Manfulness

We’re fast approaching the end of the year! This is the perfect time for reflection.

When I was young, I wanted to be successful, famous, and have women. I wanted to be the quintessential alpha male. So I tried to find every scheme and get rich quick program to reach this goal. 

This drive came from wanting to prove people wrong and comparison. Even though ambition to succeed from resentment can benefit you and give you some success, it can also push you to overwork, over sacrifice, and become obsessive with your goal. 

The health of your body can often become of lesser importance (if any) to the goal you’re focused on. This unbalanced prioritisation can then lead to burnout and exhaustion. 

Many people that have had success in money and business have sacrificed success in other areas of their lives. 

I, myself, had to change my definition of success to learn not to compare myself to others, not depend on quick results, and not to take shortcuts. 

I had to work out why I wanted to be successful and why I was doing it. I shifted my mindset by stopping comparing myself to others to just focusing on what I was doing and how I could become better every day. 

This change in thinking and creating a better alignment gave me long-lasting happiness and enjoyment in life. 

Who do you want to be in 20 years? By looking that far ahead, the small wins and competition around you fade away. You can only think about the big picture and the life goals you want to achieve. What do they look like? 

I’ll share how I moved away from setting goals for myself to improving my systems and my foundations. 

What systems could you improve? Reflect on all of the things that didn’t work out so you can alter your processes to make them more enjoyable and achieve long-lasting success in every area of your life. 

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Book mentioned: Atomic Habits by James Clear

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Are you okay with being still? 

Or does the idea of not having something on the go make you feel uncomfortable?

We live in a world where it’s possible to be plugged in 24 hours of the day. If we’re bored, we have access to entertainment at our fingertips. But is that a good thing?

In this episode, I talk about some of the things I learned over the extended period of lockdown and home learning and creating an environment in the home where we are okay to sit with stillness and silence.

How often do your kids tell you they are bored?

How often do you reach for your phone or TV to fill in the gaps between busy tasks?

We don’t always have to be busy. We don’t always have to be consuming.

I want to teach my kids that it’s okay to be bored, to embrace stillness, and to have real conversations with people instead of relying on devices to keep them entertained. 

Life has become so much more complex and stressful than it used to be. What kind of life do you want to live?

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Our bodies are suffering right now. We are living in our heads and our bodies are being ignored. I know that sending your awareness down into your body can be a challenging process but I encourage you to sit with your emotions and truly acknowledge them.

We are often so hesitant to stop and embrace this stillness because we just want to jump to the solution. 

Let go of that urge for a moment. I invite you into this meditation to just be with yourself. 

Ask yourself, what are you feeling right now? Not with the intention to work it out, fight it or understand it. Just to be present and flow with it. No matter the emotion, let it out and breathe with it. 

Hold space for yourself and give your body the gift of presence. Send your consciousness into your body to observe your inner and external world without analyzing or problem solving. 

Slow everything down and enjoy this space of stillness, quiet, and rest.

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Are you really good at finding solutions to problems?

Most men are. Humans are amazing in their capacity to come up with solutions, but this can sometimes be detrimental. 

One thing I’ve noticed is that most men are so conditioned to focus on finding answers to problems, that they don’t allow themselves to process the feelings that surround the problems.

A lot of men think they shouldn’t ever feel certain ways. They shouldn’t feel anger, they shouldn’t feel rage, they shouldn’t feel sadness.

This is where we can learn to hold space for ourselves. 

We are human beings who have feelings and these emotions can’t be dealt with from the outside. We have to go in. We must be present, surrender to the process and allow those emotions to do what they need to do. 

In this episode, I talk about how I’ve learned to sit with my feelings instead of trying to make them go away or find a cognitive solution. 

Once we properly acknowledge, process and express the emotions going on inside us, we can look at the situations we’re facing with a fresh set of eyes. Then, the solutions come.  

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Today’s episode is a meditation dedicated to travelling inwards and finding alignment. The world needs a perspective change to learn not to run from our pain and take steps to truly feel it. The fear of feeling pain causes us to project anxiety, anger, and encourages disconnection around us. 

There are two ways we feel pain: the pain of the things that are happening to us, and the pain from trying to avoid it. Fear of feeling pain can stop us from trying again but we need this pain because it allows us to grow.  

Acknowledging our pain means that we don’t throw it out into the world on everyone around us. There is enough of that in the world already.



So, I invite you to take this journey to feel peace and happiness by using meditation to travel inwards to recognise, address and grow from your pain. 

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If you’re like me and in lockdown, your stress levels may be pretty high and have been for a while. 

While I know that stress is a natural part of life. Prolonged stress can have such a big impact on your mind and body. 

I’ve had my own run ins with stress. Life has become more complicated since I was a young personal trainer and with that there is more pressure and stress. 

In this episode, I will share with you three really significant ways that stress impacts you. 

There are so many external stressors in daily life that are influencing us everyday. 

I am so keen for you to hear this episode because I know that you will be experiencing at least some of these in your life. 

Our brains are engineered to respond to stress with fight, flight or freeze. We may respond to prolonged stress by lashing out at a spouse, running away and hiding from problems, or numbing ourselves out. 

We aren’t capable of finding solutions because that part of our brain is turned off. 

I want you to take control of your health back, so I am sharing some of the many ways to reduce stress in your life. 

You can make your life happier and healthier. 

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Today’s episode is a meditation to connect and acknowledge your body, revel in the wonders of the amazing processes in your mind, and really appreciate how you are a cooperative component of the world you want to create.

Take a moment and feel the rhythm in your heart, the tingling of your fingers and toes, the flow of your blood, and the release of your breath. 

Ask your body, what do you need from me? 

Acknowledge your body and mind, and appreciate the amazing intricate system that is happening every moment of your life. 

Circumstances may be out of your control right now, but real power is having dominion over your mind and body.

That’s the place where the true work is done. 

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We’re still in lockdown in Melbourne and some days I wake up feeling good and motivated.

Other days I find myself struggling.

It’s something I’ve really had to address to get myself back into alignment.

Over the years, I’ve equipped myself with various tools and modalities that really help me understand and process my emotions. Music is one of those powerful tools.

As a young man, music was so helpful for me to connect with myself on a deep level and this is something that a lot of men struggle with.

They want to access their emotions but they just don’t know how to get there.

Listening to music really helped me gain clarity on what I was feeling and allowed me to move through the different emotions I had going on. I didn’t analyse, I just listened to the music and sat with the feeling. Doing this helped me process whatever was going on and created space for new emotions to come in.

I’ve learned not to just push through negative emotions, but to stop and take note whenever I’m not feeling good inside.

If you’re struggling with sadness, anger, frustration, depression or anything that isn’t serving you, I highly encourage you to use music as a tool to help you to move through these emotions.

Create a playlist and just sit with it. What are the songs that really stand out to you?

LINKS:

Listen to How to get more sex with Jordan Hackett on Apple Podcasts

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Anger, frustration, confusion and fear from our daily lives causes conflict in our internal worlds, which impacts on our external world.

This internal conflict makes it so much harder to make important and balanced decisions. To help you recentre, I encourage you to be still and reflect inward to look at everything in your life with fresh and open eyes.

This meditation is all about finding peace and filling your life with joy and love. Imagine yourself like an antenna, sending out high vibrational signals to the external world.

Once you’re centred in peace, you can either face the problems in your life or choose to back off and regenerate.

You will no longer allow your external world to dictate how you feel.

So, show each other love and, as one, let’s take a deep breath in together...

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Modern masculinity, stigmas and taboos have such an impact on the way men talk about and explore sex in a positive and deep way.

Today I am so grateful to be talking with Jordan Hackett. Jordan is a Men’s Coach and Certified Sexologist. He has a background in rites of initiation work and draws on a wealth of integrated personal experience in erotic exploration, diverse relationships and self-development spaces. He offers private coaching and bodywork, online programs and in person workshops.

Jordan shares how it is so important to own who you are, your desires, your attractions and commit to the man you want to be - even if it isn’t the man you are right now - by having radical honesty in your encounters.

I know heartbreak can close men off to ever putting themselves out there again. Jordan describes how heartbreak stretches the spectrum between deep pain and deep joy to have a broader emotional range to experience more of life. He shares with us a toolkit to feel and be okay with those feelings. Feeling your pain tells you that you are alive.

Jordan shares advice on how to improve your sex life and your connection with the other person. He breaks down the importance of communication and being honest about what you like and what they like.

You are the architect of your life. Go out there, be open to vulnerability and discover what amazing things it creates in your life.

LINKS:

eBook Bombshells of Important Truths About Sex: www.jordanhackett.com/ebook

Free 30min Discovery Call - www.jordanhackett.com/bookings-checkout/free-discovery-call/book

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