to so much, and when you understand that provision isn't limited to monetary means, when you respect what each partner contributes whether it's finances or domestic care or spiritual covering or raising children, when you don't let the person in control of money feel superior and make the other feel inferior, you're not just building a marriage that lasts 33 years, you're creating a partnership where both people feel valued, needed, and respected regardless of who holds the financial power in any given season.

Guest: Mama Cathy

Host: Derrick Abaitey

From childhood neglect and zero attention from parents to building a social selling empire on TikTok making over 800,000 cedis, and why the brutal truth about entrepreneurial success is that the drive to be seen, to be heard, and to finally get the attention you prayed for but never received creates the kind of relentless hunger that turns restriction into freedom and loneliness into financial power, the young girl who grew up with different people getting different types of treatment and being so level headed she didn't misbehave despite having no attention from parents or the people she stayed with, the 14 year old who went to SHS and never went back home, who stayed with her big sister who was mostly not there giving her freedom to be alone and do things on her own, the daughter of hardworking farmers who wake up at 4am every day to go to the farm and never stop even though they are old and could rest because they built their own business and have the option but choose to keep going, the university graduate who watched her parents educate six kids through farming alone without begging for money proving that any small thing if you build on it consistently is going to yield something, the girl who always wanted to be a journalist until a conversation in SHS about an uncle in construction making a lot of money made her realize she likes money because money equals freedom, the business woman who tried nine to five jobs and hated being controlled and supervised because growing up alone made her not like being controlled by other people, the social seller who discovered that she can speak to people, teach, set up the camera and talk about stuff because she wants to be seen and heard and people don't even have what's in her head, the TikTok entrepreneur who made over 800,000 cedis selling products online when haters said she didn't make that money and her response was I don't care because the money is in her account not theirs, the daughter whose mother was against her coming to Accra thinking she would engage in prostitution because that's the perception about Accra but she felt like her mom didn't know her well which is why she was thinking that way, the young woman who never had it easy, who grew up with different people and got different treatment and mistreatment which made her tough but also made her want freedom so much because she was tired of being with people, the level headed girl who had the freedom to be alone from 14 years old and didn't misbehave proving that not having attention doesn't break everyone, it creates some people who say I want to be alone since you're not giving me what I need, and why the ultimate truth is this: not being heard as a child, never having attention from parents, being restricted when it comes to money even though your parents were doing well because your mom is not going to let you have it easy, growing up with family friends and uncles and aunties instead of your own parents because your mom was very busy farming and taking care of six kids, all of that neglect and restriction doesn't destroy everyone, it creates some people who say I want my freedom, I want to be seen, I want to be heard, and when they discover business lets them teach and speak and show people what's in their head, when making money gives them the freedom they never had growing up, when financial success means finally getting the attention they prayed for but never received, they push through with relentless hunger because the alternative is going back to those days of being invisible, and if you want to start a business, if you want to learn how to use social media to promote your business and make something out of it, if you want to know how someone did it alone and believes you can also do it, then this conversation is for you because charity is here for the small business owners, the people who want to start but don't know what to start from, the people who have started but don't know how to go about it, and she's going to spill everything she has done step by step including how to build your own product.

Guest: Charity Boateng

Host: Derrick Abaite