Make Him Wonder

On the heels of a devastating divorce, 36-yr-old Liz was encouraged by friends to start dating again. Following a 9-hour date with 38-yr-old Personal Trainer, Mike, Liz was smitten. But after experiencing Mike’s lack of initiative and follow up, Liz found herself seriously confused. After much back and forth on text, including messy social media interactions, Liz found herself wondering if she could just “have fun” with Mike and his muscles, yet also maintain the possibility of more “down-the-road.” On Episode 77 of Make Him Wonder, Paula attempts to help Liz recognize that her need to be a “Peacock” results in her continued interest in “Pigeons” who can be fun for a time but will leave her with lots of “droppings” to clean up, afterwards.

34 yr-old Sara wants children, so she has a goal of getting engaged and married within two years. However, Sara seriously doubts her abilities when it comes to dating. By explaining to Paula about her last relationship of nearly three years, Sara discovers the importance of being mindful from the moment of meeting a man. On Episode 76, listen for how not making choices early-on in a relationship can be the cause of heartbreak, as well as the lingering self-doubt that is ultimately more serious.

35-yr-old Amanda has had a 10-year on-again, off-again relationship with 33-yr-old Michael. Despite 3 years living at a long distance, and Michael having a new girlfriend, Amanda wants to reconcile. Determined to do things in a high-value way, Amanda comes on Episode 75 of Make Him Wonder hoping to hear some hope from Coach Paula. Are the mixed-messages Michael has received too many, and gone on for too long for this relationship to go the distance? Coach Paula weighs-in on Amanda’s journey.

The phenomena of younger men/older women has finally made it to Reality-TV with a new show looking for women in their 40s and 50s to meet younger men. But, as with all Reality-TV there is a twist. Producer Drew Jones (@okdrewjcasting on IG) joins Paula on Episode 74 to discuss casting for a season of love just starting to blossom. If you and someone you love are willing to vie for a chance at romance alongside one another this fall, this opportunity might be the right channel for you. Tune-in for details!

Words have power. They not only reflect our experience; they also foster our experience. When with a man who was much less than a Buyer, Paula found herself using the word sorry, and apologizing a lot. In episode 73, Paula discusses one of her own negative relationships, and how a man who was less than good for her, let her in on her behavior that was broadcasting to him what she felt about herself. Hear how you can use words to your advantage to understand what is happening at the deepest level in your relationship, so your choices don’t leave you with regret.

33-yr-old Diana’s dating history has left her fearful of acting from a place of hurt once she becomes intimate with a man. Determined to do things differently, Diana went in search of love online when she came across 34-yr-old Shane. Shane has shown himself to be ultra-respectful and willing to wait things out, but for how long? With things heating up, Diana comes on Episode 72 to ask Paula how she can keep her wits about her, while waiting for Shane to get to a place of wanting to marry her.

In the summer of 2020, it appeared 33-yr-old Stefana found the love of her life in 25 yr-old Ben.  Through taking things slow, Ben showed himself to be the best boyfriend, and by October, asked to be exclusive, talked about the future, and even invited Stefana to meet his family at Thanksgiving.  As the meeting and holiday were wonderful, Stefana invited Ben to her family Christmas.  So why did Ben pass on the invite, and by early 2021 ended up telling Stefana that he just didn’t feel she is his “one?” On Episode 71 of Make Him Wonder, hear a no-holds barred discussion, including Paula’s coaching regarding Stefana’s hope of getting back with the man she continues to feel is her Mr. Right.

After an 11-yr marriage, 43-yr-old Karen was going through a divorce when she met 27 yr-old Jamie, by accident. Karen initially contacted Paula wanting to know how she could move Jaime from sex-only to wanting more connection. But only moments before recording, Karen was dumped by Jamie, via text. On this episode of Make Him Wonder, hear Karen’s commiserative tale of how a simple mishap allowed Karen to be driven in the wrong direction, looking woefully in her rear-view mirror, wondering how to move ahead.

When we cater to what a man tells us he wants, we are taking a harder path to commitment. 44-yr-old Alejandra’s relationship with Jayden is a good example of the oxymoronic situation many women find themselves in, because we are intrinsically Connectors, Cooperators, and Caretakers. But as men are all about Challenge, Competition, and Conquering, giving into them doesn’t get us what we desire and deserve in the long run. In Ep. 69 of Make Him Wonder, Alejandra works out what she needs to tweak, going forward, to keep Jayden wondering!

After a 10-yr marriage, 37-yr-old newly-divorced Michele is dating recently divorced Mark. Michele states that Mark and her former husband couldn’t be more “different,” yet Michele feels she will somehow repeat the failure she feels her divorce to be. Michele comes to Paula to ask how she can let go of her past and fully commit, as well as understand Mark’s current inability to commit. Paula helps Michele recognize and commit to her own feelings, so that she can release Mark to the timing that he needs to be ready, willing, and able to make a full commitment.