36-yr-old Elle pursued 36-yr-old Sam until the two started hooking-up on New Year’s Eve. But because Elle wanted more, misunderstandings and mixed-messaging caused an on-again-off again situationship that was no cause for celebration.  Following a particularly volatile episode where Sam was headed to the police to file a restraining order, Elle woke up to the necessity of restraining herself and reevaluating her way of relating.  On this episode, hear how connecting to the real issues can get you restarted on the right foot for a real relationship.

When 54-yr-old Suzanne worked on her self-concept and combined it with what worked for 66-yr-old Sam to see her as his one, she began to see her dream relationship materialize. Now heading towards engagement, Suzanne can’t help but feel uneasy about the frequency of Sam connecting with his ex-girlfriends, and ex-wife. On this episode, Paula helps Suzanne stay current, stem the occasional rising tide of anxiety, and stay-in-the-knowing that she is the only fish in Sam’s romantic sea.

Following a sexless and lonely 18-yr marriage, 46-yr-old Grace felt “safe” beginning a FWB relationship with 47-yr-old Tony because he was moving away. But Tony didn’t end up moving, and now Grace wants a full relationship.  Tony, being newly out  of a 5-yr relationship states he “isn’t ready,” and is willing to let Grace go. On this episode, Grace faces some past missteps and wants Paula’s help to put her best foot forward for the possibilities that she and Tony can go the distance.

33-yr-old Kiki started off with 30-yr-old Landon in one of the worst ways possible to potentially be more than just a go-to girl. After being intimate several times and liking Landon, Kiki now finds herself wanting more.  On this episode, Paula explains to Kiki how she can attempt to get things on the right track for a real dating relationship.

​​​​​​​Following 7 years of separation from his second wife who cheated, 61-yr-old Mike is telling 59-yr-old Carla that he is just “starting the process of divorce.” Carla is not convinced, nor is she happy with what appears to be Mike’s Low-T, his need for a great deal of alone time to be on social media, and him stating that he “feels like less of a man” because Carla is significantly more well-off financially. In this episode, Carla asks for Paula’s help in determining whether Mike has too many red flags to have this relationship end up “in the black.”

When 30-yr-old Jay asked 32-yr-old Olive to be his girlfriend on their first meeting, Olive agreed. The two developed a close connection and only upon investigation did Olive find out Jay was lying about his age. Once the two had sex, Jay ghosted. On this episode, Olive wants to know if the cultural differences soured Jay. Paula explains why things were not that sweet from the beginning.

After making a strong online connection, 48-yr-old Robin was excited to meet 50-yr-old Jay. Jay was also keen on exploring further, only to pull away in short order. Where did such a strong connection get short-circuited? In this episode, find out why once you’re separated you can be ready for commitment, while a separated man will not… and what it is about meeting-for-coffee that sets a man up to be lukewarm about continuing to date you.

44-yr-old Emma met handsome 51-yr-old Matt online and wanted to know his true intentions before having sex.  After cancelling their seventh date out-of-the-blue, Emma got a text that Matt was frustrated that there was no passion or sex on their sixth date. On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Emma gets clarification on Matt’s probable feelings and what risk vs reward is worth taking to put his fears to rest so the two can move forward.

47-yr-old Vivian wants her on-again-off-again relationship with 40-yr-old Gabriel to go the distance, but every time she talks about commitment the two argue and a breakup ensues.  Is it Gabriel creating the roadblock or something else standing in the way of this couple going the distance? In this coaching conversation, hear the best way to have a relationship start online and end in forever after.

After a year and a half together, 34-yr-old Gigi keeps hearing the classic “it’s not you, it’s me,” from 37-yr-old Aaron regarding his unhappiness with their relationship. Discussions about it and going on breaks haven’t solved the issue, and Gigi is afraid of a final split. In this episode, Paula explains to Gigi how her compassion is crippling Aaron’s desire and helping to ensure the negative outcome she fears, and what she can do to become his shining star, once again.