Learn For 2.0 with Brandon DeVere

I think that we get overcoming fears mixed up with getting rid of fears.

I don't believe one can simply get rid of a fear.

I believe that, even if you get over a fear, it will always reside in you.

You just become a master of that fear.

It can always creep in on you, but you, with a few tools, have the ability to control the amount of power it holds over you.

Today I watched a video from a business partner of mine, Heather Hughes, "The Linkedin Lady Boss".

Listen here: https://www.facebook.com/heather.h.page.9/videos/10217807274985893/

She shared that one of her fears is what other people think.

This seems strange considering how vulnerable she lets herself be on social media.

But just because she shares so much with the world, does not mean she doesn't have a fear of how it will be received.

Like I said, mastering a fear doesn't make it disappear, it just means that you have been able to overcome it in a way that it seems like it is no longer there.

Here are 3 tips for mastering your fears:

1) Practice -  Whatever is causing you fear, go directly at it.

2) Understanding Your Journey - Know that this is your journey and that things will change as you make your way through. You will have to adjust occasionally but stay the cource.

3) Laser Focus - Know what your goal is and aim with precision.

What happens when you don't pay attention to the details?

Sometimes you can take the wrong drug, and have the wrong desired outcome.

Paying attention to the things you already think you know, no matter how small, can be the difference.

Merry Christmas episode.

How are traditions holding you back?

Are they keeping you in the past and preventing your vision and growth?

Have you ever seen or read The Secret?

It is about the law of attraction.

What you put into the universe, you will receive back.

After being told that I should watch a movie that is a little older, I started looking for it.

For various reasons, I didn't stream it and never ordered it online.

It is old enough that it isn't really available at a typical brick and mortar store anymore.

So today while driving by a thrift store, I thought to myself, "hmm... I wonder if they might have it."

The chances were slim.

It's not like thrift stores put out an order for 15-year-old movies. They get what shows up by chance.

And even if it was there, it's not like it would be easy to find.

They don't exactly have a filing system in place. You really have to look for things.

But guess what?

It was there and it practically jumped out at me.

So, for $2.99 I bought Cinderella Man.

What made me stop there today, I don't know.

Why was exactly what I was looking for there, and why did I find it?

Was it meant to be? Was it the Law of Attraction? Or, was it simply coincidence?

I don't know the answer to those questions either.

What I do know is that this isn't the first time I've thought of something and it happened.

Maybe it was just dumb luck, but I prefer to think it was...

The Secret.

“3 feet from gold”

In the book Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill states:

“One of the most common causes of failure is the habit of quitting when one is overtaken by ‘temporary defeat”.

I like how he emphasizes “temporary”.

Because it is the “temporary” that we give in to that becomes the “permanent”.

He then shares a story of a family that was ready to take advantage of a gold vein they found during the gold-rush.

After discovering there wasn’t as much gold as they originally thought, they decided to quit and sold their machinery to a man who would later discover that the family quit drilling just 3 feet from the “motherload”.

We are all given multiple chances per day to quit.

Whether it’s a diet, workout plan, relationship or even learning a new skill. The opportunity to quit is always there.

I know I face this daily and have really started to be aware of MY opportunities to quit.

When I decided to learn how to become a storyteller, basically starting from scratch, I made a commitment to do so.

This commitment has required more discipline than I would have ever expected.

I have made it a point to schedule my day around honoring this commitment, carving out time to write them.

And over the last couple of months, I’ve completed my stories within a minute of my deadline, while changing my subject multiple times and in one case while I was in line for a ride at Knott’s Berry Farm.

It doesn’t stop there though and today is a perfect example.

I woke up a little earlier this morning to get a jump start on today’s story and ended up with some company. My son decided to get up early too and… he’s kind of a talker.

So I put it off a bit, thinking I’d fit it in during the day. I was wrong.

Then…

I got the kids to school, headed out with clients (which ran later than expected), picked the kids up from school, stopped to help a guy with a dead car battery, came home and right back out to my son’s school for his open house.

These were all “temporary defeats” that I could have easily chosen to accept and quit and no one would have noticed.

But that would have meant I would have quit on my overall commitment, not just the one for today.

One thing that I know about myself is that when I stop, it’s hard to get going again.

And I don’t want to stop…

3 feet from gold.

Since I've started this podcast, the focus was never on the downloads.

Especially the downloads of any specific episode.

The idea was to create content, let people know who I am, let them know what my character is and decide for themselves if they like me, or even want to listen to what I have to say.

The goal with this content is to have someone land on one of my episodes at 3am one night and get caught in the spider-web that is my story, or in this case my journey.

Ryan Fletcher, a mentor I once had would talk about this spider web philosophy, that is where it started for me.

I brought that idea to my podcast and what was a typical day of 10-15 downloads a day went to 118 overnight.

In less than 24 hours I had 118 downloads from yesterday's episode to today's.

All it took was consistency.

“Celebrate Yourself”

As an entrepreneur, one of the things that trips me up often is not allowing myself to enjoy or celebrate an accomplishment.

Always thinking, “I could have done that better”, “it’s not a big deal, I am supposed to be able to do that” or “that was nice, but what’s next?”

I believe that If you continue to accomplish goals and downplay their significance, you will eventually run out of desire and ambition to accomplish future goals.

There is no doubt that staying hungry is a huge part of success, but so is allowing yourself a moment to reflect on your greatness.

In an interview I watched today:

https://youtu.be/na7RfQ5NBC8

Ed Mylett said…

“You are perfect how you exist right now… but that version of you isn’t sufficient next year”

To me, this is giving us permission to celebrate ourselves for all that we have accomplished, while knowing there is much more ahead.

I believe we get too caught up in not allowing ourselves to celebrate our own accomplishments that we never truly accept our individual greatness.

In Brian Moran’s book “The 12 Week Year”. He suggests breaking your year down into 12 weeks by setting short term goals for superior long term results.

He also suggests celebrating each 12 week year as you would a full year.

If you meet your goals in those 12 weeks, he recommends taking a vacation or buying yourself that watch you have been wanting.

This enables you to celebrate your achievements as you get ready for the next round of goals.

It is not an ending point but a checkpoint, to remind you that you have been making progress.

As Mylett said, although your present version of yourself is just right, it is not as good as the future version of yourself will be.

So don’t be afraid to celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small.

Celebrate yourself knowing that you are perfect where you are right now.

But…

Next year’s version will be that much better!

When you aren't sure what you are supposed to do to get your 7-year old son back on track, you tend to get worried.

Understanding that everyone learns in different ways... including children.

I have been extremely frustrated over the past month or so, trying to fit my son into a box that he doesn't feel he belongs in.

Yesterday he showed me why he doesn't want to be confined to just one learning style.

I came home to him writing the lyrics of entire songs by using Alexa and Youtube to fill out his notebook paper.

He explained his process and I was blown away.

I know we carry a standard of how we learn in this society, but he just reminded me that everyone has a different learning style.

Now, I will do my best to make sure I support him as we make progress.

As I've said before, I love to be positive but sometimes you have those days.

And that's ok. That is why I share them with you.

Of course, I could put an act on for 10-15 minutes to let you believe that everything is awesome.

I don't want to do that to you, this podcast is about the journey and there can be bad days on the journey. 

This episode is about understanding that there is negative energy and that energy can be felt.

But the good news is, that positive energy can be felt as well.

This is why I believe if we continue to search for positive energy, the more positive energy we will find.