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Today I'm practicing Hiply with Patrick who is feeling tarry about launching an online course and worried about no one showing up. Listen for the following Hiply tools - The Hiply It's Okay Technique, The Hiply Process, The 80/20 Rule, The Inner Peace Self and Hiply Parts Meetings. Because when we heal ourselves we heal the world.

Patrick is having thought loops with his parts that are afraid and wondering why he's even doing this if nobody cares and nobody comes. If he can find a way to be okay with the thoughts that immediately creates some space for new thoughts and ideas.

Now he can see other aspects and realizes that it's also fun for him. He likens it to being an artist that makes a beautiful painting but then puts it in the closet where nobody can see it.

Of course, you're "Shoulding" because you want to sell more and you want to be motivated, that I also have in hiply, the 80/20 rule that I like to reference and it applies to all kinds of things but like, tar or judgment, judgments and evaluations and so on are good 80% of the time, when we're regulated when we're productive when we're getting things done.

We talk about having a parts meeting when making big decisions and bringing all the parts along for the ride. Patrick likens his parts to Winnie the Pooh characters, Eyore, Tigger and Rabbit. 

Patricks biggest takeaway is recognizing that tarry feelings aren't necessarily something to be pushed through or tackled, which he readily believes when he's not feeling tarry. However, when he's in it, it's hard to remember that there is another way of dealing with it. And that is to pay attention to and sit with the feelings first before trying to solve the problems.

Resources:

Patrick Hogan - Movement and Live Coach.

Website - Alignedmovement.com

Claudia Williams

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If you'd like to be on the podcast either as a guest to practice Hiply and to get a little coaching from Claudia or as an expert, please email us at: [email protected]

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I am here today with a certified trauma informed master money coach, her name is Alison Rayner. Our culture has taught us a lack mentality about money which often causes tarry feeling and lots of shoulding. Alison helps us sort through this with some tangible tips to feel better about money. 

Money is not finite, money is energy, and knowing that changes everything. When we show up and in a good energy and we show up in a way that we're you know, attracting positive positivity and attracting good energy people, people that we connect with. Money isn't finite money does come in, in a different way, but can see how that kind of that limited mentality, that limiting belief can really come from something very, very simple, that we don't even think about as important and it can change the way we see our lives and how we treat money in general.

The number one killer of attaining more money in any situation, no matter what socio economic status you hold, is urgency and urgency can be very real. Like if you are in a space in your life where you are living in a survival mode. You're really chasing the basic needs of life like shelter, clothing, food. 

Alison ties it all back to the wealth values, to figure out what's valuable to you. Because that takes away the urgency of the money and it gives you tangible things to work towards, that are feeding your soul if you will. Instead of money feeling tarry. When you're intentional about your goals and basing it on your values it's a whole different story.

Alison recommends that instead of creating urgency and panicking to look at all your finances, bills etc, and sort it into buckets and get intentional about what meets your values and what doesn't. It's almost like shining some light into the shadow because so many of us have like the head in sand around the money. Like if I ignore it, maybe I don't have to worry about it. But it doesn't go away until you bring it out of the shadow and shine a light on it and get intentional about it.

Resources:

Alison Rayner - Trauma Informed Master Money Coach

Budgetbeyonbills.com
https://www.instagram.com/budgetbeyondbills/

Claudia Williams

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Website: https://www.claudiawilliamscoaching.com
https://www.facebook.com/ClaudiaWilliamsCoaching
https://www.instagram.com/mamahiply/
https://www.facebook.com/hiplylol/

If you'd like to be on the podcast either as a guest to practice Hiply and to get a little coaching from Claudia or as an expert, please email us at: [email protected]

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It's Tuesday and we're practicing Hiply today. I'm here with Anita who is feeling tarry with her job as a realtor and dealing with low quality leads. We  work on ways to move from lack to abundance and Anita identifies some parts of her that might be blocking her from moving in the right direction. She gets to accept and love on those parts from her Inner Peace Self. Because when we heal ourselves we heal the world, one Hiply moment at a time. 

Anita likes the freedom and autonomy of running her own business but is feeling tarry about "having" to work with low quality leads. I was in real estate for 20 years and I can relate, instead of having one boss it can feel like you have 100 (all the potential clients and colleagues and the brokerage putting demands on her etc). 

It's coming from a money mindset lack, how can she feel more abundant? What parts need to come on board. Attract the people that are meant to work with her. 

She wants to regulate her nervous system and work with affirmations. There are plenty of people to work with.

If we're not in the right mindset we end up attracting the wrong thing. 

Anita starts talking about her parts, she wants to make all this money and has this little ambitious part that wants to be productive and she wants to go conquer the world. She also has an adventurous part that wants to go on these adventures but then there's this cool like this other part showed up recently. It's a part that wants to contribute. And this one has a polarized inner critic part. 

I find it's sometimes helpful to consider the worst case scenario. To really bring the fear out into the light. 

She end our session feeling so much lighter and grateful and ready to go conquer her business. She has a light and open energy about her.

Claudia Williams

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If you'd like to be on the podcast either as a guest to practice Hiply and to get a little coaching from Claudia or as an expert, please email us at: [email protected]

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Today I'm speaking with Adam Golden Eagle about stepping into living your most authentic life - and my favorite part is talking to him about harnessing your anger and turning into rocket fuel.

Listen for the following Hiply tools, Catch the Hiply feeling and find your Inner Peace self, the It's Okay technique and the feeling word tar, which always point to and unmet need, which I reframe the three hiply universal longings, peace, love and freedom.

Adam defines an authentic life by really showing up to your soul calling each and every day and having the courage to really deeply listen to that calling.

Adam's healing journey has been that of a warrior or wizards. He has been called to alchemize and transmute a lot of traumatic experiences from an early childhood stage. He has lived in nine different countries, and grew up in a  dysfunctional family.

We talk about the Inner Peace Self, that is connected to the Divine, and all the parts of us, that carry cultural shame and burdens or all varieties. We can learn to speak kindly to all our parts. How we speak to ourselves is how we show up in the world.

Adam has benefited from therapy and has been blessed from being connected with powerful spiritual teachers, in Italy, and from Tibbetan Buddhism. Self compassion and total self acceptance. 

Adam points out that there's not only external freedom but an infinite internal freedom. What if we could actually realize that inside ourselves, we have a whole multiverse of space and time and possibilities.? What if this is happening for me and not to me?

When we run into a tarry situation with ourselves or with others we can show more internal compassion and show up with curiosity and creativity. Conflict is an opportunity for growth. Tarry feelings point to unmet needs and help us figure out how to shift things. Old patterning and programming comes in that says I'm right and you're wrong, which means we have to defend, judge instead of figuring out what is going on.

Adam has learned and teaches how to feeling into those tarry feelings, really be with the anger and transmute it and alchemize it into rocket fuel and summarizes is as follows:
 
1. Realization - that you are having the experience
2. Compassion - cultivate compassion for self - it's ok not to be ok.
3. Make sure your basic needs are met, take action to meet those needs for self, time, space
4. Be humble and vulnerable to see what the emotion is showing you, why is this happening FOR me.

It is courageous to be humble and vulnerable and to get curious instead of act out on the anger. That gives us the courage and power to be there hero of our own journey (instead of the victim).

Resources:
Adam Smith - Golden Eagle
RisingPhoenixAcademy.com
https://www.instagram.com/adam_goldeneagle

Claudia Williams

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Website: https://www.claudiawilliamscoaching.com
https://www.facebook.com/ClaudiaWilliamsCoaching
https://www.instagram.com/mamahiply/
https://www.facebook.com/hiplylol/

If you'd like to be on the podcast either as a guest to practice Hiply and to get a little coaching from Claudia or as an expert, please email us at: [email protected]

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Episodes released every Tuesdays.

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Today is Tuesday and we are practicing Hiply with Jill who is frustrated with feeling low energy and wants to learn how to conserve her energy. Pay attention to the following Hiply tools, the Hiply process to shift something, the Hiply it's okay technique, to pay attention to our parts that are feeling tarry and love on them and let them know it's okay. Because when we heal ourselves we heal the world. Join me in making a difference, one hiply moment at a time. Enjoy the show.

Energy is so important to our well being because it's our life force. Jill wants to try to find her own things, take a beat when she needs it, go outside and get her feet into the ground, look at the sky and take in the healing energy of nature. She finds ways to explore. I give her permission to try it all and do it all. She will check in and love on all her parts.

Consider my favorite mantra - life is fun and easy and there's plenty of time for everything.

It's just life being lifey. And it's okay. There is time, there is time for everything. 

She sees the value of shifting the words that she's using.

A step she can try is to really stop and take a beat, acknowledge and accept the low energy and ask herself 'what do you need right now'? And she wants to approach herself with more kindness.

She feels lighter and good about having a practical step to move forward with, having unpacked the tarriness.

Her biggest takeaway is that her low energy is telling her something and instead of judging it she wants to check in and see what she needs. Perhaps she needs rest. Perhaps she needs some grounding. Perhaps she needs breath. Perhaps she needs some music. There are multiple ways to satisfy and to pay attention to her.

Instead of getting mad that she's letting everything around her zap her energy. She can put that shield around her, and check in with herself.

Jill wanted to shift her energy and we talked about using the hiply process, where the 1st step noticing, she notices the energy is low and notices the tar and shoulding around it. the 2nd step really accepting where you are instead of bypassing (the tar keeps us from accepting), her move is to love on the tarry parts and really accept it.  3rd step get curious and creative about solutions, try something different, without bypassing. Try more rest, listening to her body and taking a beat when she needs it, and some mindset work. Call in the life force high energy she so desires. Remind herself that there's plenty of time for everything. 

Claudia Williams

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If you'd like to be on the podcast either as a guest to practice Hiply and to get a little coaching from Claudia or as an expert, please email us at: [email protected]

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Today I speak with fellow Elementum Master life coach Tamy Erle. She helps moms reclaim themselves, find their inner wild child, and find that inner peace, which is right on brand for Hiply. 

We talk about how to allow for tar and how to reduce tar, about the Hiply 80/20 rule. Also listen for how you can access and find that inner peace within you. Because when we heal the world we heal ourselves.

Tamy lost her cousin and best friend to cancer and found herself in a dark place. She found hope through therapy and life coaching and learned how to find some inner peace.

I've lived most of my life having the limiting belief: If everyone around me is happy I am happy. What if that's not true. Happiness is an inside job.

80/20 rule - it applies to all kinds of things. We have the human condition, so that means a negativity bias from way back, to keep us safe and help us fight or flight. So we are prone to focus 100% of our attention on the 20% of things that aren't going great. What if we focus only 20% on what's happening?

Tamy reminds us that when we can tap into our hiply inner peace self and make decisions and act from that place more often, our life would naturally flow so much easier. Then you act from your inner peace self instead of based on external patterns and external expectations.

There is nothing wrong with wanting peace outside, in the home and with the kids, but that peace comes from the inside. When mom is at peace that peace can spread to the whole family.

It's an exciting ride to constantly be in the journey of growing and like learning and discovering something new about ourselves and something new that we can overcome.

It's amazing to when you can figure out how to be in the low and be okay with it. Be like, oh, yeah, I'm growing. Look at me. I'm doing it right. I mean, it's when you get there that has acceptance.

Listener Tip - Tamy's favorite way to get out of a tarry situation?

Instead of trying to push through, or avoid and ignore it, it's really about taking a moment and be with the feeling.  Just drop in and really be like with what it is like, see what is coming forward for me. Sometimes they might be sad like, oh, I feel sad. And there doesn't have to be a reason of why you feel sad. Just be with the sadness, let your tears come. Let them flow without judgment without any of them with just compassion.

Resources

Tamy's instagram
@tamy.erle

Claudia Williams

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Website: https://www.claudiawilliamscoaching.com
https://www.facebook.com/ClaudiaWilliamsCoaching
https://www.instagram.com/mamahiply/
https://www.facebook.com/hiplylol/

If you'd like to be on the podcast either as a guest to practice Hiply and to get a little coaching from Claudia or as an expert, please email us at: [email protected]

Making a difference, one Hiply moment at a time.

Episodes released every Tuesdays.

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Today I'm exploring tarry feelings and practicing Hiply today with Brinley.  Listen for the following hiply tools, temper tantrum 1 min journaling technique, the Inner peace self that is here to heal and love on all your parts, because what you resist persists. Enjoy the show.

She shares that she doesn't always have confidence in her appearance. The ruminating is the epitome of Tar. 

She loves walking the dog and bilateral movement to create positive energy and experiences. Yoga also helps everything, and so does journaling. Just getting the tarry thoughts out of your head?

Oversharing and vulnerability hangover can feel tarry. She is noticing that oversharing comes from a need to not be lonely and feel loved. Parts can become polarized or blend with the Inner Peace Self. All the inner children parts just want to feel seen and hear and loved and the Inner Peace Self can spontaneously provide that and help heal. If we fight with it, it just get's bigger and that's what I call tar. Because you're judging the part and it's getting defensive. 

We talk about being so judgmental and shamy of our body, which is unfortunate. Brinley is frustrated with her stomach, and she also realizes it's an amazing strong powerful part of her body. I let her know that she has a part that is carrying the female cultural burden and expectation of having a flat stomach. What if it's meant to be healthy? I both love my stomach and still wish I had less of a stomach.

As Mama Hiply I get to mother all my younger parts, inner children and those around me. 

It's all simple in theory and so hard to do in real life. 

Lazy girl workout, lazy girl journaling. Doable and bite sized hiply things to focus on. Hiply mindful hikes.

Brinley's biggest take away is paying attention to those tarry parts and withholding judgment and addressing them in doable, bite sized pieces. 

Claudia Williams

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https://www.facebook.com/ClaudiaWilliamsCoaching
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If you'd like to be on the podcast either as a guest to practice Hiply and to get a little coaching from Claudia or as an expert, please email us at: [email protected]

Making a difference, one Hiply moment at a time.

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Today I speak with Erin Harrell , who is a mental health counselor and specializes on taking care of caregivers of elders and people that are dying which is such important work. 

I love this conversation so much because it becomes clear how a challenging situation is not all bad but can be an powerful opportunity and invitation for personal growth. 

Because when we heal ourselves we heal the world. Join me in making a difference, one hiply moment at a time. 

Hiply is not just positivity but also recognizing the human condition in all of us. It recognizes all the feelings. 

We talk about catching the Hiply energy, finding the life force, to find the inner peace, being in the reflective and awareness place and that alone is cause for celebration.

Erin has tips on how to work through tarry situations, set boundaries, and come up with a simple phrase to repeat to deescalate, to recognize where they come from, validate their feelings and restate the boundary. 

What lights her up is to help caregivers talk about and have awareness about being in the world with their own value system. 

Time Stamps

4:00 Things are workable, allowing for flexibility to figure things out, make it workable (from Buddhism)

5:10 For care givers that notion of what they should be doing or what they thought it should be like, that bar of judgment and critiquing makes it worse. 

6:12 I like to use the word neutrality a lot, let's just try neutral. What would it take to get to that place of balance. 

9:00 The inner peace self has that playful creative energy to it.

15:05 Erin's course for care givers helps them have a larger emotional vocabulary and encourage mindful awareness and use that when the irritation rises. 

16:12And works with triggers and better communication skills. 

 18:36 Repeat the same phrase to help enforce the boundary and validate the others feeling as well. 

21:00 Caregiving is an intense opportunity for personal growth. It brings up the big question of what are we doing here. 

23:00 Type one and type two fun, four parts that influence your happiness. Sometimes we have to feel bad for a bit to have the atmosphere of growth. Challenges have meaning. 

28:00 expanding our perspective, can be so helpful. increasing our connection between physical awareness and the thoughts. Get curious. 

Resources:

erinharrellcounseling.com

Book focusing by Eugene Gendlin

Claudia Williams

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Website: https://www.claudiawilliamscoaching.com
https://www.facebook.com/ClaudiaWilliamsCoaching
https://www.instagram.com/mamahiply/
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If you'd like to be on the podcast either as a guest to practice Hiply and to get a little coaching from Claudia or as an expert, please email us at: [email protected]

Making a difference, one Hiply moment at a time.

Episodes released every Tuesdays.

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Today is Tuesday and we've got a Hiply Practice about Relationship Tar for you. Thank you Mike for showing up so vulnerably and coachable. Mike brings a lot to the table and there's only so much we can do in a 20 minute podcast session and he is able to make a shift and find some inner peace. As you're listening to my session with Mike, pay attention to Hiply tools. There is Self Hiply, where we speak kindly to ourselves, and also the Hiply Process, where the first step to making any change is noticing and awareness of what is happening. The second step is acceptance. Really being with and accepting what is happening, loving on that tarry part, instead of fighting it. Then there is some space for the final step, to get curious and creative. Because when we heal ourselves we heal the world.

Notable Shifts in Mike:

Mike is frustrated with his relationship with a female, he's afraid he's not going to be able to get his needs met, yet he does want to make it work.

Mike gets to know his frustrated part and get's to pay attention to it and love on it, from the space of his Inner Peace Self, which is connected to the divine and always at peace. When we get triggered it's always a part, the IP Self doesn't get triggered, it's your true nature and is there to heal and love on all you parts.

We work on some ways to make him feel less tarry with the situation he might find himself in. 

Toward the end of our conversation he feels more calm, his blood pressure is down and his biggest takeaway is to acknowledge his frustration, love on the frustration and learn  more about that emotion and what it what it's trying to show me.

Claudia Williams

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https://www.facebook.com/ClaudiaWilliamsCoaching
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If you'd like to be on the podcast either as a guest to practice Hiply and to get a little coaching from Claudia or as an expert, please email us at: [email protected]

Making a difference, one Hiply moment at a time.

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Today I'm airing an interview of Mama Hiply on the Path to Podcast success podcast. Evan Johnson interviews me and gives me a chance to speak about the new fun Hiply Language of Love I've created. I get to give an example of speaking hiply, and introduce a few Hiply tools. Enjoy the show.

Time Stamps:

2:56 Example fo speaking Hiply

5:12
What inspired Claudia to create Hiply

6:15 
Hiply deep listening - listen with the only intention of reducing the other persons tar.

7:21
The Hiply Podcast, where does that come in? I want this language to be a living thing and keep developing and testing it and a podcast is the perfect platform to do that. We practice, test and hone in on making it the very best it can be. And then the book is next. 

9:32
The Hiply Podcast is light and conversational, it's helpful and puts people into a better mindset.

11:11 actional advice from Claudia - when you're feeling tarry (suffering from thoughts about thoughts) take some breaths, clear your mind, go inside, find the part that is most upset with the situation. Find your inner peace part and let the upset tarry part vent. And love on it. Let the emotion flow through. Love on and listen to the parts you don't want to listen to. What you resist persists, let the tarry feeling move through and make space for new things.

Evan Johnson
pathtopodcastsuccess.com

Claudia Williams

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Website: https://www.claudiawilliamscoaching.com
https://www.facebook.com/ClaudiaWilliamsCoaching
https://www.instagram.com/mamahiply/
https://www.facebook.com/hiplylol/

If you'd like to be on the podcast either as a guest to practice Hiply and to get a little coaching from Claudia or as an expert, please email us at: [email protected]

Making a difference, one Hiply moment at a time.

Episodes released every Tuesdays.

Love Claudia