Lets Be Honest Before We Start Pretending

On today’s episode, we have a super fun guest, and we are going to be talking about how to do the things you set out to do even if you don’t like it, don’t feel like it, or don’t know how.  How many of you made resolutions? What is a resolution?  Essentially it is a decision.  Something you resolve to do.  The thing about resolutions is they don’t typically stick, you know the ones that we make New Year’s Eve? Those ones!  Think about this, in the past when we were able to go into gyms, they were jam-packed on January 1st because we have made resolutions for our health.  And then a funny thing happens, come about 1/21 – 1/27 those very gyms are starting to clear out.  You can actually find a parking space in the lot and can easily get on a machine or in a class without much waiting.

I challenge my clients to make Declarations instead.  Declarations are rooted in choice and reconstitute our relationship with what was to what we want. They are powerful.

Today our guest Kit Cole will be spilling the beans on her secrets to success in doing the things we set out to do even when we don’t feel like it!

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To stay in touch with Kit Cole connect with her here:

www.kitcoleconsulting.com

IG: @KitColeConsulting 

FB: Kit Cole Consulting

Email: Kit@KitColeConsulting

Resources mentioned on this episode:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendy-wood-15180a15/

https://goodhabitsbadhabits.com/

https://www.fastcompany.com/90323629/how-to-convince-yourself-to-do-something

https://goodhabitsbadhabits.com/how-to-form-a-new-desirable-habit/

Here are the highlights from this episode:

{7:17} Introducing Kit Cole

{9:58} Kit's secret formula for creating success in your mind

{15:38} The power of asking for help

{17:15} Reducing friction to instill good habits

{20:02} Your commitment to putting good habits in place

{25:37} Holding two opposing thoughts in your head at the same time in order to get things done you don't want to do

{33:08} The changes Kit has seen since implementing her strategies

To connect with Coach Kelly and for more resources please visit www.kellyjmobeck.com  follow on Instagram @coach_kellymobeck. You can also email us at [email protected]  Let us know any questions in life you have, and what you would love to hear more about, we are happy to help and will take these on in future episodes.

Today I am on my very own business retreat for the next couple of days, ok yes, it’s at home, and I have removed all of the distractions, I have two very large calendars up, charting paper, post it notes, and my journal.  I have been dreaming big, so I am excited to take a few days to myself and put the dream into an actionable plan, and I can’t wait to share with all of you what’s coming.  Since October I have been working with my entrepreneur clients on closing out 2020 and designing 2021. It’s been so amazing!  I am really excited about what they are all creating, what they have learned in 2020, where they have pivoted, and overcome challenges, so inspiring. 

Since I am hunkering down and plotting and planning a new year, I thought it would be super fun to share an exercise that I find really beneficial as I am closing out the year, so get a pen and paper out, you are going to want to write these down. 

Today we are going to turn incompletions into completions, so that you have a brand-new space to create an epic 2021.

Have you heard?  The LIFt program is LIVE, for more details and to register please visit www.kellyjmobeck.com/lift

Here are the highlights from this episode:

{2:42} Introducing the completion exercise you can do in your personal life and/or business

{7:17} Number one - Personal

{7:32} Number two - Professional

{8:34} Relationships

{8:49} Health

{9:14} Finances

{9:25} Separating into two categories. Complete and incomplete

{10:18} Four questions and an action to ask yourself about the completed column

{11:29} Celebrating what you completed

{12:31} 5 Questions and an action to ask yourself about what you didn't complete

{15:22} Putting the things you want to take forward into your calendar

{16:11} Create your plan of action for uncompleted items you want to take forward

To connect with Coach Kelly and for more resources please visit www.kellyjmobeck.com  follow on Instagram @coach_kellymobeck. You can also email us at [email protected]  Let us know any questions in life you have, and what you would love to hear more about, we are happy to help and will take these on in future episodes.

I can’t believe it is Christmas time, Merry Christmas.  I also want to say Happy Hanukkah as many just celebrated Hanukkah, and a Happy Kwanza that is coming up. The end of 2020 is nearly in sight, does anyone feel like you are sprinting to the finish line from this year?  

I wonder if for a moment we could slow down, pause, and reflect a moment. Can we rejoice in the spirit of Christmas this week, and find joy?  I know the holidays can be super stressful, and also hard for people.  Holidays have not always been great, my Mom passed away on Halloween when I was 18 and my Dad just before Christmas 23 years ago.  I miss them.  It’s interesting because I always feel a sense of missing, some melancholy, and it could be so easy to just let the holidays roll on by and believe me I have thought about it.  I do love experiencing the joy it brings, the connectedness it brings, and the wonder.  I love wonder.

Today let’s do some wondering, shall we?

Have you heard?  The LIFt program is LIVE, for more details and to register please visit www.kellyjmobeck.com/lift

Here are the highlights from this episode:

{1:38} Slowing down to reflect on the year

{3:22} How my brothers and I would catch Santa when we were kids

{8:04} How traditions can help us at this time of year

{11:43} Living as the best version of yourself

To connect with Coach Kelly and for more resources please visit www.kellyjmobeck.com  follow on Instagram @coach_kellymobeck. You can also email us at [email protected]  Let us know any questions in life you have, and what you would love to hear more about, we are happy to help and will take these on in future episodes.

Can you believe we are halfway through December, and coming up on the end of 2020?  What a year it has been in so many ways, and probably did not look anything like we thought it would, am I right?  Are any of you finding yourselves a little shy on dreaming, thinking, and wondering about 2021?  If you are, I get that. I am going to invite you to do it anyway and here’s why!  It’s time, it’s time to trust your resourcefulness, and your ability to pivot and keep on creating.  

Designing a vision simply answers the question “what do I want in my life, in my business, as a partner, as a parent, etc. It's a powerful question, and one we are going to dive into today.  

As we move toward creating our vision, we can’t predict the roadblocks, the curve balls, the people who would step in and be resources, the pivots, the soul searching, and every single action step you would take.  And we are not supposed to know that. It’s why they call it a journey or adventure toward the thing, and the thing is the destination or the vision.  Let’s start dreaming big!

Here are the highlights from this episode:

{3:22} What do you want for the coming year?

{7:04} A closer look at vision

{8:24} Creating your vision step one - Dreaming big

{12:29} 6 powerful questions to ask yourself to begin to design your vision

Did you hear? LIFt - Leadership Impact Forum Training is LIVE and an incredible opportunity for us to work together.  Ready to take the lead in your life? Let's GO! For more details and to register here:  www.kellyjmobeck.com/lift

To connect with Coach Kelly and for more resources please visit www.kellyjmobeck.com  follow on Instagram @coach_kellymobeck. You can also email us at [email protected] 

Let us know any questions in life you have, and what you would love to hear more about, we are happy to help and will take these on in future episodes.

Over the last few year there’s been so much talk and work on purpose-driven leadership, and this really excites me.  One of the most important roles of an executive is to be a steward of the organization’s purpose. Business experts acknowledge purpose is a key to exceptional performance, and psychologists describe it as the pathway to greater well-being.

Doctors have even found that people with purpose in their lives are less prone to disease. Purpose is key to navigating the complex and uncertain times in the world we face today, where strategy is constantly changing.

Today we will talk about what purpose is, why it’s important, and how you find it.  It is one of the most important and foundational tools you can have and will assist you to stay on your course with focus, direction, and do the actions even when you don’t feel like it.

Here are the highlights from this episode:

{3:15} What is purpose and why it’s important

{10:52} How do you discover your purpose?

{15.35} Visiting your life story: three powerful questions to ask yourself

{19:15} Writing a statement about your purpose 

{22:45} Defining the impact you want to have on your world

Did you hear? LIFt - Leadership Impact Forum Training is LIVE and an incredible opportunity for us to work together.  Ready to take the lead in your life? Let's GO! For more details and to register here:  www.kellyjmobeck.com/lift

To connect with Coach Kelly and for more resources please visit www.kellyjmobeck.com  follow on Instagram @coach_kellymobeck. You can also email us at [email protected] 

Let us know any questions in life you have, and what you would love to hear more about, we are happy to help and will take these on in future episodes.

I can’t believe we are at the end of November, heading straight into the holidays, year-end, and looking forward to 2021, and I don’t know about you, but I am really looking forward to a new year.  Today we are going to be talking with Jenny Ponzuric who is going to assist us with utilizing our time efficiently through planning and organization, and I know personally when implementing the strategies we talk about today, you will have less stress going into the holidays and be ready, excited, and have the capacity to take on your business and personal goals in 2021!

Leaders don’t wait, they create.  And so that means we must have a plan, use our time efficiently, and stay organized.  This way we elevate unnecessary stress, procrastination, overwhelm, and we get to focus on the projects, programs, clients, etc. that really jazz us up.  We get to stay true to our purpose, passions, and the vision that we have for our self, our business, in our careers, and also our self-improvement.  I remember earlier this year shortly after launching this podcast, as well as working on a few other programs, I just stopped in my tracks.  You know you don’t know what you don’t know, and I had planned some big things for 2020, and was not anticipating a global pandemic.  I was feeling incredibly stressed and declared out loud “I NEED HELP”, I was feeling scattered, unorganized and couldn’t plan the next day to save my life.  I reached out to Jenny and got myself back on track with her support.  I can coach others, but not myself, and had lost touch, and needed to re-set. 

Jenny Ponzuric is the founder of Ponzuric Learning Solutions and is passionate about helping people learn about their own brains, help them work with their strengths and also their area of needs.  She is a LEP, a School Neuropsychologist, and a Certified Relationship Coach, and has helped support those that struggle with learning for over 20 years.  

Connect with Jenny at http://www.ponzuriclearningsolutions.com/

Follow her on IG @ponzuric_learning_solutions 

FB @ponzuriclearningsolutions

Here are the highlights from this episode:

{6:48} Introduction to Jenny Ponzuric

{10:18} Time-management and planning: why it’s important

{16:17} Setting boundaries and saying no

{21:18} Defining the components to saying yes

{30:47} Jenny’s favorite strategies

Did you hear? LIFt - Leadership Impact Forum Training is LIVE and an incredible opportunity for us to work together.  Ready to take the lead in your life? Let's GO! For more details and to register here:  www.kellyjmobeck.com/lift

To connect with Coach Kelly and for more resources please visit www.kellyjmobeck.com  follow on Instagram @coach_kellymobeck. You can also email us at [email protected]  Let us know any questions in life you have, and what you would love to hear more about, we are happy to help and will take these on in future episodes.

Albert Schweitzer, the Nobel Peace Prize recipient, once said, “At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.” - oh so true!

In today’s episode we are bringing all the love, gratitude, and thanks.  We will also explore a fun practice that will have you capture your blessings, give thanks every day, and light up this world with a whole lot of love.  Are you up for that mission?  Let’s GO!

More will be revealed, so press play and listen in!

Here are the highlights from this episode:

{1:30} One minute of gratitude

{6:15} The Blessings Journal

{10:25} Create an impact in your life

To connect with Coach Kelly and for more resources please visit www.kellyjmobeck.com  follow on Instagram @coach_kellymobeck. You can also email us at [email protected]  Let us know any questions in life you have, and what you would love to hear more about, we are happy to help and will take these on in future episodes.

Today we are going to talk about lessons from one of America’s favorite pastime, well it’s one of mine anyway, and with the recent champions of the World Series, my boys in blue the LA Dodgers, it inspired this episode.  I am also going to share a really exciting program that is launching NOW and that is LIFt, the Leadership Impact Forum training, and an incredible opportunity for us to work together.

Baseball is a beautiful game when played well: the pivot at second base during a double play, a two-hit shut-out and the grand slam! Leadership is also a beautiful thing to behold when it is done from a win/win stance, where long-term relationships are built on mutual interests and the leader and their circle of influence are creating the results they want in their life. In baseball, you've got to let go of first base to round the bases for the score. The same is true as a leader. Leave your comfort zone and create the score!

In order to play a bigger game and get the results you want in life; you must leave your comfort zone.  I feel an incredible calling to launch a program that I am incredibly passionate about, and that is LIFt; Leadership Impact Forum training.

In this 10-week program you will have the opportunity to work with an intimate cohort of people who are working on their leadership and where they want to create change.  Are you an entrepreneur, are you a leader in your organization, are you an individual called to something bigger than you?  This program is for you!  Do you question if you are a leader?  This program is for you.  Because we are in virtual times, this program is virtual, and the gift in this? It will not only be national it will be GLOBAL!  It will have room for people from all walks of life, and I get goosebumps thinking about that kind of impact, what about you?

To find out more about LIFt please visit www.kellyjmobeck.com/LIFt

Here are the highlights from this episode:

{5:14} Baseball and leadership

{9:38} The eight questions in playing a bigger game

{13:18} The 10-week program: being part of a global cohort

To connect with Coach Kelly and for more resources please visit www.kellyjmobeck.com  follow on Instagram @coach_kellymobeck. You can also email us at [email protected]  Let us know any questions in life you have, and what you would love to hear more about, we are happy to help and will take these on in future episodes.

Empathy is the ability to be with people in a way that honors their perspective, feeling their feelings with them, staying out of judgement, recognizing emotions and being able to communicate their emotion.

It truly requires us to seek to understand before being understood over and over and over again.

Why is empathy important? Because it drives connection, in today’s world we are crying out for more connection, more understanding and more action. 

Empathy is truly about being with people from a place of vulnerability, and we don’t always do that naturally, because society dictates that if we are vulnerable or tap into our emotions, then we must be weak.  True vulnerability is a world class value of leadership, and one of the most challenging to access, but it is the one that drives true relationship and connection, because people feel heard at a deep level.  When human beings connect, there is so much more possibility to create strong partnerships.

Our guest today is going to share with us some amazing information on Empathy and learning more about it through Emotional Intelligence.  So many great nuggets you will take away today and be able to apply.  Janine Hamner Holman is an internationally recognized speaker and expert on leadership development, organizational management, how our brains work, and what it takes to attract and retain world-class talent.  As CEO of the J&J Consulting Group, Janine brings more than 30 years’ experience to the stage for her workshops and trainings.  Janine uses scientifically validated strategies and tools to build high performance teams, enhance organizational functioning, and develop organizations and leaders with whom everyone wants to work.  She has worked with everything from Fortune 200 companies to local non-profits that are not merely interested in but committed to uncovering and solving the challenges they face at the root cause level.

To connect with Janine Hamner Holman please go to her website www.jandjcg.com

Follow her on LinkedIn @ Janine Hamner Holman

Sign up for her free webinar on Emotional Intelligence on November 12, 2020 https://jandjcg.us4.list-manage.com/track/click?u=c054b221ddcc7fdd4aaa25f57&id=1cfebfba81&e=92d954d2de

Check out the book Janine recommended on this episode:  

Transcend: The New Science of Self-Actualization - Scott Barry Kaufman 

Here are the highlights from this episode:

{4:35} Introduction to Janine Hamner Holman

{10:50} What emotional intelligence is and why it’s important for leaders

{16:49} The role of empathy in emotional intelligence

{21:04} The need for connection

{30:59} The strongest people are vulnerable

To connect with Coach Kelly and for more resources please visit www.kellyjmobeck.com  Follow on Instagram @coach_kellymobeck. You can also email us at [email protected] 

Let us know any questions in life you have, and what you would love to hear more about, we are happy to help and will take these on in future episodes.

As a leader, self-care is a non-negotiable. We can’t contribute to others if we are not taking care of ourselves, and sleep is one of the most important components of that. It affects us in our day to day action. 

If you ask my clients, we have all talked about self-care and sleep at one point or another.  I am really passionate about this subject because there was a time in my life that I began really unhealthy sleep habits and kept pushing through.  You’ve heard “sleep is overrated”, “you can sleep when you are dead”, well I made up a self-limiting belief that if I didn’t keep pushing through, producing more, than I wasn’t really a leader!  Um, what??!!!  I’m here to tell you right here, right now, that is complete baloney.  And the lack of sleep contributed to some pretty serious health problems, that I got to take on.  I promise when you take care of you, let your body rejuvenate, you will have all the time you need.

Today our guest is Dr. Andrea Matsumura and she is going to assist us in demystifying “daylight savings”, share with us some amazing sleep practices, and assist us with staying healthy during this pandemic.  Dr. Andrea Matsumura was born in San Antonio Texas and attended the University of Texas health science Center in San Antonio for medical school. She had a desire to explore and thought she was an east coaster for sure. Little did she know when she did an externship as a fourth-year medical student in Oregon that she would fall in love with the West Coast and all things involving the outdoors. She quickly switched gears and ended up finishing her internal medicine residency in Portland Oregon.

She worked as a hospitalist for a few years and moved into the outpatient care setting as a primary care physician. It was there that her spark for the love of sleep medicine started. While trying to manage chronic medical conditions she quickly realized that sleep is the juggernaut for wellness.  She went on to complete a fellowship in sleep medicine at Oregon Health and Science University (OHSU).

Dr. Matsumura describes herself as a holistic sleep medicine physician and enjoys public speaking on all things sleep.  Sleep is a vital sign that has yet to be discovered as the key for how everything else is managed in one’s life. 

To connect with Dr. Andrea Matsumura please follow her on Facebook at: Sleep Well with Andrea Matsumura M.D.  On Instagram at: holisticsleepmd

You don’t want to miss all her amazing drops of knowledge, tips, and sleep strategies!

Here are the highlights from this episode:

{4:38} Introduction to Dr. Andrea Matsumura

{8:05} Why Daylight Savings Time is not good for our health

{15:32} Why we should have a bedtime routine

{20:53} How our bodies optimally work

{27:40} Why we should sleep at least 7 hours every night

To connect with Coach Kelly and for more resources please visit www.kellyjmobeck.com  Follow on Instagram @coach_kellymobeck. You can also email us at [email protected]  

Let us know any questions in life you have, and what you would love to hear more about, we are happy to help and will take these on in future episodes.