Magefølelsen aka The Gut Feeling

"What makes us actually thrive at our jobs?"

"Can we create a safe place for the youth and the elderly?"

"We are creating polarization."

Therese Fallentin and Ohad Pele explore the dynamics of the drama triangle and the empowerment dynamics, discussing how these concepts can be applied to personal growth and societal transformation. They emphasize the importance of shifting from victimhood to empowerment, the need for mutual accountability, and the role of education in fostering a new narrative for future generations. The discussion highlights the interconnectedness of humanity and the necessity of compassion in addressing conflicts and challenges.  

Discover practical insights and real-world applications that challenge the status quo and inspire a new way of engaging with the world. Tune in to learn how embracing these dynamics can lead to a more connected and empowered humanity.

The conversation emphasizes the shift from victim consciousness to empowerment, advocating for a systemic approach to societal issues and the creation of new narratives that foster healing and connection.

"The universe is a friendly place."

"We need to heal, not eliminate."

"Compassion is key to evolution."

Takeaways

- The drama triangle is a pervasive dynamic in society.

- Humanity is facing a crisis of consciousness.

- Shifting from victim to creator is essential for personal growth.

- Understanding the roles in the drama triangle can lead to empowerment.

- Disempowerment is a heartbreaking reality for many.

- Mutual accountability is crucial for resolving conflicts.

- Education needs to shift towards empowering narratives.

- Compassion is key in addressing human dynamics.

- The sacred spark in victimhood is the ability to surrender.

- Power should be used to empower others, not to dominate. 

Timestamps:

[00:00] Introduction to the Drama Triangle 

[05:30] The Role of Empowerment Dynamics 

[12:45] Personal Reflections and Inner Work 

[20:10] Real-World Applications and Challenges 

[30:00] Moving from Victimhood to Co-Creation 

[40:15] Closing Thoughts and Future Directions

Keywords

Drama Triangle, Empowerment Dynamics, Consciousness, Victimhood, Accountability, Education, Compassion, Human Dynamics, Transformation, New Narratives

Music by:  Lennart Hansen

https://open.spotify.com/artist/5gHzTp8pUzQH8ASPrlFzJv?si=i4QEjUcPQH-wJ4g9jKdVvQ

You can read more about me and my work here:

Therese Fallentin; coach, facilitator and business hippie. 

https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/ 

https://magefolelsen.com/hjem

https://youtu.be/3y9TcPOLP8Q 

https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ 

About Ohad Pele:

https://www.kabalove.org/about 

Rick Smith is an internationally recognized educator, facilitator, and author specializing in Authentic Relating and Awakened Leadership. With over two decades of experience, he has engaged more than 100,000 individuals across fifteen countries, focusing on cultivating presence, vulnerability, and inner authority in leadership contexts. 

Rick's journey began in education, where he authored the best-selling book Conscious Classroom Management, which has sold over 250,000 copies worldwide. Transitioning from classroom teaching to personal development, he now facilitates workshops and retreats that blend practical tools with deep presence, guiding participants toward unconditional self-love and integration. 

Awakened Leadership & Authentic Relating Retreats: 

https://www.thetenderedge.com/?utm_source=chatgpt.com 

This episode: 

In this conversation, Therese and Rick explore the themes of personal growth, vulnerability, and the journey of awakening. They discuss the importance of compassion, both towards oneself and others, and how embracing our inner voices can lead to deeper self-acceptance. The dialogue touches on the challenges of navigating nervousness and self-judgment, the power of vulnerability, and the significance of assuming the best in ourselves and others. They also delve into the complexities of trauma, relationships, and the beauty of authentic conversations, ultimately highlighting the transformative power of presence and connection.

"Love is unconditional."

"Vulnerability is power."

"Assume the best in people."

Youtube format: https://youtu.be/3y9TcPOLP8Q

Takeaways

- The awakening process is often painful and challenging.

- Nervousness is a common human experience that can be embraced.

- Vulnerability is a source of strength and connection.

- Compassion towards ourselves and others is essential for healing.

- Inner authority allows us to stand up for ourselves without apology.

- Assuming the best in others can foster understanding and compassion.

- Trauma can be a pathway to personal growth and empowerment.

- Authentic conversations can deepen relationships and understanding.

- Letting go of control can lead to greater presence and peace.

- Embracing uncertainty is a part of the human experience.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Journey

02:56 From Teaching to Awakening

05:54 Befriending Our Inner Voices

08:49 Navigating Nervousness and Duality

11:44 Compassion in a Polarized World

15:02 Inner Authority vs. Inner Apology

17:52 Embracing Vulnerability and Self-Validation

20:40 The Power of Presence in Challenging Times

23:53 Scarcity Mindset and Comparison

32:14 Embracing Vulnerability and Family Dynamics

34:57 The Bamboo Analogy: Growth and Patience

38:47 The Power of Vulnerability

43:03 Healing Through Trauma and Connection

47:45 Compassionate Encounters with Men

51:50 Navigating Vulnerability in Business

55:44 Letting Go of Control and Trusting the Process

Host

Therese Fallentin; coach, facilitator and business hippie. 

https://youtu.be/3y9TcPOLP8Q 

https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ 

https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/ 

https://magefolelsen.com/hjem 

Music

by my roommate, Hansine Killingmoe Såstad

Keywords

personal growth, awakening, compassion, vulnerability, self-acceptance, inner authority, trauma, relationships, healing, mindfulness

In this episode, I delve into the profound concept of presence and its role in uncovering life's true meaning. Join me as I explore how embracing the present moment enhances our experiences of being, doing, creating, feeling, and sensing. 

I discuss practical approaches to mindfulness, share insights from thought leaders, and offer guidance on integrating presence into daily life. Whether you're seeking deeper connections, heightened creativity, or a more fulfilling existence, this episode will inspire you to live fully in the here and now. 

I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. 

You can read about me and my services at https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/ 

and about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem 

Magefølelsen aka The Gut Feeling is also in video format at YouTube at  @TheGutFeeling_Therese 

https://youtu.be/ZVQmHSvX394?si=azV-UKxdvBsvRZxC 

and on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ 

Make yourself a glorious day ya all.

I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. 

You can read about me and my services at https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/ 

and about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem 

Magefølelsen aka The Gut Feeling is also in video format at YouTube at  @TheGutFeeling_Therese 

https://youtu.be/ZVQmHSvX394?si=azV-UKxdvBsvRZxC 

and on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ 

Make yourself a glorious day ya all.

Me and Miwa Line Løtveit digs into the levels of self expression and there, straight on, we fuck up our audio and I am sent into a trigger of fear of failure. 

So, on live podcast, we dive into the rhelm of the triggered landscape. 

How is that, how to meet ourselves and the world in that situation and how to move past what is keeping us from doing what we want and showing up as we truly are. 

Miwa has herself gone deep into the world of self expression and facilitate dance, breathwork, drawing, tantric and similar kinds of workshops. 

She, as me, comes from a totally normal job, education and life. Which she figured made her unhappy and unfulfilled. 

Check out some of her work;

https://www.authentic-expression.com/ 

Regular Morning Beats in Oslo:

https://www.morningbeat.no/ 

www.youtube.com/@miwa.intuitive.living

Music:

The beautiful song "Holy Hubris" by my talented friend Lennart Hansen:

https://open.spotify.com/artist/5gHzTp8pUzQH8ASPrlFzJv?si=9TJZ_-miTa61jwplSCKKeQ 

I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. 

You can read about me and my services at https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/ 

and about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem 

Magefølelsen aka The Gut Feeling is also in video format at YouTube at  @TheGutFeeling_Therese 

https://youtu.be/ZVQmHSvX394?si=azV-UKxdvBsvRZxC 

and on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ 

Make yourself a glorious day ya all.

In part one of our conversation me and Miwa Line Løtveit digs into the levels of self expression. 

Aliveness. 

Being true to yourself. 

Being aligned in truth. 

How to engage with people we are attracted to. 

Grounded in our truth. 

Magnetize the people who are attracted by us. 

Ressonating energy. 

Our intuition knows. 

Not performing and pretending to be something we are not.

What is really honest. 

What is going on on the inside.

The feeling of losing control. 

Getting paralyzed by failure. 

Feeling blank in situations where we really want to perform. 

Taking up space. 

Going after what we want. 

Feeling into the triggers and fears and cutting the bullshit, doing even when it¨s scary. 

Standing in our power when we put someone on a pedestal. 

Talking to and relaxing around people we are intimidated by. 

RBDSM-AT talks. Cutting the mystery. Taking away the drama and fun. 

Changing how we look at sexuality. 

How is that, how to meet ourselves and the world in that situation and how to move past what is keeping us from doing what we want and showing up as we truly are. 

Miwa has herself gone deep into the world of self expression and facilitate dance, breathwork, drawing, tantric and similar kinds of workshops. 

She, as me, comes from a totally normal job, education and life. Which she figured made her unhappy and unfulfilled. 

Check out some of her work;

https://www.authentic-expression.com/ 

Regular Morning Beats in Oslo:

https://www.morningbeat.no/ 

www.youtube.com/@miwa.intuitive.living

Music:

The beautiful song "Holy Hubris" by my talented friend Lennart Hansen:

https://open.spotify.com/artist/5gHzTp8pUzQH8ASPrlFzJv?si=9TJZ_-miTa61jwplSCKKeQ 

I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. 

You can read about me and my services at https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/ 

and about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem 

Magefølelsen aka The Gut Feeling is also in video format at YouTube at  @TheGutFeeling_Therese 

https://youtu.be/ZVQmHSvX394?si=azV-UKxdvBsvRZxC 

and on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ 

Make yourself a glorious day ya all.

Lytt inn til to episoder stappfulle av tull og tøys rundt menn, kvinner, relasjoner, følelser, sex, dynamikker, mannsarbeid, sårbarhet og andre overfladiske, lette tema. 

Mammarollen, papparollen, lille gutten og jenta i relasjoner. 

Anders Wilmann driver mannfolk.org og er engasjert i hvordan menn kan bli mer menneskelige. 

Musikk av Lennart Hansen; Holy Hubris 

https://open.spotify.com/artist/5gHzTp8pUzQH8ASPrlFzJv?si=9TJZ_-miTa61jwplSCKKeQ  

Om Meg: 

Jeg er Therese Fallentin, du kan lese mer om meg og tjenestene mine her;   https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/  

og om podcasten her https://magefolelsen.com/hjem  

Magefølelsen aka The Gut Feeling er også på Youtube @TheGutFeeling_Therese  

https://youtu.be/ZVQmHSvX394?si=azV-UKxdvBsvRZxC  

og på Instagram 

https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/  

Lag deg selv en god dag. 

Om Anders 

Da jeg ble plassert i en workshop med menn på en Tantra festival for godt over en håndfull år siden, innså jeg at mine mellommenneskelige ferdigheter, spesielt med menn, ikke var så gode som jeg hadde trodd. Blant de andre deltakerne så jeg ikke brødre, men heller konkurrenter.

På grunn av min avvisning av mine egne skyggesider, bar jeg mange dommer mot menn og generell maskulinitet, og brukte stigmatiserende merkelapper som «offermentalitet,» «kvinnebedårer,» «player,» «egoistisk nihilist,» «usikker mobber,» osv mot alle menn rundt meg. Og alt dette levde jo egentlig i meg selv og mitt syn på mine medbrødre ble selvfølgelig preget av disse fordømmende etikettene. Jeg selv, selvfølgelig, betraktet meg som «helgenen.» Denne erkjennelsen markerte begynnelsen på min reise inn i arbeidet med menn. Målet var å lege forholdet mitt til menn, maskulinitet, og ikke minst, til meg selv.

Dette var veien mot mannsarbeidet.

Selv om reisen ikke er fullført, har jeg kommet langt. Det er likevel dager hvor jeg føler meg som et spedbarn, dager hvor jeg knapt kan «gå» i det hele tatt. Likevel har jeg nådd et punkt hvor jeg tydelig ser at jeg har utviklet meg på mange områder.

Les mer om Anders på hjemmesiden hans:  

https://www.mannfolk.org/anders-wilmann 

Lytt inn til to episoder stappfulle av tull og tøys rundt menn, kvinner, relasjoner, følelser, sex, dynamikker, mannsarbeid, sårbarhet og andre overfladiske, lette tema. 

Mammarollen, papparollen, lille gutten og jenta i relasjoner. 

Anders Wilmann driver mannfolk.org og er engasjert i hvordan menn kan bli mer menneskelige. 

Musikk av Lennart Hansen; Holy Hubris 

https://open.spotify.com/artist/5gHzTp8pUzQH8ASPrlFzJv?si=9TJZ_-miTa61jwplSCKKeQ  

Om Meg: 

Jeg er Therese Fallentin, du kan lese mer om meg og tjenestene mine her;   https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/  

og om podcasten her https://magefolelsen.com/hjem  

Magefølelsen aka The Gut Feeling er også på Youtube @TheGutFeeling_Therese  

https://youtu.be/ZVQmHSvX394?si=azV-UKxdvBsvRZxC  

og på Instagram 

https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/  

Lag deg selv en god dag. 

Om Anders 

Da jeg ble plassert i en workshop med menn på en Tantra festival for godt over en håndfull år siden, innså jeg at mine mellommenneskelige ferdigheter, spesielt med menn, ikke var så gode som jeg hadde trodd. Blant de andre deltakerne så jeg ikke brødre, men heller konkurrenter.

På grunn av min avvisning av mine egne skyggesider, bar jeg mange dommer mot menn og generell maskulinitet, og brukte stigmatiserende merkelapper som «offermentalitet,» «kvinnebedårer,» «player,» «egoistisk nihilist,» «usikker mobber,» osv mot alle menn rundt meg. Og alt dette levde jo egentlig i meg selv og mitt syn på mine medbrødre ble selvfølgelig preget av disse fordømmende etikettene. Jeg selv, selvfølgelig, betraktet meg som «helgenen.» Denne erkjennelsen markerte begynnelsen på min reise inn i arbeidet med menn. Målet var å lege forholdet mitt til menn, maskulinitet, og ikke minst, til meg selv.

Dette var veien mot mannsarbeidet.

Selv om reisen ikke er fullført, har jeg kommet langt. Det er likevel dager hvor jeg føler meg som et spedbarn, dager hvor jeg knapt kan «gå» i det hele tatt. Likevel har jeg nådd et punkt hvor jeg tydelig ser at jeg har utviklet meg på mange områder.

Les mer om Anders på hjemmesiden hans:  

https://www.mannfolk.org/anders-wilmann 

Part two of the conversation with Levi is about asking for what we want and giving what we want, without pushing others into something they do not want to be part of. 

Have you ever said “yes” when you really meant “no”? Or felt unclear about what you actually wanted? In this episode, we dive into Betty Martin's "The Wheel of Consent", a powerful framework that transforms how we navigate touch, relationships, and power dynamics. Whether in business, love, or everyday interactions, understanding the difference between giving, receiving, taking, and allowing can be life-changing. Join us as we explore how to reclaim agency, communicate desires with clarity, and step into true consent—without guilt, pressure, or confusion. 🚀💡

Tune in and start making clearer, more empowered choices today! 🎧✨

Workshop details further below.

These are the quadrants:

You are doing:

1) Serve: you are doing. Action to benefit others. You give a gift, it's for them. "Yes, I will"

2) Take: you are doing. Action to benefit yourself. You receive/ ask for a gift, it's for you. "May I?" 

They are doing:

3) Allow: opposite of the taker. They are doing. Allow others to act as they want. You are giving a gift, it's for them. "Yes, you may"

4) Accept: opposite of the server. They are doing. Benefit from the action of others. You are receiving a gift, it's for you! "Will you?"

Shadow sides of the wheel of consent. This is when there is no consent anymore:

1) Serve: "do gooder", rescuer, martyr, slavery, push onto others what they don't want, sacrifice themselves

2) Take: Perpetrator, stealing, groping, assaulting, rape, war

3) Allow: endure, tolerate, doormat, pushover, victim, passive

4) Accept: Freeloader, assumption of privilege, slavery, entitled

Check out this link for a picture of the wheel of consent: 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-wisdom-of-anger/202408/boundaries-and-the-wheel-of-consent 

Check out our workshop on March 30th 2025

https://fb.me/e/4AQoBGGSl 

Through guided exercises, discussion, and interactive experiences, you will:
 Identify the roles you unconsciously take on in conflict and decision-making.
 Learn how to shift from reaction to response, breaking the cycle of drama.
 Develop tools to foster clarity, confidence, and constructive communication.
 Explore how to step into conscious leadership, whether in your personal life or business.

I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. 

You can read about me and my services at https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/ 

and about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem 

Magefølelsen aka The Gut Feeling is also in video format at YouTube at  @TheGutFeeling_Therese 

https://youtu.be/ZVQmHSvX394?si=azV-UKxdvBsvRZxC 

and on Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/ 

Make yourself a glorious day ya all.