Loving On Purpose

Every Thursday I send out  a newsletter with the intent to uplift and inspire you and share a little bit about my perspective on challenges.  On this episode I am sharing some of my subscribers more popular messages.  If you are not on the list, go to bonnielyman.com to sign up.

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I share  with you excerpts and some paraphrasing of what Joseph Grenny believes is causing most of the despair among parents with children who have strayed.  (From an article in the Meridian Magazine, July 7, 2022.  Link below). Not only from their faith, but also from coping with the challenges of life in a healthy way.  He gets his insights from Jacob 4 and 5 in the Book of Mormon.  Even if you are not a member of this faith, I think you will find his words very comforting and hopeful.  I quote him:  "Most of the epidemic of family despair in the Church today is optional....Satan entices us to satisfy our immediate hunger for resolution by surrendering either our beliefs or our optimism".  Listen to my insights and personal stories on this podcast.  I would encourage you to read Jacob 4 and 5 in the Book of Mormon; then read the article below.
"Jacob's Answer to Parental Despair:  The Olive Tree and the Antichrist", Joseph Grenny

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I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Have you ever stopped and wondered how much influence you have in your grandchildren's lives?  Have you ever been forbidden by your child to see their children?  Do you feel guilty you don't always say yes to providing day care for your grandchildren?  What about grandchildren that live far away; how can you connect with them better?  Tune and listen as to why and how you are the most influential person/people in their lives.

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References:
Donne Davis, author of When Being A Grandma Isn't So Grand
Donne Davis on YouTube
Donne Davis, organizer of the gaga sisterhood.  Organizations for grandmothers.
Stuart Biscoe on YouTube

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Most mornings we wake up with the same feelings.  I'm a morning person so I wake up excited.  I sometimes find my concerns from the day before are not as bad as they were the day before. Others wake up grumpy....and that is okay.  Did you know that you can form the habit of being happy?  By managing our thoughts, we can decide when we wake up what kind of day we want to have that day.  And our brain will help us find evidence that we will have that kind of day.
Tune in to find out how to form the habit of feeling good every day.

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I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Life was good....I was married to a wonderful husband with 5 amazing children.  One night my husband said "We haven't gotten our licks yet".  Not too long after, major challenges surfaced in our family's life.  Challenges I would not sell to have them taken back but challenges I would never wish for anyone to experience.  How did I survive?  A lot of tears but a lot of giving love.  I believe I was given the gift to love difficult people; from an upbringing, absent of support and love, I gained resilience; from having faith in a Supreme Being I was given strength and promptings to choose love.  Even when our children do not choose to live values we esteem highly, choosing love can keep our family unit together....forever.  Love is accepting, listening and seeking to understand those that think differently than we do.

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I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

I keep a couple go-to thoughts in my pockets when the the "stinging darts pierce" my chest.; those darts thrown at us by others, especially annoying when they come from one of our adult children.  Sometimes it is just a sting; sometimes it pierces my heart.  I feel the emotion and then I pull out of my pocket a default thought that brings me back to how I want to feel.  I share 15 of them, but I most often use these three:  Things never stay the same; People that hurt others are hurting; What would love do.  Write your own; find out which of the thoughts I offer resonate for you.  Prepare yourself against those "stinging darts".

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I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

There are three parts to every relationship.
1.  What you think others think about you
2.  What you think about them
3.  What you think about yourself.
Guess where most our time is spent trying to change or figure out?  Part 1.  But we need to be spending our focus on the other two parts.....what you think about them and what you think about yourself.  Those are the parts you have control over.  "What someone else thinks of me is none of my business."  Meaningful relationships with our adult children are based on love; loving that you both have opinions; loving them exactly as they are; loving yourself exactly as you are.

If you enjoyed this podcast and want to start finding out how to work with me, go to the following resources:

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I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

We know seeking after perfection is not good for our mental health.  But we really want that family with those adult kids to be a little more perfect.  That image of what we thought life with adult children would look like is often crushed by their behavior and our perspective of something has gone wrong.  But the messy parts of life are not bad; they are not only just the parts of life that didn't work out but also they are the parts of life that offer us wisdom.....our lesson in life.  Did you know that your parenting has nothing to do with your child's behavior as adults?    There are no negative emotions; we just have emotions.  If we listen to them and validate them, they will serve us.  Example:  When Meg was feeling anger, she figured out that she was really just feeling resentment.  Resentment was trying to tell her to stand up for herself.  She gives so many helpful ways to process these feelings that we feel are harmful to our emotional well-being but how to use them to help us feel self-assured and act like the person who self-validates themselves.

Here is where to find out more about Meg Tilton:
Website:  Megtiltoncoaching.com
IG and FB:   megtiltoncoaching
email:  [email protected]

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I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Nobody ever told us that being a parent to adult children could be challenging.   Nobody ever talked about the responsibilities of this new job and that it was so different than when they were younger.  This episode is all about the six ways we can show up as the best parent we can at this time, and then forever, of their lives; a parent that unconditionally loves and respects their children in all decisions that they make.  Love and respect is all they need now from their parents.

If you are tired of feeling pain in your relationship with your adult child(ren), I can show you how to find peace.  Been there; done that.....Book a consult call with me.  Click HERE.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

When your adult child tells you that he/she wants no contact with you of any kind, it feels like death.  It feels that you have been robbed of one of your most prized possessions.  It is embracing the pain and the understanding of agency that will bring you to acceptance and peace.  It is a process that you can do at your own pace to finally be able to forgive someone that might not deserve to be forgiven.  Tune in to find out how to move forward in this difficult situation. 


I can help you stop feeling pain in your relationship with your adult children

Go to bonnielyman.com to:

*Book a free, 60 minute consult with me

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life