At the age of 26, Brianne was excited to marry Jim and believed he would be as happy as she was to start a family. Jim had stated he would be okay with having one child, and he showed himself to be terrific with Brianne’s nieces and nephews. While their marriage was good for the first 5 years, things changed immediately after Brianne gave birth to twins. Brianne soon found out that Jim only agreed to “have one child” in order to please her. Brianne shares her cautionary tale of not listening to her inner-knowing about Jim’s desire to be a father, and Paula shares her experience of being on the other side of the aisle when she married her first husband.

Emcee, Host, and Lifestyle Blogger, Janelle Paige Brandom joins Coach Paula to ask the questions her fitness, fashion, and faithful followers want to know. Texting, calling or DM’ing a man first? What’s the low-down on living together? Why do men stalk you on social media only to slink out of sight or totally ghost you? Why is making a man wonder such a make-or-break in keeping a relationship and getting a man to commit?

Sometimes a glitch turns out to be great thing. TV and Radio Personality, Brian Glenn, said yes to being on Make Him Wonder, but our recording went gonzo. However, I was on Brian’s daily show, In The Know, on KEXB 620am, and that went swimmingly. We dive into everything from where to meet men (you might be surprised what I say about bars) to sustaining sex in marriage. We all get a little more in-the-know from talking to the opposite sex (when men are willing to ask, listen, and open up) and Brian Glenn doesn’t disappoint!

Ever wonder why sex with a man who’s a completely committed, signed-on, Bono Fide Buyer (husband) isn’t as off-the-hook hot, intense, or passionate as with an Ultimate or Mixed-Messages Consumer? Paula gives the low-down on the goods feeling hotter when on the down-low, marked-down, hot-sale rack than they are when delivered from a fully-invested man who’s decided that you are his prize to value forever.

After years of dating in a way that she describes as “needy or clingy,” 36-yr-old Julia found The Rules in 2015 and began following them strictly. Now, after 4 years of not experiencing her desired result of marriage, Julia fears "never getting the right guy" and that she might go through her life without ever having children. She is tired of being consumed by men telling her that her communication is “odd” and that they think she is “just a good-time girl,” when she knows herself to be a woman who desires monogamy, commitment, and family life. Paula helps Julia discover that what she is attempting to show men by doing The Rules is exactly the opposite of their experience in dating her.

Paula’s great friend, Rules pal, and fellow Social Worker, Erin joins Paula to talk about their respective journeys to finding what works with men. Paula and Erin recall their first meeting, working together, and how they developed their special bond. Both relive part of their past pains and shames that brought each to a totally new place personally and romantically. They also recall their time together in the desert sun sweating it out to ensure the right scores on Paula’s Consumer vs. Buyer Relationship Test! Paula recounts how Erin persevered through a tough period of no-contact with her current partner and Erin recalls for Paula how years ago she was only dreaming that she could help women in the way she does now.

Emmy nominated host of WFAA’s Good Morning Texas, Miss Connecticut 2001, performer, and on-air personality, Amy Vanderoef gets real with Paula about her real-life love and relationships. On this episode, Amy shares the struggles of divorce and single-motherhood while juggling a demanding career and life in the public eye. Paula opens-up about her former husband and career distress following her divorce, as well.

31-yr-old Rachel married 32-yr-old Paul three years ago. While still engaged, Rachel found a stack of magazines under Paul’s bed that she deemed pornographic and unacceptable. Rachel reports that the couple have had a good marriage and despite having a new baby, consistently have sex three times a week. However, Rachel continues to be disheartened and disturbed by thoughts of not being Paul’s “dream girl.” While admitting to be being bored by their sex life, Rachel believes giving into Paul’s requests for her to initiate sex will lessen her value in his eyes. Paula coaches Rachel on understanding men in the context of marriage and sex, and why she can put her doubts to bed. She also cautions Rachel that unless she begins to show Paul the fullness of her sexuality, Rachel will create what she fears most.

Why is it that married or marriage-bound celebrities and starlets can be seen in sexy shots, but posed or provocative pics of the average woman hurt her chances at complete commitment? On the heels of Episode 18, Coach Paula dives deeper into why it is that your efforts at being evocative may be getting you a lot of likes, but are likely hurting your chances at long-term love. Hear how sexy selfies skew a man’s reptilian wiring to see you as just a playmate, not as woman to whom he can feel safe pledging his total commitment.

If you're posting posed or provocative selfies, showing lots of pics of you and your guy, or even presenting yourself to be a lot sexier than the girl next door, you might be hurting your chance at committed love.  In this episode, Coach Paula talks about using social media to attract the right men. Hear how to have the best shot at getting a proposal by perfecting your online presence!