Make Him Wonder

29-yr-old Daniella met Dan at a club and went home with him the same night.  After several great dates, and seemingly interested for more, Dan pulled back.  Shortly thereafter, while away on business, Dan asked Daniella to fly to be with him, yet he didn’t follow through. Not hearing from Dan for weeks, Daniella seeks clarity on possible next steps. Paula explains what Daniella can do to have a chance to be dancing with Dan, again, like when they first met.

Understanding men is about more than relating to them intellectually, emotionally, and sexually.  It encompasses knowing our fundamental differences and handling them in the most effective way.  This allows us to have the best experience and give men the best of ourselves in return.  Handling a man's wandering eye effectively helps him to understand what is best socially for the sake of your relationship.  On this episode, I expose interesting research that will help you relate to your man's experience of being a man, in order to help you experience the best of him.

51-yr-old, divorced mom, Sandy, was engaged to 52-yr-old Eric.  But just 4 days before their wedding, Eric canceled the wedding, stating that he wanted to date others. Broken-hearted, Sandy went back online and met 57-yr-old Ryan.  Sandy is torn, however, as she still has feelings for Eric and has allowed him back into her life. On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Paula helps Sandy understand the need to create and keep the boundaries necessary for either of her men to commit, and why it’s not the when of letting a man back-in, as much as it is the how that determines a man’s level of investment in a relationship.

After meeting and dating 44-yr-old Will on-and-off for about 3 yrs, 45-yr-old divorced, mom, Logan, now finds herself in mostly an email-only relationship since Will last broke things off, 12 months ago.  While Logan credits her current situation to Will’s fear of failure and the couple’s mismatched parenting schedules, Paula sees things differently.  On this episode, you’ll hear Paula give Logan the low-down on what she needs to do to help her email Romeo see her as his Juliette, and not just a wonderful woman with whom he corresponds daily.

32-yr-old Emerie broke off her 2.5 yr situationship with 34-yr-old Aaron, thinking that 2 weeks of no response to his texts was enough to cause Aaron to want a commitment. In this episode of Make Him Wonder, Paula explains why it’s not the “when” of letting a man back in, as much as it is the “how,” that determines a man’s level of desire for a real relationship.

First-generation, 27-yr-old Amara reports that traditional cultural norms have kept her “fixated on the needs of her family” and on making herself available to 28-yr-old Tony whenever he wants.  Feeling smothered, past partners have pulled away, causing Amara to feel resentful due to all she has sacrificed.  She then explodes or clings harder, and ultimately, Amara has no peace-of-mind or enjoyment of the relationship.  Wanting to achieve her career goals, and give to herself as much as to others, Amara comes on Make Him Wonder to find out what steps she can take to move forward free of fear and guilt.

Back from Season One Episodes 14 and 32, 45-yr-old Anna comes back on Make Him Wonder with updates on how she went from heartbroken to happily married in less than one year. While living in a culturally restricted “dating desert,” Anna explains how using Paula’s 3-pillared approach of Mindset, Manifesting, and the Mechanics of Men, she was able to leave her 3-year relationship with a Damaged Consumer and in only 30 days had the man of her dreams by her side.

After only a few months of dating, 44-yr-old Fred started spending every night with 52-yr-old Sariah, and expressed interest in living together. Despite telling Fred that she required engagement to do so, on their one-yr anniversary, Fred told Sariah that he wasn’t ready for marriage and didn’t want to be engaged.  On this episode, Paula helps Sariah make sense of what Sariah deemed as Fred’s retraction, understand where she needs to place her focus, and learn what she needs to do and say to move Fred toward committed cohabitation.

Upon separating from her husband, 41-yr-old Darlene moved back to her hometown and reconnected with her old beau, 40-yr-old Paul. The two quickly began hooking-up and their friendship is strong. Paul tells Darlene he loves her, so she can’t understand why the relationship can’t be more.  On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Darlene seeks Paula’s answer on how to get this FWB relationship to feature all she desires.

While on a weekend trip to her old college town, 41-yr-old Elaine met 39-yr-old Leo through a mutual friend.  Feeling like she made missteps landing her in the just-for-fun category, Elaine is anxious about the possibility of Leo ever seeing her as wife/mother material.  On this episode, Paula explains how trying to control the category in her initial interactions rendered Elaine confusing to Leo rather than making wonder, and the decision Elaine needs to make to set things with this potential Mr. Right on the authentic right path.