Loving On Purpose

What keeps us from admitting the truth? We say everything is “fine” when it’s not fine. We might be thinking, 'well, others have it worse'. But that’s not your reality right now; things aren't fine. There is such benefit in admitting the truth. It helps bring us to reality of what we can change to make it fine and what we don’t have control over to change. This causes us to more confidently answer the question of “what now” when things are not fine? People respect you more when you speak the truth. Speaking the truth is permissable if we are kind and respectful when we do it. You will respect yourself more also if you are truthful with yourself. We are all wonderful and we are all messy. Being truthful not only helps you know what parts of you you want to improve on but also what parts you don’t want to change.

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I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

We assumed most of our lives when we were feeling offended or angry or some other negative emotion it was the fault of someone or something outside of us.  We didn't have the emotional maturity to understand that we are responsible for how we want to feel.  Another interesting concept we don't explain well is that it's how we feel causes how we behave.  People that are happy usually are kind to others.  People that are hurting often hurt others.  So if our feelings cause us to act like one kind of person, it is only reasonable that we figure out how to feel that feeling that will cause us to show up as the kind of person we want to be. In order to feel a certain way, we need to think thoughts that will cause that feeling.  It's easier to be a victim to our circumstances than to take responsibility for choosing our feelings by managing our thoughts.  Listen to learn the 5 steps to show up as the person you want to be.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Most of us worry about our adult children.  Why?  Does it help solve the problem?  Does it help them make better choices?  Or change their behavior?  The answer will always be no.  The only thing it does is make oneself feel terrible.  Listen to find out why we default so often to worrying and steps we can take to stop worrying.

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I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

When our children become adults we often have many unfilled expectations.  My clients often compound the situation by using the word "should" regarding what they are or are not doing.
The word "should" implies judgement and judgement never feels good in the normal sense that we use the word.  The "should" thought doesn't solve the problem, rather it feeds the story of why things have gone wrong.  I good place to start is catching yourself thinking the word and then changing it to want or would.  "You should call me more often. ...Would you call me more often?....I want them to call me as often as they want to call".  Just try seeing how long you can go without saying or thinking the word 'should"?  Tune in for more insights and examples.

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I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Why do we long for the good old days?  Life was simpler?  We knew what our kids were up to?    What if we had the thought "these are the good old days"?  I had some big disappointments and heartaches with my children when they became adults.  Was it a difficult time?  You bet.  But I am so glad that I was able to have children; I am so glad for the the challenges they brought that allowed me to grow into a person I respect.  These are the good old days.  I can't wait to see how everything turns out; I can't wait to see where I'll grow next; I love watching them figure out their lives.  I love watching them recover from a fail.  I love that I am their mom.  I love choosing to love my kids.  Love always feels best

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

In order to view your life from a more positive perspective, you need to manage your brain.  Learning to mange our brain takes practice.  When we practice something consistently, it becomes routine, or a new habit.  I find to form a new habit I have to be intentional and I have to desire the benefit it will bring me, not someone else.  Bettering ourselves doesn't happen by accident.  One of the benefits of forming a new habit is that it increases our self confidence.  When our self confidence builds, our ability to deal with the challenges of life builds also.  Admiral McRaven at a commence speech at the University of Texas said, "If you can't do the little things right, you will never do the big things right."  In this episode I share with you the steps to form a new habit and also how it can improve your relationship with your adult children. 

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Have you held back from having a difficult conversation with an adult child because you are afraid of the result?  If we are in a space of love and concern for the health of the relationship, it can happen without regret.  It takes some preparation on your part to have such a conversation.  and first of all you need to decided why you are having this conversation and if you really, really like your reason.  Hopefully after listening this episode you be able to have that conversation that you've wanted to have.

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I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Every Thursday I send out, to my Emil subscribers, short gems of insightful perspectives on how to enjoy relationships with adult children.  I also offer tips to help you view your entire life more optimistically.  On this episode I'm sharing some of my subscribers most popular messages.  If you would like to get on my weekly email list, go to www.bonnielyman.com.

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Have you ever wondered when do you hire a coach or when do you hire a therapist?  I think everyone needs a coach to maintain their mental health. What are the differences between the two?  How do I know if I'm a candidate for therapy or for coaching?  If you are not sure, listen to become more informed.  Investing in your mental health is worth the investment.  It transforms your entire life. 

If you enjoyed this podcast and want to start finding out how to work with me, go to the following resources:

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*Receive my free resource,  Three Steps To Being Yourself In Your Relationships With Adult Children.        NEW RESOURCE!

Follow me on IG and FB....@bonnielymancoaching

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Have you ever wondered why you take things so personally in the relationship with your adult children in a way that is unlike any other relationship?  Why are you able to feel compassion and understanding and love with your friends' adult children and you often feel despair and despair and embarrassment with your own children?  In this episode I offer you a way to practice feeling compassion, acceptance, and understanding with your own children that helps life be so much more satisfying.  Thank you ahead of time for listening.

If you enjoyed this podcast and want to start finding out how to work with me, go to the following resources:

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*Receive my free resource,  Three Steps To Being Yourself In Your Relationships With Adult Children.        NEW RESOURCE!

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I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life