Let's Keep Talking with Braxton Gilbert

Are you love avoidant? Do you self-regulate your emotional state with solo practice like binge eating/watching, constant social media addiction, food/porn indulgence, etc? 

Do you want to see your relationship as a safe space to feel and just BE? Well, join today's conversation with my love Lauren as we unpack my l love avoidant / workaholic behavior and how I am learning to truly connect for the first time in my life. 

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Ever wonder why you're not feeling a deep emotional connection with your partner? Or why you instantly reach for the remote, phone, or a bag of chips when you're feeling down? 

Today's episode is all about confronting these issues head-on, exploring the barriers we unconsciously construct that prevent us from truly experiencing emotional intimacy. We unpack what it means to be emotionally present with others, and highlight common pitfalls that might be stopping you from achieving this profound level of connection. 

Our conversation takes us through a landscape of avoidance and escapism, as we shine a light on our tendencies to use distractions like endless work, food, online shopping, social media, and even drugs as a way to numb our emotions instead of processing them with our partners. 

I suggest the radical idea that experiencing our painful emotions with our partner might actually be the key to emotional intimacy. 

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Having boundaries into your relationships with others is THE foundation of healthy relationships. But what happens when someone crosses your boundaries? What are some practical ways we can respond with kindness and strength?

Today, we talk about how to enforce standards in relationships with those people we can most about!

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Listing the boundaries and expectations you have for your relationships couldn't be more important. But if the prep work stops there, you may find yourself with some weak "wishes" as opposed to strong limits. 

Today, we learn an exercise that will ensure our boundaries are strong barriers to mistreatment. This is key for everyone!

0:00-6:32 Intro
6:33-12:04 My 6 boundaries
12:05-15:51 Money
15:52-20:23 Guilt / Punishment
20:24-26:52 Privacy
26:53-30:41 Separateness 
30:42-34:54 Disrespect
34:55-40:14 Communication
40:15-41:58 Outro

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Guys, here are the 6 fundamental boundaries that exist between two people in a healthy relationship:

1. Emotional Boundaries - Your problems are not my problems. 
2. Money - My money is not yours.
3. Time - Time is money. (See #2)
4. Intellectual - We can have different viewpoints.
5. Physical - Personal space is a thing. 
6. Sexual - Enthusiastic consent from everyone.

This episode is a great starting line for you if you are interested in integrating healthy boundaries into your relationships with others.

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Ever find yourself saying 'yes' when you really mean 'no'? 

What if that small two-letter word 'no', could be the key to unlocking healthier, more authentic relationships? That's what we're diving into today. The power of 'no' is often underestimated and misinterpreted. It’s not about asserting dominance but staying true to yourself and encouraging others to do the same. We will be debunking the fear surrounding the usage of 'no' in relationships and how it can lead to a healthier dynamic.

Moving on, we're exploring the importance of setting boundaries in relationships. Whether it's your romantic partner, your family, your friends, or your coworkers, every relationship requires a certain level of respect, consent, autonomy, and open communication.

These are not punitive measures, they are essential elements for successful relationships. Tune in as we navigate this complex topic, offering insights into how boundaries, respect, and a simple 'no' can truly enhance your relationships. And remember, saying 'no' doesn't make you a bad person, it makes you a conscious communicator.

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Can you remember the boundless optimism, love, and sense of purpose you felt as a child? As we grow up, sometimes those qualities get overshadowed by the harsh realities of life, and we may find ourselves questioning if we've grown up the "right" way. Join me in this heartfelt episode as I share my personal journey from a youthful dreamer to a hardened adult, and how rediscovering childlike qualities has transformed my outlook on life.

Growing up is a complex process that doesn't necessarily mean completely abandoning the qualities that made us who we were as children. Through self-reflection, I've realized that it's possible to maintain our love, empathy, and sense of play while still evolving into responsible adults. Tune in as I discuss how we can strike this delicate balance and thrive in the face of life's challenges.

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I recently had a transformative MDMA experience, allowing me to confront the pain, discomfort, and frustration I've felt due to sexual repression. In our honest and vulnerable conversation, we explore how this journey led to powerful self-discovery and healing. Please remember that I always take extreme precautions when it comes to substances, and I don't encourage irresponsible behavior.

Throughout the episode, I share my challenges with overcoming sexual addiction and the profound insights I gained during my MDMA session. I open up about resonating with the image of an angry doorkeeper, protecting a secret shrine of sexual fantasies. By facing these emotions, I was able to create a relaxation in my heart and let go of my sexual obsession.

Join me as I discuss how the therapeutic benefits of MDMA have helped me gain perspective on my desire to control sexuality and let go of coping mechanisms in exchange for sexual liberation. I encourage you to look inside yourself and have compassion for your own journey towards self-insight and healing.

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The art of working hard, patiently & properly.  

Why are we here? Todays episode could help you lose the weight, build the business, make the money, whatever you current goal is.. by helping you be more aware of a little mistake most of us make when we try and tackle new goals! 

Most of the times when we want to change something, we hyper fixate, get pumped, and fucking dive in. But as most of us know, those changes are quick, all consuming, and short lived. Most of us find ourselves right back where we started. There has got to be a better way. Well, I think I am finding it.. and I want to share that with you. Let me tell you what I have been experiencing, and then we can boil it down to an ultra relatable concept, together.

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Last week I talked about quitting porn, and how all easy access forms of dopamine can wreak havoc on your life when you are trying to be responsible, driven, and disciplined. 

We talked about how dopamine is like an Easter egg with a reward inside and how life is structured in a way that natural rewards (or Easter eggs) are hidden behind things that we do that are good for us. Sex, food, water, exercise, work, etc. We also talked about how the Easter egg hunt of life is tough, and if you have access to get Easter eggs without the work, you would start to be less and less interested in your life, and become an egg addict..

I wanted to structure last week’s conversation in a way that could be relatable to people with any kind of easy dopamine habit, so that we can all benefit. This week, I want to hyper focus on one in particular. Pornography. And if porn is something that you feel is harming your life, I want to inspire you to give it up, like I am.

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