Let's Parent on Purpose: Christian Marriage, Parenting, and Discipleship

Show Notes: Take a sneak peek into Jay’s new daily devotional podcast designed to encourage teens and young adults. Don’t worry, mom and dad can listen too! Listen to Jay’s heart behind launching Guided by Faith, then enjoy three short episodes to get a flavor for the podcast. If you think it’s valuable, please subscribe, listen, review, and share Guided by Faith with your children, pastors, and friends!

Let’s Parent on Purpose is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Resources mentioned:

www.guidedbyfaith.net

cpgive.org

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Chick-Fil-A is known for the highest level of excellence in customer service and food quality. The vast majority of their workforce are teenagers and young adults. How does Chick-Fil-A elicit such superior work from young people? This week Jody Kidd joins Let’s Parent on Purpose to share the principles he uses for communication, accountability, and ownership as he trains hundreds of young people each year. Jody and Jay discuss how these principles can also apply in our households to raise the level of satisfaction for each member of the family. 

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Bio: Jody Kidd is the husband of Christa, one of the Children’s Directors at Covenant Fellowship Baptist Church. He is the father of four kids aged 12 to 18. He’s currently the COO for two Chick-fil-A’s in our area, with one being the top drive-thru in the entire chain. Before coming to Chick-fil-A, he was in the ministry for many years as a youth pastor and children’s pastor.

Resources mentioned:

chickfila.com

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Before You Change The World

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How can we hope to have children who are steady, kind, and resilient in an increasingly hostile culture? It starts with what mom and dad model at home. On this episode Jay is joined by Pastor Ken Castor for a discussion on modeling healthy identity, communication, and kindness in our homes to prepare our children for the challenges of a word that wants to label Christian morality as hate.

As you listen you’ll be encouraged to notice the way you handle feedback and criticism in your home. You’ll learn the importance of missionary loving your neighbors, especially if you disagree with them. Finally you’ll be reminded to keep your hope rooted in Christ rather than giving in to the anger, angst, and volatility of our society in this upcoming election season. In each of these circumstances, Ken brings us back to scripture as our foundation and guidebook.

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Bio: Dr. Ken Castor is the Next-Gen Pastor of Wooddale Church (Eden Prairie MN) and author of Grow Down: How to Build a Jesus-Centered Faith and the editor of the Make a Difference Youth Bible (NLT). You can interact with him at www.kencastor.com

Resources mentioned:

www.kencastor.com

https://makeadifferencebible.com/

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Summer break is a great time to catch our breath and decompress. If we are intentional, the break is also an amazing opportunity to inspire our children with awe and wonder at their Creator God. Jay is joined this episode by Rita Diapoules, the director of Children’s Ministry at Covenant Fellowship Baptist Church. Rita helps walk us though little intentional activities we can do throughout the summer to deepen our children’s appreciation for their Creator. 

In this episode Jay and Rita talk about intentional use of the mornings, reading and devotion times, and using a simple prayer calendar to guide children in noticing different aspects of creation and their Creator. They also talk about using vacations and service times to grow together as a family in the Lord.

**Be sure to check out the prayer calendar and activities guide created by Rita that accompanies this podcast.

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Bio

Rita Diapoules is the wife of Mark and mother of two young children. After spending fifteen years as a public school teacher (and Palm City Elementary Teacher of the Year) Rita now co-leads the children’s ministry at Covenant Fellowship Baptist Church while raising and teaching her daughters.

Resources mentioned:

Download the Summer Prayer Calendar here: https://bit.ly/45bIaAh

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What do you think about when you think about God? Is He distant, uncaring, weak or unjust? Or is He good, near, powerful, just, and loving? Every person has a story they tell themselves about God, and we continually feed this story. 

Today Jay shares how we have a choice in what we choose to feed in our story about God. He then shares how those choices tend to have control over us in ways that we don’t expect. The story you tell yourself about God will affect how you handle temptation, trials, and tragedies. Will sin become a coping mechanism or an evil to avoid? It all depends on the story you are feeding yourself about God.

This principle also holds true in the story we tell ourselves about other people. You can make or break relationships based on the internal story you create and then seek to prove through your interactions. If you are stuck in a bad story, listen and hear how Jay shares two powerful antidotes that can change your story. 

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Resources mentioned:

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What do you do when you and your children experience intense personal loss, like the unexpected death of a loved one? Eliza Huie helps us walk through a series of questions that parents wrestle with as they try to process shock and grief while also helping their children deal with tragedy.

Listen as Eliza answers the following questions from Jay:

• How can parents shepherd their children through intense personal loss?
• How can they do this while also dealing with the loss themselves?
• What are normal feelings and emotions that go along with trauma.
• What might counseling to do help. How do you know if counseling is appropriate? How soon after the loss?

In crisis we have (psychological needs):

• The Activation of the Body
• The Activation of the Mind and Emotions
• The Activation of the Soul

What does a person in crisis need? (relational needs):

• What determines if a crisis situation results in long-term trauma?
• What are the essential characteristics of a helper in these situations?

A plan for what’s ahead (situational needs):

• First few days
• First 1-3 weeks
• Four weeks and beyond

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About Eliza Huie

Eliza Huie is the director of counseling at McLean Bible Church located invthe Washington D.C. metro area. She is the Dean of Biblical Counseling for Metro Baltimore Seminary in Maryland. She and her husband Ken have been married for almost 30 years and they have 3 grown children and a lovely daughter-in-law.

Resources mentioned:

Biblical Virtual Counseling Resource:

Anchored Hope Counseling – https://anchoredhope.co

Fieldstone Counseling – https://fieldstonecounseling.org

Christian Trauma Counseling – https://christiantraumacounseling.com

Breath as Prayer by Jennifer Tucker

Tips for Survivors of a Disaster or Other Traumatic Event: https://store.samhsa.gov/sites/default/files/sma13-4776.pdf

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Research shows that the average adult makes over 35,000 decisions every day! We make a lot of choices, and many of our choices have a compounding effect as we repeat them day after day. Other choices are not as important but drain our energy. This week Jay shares insights on the power of pre-deciding in seven areas of your life that will have tremendous compound interest. Listen as Jay explains why you should:

1. Pre-decide when you are going to have your time with God each day.

2. Pre-decide when you are going to bed and when you are going to wake up as a normal habit. 

3. Pre-Decide your default meals for breakfast and lunch. 

4. Pre-decide your days and time to be a part of the church

5. Pre-decide your date nights

6. Pre-decide family dinner nights

7. Pre-decide to be proportionally generous

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Resources mentioned:

The Greatest Choices of Strategic Leaders: https://go.roberts.edu/leadingedge/the-great-choices-of-strategic-leaders

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What does it mean to walk in the Spirit and live in the Spirit? This week I am joined by Dr. Don Love for a walk through Galatians 5 and a discussion of the Fruit of the Spirit in the life of a believer. We talk about how to discern the will of God in your life, ways that the Lord might be speaking to you, and the importance of the statement “God’s will is found in God’s Word.” You will learn the difference between the gifts of the Spirit and the Fruit of the Spirit and how this understanding can be transformational in your marriage and parenting. Finally, Don leads us in a time of prayer to seek the Lord’s guidance on each aspect of the Fruit of the Spirit in our own lives.

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Bio

Dr. Don Love is the director of Pray Through It and the host of the weekly podcast Unquenchable: Biblical Theology, Listening Prayer, and Christian Living. You can find out more and interact with Dr. Love at www.praythroughit.com

Resources mentioned:

Episode 341: Inner Healing Through Prayer with Dr. Don Love

www.praythroughit.com

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Character changes destiny, and character changes culture. Dr. Kathy Koch helps define the core character qualities we want to instill in our children to help them honor Christ, even when no one is looking. As we learn to parent for character instead of outward obedience, we begin to raise children who will change their culture.

Listen today as Jay and Dr. Kathy discuss:

•   The definition of character, and the vital importance of training for gratitude, joy, and self-efficacy.

•   How to cast vision in your children to be culture changers instead of just rule followers.

•   The definition of joy and the dangers of comparison and unrealistic expectations.

•   The way technology teaches us to live entitled and the wisdom of limiting choices.

•   Why “choice” is one of the most powerful words a parent can use.

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Bio

Dr. Kathy Koch is the founder and president of Celebrate Kids, Inc., and a child development specialist. She is also the author of seven bestselling parent-child enrichment books including her latest book, Parent Differently: Raise Kids with Biblical Character that Changes Culture.

 Resources mentioned: 

www.celebratekids.com

 Parent Differently: Raise Kids with Biblical Character that Changes Culture

 Screens and Teens

 Start with the Heart

 Eight Great Smarts

 No More Perfect Kids

 Resilient Kids

 Five to Thrive

 Facing the Dark Podcast

 Dr. Kathy Says Podcast

 Celebrate Kids Podcast

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Today Jay revisits his very favorite interviews from 2023. He also celebrates the fruitful year for The 127 Project, including production of Let’s Parent on Purpose and Stories of Hope with Dr. Samuel Thomas, the building and remodeling of three Hope Homes in India, and supporting a pioneering church planter in Nepal.

Be sure to check out the full interviews from Jay’s favorite episodes:

• Episode 319 Family Identity Through Teams with Jeremy Pryor
• Episode 340 Parenting Through the Stupid Years with Jim Ramos
• Episode 345 Moving Beyond Anxiety in your Parenting with Sissy Goff
• Episode 341 Inner Healing Through Prayer with Dr. Don Love
• Episode 344 The Sex Talk with Nick Liberto
• Episode 358 The Five Traits of a Healthy Family with Dr. Gary Chapman

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Resources mentioned:

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