Leadership Chemistry

Our emotions are a key piece of us that cannot be controlled. It's a common reaction to try to "fix" negative or undesirable feelings, but it's not really possible and those feelings can end up turning into harmful behaviors if left unchecked. This is where Emotional Agility comes in. As coaches, it's important to learn how to work WITH our clients' feelings to enact positive change, rather than focusing on the myth of "control."

In this episode, Danny describes the difference between emotional intelligence vs. emotional agility. He shares his F.E.E.L. Model to help you work with your clients as they navigate the emotions they experience in their lives. If you can help them live by their values, rather than their emotional impulses, you create an environment that will bring out their best intuitions and choices.

"Emotional Agility is using curiosity, acceptance, and our values to use our emotions towards positive change. It's being flexible with our thoughts and feelings so we can respond optimally to things that pop up in every day life." -Danny Coleman

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In this episode of Take Care Radio, Danny unpacks the concept of Motivational Interviewing. Motivational Interviewing (MI) is a coaching (and counseling and psychological) technique used in a variety of cases to help another person to be empowered and get motivated to make changes. When it comes to fitness coaching, MI can be very helpful in understanding and solving the clients' current struggles.

Danny explains that there are different aspects of MI, highlighting four of them: the professional should not treat everyone the same, people have their specific and unique nuances; the professional should know that the expert is, in fact, the client; it's important to give a layer of self-control to the client (autonomy); it's important to take into account ambivalence (flexibility and sustainability). These general guidelines, if followed correctly, can really make a difference in someone's transformation.

"We just want to be aware that each and every person you work with is a different individual, with a different story, with a different set of values, with a different set of circumstances and they needed to be treated as such." – Danny Coleman

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Welcome to another episode of Take Care Radio. Today, Danny welcomes his brother Brandon Coleman to talk all things careers, financial health, and how to make good decisions to keep your finances in check. Brandon tells us about his background working in dance performance and how there's no secret to achieving success: all of our choices are responsible for our situation and making smart choices is the key.

In order to be successful in our jobs and overall careers, it's important to always be engaged in reaching the 'next level', always be persistent, and always keep analyzing the 'worst case scenario'. Most of the time, the fears of following our passion and doing what we love as a job are disproportional and the worst thing that could happen sometimes exists only in our heads. Tune in to listen to the whole conversation!

"How do we acknowledge that this is where we want to be and how do we find the way to get to where we want to be down the road, knowing that there are going to be more challenges?" – Brandon Coleman

Related Links

Can't Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds by David Goggins

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Podcast: Breaking the Wall with Brandon Coleman

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Every human being has a purpose in this life and an opportunity to follow this purpose. What happens most of the time is that this purpose stays hidden throughout life and the person, by fate or by circumstances, is not capable of putting it in action. The idea of someone seeing this hidden purpose (or hidden potential) in someone when even they don't see it is the topic of this episode. It's called The Morpheus Effect and you'll learn all about it.

This episode features Dr. Jade Teta, one of Danny's oldest friends and mentors. Dr. Jade explains this concept of planting a "seed" in someone that ends up serving as an encouragement act. Making a parallel with what coaches do, they also have this ability to turn clients into heroes, inspiring them to believe more in themselves, and helping them discover what they don't think they're capable of becoming. Tune in to learn more!

"Stop trying to make them [other people] see in you what you would like them to see, but suggest suddenly to them in your actions, beliefs, and thoughts around them that they are this greater thing. And maybe – just maybe due to this – they will become that." – Dr. Jade Teta

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Imposter syndrome manifests as that constant internal feeling that we don't know enough, that we lack knowledge and ability, and that we don't have what it takes to play a certain role or follow a certain profession. Thinking less of ourselves can lead to anxious feelings and self-sabotage, but it's important to know that imposter syndrome is a very common issue and everyone at some point has gone through something like this before.

In this episode of Take Care Radio, Danny talks about how to deal with imposter syndrome. More important than trying to overcome it, Danny explains, is trying to get familiar with it and trying to understand where is this feeling coming from and what is triggering it. There isn't a magic pill to get rid of this problem but according to Danny: 'if you always do your best, it will eventually eliminate the sensation of self-judgment. Tune in to learn more!

"Growth is inherently uncomfortable. You have to let your old self die to become this new self and the side dishes of that are going to be insecurity, they are going to be inadequacy, they are going to be embarrassment." – Danny Coleman

Related Links

Think Again by Adam Grant

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In the world of coaching, there is one thing that is definitely on the top 3 things to have if you want to make changes: personal integrity. You can't create significant results if you are not committed, consistent, and if you don't believe in yourself. And that is something valid for professional coaches too: be there for the clients no matter what. And showing trust for clients is the first step of the job.

In this episode of Take Care Radio, Danny talks about this concept of integrity and how important it is to create a sense of self-reliance. Do the thing that you proposed yourself to do. Change the habit that you want to change. Be where you said you would. These are simple things to accomplish but will make a huge difference in how you see yourself and what you think you can achieve in life. Tune in!

"The whole point of this discussion is not to have perfect integrity. It's to be mindful and to be better." – Danny Coleman

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Coaching is not only about the idea of helping a client by sharing education and knowledge; it's also about helping the client to take action. That is the true meaning of being a coach: seeing the bigger picture, setting realistic goals, implementing steps, and taking into account any miscalculation along the way. However, it's very important to have in mind that getting results is also the responsibility of the client.

In this episode of Take Care Radio, Danny welcomes Dr. Ray Hinish to discuss all things coaching, how to be a better coach, how to deal with difficult clients, and how to take a coaching practice to the next level. Dr. Ray explains the difference between coaching and consulting, highlighting that coaches should not accept every client – especially those who are not committed to true change. Tune in to learn more!

"As a coach, really what our job is is to help the client, the player in this sense, play the game of life better." – Dr. Ray Hinish

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Two different concepts that are quite opposite but end up completing each other very well, are Confidence and Humility. When it comes to being a coach or a mentor, it's important to have the confidence to provide knowledge and results, but it's also important to be open to accept that your knowledge and information may not be the best option for a specific client. Balance, in this situation, is the key.

In this episode of Take Care Radio, Danny takes you through this idea that we all have beliefs, blind spots, and biases that ultimately do not serve us or our clients. Identifying those and looking at things through a different lens, while changing our perspective and being mentally flexible, really helps us better our coaching practice, leading us to be more adaptable coaches and cooperative humans. Tune in!

"We all have our health, fitness, or coaching beliefs and foundations and this isn't necessarily bad, this is a human trait. […] But they can be bad when they don't lead us to success." – Danny Coleman

Related Links

Think Again by Adam Grant

Mark Manson's The Subtle Art School

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The idea of 'Success Threads' is a pretty simple, easy-to-use perspective that can be utilized by coaches when working with different clients. Everybody is good at something and the key elements that eventually made a person good at something can be the same key elements that can help them with other areas, like fitness and nutrition. Pulling this thread to find useful solutions can be an option for coaches.

In this episode of Take Care Radio, Danny dives deep into this concept. Humans love to be good at things and love to be competent with tasks. Each person is an expert in something, so what allowed you to be an expert in something can also allow you to improve other areas of life, specifically an area that you're currently struggling with.

The confidence in one part of our life translates into another. Tune in!

"A lot of our clients show up and are great at what they're great a, but maybe they're not great at health and fitness. So our job is to pull away at those threads to find what they're really good at, and then dig deeper to see why they're good at it." – Danny Coleman

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It's really easy to get frustrated and upset when a client doesn't follow the plan. As a coach and as a professional, we might think that there's a personal issue of why the program is not being followed or that we are not ready to work with people. This is simply a matter of understanding your client, exploring the situation, and looking for solutions that, not only help the client, but also make sense for them.

In this episode of Take Care Radio, Danny talks about some behaviors that coaches might find when working with clients. Danny explains that true change is different for each person but remains the same for everyone in one specific aspect: it's not linear.

You will also learn the idea of ambivalence and why two contrasting thoughts can be opposites but honest at the same time. Tune in!

"Don't get frustrated. If change was easy then there would be no need for us as coaches." – Danny Coleman

Episode Resources

Motivational Interviewing in Nutrition and Fitness by Dawn Clifford and Laura Curtis

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