Make Him Wonder

According to recent statistics 40 Million American’s use online dating and 52.4 % of them are men. So why is it so frustrating and feel like such a time-waster? On this episode, you get an audio glimpse into Paula’s discussion with Becka Hays and Matt Johnson of The Becka Hays Show about everything related to online dating. Paula also outlines ways to connect to her for a new, affordable, self-help course that also provides a coaching call to get your personal online-dating questions answered!

35-yr-old divorced mom of two, Sanaa, struggles with understanding her 41-yr-old boyfriend, Malcolm. After 3 months together, Sanaa reports that she and Malcolm would spend hours on the phone, and that Malcolm has spent a lot of time with her kids. Sanaa understands Malcolm’s difficulties at work, and the fact that he is a devoted caregiver to a family member, however she states that calls or texts are a minimum “standard” to which Malcolm needs to adhere. Regardless of telling Malcolm that she needs consistent, daily communication, Malcolm will now go AWOL for days, and complain to Sanaa when she brings up the issue. In Ep. 66, Sanaa wants to know if she should continue to talk to Malcolm about her needs in this area, if she is just nagging, or if she needs to simply walk away.

49-yr-old Nicole met 44-yr-old Spencer online. After just a few weeks of dating, Spencer showed a lot of interest, only to abruptly pull-back in a short time. In this episode, Nicole tells Paula she didn’t see any “red flags,” but Paula finds that they were waving at Nicole from the beginning. During this in-depth discussion of how men self-soothe and amuse themselves with women, listen for the “red flags,” and hear what Paula suggests for Nicole to move forward with Spencer.

Never having been shown any love or affection from her mother, 35-yr-old Emma broke-up with her loving and supportive 35-yr-old boyfriend, Max. Upon making the connection to her childhood experiences, Emma began questioning her motives around the breakup. Can Emma face her fear, trust her experiences, and feel that she is lovable? And if so, will Max be open to allowing Emma back? In Ep. 64, listen for Emma’s strength and resilience, and if you trust in the approach she agrees to take to attempt a reconciliation.

42-yr-old Peggy comes on Make Him Wonder stating that she is “tired of giving from an empty cup.” After 3 marriages, 4 unplanned pregnancies, and breaking up with her current live-in Beau, Tom, several times, Peggy continues to suggest things to Tom expecting him to make choices for her, and change himself. On Ep. 63, hear an exchange that has Peggy opening up about the insights to which she has heretofore dismissed. Will giving over to her inner knowing allow Peggy to make the changes necessary to get her life and love back on track? Listen to see if you feel Peggy is ready to fill her own cup, or if she will continue filling those of others

Society (and men) love us most in our most sexy of decades: our 30’s and 40’s. It’s in how, and how much, we choose to share that sexiness that determines most men’s willingness and ability to commit. In Episode 62, the beautiful, smart, and sexy on-air personality Becka Hays shares what it’s like to become and OnlyFans phenom. Hear how much Paula and Becka have in common, as they share insights into how men view women who choose to bear-all, and even just somewhat. Find out how knowing what it is you want from men now, and in the future, predicate what is best to do in society, and especially on social media.

After years of feeling taken advantage of, 35-yr-old empath Becky finds herself recoiling from socializing and dating. Stating that she prefers “hanging-out on the couch” with her dog, Becky discusses the anxiety and depression that she fears she will continue to experience when she opens herself up, again. Hear the moment when Becky realizes that by talking to Paula, she has already taken the first step.

Sometimes it feels good to be hosted instead of being a host. Replayed here on Episode 60, Coach Paula was hosted by the beautiful podcast and radio host, Becka Hays, on The Good Gurl Podcast. Becka and her friend Kara ask Paula about everything from Consumers to soulmates.

48-yr-old Suzie lived with her 32-yr-old boyfriend, Chris, for a wonderful year before he proposed. Less than 6-mths later, Chris wanted out. Devastated and trying to move-on, Suzie blames herself, wonders what went wrong, and wants to mend her broken heart while continuing to reach out to Chris to talk about his feelings. In episode 59, Paula explains the Mechanics of Suzie’s heartbreaking “car wreak”, and what she can do (and must not do) in order to get her former fiancé back on the road to forever.

In the city of Palm Springs, the weather never changes. In the 2020 summer release sci-fi/rom-com, Palm Springs, neither does the day. Using the backdrop of a wedding reception and a plethora of metaphors, this hidden Hulu gem takes us on a journey of what it can feel like for a man to confront marriage. Forced into what he sees as a living-hell of eternal pain, main character, Nyles (Andy Samberg) is unwittingly hit by cupids-arrow on a wedding day he is forced to live over and over. In episode 58, Paula discusses how Palm Springs explores the forces of good and evil within every man when faced with making the life-changing decision of committing to one woman. Hear how, when challenged by a worthy opponent, even a self-indulgent, man-boy can take a leap of faith into reality and decide to commit.