Let's Parent on Purpose: Christian Marriage, Parenting, and Discipleship

In this conversation, Jay Holland, Ed Uszynski, and Brian Smith discuss the complexities of youth sports culture, emphasizing the need for a shift in perspective among parents and coaches. They explore the concept of the 'youth sports industrial complex,' the impact of parental influence, and the importance of character development in sports. The discussion highlights the detrimental effects of snowplow parenting and the need for intentional discipleship opportunities within the youth sports experience.

In this conversation, the speakers discuss the importance of instilling gratitude and character in youth sports, contrasting the focus on competition and statistics with the value of personal growth and relationships. They emphasize the need for parents to support their children in a balanced way, encouraging them to appreciate the joy of sports while also recognizing the pressures of year-round competition and early specialization. The discussion culminates in a vision for families to engage in sports as a means of discipleship and community building.

Takeaways

• The youth sports industrial complex is a billion-dollar industry.

• Parents need to be the first to be discipled in sports culture.

• Character development in sports is influenced by the adults involved.

• Snowplow parenting inhibits children's ability to think independently.

• Winning is often prioritized over character in youth sports.

• Discipleship opportunities arise from observing sports interactions.

• Parents should teach their kids to notice others in sports.

• The culture of sports can shape our values and beliefs.

• Coaches have a significant impact on children's development.

• We need to reform our thinking about youth sports. Training kids to thank referees and spectators is vital.

• The GOAT debate highlights character over statistics.

• Living with gratitude leads to a more joyful life.

• Pursuing excellence doesn't mean sacrificing compassion.

• Recognizing marginalized teammates fosters inclusivity.

• Year-round competition is not necessary for success.

• Early specialization can be detrimental to athletes.

• Parents should focus on enjoying the game with their kids.

• Remove anxiety from the sports experience for children.

• Sports can be a platform for discipleship and community.

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Bio

About Brian Smith 

Brian Smith is the author of several books including his latest Away Game: A Christian Parent’s Guide to Navigating Youth Sports and The Christian Athlete: Glorifying God in Sports. He has been on staff with Athletes in Action since 2008. A graduate of Wake Forest University, Brian has a master’s degree in Theology and Sports Studies through Baylor University. He lives in Lowell, Michigan, with his wife and three kids. 

Social Media: 

Website: www.thechristianathlete.com

Twitter: @BrianSmithAIA

Instagram: @brianlinsey

About Ed Uszynski 

Ed Uszynski is an author, speaker, and sports minister with over three decades’ experience discipling college and professional athletes. His latest book is Away Game: A Christian Parent’s Guide to Navigating Youth Sports. He’s written articles, essays, and training manuals at the intersection of faith and sport and is the lead strategist for Content Mercenaries. He has two theological degrees from Trinity Evangelical Divinity School and a PhD in American Culture Studies from Bowling Green State University. He and his wife Amy have four children and live in Xenia, Ohio.

Social Media: 

Website: www.untanglingcrt.com

Twitter: @uszynski32

Facebook: @ed.uszynski.3

Resources mentioned:

Away Game: A Christian Parent’s Guide to Navigating Youth Sports: https://amzn.to/43QFoQI

Athletes in Action: https://athletesinaction.org/ 

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This episode serves as a parental companion to Jay’s Guided By Faith Daily Devotional Podcast series on Living the Mission. In this episode, Jay discusses the importance of living a mission-driven life within the context of family and community. He emphasizes that the Great Commission is not just for missionaries abroad but applies to everyday life. Jay provides practical tips for parents to instill a mission mindset in their families, encouraging them to engage with their neighborhoods, practice hospitality, and serve others. He highlights the long-term impact of these actions and invites listeners to join his series on living the mission.

Takeaways

• The Great Commission applies to our daily lives.

• Living missionally can transform family dynamics.

• Prayer walking helps engage with the community.

• Hospitality is a key aspect of living on mission.

• Serving together as a family fosters unity.

• Sharing faith authentically normalizes conversations about Jesus.

• Being rooted in community strengthens faith.

• Long-term relationships have a greater impact than short-term mission trips.

• Small, faithful steps lead to significant changes over time.

• Engaging with neighbors opens doors for ministry opportunities.

Listen to the episode and let it inspire you to see your summer with fresh eyes—ready to live on mission as a family!

Resources mentioned:

Guided by Faith: www.guidedbyfaith.net

Spotify: https://spoti.fi/4cLI2d7

Apple Podcast: https://apple.co/4cOVBbK

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@GuidedbyFaithPodcast

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For the first time in the history of the Barna Research, more young women are leaving the faith than young men. Jay Holland and Cicely Corry discuss the work of Barna, focusing on the intersection of church and culture. They explore the methodologies used in their research, the importance of data for parents and leaders, and the concerning trend of young women disengaging from faith. Cicely shares insights into the reasons behind this trend, including social dynamics and perceptions of safety within church communities. The discussion emphasizes the need for churches to create welcoming environments for young women and the role of community in fostering faith. This conversation explores the dynamics of friendships between genders, the importance of intentionality in building relationships, and the empowerment of young women in leadership roles. It discusses the challenges faced by Gen Z in navigating faith and spirituality, emphasizing the need for mentorship and community support. The dialogue highlights the role of parents in fostering curiosity and community among their children to help them thrive in their faith journey.

Takeaways

• Parents can benefit from Barna's insights to raise their children in faith.

• Young women are increasingly identifying as having no faith, a concerning trend.

• Social dynamics and safety perceptions impact young women's engagement with church.

• Community and friendship are vital for youth engagement in church.

• Churches need to create safe spaces for young women.

• Men's friendships often thrive on shared interests. Women tend to have more complex social dynamics in friendships.

• Shared experiences help deepen connections among individuals. 

• Visible female leadership in churches empowers young women.

• Mentorship plays a significant role in young women's development.

• Gen Z shows intrigue in spiritual matters despite declining church affiliation.

• Parents should engage in curious conversations with their children.

• Community involvement is essential for faith retention.

• Encouraging young people to step out of their comfort zones fosters growth.

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Bio

Cicely Corry is Editorial Director at Barna Group, where she leads online content strategy to help Christian leaders understand key trends affecting the Church. Previously, she managed social media strategy and content for the Billy Graham Evangelistic Association and wrote for the Christian Broadcasting Network. Cicely has served in student ministry for over 10 years, and founded Three Minute Study, an online Bible study community helping others understand, enjoy and apply God’s word

She holds a M.A. in journalism from Regent University and a B.A. in print journalism and marketing from Hampton University. Cicely is an Atlanta native now living in Charlotte, North Carolina, with her husband and two sons.

Resources mentioned:

Barna site: https://www.barna.com/  

Gen Z Vol. 3 Study: https://www.barna.com/gen-z-volume-3/ 

Barna’s Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/barnagroup/?hl=en  

Barna Access Plus: https://www.barna.com/access/ 

Cicely Corry's Instagram Page: https://www.instagram.com/cicelycorry/   

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In this conversation, Jay and Virgil explore the concept of missional households, emphasizing the importance of experiential learning, community, and intentional practices in family life. They discuss how to create a nurturing environment for spiritual growth, the significance of regular rhythms in the household, and adapting to life changes while maintaining a missional mindset. Through personal stories and practical advice, they highlight the transformative power of faith in everyday life.

Takeaways

• There's a difference between knowing about something and truly knowing it.

• Learning requires experience, community, and a compelling story.

• Discipleship is best understood as a relational network rather than individual mentorship.

• Deep learning occurs in community settings, not just through sermons.

• Intentional rhythms in the household can foster spiritual growth.

• Experiential learning can be integrated into family gatherings.

• Simplicity in practices makes them easier to maintain.

• Children learn through repetition and experience in their environment.

• Creating a missional household involves being consistent with values and practices.

• The narrative of a household can guide the family's mission and identity.

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Bio

As the Senior Director of OneTree, Virgil is responsible for leading the team to help mission, marketplace, and ministry leaders thrive holistically, do beautifully integrated work, and become everything God dreamed them to be, believing this to be a primary means for stewarding the reviving life of God through His people into the world.

Virgil holds a B.S. in Biology, an M.A. in Religion and Cross Cultural Studies, and an MEd. in Curriculum and Instruction. He is presently working on an EdD in Christian Leadership.

Resources mentioned:

https://www.onetreeministries.org/

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In this conversation, Jay and Virgil explore the importance of character development over mere skills in leadership and parenting. They discuss the need for experiential learning in faith and the role of community in nurturing youth. The conversation emphasizes that discipleship should primarily occur in the home, supported by a network of relationships that foster growth and understanding.

They also discuss the importance of building significant relationships, particularly in the context of youth ministry. They explore the influence of social media on young people's lives, emphasizing the need for adults to step in and provide positive guidance. The discussion highlights the role of desire in shaping behavior and the necessity of intentional connections in youth ministry. They also address the importance of encouraging risk-taking and resilience in young people, advocating for experiential learning over theoretical knowledge. The conversation concludes with practical advice for parents on how to engage in transformative conversations with their children.

Takeaways

• Leaders often have more information than formation.

• Character is more important than skills in leadership.

• Experiential learning is crucial for true understanding.

• Discipleship must happen primarily in the home.

• Community plays a vital role in faith development.

• Youth often leave the faith due to lack of relational engagement.

• Knowing about something is different from truly knowing it.

• Parents' involvement in faith practice significantly impacts youth retention.

• Building a supportive network for youth is essential.

• Teaching faith should be experiential, communal, and narratively situated. Aim for at least seven significant adult relationships.

• Social media influences youth in unhealthy ways.

• Desire drives behavior more than cognition.

• Intentional connections can impact youth positively.

• Encouraging risk-taking helps build resilience.

• Experiential learning is more effective than theoretical knowledge.

• Transformative conversations can lead to deeper understanding.

• Modeling behavior is crucial for youth development.

• Recognizing and affirming individual strengths is important.

• Learning from failure is a valuable experience.

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Bio

As the Senior Director of OneTree, Virgil is responsible for leading the team to help mission, marketplace, and ministry leaders thrive holistically, do beautifully integrated work, and become everything God dreamed them to be, believing this to be a primary means for stewarding the reviving life of God through His people into the world.

Virgil holds a B.S. in Biology, an M.A. in Religion and Cross Cultural Studies, and an MEd. in Curriculum and Instruction. He is presently working on an EdD in Christian Leadership.

Resources mentioned:

https://www.onetreeministries.org/

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In this conversation, Jay and David discuss the evolving challenges faced by children and adolescents in today's world, particularly in the context of counseling. They explore the importance of emotional regulation, the balance between naming feelings and navigating them, and the need for parents to find a healthy middle ground in their approach to parenting. The discussion also highlights the significance of building resilience in children through healthy risks and practical strategies, such as the 'exposures and ladders' approach to overcoming anxiety. Additionally, they introduce the Daystar Dog Series, which aims to teach resilience through stories featuring therapy dogs.

Takeaways

• The same child development principles apply today as in the past.

• Technology has significantly impacted the challenges children face.

• Parents may overcorrect in their approach to emotional support.

• Naming emotions is important, but navigating them is crucial.

• Resilience in children is diminishing due to overprotection.

• Healthy risks are essential for children's growth and development.

• Parents should reflect on what they do for their children that they could do themselves.

• Anxiety often stems from avoiding discomfort and challenges.

• Exposures and ladders can help children face their fears.

• Storytelling through the Daystar Dog Series can teach resilience.

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Bio

David Thomas, LMSW, is co-executive director of Daystar Counseling in Nashville, Tennessee, and the author of 10 books including his most recent book, Raising Emotionally Strong Boys (Bethany, June 2022). A frequent media guest and speaker, David has spoken to hundreds of thousands in person and millions via his Top 10 kids & family podcast, Raising Boys and Girls, now with more than 10 million downloads since its launch in 2018. Learn more at RaisingBoysAndGirls.com.

Resources mentioned:

Raising Boys and Girls website

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In this episode, Jay Holland discusses the often-overlooked practice of fasting within the Christian faith. He shares personal reflections on his struggles with fasting, its biblical foundations, and the spiritual benefits it can bring to one's life, marriage, and parenting. Jay emphasizes the importance of humility and submission to God through fasting, encouraging listeners to consider making it a regular part of their spiritual journey.

Takeaways

• Fasting is a practice that can lead to spiritual breakthroughs.

• Jesus expected his followers to fast, just as they pray and give.

• Fasting is often under-taught and under-practiced in the Christian community.

• Fasting can help with clarity in decision-making and spiritual direction.

• The act of fasting cultivates humility and dependence on God.

• Fasting can aid in repentance and soften one's heart.

• Fasting is a way to tame the flesh and resist temptation.

• Fasting is not about manipulating God but seeking His will earnestly.

• Regular fasting can lead to a deeper relationship with God.

• Fasting should be approached with a heart of humility and submission.

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Jay Holland and Aaron Smith explore the transformative power of the gospel and prayer in relationships, particularly in marriage. They discuss the importance of recognizing one's identity in Christ, the challenges of receiving correction, and the significance of prayer as a means to align hearts with God's will. The discussion also highlights the 31-Day Marriage Prayer Challenge, designed to encourage couples to pray for each other and deepen their spiritual connection. Through personal anecdotes and biblical insights, they emphasize that prayer not only changes circumstances but also transforms individuals, fostering a deeper understanding of love and grace in relationships.

Takeaways

• Seeing your marriage as a ministry is crucial.

• It's important to not sacrifice family for ministry.

• Authenticity in leadership is essential for true connection.

• Accountability helps prevent disqualification in ministry.

• Being transparent about struggles fosters genuine relationships.

• Elders and deacons play a vital role in church health.

• Critique should be received with humility and openness.

• The gospel provides a foundation for handling criticism.

• True fellowship involves knowing and being known by others.

• Leadership requires both leading and being approachable.  The gospel reveals our true selves and lifts us up.

• Receiving correction is essential for growth.

• Prayer is a powerful tool for transformation in marriage.

• The 31-Day Prayer Challenge encourages couples to pray for each other.

• Prayer prompts help couples focus on specific needs.

• Aligning our hearts with God's will is crucial in prayer.

• Prayer changes our perspective on our spouse.

• The Holy Spirit guides us in our prayers.

• Gratitude in prayer opens our hearts to God's blessings.



• We can approach God directly in prayer, which is empowering.

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Bio

Aaron Smith is a Christian author, speaker, and co-founder of Marriage After God, a ministry dedicated to helping couples center their marriages on Christ. Alongside his wife, Jennifer, Aaron has written several books, including Marriage After God and 31 Prayers for My Spouse, equipping husbands and wives with biblical wisdom for a thriving, God-honoring relationship. Through blogging, social media, and the Marriage After God Podcast, Aaron encourages men to embrace their role as spiritual leaders in their homes. He is passionate about discipleship, marriage, and helping couples grow in faith together.

Resources mentioned:

https://marriageaftergod.com

The Marriage After God Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mag-marriage-advice-relationship-encouragement-we-discuss/id1349500084

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Jay Holland and Chris Sasser explore the concept of emotional baggage that children carry into adulthood, particularly focusing on the pressures of performance, the importance of healthy relationships, and the role of parental influence. Chris shares insights from his book 'Bags', discussing common emotional burdens children face and practical ways parents can help lighten their load. The discussion emphasizes the significance of understanding one's identity in Christ and fostering connections over mere content delivery in parenting.

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Bio

Chris Sasser (a.k.a.“Sass”) is the Pastor of Family Ministries at Port City Community Church in Wilmington, NC. He has served in full-time ministry since 1993, working with children’s, middle school, high school, college, and parent ministries. He has a passion for equipping and encouraging parents and leaders to help the next generation walk with God. Chris shares thoughts and ideas at www.equipandencourage.com and loves to share with students, leaders, and parents. Chris is married to Karin, and they have two young adult children, CJ and Kylie. 

Resources mentioned:

www.equipandencourage.com

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In this conversation, Jay Holland and Eliza Huey continue to explore the complexities of trauma, its effects on individuals, and the importance of support systems. They discuss the evolution of understanding trauma, the role of God in times of suffering, and how Scripture can provide comfort. The conversation also delves into the concept of post-traumatic growth, emphasizing that trauma can lead to spiritual resilience and deeper faith. They highlight the need for proper trauma care, which includes establishing safety, processing experiences, and integrating them into one's life. Additionally, they address the challenges of information overload in today's world and how it can exacerbate feelings of trauma.

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Bio

Eliza Huie is a licensed professional counselor (LPC) trained in trauma care. She serves as a seminary instructor, facilitating certificate-level training in biblical counseling, and has authored several books, including her latest, Trauma Aware: A Christian’s Guide to Providing Help and Care. Eliza co-hosts Counsel for Life, a podcast about mental health and the Christian life. 

Resources mentioned:

https://www.elizahuie.com/

Trauma Aware: A Christian’s Guide to Providing Help and Care

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