Change is the only thing we can count on, yet, even when wanted, change can be one of the hardest things to face, and even more challenging to embrace. Podcast Host of Enlightenment of Change Connie Whitman, joins Paula to discuss her conscious choice to change her dating life, and how making a decision to move her life forward with or without a partner helped her to mold her future, and manifest marriage.

Back from Episode #16, 46-yr-old Susan talks to Paula about a new relationship with a man from her past. Divorced 3 times, and having dated a 20-year prisoner, a nursing home resident, and a host of others she cares to forget, Susan is back to get Paula’s advice on allowing a homeless friend from her childhood to move into her home. Hear how Susan repeats history and finds herself being a caregiver, rather than a real partner, once again. Paula gives Susan a dose of reality on boundaries, addiction and taking action while still be a caring, loving woman.

Back from Episodes #7 and #15, Boss Babe, Heather Ann Havenwood opines, and asks Paula, about all things singlehood after 40. Recently crowed Ms. Texas Elite Woman of Achievement, Heather recounts an in-flight encounter with a man who puts her in the clouds, only to come crashing down at rapid speed. Hear how men’s future-pacing necessitates push-pull, and why now is the best time of year to be online!

Every New Year’s Eve the world celebrates a date changing that infuses us all with hope for change. At the start of 2020, you might be thinking most about changing things over which you feel you have control, like dieting, exercise, health, or stopping a bad habit. But what about love, romance, marriage, and family? In Episode 43, Paula discusses using hindsight to manifest change for lasting love and happiness in the decade ahead.

Following a devastating breakup, 50-yr-old Lorna worked with Paula in her Lure-Him-Back Program. After working the strategies to see if Jimmy was ready, willing, and able to make a commitment, following weeks of Jimmy’s silence, Lorna is struggling for the closure she feels she is missing. Lorna wants to reach out to Jimmy to hear "Why he was okay with ending things" and why he never followed up and answered her heartfelt letter. Lorna agreed to talk to Paula on this episode in an attempt to understand why Jimmy isn’t contacting her, why it appears to be so easy for him to close-the-door on their connection, and if contacting Jimmy for answers will give Lorna what she feels she needs to move on.

Women are inherently givers. They love to give of themselves, and give gifts. But as a man’s interest is determined as much by what a woman doesn’t do, as the actions she takes, this requires that gift-giving be done in a way to make a man wonder. In this episode, Paula talks about the right gifts to give to any Consumer or Buyer. Hear how scaling your spending according to where a man is on the Consumer vs. Buyer scale will help make your holidays, and your years ahead, merry and bright.

On a honeymoon morning, Paula steps out on her balcony in Jamaica to wax poetic and prophetic about marriage, millennials, and of course, about men! Research is indicating that there are so many fish in the sea that FOBO is becoming a big net in which most all are being caught, and tangled in. While waves waft in the background and her husband sleeps, Paula whispers important facts that are likely figuring into your love life.

Many times love is determined by what we do as much as it is by who we are. In this unique episode, Paula talks with Designer, Taz The Tailor, about his two great love affairs: one with his fiancee and the other with fabric. Waves waft in the background as Taz talks to Paula on a beach in Jamaica, just days after Paula's own wedding. Taz tells his uncommon journey of falling in love at first sight, only to navigate a nearly 3000 mile long-distance relationship for 18 months just a week later! Hear an amazing love story interwoven into an amazingly creative man's work life. Episode 39 will remind you that eclipses happen, and that following your heart can lead you from rags to riches!

Think it’s a lovely gesture to invite your guy home for Thanksgiving? While it feels natural, normal, and the nice thing to do, beware the trap of putting a man in a “family way” prior to him deciding he’s ready for the full-meal-deal of marriage with all the trimmings. Before you end up feeling like a Turkey, Episode 38 will explain why carving-out your own holiday weekend is a winning strategy for having a lifetime of completely committed family functions.

47-yr-old Julia was determined to “get it right” the second time around. When she discovered The Rules, Julia knew she had found something powerful to help her attain complete commitment. Julia met 53-yr-old David, online, and the two had a Rules romance that culminated in marriage a year later. But less than 8 months after walking down the aisle, David suddenly seems to wake up to the reality of marriage and abruptly leaves with nothing but an unemotional email that he made a mistake. In this episode, Julia talks to Paula in hopes of discovering what went wrong, and to find out if there is any hope in keeping a marriage together once a man has decided he wants out.