Make Him Wonder

At just 25 years old, Lauren understands a foundational principle underlying romantic/sexual, male-female relationships. Having met 30-yr-old Blake at a time when she was going to be moving to a distant city, Lauren presented herself as being completely okay with a casual, for-the-moment, non-relationship. Fast-forward a few months and now, no longer moving (and having real feelings for Blake), Lauren wants to know how she can help Blake to see her as a woman to marry, and not one that is just-for-fun.

Back from Episodes 16 and 45, Susan joins Paula to talk about her latest forays in online dating. Recounting “dates” where she joins a man while he does his grocery shopping, and helps wash his car, Susan delights and yet dismays us with painful-to-hear details. Not understanding why her attempts at pleasing men don’t work, Susan talks about wanting to move herself up the scale towards dating differently, so she can achieve her desired results. But is she really ready to make the changes needed for romantic success with a man, or will she continue doing the same thing and expecting different results?

Divorced from her first husband only to be shockingly widowed from her 2nd, 43-yr-old Criss meets just divorced 48-yr-old John. Criss and John were each other’s first forays into online dating and immediately connected over their mutual recent losses. A year and a half later, Criss finds herself in love and wanting more, but verbally agreeing to “just dating” and “having fun.” On Ep. #55, Paula explains how Criss needs to align her words with her actions, in order to have the real relationship she desires and deserves.

Eliza Doolittle of the famous musical My Fair Lady was just 19-yrs-old when she started to learn the facts of life as they relate to the differences of men and women. The fictional Eliza fights against the fact that no matter the age, class, or educational differences, a man can become completely mesmerized, and committed to a woman who shows herself to be a candidate for marriage. On Episode #54, 22-yr-old, Eliza shows she is far beyond being a naive “flower girl,” and is well on her way to getting her professorship in how men respond to the image of women in life, and how social media must be used to set the stage for a fair-shot at being treated as an exceptional, award-winning woman she is in reality.

After moving from her native Canada across the world to the middle east, 27-yr-old Isabella meets 27-yr-old Mark, on Tinder. Three years later, Isabella finds herself having her most respectful and truly loving relationship ever, but feeling underwhelmed and undecided about Mark being “the one.” Now, at 30-years-old, Isabella turns to Paula to provide some clarity on her mixed emotions. Can a mind-over-matter declaration make a difference in Isabella’s matter of heart?

34-yr-old divorced mother of two, Rachelle, meets 28-yr-old Brad shortly after a devastating breakup. Despite Brad showing that he is totally trustworthy, committed, and desirous of marriage, Rachelle reports continually “self-sabotaging a great relationship.” Paula helps Rachelle decode her desires: Does Rachelle want to be free of commitment and marriage due to her past heartbreaks and break-ups, or does the truth that might set her free lie somewhere in the distant past?

After seeing each other for 10 months, 36-yr-old Jaime began growing tired of 37-yr-old Derek’s mixed messages.  In discussions of their relationship, Derek would tell Jaime that he “sees it all” with her, only moments later stating that he also needs his space.  Fed up and frustrated with Derek’s lack of effort and last-minute texts to hang-out, Jaime stopped texting first and otherwise reaching out. But Derek’s twice a month attempts to hook-up didn’t change. At her wit’s end with this man that she loves, Jaime read Paula’s book wanting to find out what she can do to move things forward with Derek. On this episode, Paula explains what has to happen next for Jaime's best shot at success.

There is nothing quite as enticing to a very young man as an older woman – especially an older woman who initially rejects him, only to come back for a night of mind-blowing sex when the two next met for a drink. After starting-up with a 19-yr-old guy believing that nothing can materialize due to their age difference, 34-yr-old Melanie experiences the disappointment that comes with bonding to a male through time and sex, only to discover that he takes things at face value. On this Episode, Paula talks to Melanie about her chances for a real relationship, while paying deference to Melanie’s desire to see if she can move a wonderful teenager’s dalliance into developing readiness, willingness, and ability to commit.

Social Isolation caused by Covid-19 is causing a great many exes to come out of the woodwork. They text, chat, snap, and do everything they can to connect, but to what end? Do most exes want you back for a bono fide relationship, or just a booty-call? In Episode #49 of Make Him Wonder, Ivy, who is in her very early 20s, shares her experience with 3 exes from as long ago as 3 years, to as recently as 3 months ago. Paula and Ivy discuss the good, the bad, and the ugly of what can happen at this time of both men and women feeling alone, lonely, and longing for the “good old days” of the not too distant past.

Social Distancing during Covid-19 is especially difficult for singles. As the current corona-virus creates feelings of emotional, as well as physical isolation, those who aren’t coupled turn to the internet for connection. But, is this a good time for women to go online to look for love? In Episode #48 of Make Him Wonder, Coach Paula discusses what she sees as the only 2 choices women have at this trying time, when trying to make the most from their online interactions.