Make Him Wonder

 52-yr-old Jack has been single for the past 25 years and only dated much younger women. 46-yr-old Charleigh is worried that this makes Jack see her as more of an “age-appropriate companion” rather than a girlfriend.  Adding to Charleigh’s anxiety is the fact that she was cheated on by her ex-husband when he was away on business, and Jack is a bit of a big-spending partier when he’s out-of-town. Charleigh wants to know if Jack can really see her as his “one” despite friends saying Jack is the happiest they’ve ever seen him.

While only together for 2 years, 32-yr-old Ruby and 32-yr-old Paul are on their 4th breakup.  Ruby says Paul is heavily influenced by his friends and family, doesn’t make her a priority, and isn’t mature enough for marriage. On this episode, Paula helps Ruby reframe Paul’s behavior, reset her focus to solve the real issues, and see a future where the two can restart a new and committed relationship that will remain unbroken.

Having been the lead on two reality dating shows, with appearances on Dr. Phil and several talk shows to discuss her single status, Sonali Chandra is likely the most famous 36-yr-old virgin. But why, with her beauty, poise, talent, and intelligence, is she finding it so hard to date and find her Mr. Right? On this episode, Sonali bares her heartbreak over 65-yr-old Mr. LAP who she claims is the "love of her life," and wants Paula's opinion on why he left. Paula explains why she believes age is just a number, and how developmental milestones are always a factor, no matter how many years we have behind us.

39-yr-old Isla says she suffers from anxious attachment and keeps “pushing men away.” Having dated 35-yr-old Ivan for only a few months, Isla began experiencing what she feared most. Feeling like Ivan wasn’t spending enough time with her, Isla spurred one too many arguments. Will this time of being ghosted help Isla face her demons and slay the dragon of anxiety that drags her down?  On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Isla voices what has her attached and addresses what she needs to do to move forward.

After only a few months of dating, 44-yr-old Fred started spending every night at the home of 51-yr-old Sariah. But despite knowing that she should be the one to set better boundaries, Sariah can’t seem to say no.  On this episode, Paula helps Sariah make sense of her anxiety around disappointing Fred and understand what she must do to inspire him to take the steps necessary for a lifetime of love and commitment.

36-yr-old Elle pursued 36-yr-old Sam until the two started hooking-up on New Year’s Eve. But because Elle wanted more, misunderstandings and mixed-messaging caused an on-again-off again situationship that was no cause for celebration.  Following a particularly volatile episode where Sam was headed to the police to file a restraining order, Elle woke up to the necessity of restraining herself and reevaluating her way of relating.  On this episode, hear how connecting to the real issues can get you restarted on the right foot for a real relationship.

When 54-yr-old Suzanne worked on her self-concept and combined it with what worked for 66-yr-old Sam to see her as his one, she began to see her dream relationship materialize. Now heading towards engagement, Suzanne can’t help but feel uneasy about the frequency of Sam connecting with his ex-girlfriends, and ex-wife. On this episode, Paula helps Suzanne stay current, stem the occasional rising tide of anxiety, and stay-in-the-knowing that she is the only fish in Sam’s romantic sea.

Following a sexless and lonely 18-yr marriage, 46-yr-old Grace felt “safe” beginning a FWB relationship with 47-yr-old Tony because he was moving away. But Tony didn’t end up moving, and now Grace wants a full relationship.  Tony, being newly out  of a 5-yr relationship states he “isn’t ready,” and is willing to let Grace go. On this episode, Grace faces some past missteps and wants Paula’s help to put her best foot forward for the possibilities that she and Tony can go the distance.

33-yr-old Kiki started off with 30-yr-old Landon in one of the worst ways possible to potentially be more than just a go-to girl. After being intimate several times and liking Landon, Kiki now finds herself wanting more.  On this episode, Paula explains to Kiki how she can attempt to get things on the right track for a real dating relationship.

​​​​​​​Following 7 years of separation from his second wife who cheated, 61-yr-old Mike is telling 59-yr-old Carla that he is just “starting the process of divorce.” Carla is not convinced, nor is she happy with what appears to be Mike’s Low-T, his need for a great deal of alone time to be on social media, and him stating that he “feels like less of a man” because Carla is significantly more well-off financially. In this episode, Carla asks for Paula’s help in determining whether Mike has too many red flags to have this relationship end up “in the black.”