Make a Life (Life in the New Normal)

Studies have shown that the experiences we have as a child create a big impact on us during adulthood. Good and positive experiences developed trust, greater level of happiness and self esteem. On the other hand childhood trauma also has an impact on us during adulthood. It can impact future relationships and lead to other issues like depression and low self esteem. Experiencing trauma in childhood can impact the way that we form attachments in romantic relationships. A survey suggest that the students who experienced physical, emotional, or sexual abuse were more likely to exhibit attachment styles that were fearful, preoccupied, and dismissive. It also found that students that did not experience childhood trauma were much more likely to have secure attachment styles into adulthood. Exposure to traumatic events can also cause self-destructive behavior, and even difficulty trusting others. 

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Are you the type of person who believes that people are motivated purely by self-interest? Do you have the attitude to distrust others’ motives? Then, you must be cynical; you have a general lack of faith or hope in people motivated by ambition, desire, greed, gratification, materialism and goals. For this week’s episode we will talk about cynicism, why is it bad for us and what can we do to stop being cynical. 

Cynics certainly work hard to avoid harm. But unfortunately, they can end up harming themselves. In their effort to avoid getting burned they mistrust even those who want to be friendly and supportive toward them, they exhaust themselves by constantly trying to stay on guard. They pass on valuable opportunities for cooperation because they seem too risky. At the same time, they can spend too much time and money trying to protect themselves by monitoring and controlling other people.

A cynical attitude hurts you in ways you’d probably never expect. On the whole, it affects your health, career, earnings, and relationships. Here are some of the ways that being cynical can be detrimental to your well-being.

Sources:

https://www.scotsman.com/news/people/cynicism-can-cause-bad-health-and-vice-versa-67718

 https://ethicalleadership.nd.edu/news/dont-let-cynicism-ruin-your-career/

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To err is human, to forgive divine by Alexander Pope. This is one of the most common quote that we hear about forgiveness. And today we will talk about forgiveness, the reasons, the benefits, and how can we become a more forgiving person?

Forgiveness is a choice one makes over and over again. It can be a fresh perspective or a healthy distance; like a quiet room with a view onto the world of complexity and conflict.

Forgiveness can be a gift to yourself or to others, it may be something you receive, but it can also be a quality that describes a relationship where one must be capable of self-forgiveness in order to forgive others.

• 01:09 - What is forgiveness?
• 03:23 - The reasons why we should forgive?
• 13:13 - Steps on how to develop a more forgiving attitude

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https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/forgiveness/art-20047692

 Let it Go: Forgive so you can be Forgiven by T.D. Jakes. Copyright © 2012 by T.D. Jakes.

https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-forgive#when-to-start

https://globalforgivenessinitiative.com

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/forgiveness-your-health-depends-on-it

New year means new you. Every new year we always make plans to become the better version of ourselves. In fact, some still have a new year’s resolution, but after a month or two they will completely lost it. But what does it mean to be better? Does it mean more money or higher income? Does it mean to acquire more knowledge and skills, or more friends? Well, whatever your better version of yourself is, it’s completely up to you. As 2022 begins, let’s talk about how we can become a better version of ourselves, because as Lucy Hale once said life is about becoming a better version of yourself. 

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Hello guys, happy new year! 2021 is not a very good year for us but it’s better than 2020 right. As we move forward in 2022 there are things that we should let go off like a toxic relationship. As you’ve noticed, our previous episodes are about toxicity and there was a time that we mentioned gaslighting. Well, today’s episode will tackle on this topic. So, come on! Let’s get this started! I'm so sorry for my husky voice during the recording of this episode, it's because I'm kinda sick but no need to worry, I will be well.

• 01:46- The origin of the word "Gaslighting"
• 02:41- What is gaslighting?
• 04:00- Manipulation tactics that a gaslighter might use
• 08:39- Signs that you must look for within yourself when you are experiencing gaslighting
• 12:02- Steps you can do to protect yourself from gaslighters

Source:

https://www.verywellmind.com/is-someone-gaslighting-you-4147470

Last week’s episode talked about the signs to look out for and how to deal with toxic people in every area of our lives. Today we will try to look on ourselves, are we becoming toxic? This episode is very confronting because we will talk about toxicity within ourselves.

Of course, there's a difference between being toxic and acting toxic. The first is when it's ingrained in our personality, and we actively enjoy hurting others; the second corresponds to aspects of our behaviors. Sometimes without knowing it, these toxic behaviors can take us over. Think about it as a muscle into which you're unknowingly pumping metaphorical steroids, and soon it looks like The Hulk.

The good news is, with a little self-reflection and asking for feedback from others, we can become aware of these habits and eradicate them so we can become better people. Here are a few of the most common behaviors that even good people can develop that might actually be hurting those around them—as well as how to change course for the better.

Sources:

https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/toxic-relationships-are-you-toxic-person-in-your-life

All of us had our own experiences with a toxic people. Weather that’s a friend who’s full of drama, a relative making negative comments on anything and everyone, a neighbor who just keeps spreading rumors about other people, they can be everywhere. Toxicity can surround us and what we need to do is learn the signs to be aware of it. Toxic is a term describing chemicals that might kill you but also applies to very harmful or unpleasant people who work in a pervasive or insidious ways. Toxic people seem to enjoy making you feel bad, they can make you feel bad about yourself or your achievements, they can drain your energy, poison your positive outlook in life or even make you question your reality or memory.

This week’s episode talks about the signs to look out for, and how to deal with toxic people.

Sources:

https://www.developgoodhabits.com/toxic-people/