Loving On Purpose

Comparing and disparing is viewing your insides as not as valuable or as good as what you view someone else's outsides (Kara Lowenthiel).  When we look at another family with adult children and all seems to be going well and then look at our family and feel that the relationship is broken, it causes us to be unhappy.
Tune in to listen to why we compare ourselves to others; why it is not harmful to our living a satisfying life, and some remedies to avoid comparing yourself to others.
Figuring out how to find the sunshine in the middle of a storm is one of the most valuable things we can learn in this life.  This is one more tool to put in your "figuring life out" toolbox.


I can help you stop feeling pain in your relationship with your adult children

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I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Mother's Day is much too often the worst day of the year for a lot of women.  But if we were to change our perspective on what Mother's Day is all about, it can be a very heartfelt, tender and loving day.  My heart goes out to those women who wanted children and were never able to have any and to those women who have had children who died in their lifetime and to those women and to those women who placed children for adoption.  If you are a mom and making Mother's Day about you, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.  It is not about you.  If you change your perspective and focus on all the great mother figures in your life, you will have a very beautiful day.  Every women born, was born with the traits to be a mother figure, not only to her own children but also to all children and to other women needing help.  Women have a special gene that enables them to naturally uplift others.  Tune in to have a happier Mother's Day than what you might be expecting.

I can help you fix what is not working in your relationship so you can feel love and peace with your adult children and move forward in your life.

Go to bonnielyman.com to:

*Book a free, 60 minute consult with me

*Sign up for my weekly email

*Receive my free resource, on Three Remedies to Connect with Your Adult Children,.

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

It can become so easy to feel some self-pity when we are not having the relationship we would like to have with our adult children.  We justify having these pity parties but they never help us feel better.  They just add "fuel to the fire".  Why?  Because feeling sorry for ourselves keeps us stuck in the cycle of thinking negative thoughts, especially when it comes to our thoughts about our relationship with our adult child.  Tune in to learn how to get out of self-pity. 

I help you stop struggling in your relationship with your adult children.

Go to bonnielyman.com to:

*Book a free, 60 minute consult with me

*Sign up for my weekly email

*Receive my free resource, on Three Remedies to Connect with Your Adult Children,.

You can also follow me on or DM me on Instagram @bonnielymancoaching.

Questions?  Suggestions for podcast topics.  Email me at [email protected] 

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Have you ever done a zig saw puzzle before and you just knew when they cut the puzzle they left a piece out?  Sometimes our problems in life feel the same.  Sometimes we create problems that aren't even problems.  It's so much easier to whine about a problem than to embrace it.  We know they are coming but we still avoid or neglect them.  What if we thought about them as being a part of living a full life?  Did you know our brains love to solve problems so much that it will create a problem if they cannot find one?  It is easier to solve a problem when we choose to be a part of the solution to the problem rather than a part of the problem.



I help you fix your relationship with your adult children so you can feel connected to them.

If you want to know more about me go to bonnielyman.com
Book a free, 60 minute consult with me
Sign up for my weekly email
Receive my free resource, on Three Remedies to Connect with Your Adult Children,.
You can also follow me on or DM me on Instagram @bonnielymancoaching.
Questions?  Suggestions for podcast topics.  Email me at [email protected]

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Who do you want to be?  This podcast will help you become that person.  I will give you step be step instructions on how to become this person.  It's one of the best uses of the Model you will ever use, but we work backwards.
Action:  Kind Person
Feeling:  Compassionate, loving
Thought:  People are doing the best they can at this moment in their life.
You can reprogram your brain to default to this thought every time you are dealing with difficult people.  (well, not every time: we after all human).  I will show you how.  If you are unfamiliar with the Model, listen to Episode 7, the Model Is The Magic Sauce.


I help moms navigate life with their adult children.  If you want to know more about me go to bonnielyman.com . And to sign up for any of the  free resourceslisted below:
Book a free, 60 minute consult with me
Sign up for my weekly email
Receive my free resource, on Three Remedies to Connect with Your Adult Children,.
You can also follow me on or DM me on Instagram @bonnielymancoaching.
Questions?  Suggestions for podcast topics.  Email me at [email protected] 

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

The land of being curious is safe, compassionate, and loving.  We can be judgmental, or loving is best, but to get there we might need sometimes to go through being curious.  Curious about our thoughts and whether they are good thoughts to focus on; curious about why our adult children make some of the choices they make; curious about who you want to be to your adult children and the world when unfulfilled expectations show up; and curious, genuinely curious, lovingly curious, curiosity that causes you to understand and show interest and love to your child when he goes against all of your most important values. 


I help moms navigate life with their adult children.  If you want to know more about me go to bonnielyman.com . And to sign up for any of the  free resourceslisted below:

Book a free, 60 minute consult with me

Sign up for my weekly email

Receive my free resource, on Three Remedies to Connect with Your Adult Children,.

You can also follow me on or DM me on Instagram @bonnielymancoaching.

Questions?  Suggestions for podcast topics.  Email me at [email protected] 

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Instead of hiding and running from adversity, why not welcome it.  Adversity can teach us lessons, strengthen us, and show us how God is the the details of our lives like nothing else can.  We are dependent upon having adversity in our lives to have those amazing moments be so amazing.  It is part of living a well lived life so let us give a big welcome to adversity.  After listening to this episode you may not seek it it but hopefully when it comes, you will not fear it. 

I help moms navigate life with their adult children.  If you want to know more about me go to bonnielyman.com . And to sign up for any of the  free resourceslisted below:

Book a free, 60 minute consult with me

Sign up for my weekly email

Receive my free resource, on Three Remedies to Connect with Your Adult Children,.

You can also follow me on or DM me on Instagram @bonnielymancoaching.

Questions?  Suggestions for podcast topics.  Email me at [email protected] 

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

We are impatient beings, we human beings are.  It is so uncomfortable being uncomfortable.  What if we welcomed the negative emotions that come on a daily basis.  Those negative experiences make the good experiences even better.  It is when we are feeling discomfort that we go to work to solve some of our most important decisions.  It is in the midst of hard things that we grow strong and resilient .  Even learning to manage our thoughts to feel the feelings we want to feel can cause us to feel some negative emotions.  Don't miss out on living a full life by not getting really good at feeling the negative feelings along with the positive ones. 


I help moms navigate life with their adult children.  If you want to know more about me go to bonnielyman.com . And to sign up for any of the  free resourceslisted below:

Book a free, 60 minute consult with me

Sign up for my weekly email

Receive my free resource, on Three Remedies to Connect with Your Adult Children,.

You can also follow me on or DM me on Instagram @bonnielymancoaching.

Questions?  Suggestions for podcast topics.  Email me at [email protected] 

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

It upsets our lives when our children stray from what we tried so diligently and purposely to teach them.  We grieve over our heartbrokenness ..... which is a very healthy and repairing thing to do.  But then what?  Sometimes we get so stuck in our despair and disappointment that it has a major impact on our lives.  We want to accept what they have done and move on with our lives but we don't know how to.  If we can view what's going on in our children's lives from a different perspective, we can begin to grow away from judgment, inching our way to acceptance and then love.  Part of Heavenly Father's plan was that we would all make mistakes; some of life's lessons are best learned from mistakes.  We are either judging each other or loving each other.....judgement never feels good; love always feels best.  Tune in to learn how to get out of despair and into acceptance, peace, and love.

I help moms navigate life with their adult children.  If you want to know more about me go to bonnielyman.com . And to sign up for any of the  free resources listed below:

Book a free, 60 minute consult with me

Sign up for my weekly email

Receive my free resource, on Three Remedies to Connect with Your Adult Children,.

You can also follow me on or DM me on Instagram @bonnielymancoaching.

Questions?  Suggestions for podcast topics.  Email me at [email protected] 

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life

Our brains do not like change.  So it hangs on tight to thoughts that often times don't serve us. They hang onto thoughts that want us to keep believing that when our adult children make choices contrary to our values, they are making the wrong choice.  But maybe exercising their agency the very way they choose to, offers them opportunities to figure out who they want to be in this life.  Our job is not to judge them because judgement only brings pain to us.....Our job is to figure out who we want to be.  Do we want to be the parent that unconditionally loves despite our children's behavior;  like the Savior loves us despite our behavior?  Tune in to learn why "it's all good"

I help moms navigate life with their adult children.  If you want to know more about me go to bonnielyman.com to book a consult with me, sign up for my weekly email, and/or receive my free resource on three ways to connect with your adult children,.

You can also follow me on or DM me on Instagram @bonnielymancoaching.

Questions?  Suggestions for podcast topics.  Email me at [email protected] 

I am no longer offering my 8-week coaching program, but I remain fully committed to supporting parents of adult children. If you have questions or need guidance, you’re welcome to reach out to me directly at [email protected].

I would be honored to help you find greater confidence and happiness in your life