With You in the Weeds

Loving the Kid You Have, Not the Kid You Want


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Welcome back to our Parenting in the Weeds series! In this episode, we dive into a common parenting trap - the temptation to control your child rather than love them for who they are. While this desire often comes from a good place, such as wanting them to be successful or safe, it can lead to unintended harm. 


Listen in as John, Lynn and Shay explore the ways parents try to mold their kids in their own image instead of fostering their unique God-given design.


You will learn about three common parenting traps - the Perfection Trap, the Mini-Me Trap, and the Take Care of Me Trap - as well as how to break free from them by focusing on the true goal of parenting.


Key Takeaways:


  1. The Goal of Parenting:
  2. Helping children develop character qualities and the skills necessary to meet the demands of life.
  3. Supporting their unique design and pointing them toward Jesus.
  4. Modeling love and guidance without trying to control their every outcome.
  5. Three Parenting Traps:
  6. The Perfection Trap: Expecting children to meet impossible standards can lead to anxiety, fear, and struggles with self-worth.
  7. The Mini-Me Trap: Trying to live out unfulfilled dreams through your child instead of embracing their individuality can lead to rebellion.
  8. The Take Care of Me Trap: Relying on children for emotional support rather than allowing them to develop independence can hinder your child’s emotional maturity.
  9. How You Can Break Free of These Traps:
  10. Acknowledge that your child is not yours to control - they belong to God.
  11. Recognize when fear, ego, or personal baggage drives parenting decisions.
  12. Give children space to grow, make mistakes, and develop their own faith and identity.
  13. Trust that God is working in your child's life, even when they take unexpected paths.

  14. Be encouraged that even if you recognize yourself in any of these traps, you're not alone! Parenting is a journey of learning, adjusting, and leaning into God’s grace.

    Book recommendation: Men of Courage by Larry Crabb

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