Living Fully Alive

Join me and my friend Dr. Rob Murray on this episode as we talk about ghosting. Have you ever been ghosted? Or maybe you are a ghoster? It has become common in our culture to manage our fear and anxiety of letting people down by just vanishing. When we do this we often leave people in a place of having to finish the story on their own. Our brains desperately want closure and often the way we fill in the blanks of that story is rooted in our old stories of rejection and shame about who we are. Being IN relationship means someone else is impacted by our behavior. Situations of ghosting are usually rooted in people pleasing, indirect boundaries, and fear of letting people down and both parties suffer. When we are focused on ourselves or our own shame we miss the opportunity to give the other person closure and potentially a deeper conversation to create healing and possibly resolution or a solution. Join us on this episode as we talk about how many of the ways we attempt to stay safe in relationships are strategies that don't give us what we really want.

ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS…

- What is "ghosting"

- Reasons we abruptly leave hard conversations

- Why we need to increase our capacity to sit in discomfort

- Common strategies we use to diffuse anxiety in relationships

- The difference between healthy and unhealthy conflict

- The problem with using the withdrawal tactic in relationships

- Confusing distance and cutoff with healthy boundaries

- And more!

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No one ever tells you that this process is going to be hard. Creating a new life is going to cost you your old one. That dismantling can be painful. But there is hope in the process. However, we can't overlook the becoming. The pain, the crying, the sadness, the darkness… It is all part of the process. You have likely built your whole life to avoid experiencing pain. As you raise your awareness and you start to feel your feelings it is going to be raw and painful. All the old stuff is going to rise to the surface. Breaking deep generational cycles is no small thing and getting through this requires that we do things that feel counterintuitive. In this episode, I'll share ways to help you introduce more tenderness into the mix, and remind you that you can do hard things!

ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS…

- The painful part of transformation and expansion

- The analogy of the "GOO"

- The work of breaking generational patterns

- Being counterintuitive in our approach to healing

- 4 Steps to move through the messy middle

- Learning to give yourself grace

- How to self validate along this journey of self discovery

- And more!

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It's human to want to avoid pain. We often find ways to avoid loneliness, sadness, anger, grief, heartbreak… because these emotions leave us exposed and vulnerable. But just like joy, happiness, pleasure, wonder… They are a part of life. It's all part of the human experience. However, we can get better at being with the pain. Being conscious and fully alive requires us to become proficient in feeling our emotions. Most of us didn't grow up in spaces where we were given the skills to process our emotions, so we bypass or rush through the process. When we do that our physical body suffers the consequences. Things like disease, chronic pain, autoimmune disease, anxiety, and depression are just a few examples of signs that we have buried emotions that need to be processed. But the good news is, we can learn HOW to do that work, and in this episode I will walk you through that process step by step.

ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS…

- Talking about your emotions vs feeling them

- What happens when we bypass our emotions

- The power of befriending your emotions

- Understanding your emotions as physical sensations

- Liberating your emotions from your physical body

- How to express your emotions

- Cultivating compassion when processing emotions

- And more!

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The journey of self development usually starts with mindset work. We first learn how to shift our thinking and create more empowering beliefs. But that's just the 1st layer. There is a deeper layer that involves connecting to the body. Our body has its own language and holds information, feedback, and wisdom that when understood, can be a game changer to how we live our lives. While our mind holds 20% of the information we need in order to create desired change, the body holds the other 80%. This is why it is so important to approach this holistically and not overlook the wisdom our bodies hold. But the language of the body is not verbal. It communicates through our senses. It is that quiet inner knowing. The subtle whispers. The sensations. The feelings. The vibrations… In this episode, Mary shares what would happen in our lives if we were to become fluent in our body's language. And spoiler alert - it opens us up to a whole new dimension of life!

ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS…

- What the language of the body is

- How our bodies are the tool to reach greater alignment

- Why mindset work is just the beginning

- The process of dialoguing with the body

- The 5 reasons it is important to learn the language of our body

- Regaining personal body sovereignty

- How to detect early warning signs when something feels off

- How to foster more pleasure and inner aliveness

- And more!

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The word "alignment" has been showing up a lot for me recently. The word itself gets thrown around A LOT. But what does it really mean to live your life in alignment? The only way to be in alignment is to be in integrity with your truest self. We don't have to be doing everything perfectly. We just need to be operating from a place of wholeness. When we recognize the symptoms that something isn't quite right, then we can begin to take necessary steps to begin to come back to a place where we are living as our truest self. We can come into a place of joyful expansion. If you find yourself lacking joy, pleasure and fulfillment, feeling massive pressure and energetic exhaustion… This episode is for you!

ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS…

-The true meaning of alignment

-How misalignment shows up in the physical body

-What keeps us from living with integrity to ourselves

-How self sabotage is actually self saving

-The 4 factors to consider when moving back into alignment

-How to detect the warning signs of being out of alignment

-Learning to listen to your inner yes and inner no

- And more!

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It feels so good to be back with you after spending the past several months recalibrating and processing the last couple of years.

And last week in a coaching session, my client had a major breakthrough around identifying the root of her trigger and I knew it was the topic to kick off Season 4. See we all get emotionally triggered from time to time, and it can set off a big unexpected and "irrational" reaction inside ourselves. So what do we do?

In this short episode, I explore what is really at play when we get triggered. Hint: it's not about what we think it's about. So what is the real root? And how can we come back to a sense of what's true? I believe triggers are our teachers. They help us discover what fear or wound might need some attention, loving and healing.

ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS…

- Defining what a trigger is

- The 24 roots to your triggers

- How triggers highlight your core wound

- Recognizing the theme of our triggers

- Using the body as a tool to identify your triggers

- The role shame plays in our triggers

- How to get back to neutrality

- The safest place to go when you're triggered

- And more!

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Join Mary and her best friend Lindsley Brooks as they dig in deeper to talk about spiritual bypassing. When we experience emotions that feel "too big" or "too painful" we tend to find all kinds of covert ways to avoid "the work". Many positive things that we incorporate into our lives with good intention can end up being used to help us cope and bring us comfort when life throws hard things at us. Prayer, meditation, astrology, spirituality, and religion are all things we might find ourselves turning to in order to bypass our emotions, pain, and struggles.The intention is good, but these "tools" can often keep us in a place where we avoid or ignore the feelings pointing us to places where we need healing. Part of being human is feeling a full range of emotions, experiencing highs and lows, and having a biological response to whatever is happening in our lives. When we choose to bypass our emotions, we self abandon and break trust with ourselves. When we choose to sit with our emotions and truly heal we create the opportunity to live fully alive!

ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS…

- What "spiritual bypassing" is

- How we use positive things to bury our pain

- How spiritual bypassing can feel like the enlightened choice

- Creating space to accept our full range of emotions

- Attaching morality to emotions

- Giving ourselves permission to be fully human

- The addiction of spirituality to escape reality

- 3 Steps to avoid spiritual bypassing

- And more!

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SEASON 3:

In this 8 part series we will be talking about Feeling To Heal in order to Live Fully Alive

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Join Mary and her former part time co-host and best friend, Lindsley Brooks as they dig into how emotional intelligence affects your interpersonal relationships. We all learned in our childhoods emotional survival techniques. We learned how to be seen, get love, and gain approval. These emotional blueprints and patterns often come with us into adulthood causing us to abandon ourselves in order to attempt to get our needs met. How do we learn something new? How do we learn to be in a healthy relationship with another person? When we find ourselves stuck in these patterns it is time to face the hard work of undoing the foundation of our patterning. Listen as Mary and Lindsley candidly talk about how when we notice the roles we played as children showing up in our adult relationships, it is really an invitation to do the work to usher in deeper healing.

ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS…

- Identifying the roles you played as a child to get your needs met

- The importance of doing relationships well

- How and why we self abandon in relationships

- Indicators that you might be emotionally codependent

- What "Spiritual Bypassing" is and how you might be doing it

- The definition of "Gaslighting" and how it shows up in relationships

- Why emotional dysregulation is really a cry for safety

- Why emotional regulation is really about creating wholeness

- And more!

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SEASON 3:

In this 8 part series we will be talking about Feeling To Heal in order to Live Fully Alive

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Join Mary and her very special guest, Elizabeth A. Stanley, PhD. Liz is a professor of security studies at Georgetown University. She speaks, teaches, and writes widely on a variety of topics related to resilience, political psychology, civil-military relations, and international security. She is the award-winning author of Paths to Peace and Widen the Window: Training Your Brain and Body to Thrive during Stress and Recover from Trauma. She is the creator of Mindfulness-based Mind Fitness Training (MMFT)®, taught to thousands in civilian and military high-stress environments. MMFT® research has been featured on 60 Minutes, ABC Evening News, NPR, and in Time magazine and many other media outlets. A U.S. Army veteran with service in Asia and Europe, she holds degrees from Yale, Harvard, and MIT. She's also a certified practitioner of Somatic Experiencing, a body-based trauma therapy.

ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS…

- How chronic stress affects the brain and physical body

- Why the hustle culture is hurting us all

- What is the "window of tolerance" and how to widen it

- How to recover from trauma & stress and create resilience

- How to gain agency over our emotions

- Ways to support yourself when you get triggered

- Why finding a sense of "safety" is critical for recovery

- Adding the MMFT® method to your emotional toolbox

- And more!

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SEASON 3:

In this 8 part series we will be talking about Feeling To Heal in order to Live Fully Alive

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Join Mary as she offers the second of several guided meditations in Season 3. As you tune in to the regular episodes and learn more about your emotions and feelings, it's important to slow down to integrate what you are learning. Mary is a certified Kundalini Yoga teacher, meditation and breathwork teacher, and brings over a decade of experience in this area.

In this guided meditation, she will guide you through creating a safe and loving space and learn how to feel some of the more difficult emotions like sadness, loneliness, anger, anxiety, fear...etc. This gentle approach of allowing and nurturing will open the door for deep healing.

No meditation experience needed.

TO PREPARE:

- If possible, find a quiet and comfortable place.

- Sit comfortably upright.

- If you want, put on your favorite meditation music in the background.

- Simply follow Mary's guided meditation.

- Relax, take the pressure off and enjoy!

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