Make Him Wonder

47-yr-old Julia was determined to “get it right” the second time around. When she discovered The Rules, Julia knew she had found something powerful to help her attain complete commitment. Julia met 53-yr-old David, online, and the two had a Rules romance that culminated in marriage a year later. But less than 8 months after walking down the aisle, David suddenly seems to wake up to the reality of marriage and abruptly leaves with nothing but an unemotional email that he made a mistake. In this episode, Julia talks to Paula in hopes of discovering what went wrong, and to find out if there is any hope in keeping a marriage together once a man has decided he wants out.

If you’ve been wondering about what Paula means by her phrase, Make Him Wonder, you can wonder no more. In this Episode, Paula unwraps what it means to use your Wonder Woman power in a way that allows you to take romantic flight. She makes the clear distinction about how to make a man wonder in a way that leads you to success, or in a way that will leave a man confused, cautious, and even too concerned to make you his “one.”

If you’ve ever dreamed of marrying in a romantic or exotic location, you want to set your GPS (Groom Positioning System) from the very first time a man lays his eyes on you. Whether or not he is “the one” for you, you’ll be in the driver’s seat of your romantic destiny and setting yourself up for success! In this Episode, Paula speaks to Destination Wedding Planner, Cookie Randall, who explains the ins and outs of going out the country for a dream location wedding. Paula explains the importance of setting yourself on the path to marriage as a possibility with each and every man you meet when single, for the best chance of making your dream, your reality.

Recently divorced, 41-yr-old single-mom, Jen, is in love again, and so is her lover, 37-yr-old, Matt. But Matt, being newly divorced himself after 15 years of marriage, wants to be free, despite loving Jen. Jen wants to know if she should wait it out and be patient while Matt plays the field, or if she should finalize things now and break both her own heart, and Matt’s. Paula coaches Jen on what is best to do and say for Jen to have the greatest possibility of having what she desires and deserves.

If you’ve never been married, or are currently divorced, you may never want to marry, or remarry. The latest research shows that men are happiest and healthiest in marriage, but that women do not sustain the same benefits until later in life. In this episode, Paula discusses why it is that while most all women do not need to be married to be completely committed, men do. Hear why anything less than a formalized commitment from a man doesn’t help you or him to have the happiest and healthiest romantic life now, or in the future.

Anna, a 42-yr-old divorced mother, has been dating 47-yr-old, Dan, for nearly 2 years. After agreeing to attend a special evening with her daughter and parents, Dan never showed. Anna returns to update us from Episode 14 and discuss the disappointment of Dan ghosting her. After giving him the benefit-of-doubt, and attempting to uncover the reason for his actions, Anna broke off the relationship. Now struggling with the way things ended, Anna feels she might have reacted too quickly, and too emotionally. In this Episode, Paula helps Anna decode and debrief. Paula explains next steps for Anna to move through her heartbreak, potentially heal this relationship, and to have the best chance for a respectful and responsive man. Will it be Dan?

Divorced twice from men who haven’t been her White Knights, 48-yr-old Kate wants to ensure that she’s not going to miss any red flags with a potential Mr. Right. In this episode, Paula discusses how to keep the ghosts of men past from preventing a possibly great guy from wanting to ghost you.

Co Host of her own podcast with Amy Nichols, Lacey Gee joins Paula to talk about what has worked for her in her marriage. Being a great interviewer, Lacey asks Paula about her coaching and her relationships – past and present. The two share what they have most in common when it comes to men, and how each defines and designs a marriage that makes them most fulfilled.

Elle’s history of dating younger men and marrying one has left her feeling that her professional and financial success is a romantic liability. Additionally, Elle’s current environment is one that leaves her feeling especially vulnerable to exploitation. In this Episode, Paula helps Elle explore how her examination of past experiences is likely eliciting a pre-judgement of men by their age and career success, thus thwarting her ability to see individual merit in any man. Because Elle does not wish to move, she is faced with either changing her perceptions or continuing to see only problems with dating men in her area. By pointing out the fact that Elle has been hurt by both successful and unsuccessful men, and that both types of men can either be moral and supportive, or not, Paula attempts to coach Elle to see the possibility of romantic success via tweaks in her approach, activities, attitude, and acceptance, rather than focus on what has been less than optimal in her past.

Coach Paula discusses the recent Time Magazine article, Once a Cheat, Always a Cheat?, that outlines the 6 myths related to infidelity. New research is debunking what we tend to hold true in our society about people being serial cheaters or completely loyal. Paula expounds on what she believes to be the biggest take-away for women to help keep their marriages (and their men) intact, with liberty and integrity for all!