The art of working hard, patiently & properly.  

Why are we here? Todays episode could help you lose the weight, build the business, make the money, whatever you current goal is.. by helping you be more aware of a little mistake most of us make when we try and tackle new goals! 

Most of the times when we want to change something, we hyper fixate, get pumped, and fucking dive in. But as most of us know, those changes are quick, all consuming, and short lived. Most of us find ourselves right back where we started. There has got to be a better way. Well, I think I am finding it.. and I want to share that with you. Let me tell you what I have been experiencing, and then we can boil it down to an ultra relatable concept, together.

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Last week I talked about quitting porn, and how all easy access forms of dopamine can wreak havoc on your life when you are trying to be responsible, driven, and disciplined. 

We talked about how dopamine is like an Easter egg with a reward inside and how life is structured in a way that natural rewards (or Easter eggs) are hidden behind things that we do that are good for us. Sex, food, water, exercise, work, etc. We also talked about how the Easter egg hunt of life is tough, and if you have access to get Easter eggs without the work, you would start to be less and less interested in your life, and become an egg addict..

I wanted to structure last week’s conversation in a way that could be relatable to people with any kind of easy dopamine habit, so that we can all benefit. This week, I want to hyper focus on one in particular. Pornography. And if porn is something that you feel is harming your life, I want to inspire you to give it up, like I am.

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Today I want to talk about why I am officially stopping watching pornography, and more broadly about any and all forms of easy-access dopamine and how it can reel havoc in your life when it comes to trying to stay disciplined, organized, and responsible. 

Dopamine is like an Easter egg. Running around, climbing up trees, looking in bushes are all difficult challenging things to do. They require effort. If you went out looking for candy filled / or money filled eggs, and you didn’t find any, you would stop pretty quickly, and the game would be over. But if you found one after a little searching you would feel excitement to keep looking, and then finding another would still make you want to keep playing. Essentially, the eggs are a reward for playing the game, for participating in the hunt. They keep you engaged and interested in playing. 

This is how your brain works with dopamine. There are things that are beneficial for you to do, eating, sex, exercise, yoga, etc. So your brain hides a little candy filled egg on the other side of completing these tasks! You do the task you get the egg.

With technological innovation, we have been able to find ways to get Easter eggs without any work at all. (Or barely any)

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I lost my drive for work, and pretty much decided that the whole “work guy thing” was not what I wanted to be. Now, after taking some time away, I have achieved a clarity that has allowed me to see how I didn’t lose my drive for work, I was just using a fuel-source that was a dedicate old, and it was time for a recalibration.

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This week has been so tough for me. I have felt the URGES to go and get back on the  workaholic / sex-addict train. 

However, I have felt so much love and presence with my relationship, family, hobbies. But there is a part of me that feels like LIFE SUCKS without the RUSH baby. It’s honestly been really hard to stay the course. One main reason is because without the rush, I am left sitting with all these real, painful, fears and insecurities. I have learned this week, that one of the greatest aspects to being an addict is the numbing effect on inner pain. 

In this episode I talk about how work has been like a dr*g for me, and how I am beginning to uncover the unconscious behaviors that drive me to work from a compulsive place. We see progress! 

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I have been on a journey for a couple years now to recalibrate myself to a lifestyle that not only gives me the work projects I love doing, but also cares for my soul. I am on the tail end of the initial recovery process, and want to share with you the 5 ways I have been working DIFFERENTLY - and loving it. 

I am finally starting to feel like I am able to have my work, and my life, at the same time. Yay for recovery! 

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My priorities have begun shifting, and I'd love to bring you along for the ride. 

Me and Lauren just got back from a WHOLE MONTH living in New York City! In this episode, I recount some of the lessons I learned about my relationship to work, peace, and love. 

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Wow. I have been learning so much about my relationship with sex. Lauren has too, and in this episode, we talk about what that has meant not just for us individually, but as partners.

Watch this episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g7XfKLztRuo

This episode is not graphic. 

Time codes!!
0:00-5:29 Intro
5:30-6:59 Always been something missing
7:00-10:09 Vulnerable sex is new..
10:10-11:59 Sex is doing it TOGETHER?
12:00-19:49 Self-worth from being wanted
19:50-23:08 Reassessing my meaning of sex 
23:09-28:59 Unlearning porn and hookup behavior
29:00-31:59 Desire in committed long-term relationships
32:00-33:29 Actually CONNECTING through sex 
33:30-40:19 MDMA sex vs Cocaine sex
40:20-47:44 Don’t imitate others - Be U!
47:45-54:44 HER asking for pleasure
54:45-59:09 Jealous of your sexual freedom
59:10 Pride yourself on your authentic presence

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Do you think social media has a negative or positive effect on you as an individual? What about the effects it has on society? This episode we discuss these topics and begin to peer down some rather grim perspectives on social media. Enjoy. 

Listen to Let's Keep Talking on Spotify, Apple Podcast, and Google podcasts.

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The story of Christ. For Drake it's a reality, the truth! For me, it's a reminder of compassion and love, an inspiration to BE LIKE Jesus.. Not a recounting of fact.. 

What is the story of Jesus, for you? 

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