Marriage After God

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January 19, 2023 Keeping Your Word in Marriage: Stop Saying One Thing and Doing Another
Let your yes be yes: the gap between what we say and what we do, and how it quietly erodes trust.
About This Episode
How often have you intended to do something or change in some way, but did not follow through? Whether it is a promise to your spouse or to yourself, words have power, and when we use them to make commitments we should take them seriously. Our vows may not sound like I promise; they may sound like I'll be there at 10 or I'm going to read my Bible every morning. In this episode, Aaron and Jennifer talk about the discrepancy between what we say and what we do, why it happens, how it hurts the people we love, and how to walk in integrity by grace.
About Aaron & Jennifer Smith
Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.
In This Episode
Everyday vows — Why I'll be there at 10 and I'll pray for you are promises too
The word discrepancy — The gap between what we say and what we do
Real-life examples — Jennifer's coffee habit and Aaron's promise to wake the kids for workouts
Why we make hollow promises — Pleasing people, disordered lives, and simply forgetting
Let your yes be yes — What Jesus and James teach about oaths
The sacrifice of fools — Ecclesiastes on rash words and unpaid vows
Words and trust — How broken promises erode self-perception and a spouse's trust
Practical steps — Saying yes or no instead of maybe, and taking time before committing
Grace for the journey — Only Jesus perfectly controlled His tongue, and God never goes back on His word
Scripture Referenced
James 5:12
Matthew 5:37
Proverbs 18:21
Ecclesiastes 5:2, 4-5
Resources from This Episode
This episode is brought to you by our faithful patron team, who have chosen to help financially support this show monthly. Here is a shout-out to some of our most recent patrons.
Deborah S
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We thank you so much for partnering with us in blessing 10’s of thousands of couples with free daily prayer emails and this weekly podcast.
If you have been blessed by free Marriage After God content, we'd love to invite you to join our patron team.
Also, if you choose to sign up at $20/month you can get a $50 gift card to our online store to purchase any of our books and resources.
Please visit marriageaftergod.com/patron
Check out our marriage resources!
Get our new book The Marriage Gift - 365 prayers for your marriage!
The Marriage Gift: 365 Prayers for Our Marriage by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Full show notes and blog post
Connect with Marriage After God
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44 min
January 12, 2023 7 Ways To Strengthen and Maintain Your Marriage
The grass is greener where you water it: seven qualities from 2 Peter 1 that keep a marriage from decaying.
About This Episode
There is a spiritual truth that goes like this: what we feed will be nourished, what we sow we will reap, what we pursue we will find, and what we water will grow. The opposite is true as well. Stop watering something, and it will eventually die. In this episode, Aaron and Jennifer talk about the importance of continual spiritual and relational maintenance. Marriages rarely fall apart all at once; they decay over time when they are not tended. Using 2 Peter 1, they share seven qualities to maintain so your marriage and your faith stay strong, effective, and fruitful.
About Aaron & Jennifer Smith
Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.
In This Episode
What we water grows — The spiritual truth of sowing, feeding, and pursuing
The abandoned building — Why anything that is not maintained slowly decays
The grass is greener where you water it — Taking responsibility for our action and our inaction
Exhort one another daily — Guarding against a heart hardened by the deceitfulness of sin
Virtue and knowledge — Pursuing purity and growing in knowledge of God and His Word
Self-control and steadfastness — Training the flesh and standing firm in unity and faith
Godliness and brotherly affection — Devotion to God and loving your spouse as a brother or sister in Christ
Love — Not simply maintaining love but earnestly seeking it
Salvation and maintenance — Our salvation rests in Christ alone; we labor to walk it out
A new owner — Letting Christ renovate your marriage
Scripture Referenced
1 Timothy 1:18-19
Hebrews 3:12-14
2 Peter 1:3-10
Hebrews 12:3
John 14:23
Galatians 6:7-10
1 Corinthians 14:1
Resources from This Episode
Quote source: Neil Barringham, “The grass is always greener where you water it.”
Today's episode is brought to you by our faithful patron team who have chosen to help financially support this show monthly. Here is a shout-out to some of our most recent patrons.
Freddy S
Pierre H
Shelly B
Tracy P
We thank you so much for choosing to partner with us in blessing 10’s of thousands of couples with free daily prayer emails and this weekly podcast.
If you have been blessed by free Marriage After God content, we'd love to invite you to join our patron team.
Also, if you chose to sign up at $20/month you can get a $50 gift card to our online store on your first renewal!
Please visit marriageaftergod.com/patron
Check out our marriage resources!
Get our new book The Marriage Gift - 365 prayers for your marriage!
The Marriage Gift: 365 Prayers for Our Marriage by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Full show notes and blog post
Connect with Marriage After God
Website: marriageaftergod.com
Shop books, devotionals, and prayer journals: shop.marriageaftergod.com
Follow Marriage After God: Instagram · Facebook · YouTube · TikTok
Follow Aaron and Jennifer: Husband Revolution · Unveiled Wife
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37 min
January 05, 2023 Self-Discrepancy: Who We Are vs Who We Want To Be
The gap between who we are and who we want to be, and why the answer is Christ, not a better version of you.
About This Episode
If we are honest, we all recognize a discrepancy between who we are and who we desire to be. Aaron and Jennifer kick off 2023 by confessing a difficult season of irritability and disconnection in their own marriage, and how God used it to highlight the gap between their words and their walk. Jennifer shares why discrepancy became her word for the year, and together they explore self-discrepancy theory, the frustration it produces, and the freedom of Romans 8:1. The answer, they say, is not striving toward a better version of yourself, but surrendering to Christ and abiding in Him.
About Aaron & Jennifer Smith
Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.
In This Episode
Back every week — Why the podcast returned to a weekly rhythm in 2023
A hard December — An honest confession about irritability, disrespect, and not abiding in the Word
Strength in weakness — God's grace is sufficient and His power is made perfect in weakness
A word for the year — Why discrepancy kept coming up for Jennifer
Self-discrepancy theory — The gap between our actual self and our ideal self
Absolute error — What happens when God's Word is the true measure
Christ, not a better you — Why the goal is surrender, not self-improvement
No condemnation — The war between flesh and Spirit and the freedom we have in Christ
Good fruit and a consistent tongue — Why God changes us from the inside out
Present self and future self — An insight from the Hidden Brain podcast
Questions to ask yourself — Discrepancies in faith, marriage, parenting, and friendship
January growth spurt — Build trust and integrity by doing what you say you will do
Scripture Referenced
2 Corinthians 12:9
Romans 7:18, 24-25
Romans 8:1-4
Matthew 7:15-20
James 3:9-12
Proverbs 11:3
Resources from This Episode
This episode is brought to you in part by our Marriage After God podcast and prayer patron team. These are people who have been blessed by this content as well as our daily prayer emails and have decided to help support the show and our daily emails financially. So if you have been blessed by this show and would like to join the Marriage After God podcast patron team, please visit marriageaftergod.com/patron
Check out our marriage resources!
Get our new book The Marriage Gift - 365 prayers for your marriage!
The Marriage Gift: 365 Prayers for Our Marriage by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Podcast mentioned: Hidden Brain
Full show notes and blog post
Connect with Marriage After God
Website: marriageaftergod.com
Shop books, devotionals, and prayer journals: shop.marriageaftergod.com
Follow Marriage After God: Instagram · Facebook · YouTube · TikTok
Follow Aaron and Jennifer: Husband Revolution · Unveiled Wife
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If this conversation encouraged you, please share it with a couple you love, and subscribe wherever you listen.
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Smith Family Resources, Inc © 2026
51 min
December 15, 2022 16 Best Pieces Of Marriage Advice Every Couple Needs To Hear From 16 Years Of Marriage
From pray a lot to your spouse is your type: the lessons that helped save our marriage from divorce.
About This Episode
January 6, 2023, marks Aaron and Jennifer's 16th wedding anniversary, and to celebrate they share 16 of the best pieces of marriage advice they have learned along the way. Some of these tips revolutionized their marriage, and some played a large part in saving it from divorce. From praying a lot and remembering you are on the same team, to forgiving quickly and keeping a consistent date night, each one is practical, honest, and rooted in their own story. They close with a prayer that couples would cling to truth, apply sound advice, and be used as a team to encourage other marriages.
About Aaron & Jennifer Smith
Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.
In This Episode
Pray a lot — Why prayer tops the list, and why they wrote 31 Prayers for My Husband and 31 Prayers for My Wife
You are probably the one who is wrong — Humility and remembering we are finite, limited creatures
Take the next right step — Moving forward one faithful step at a time
Same team — You and your spouse are on the same team
Your spouse is your type — A reminder from their friend Ryan Frederick of Fierce Marriage
Sinners who need Jesus — We are both sinners, and the gospel heals all
Protect your spouse — Never talk badly about them, and keep the two of you on the inside
Have more fun — Consistent date nights, close married friends, and why most of their big plans were made over a date
Keep learning and forgive quickly — Never stop learning about your spouse
Grow your family — Have children together or adopt
Resources from This Episode
Read Ryan Frederick's article: Your spouse is your type.
Please let us know which piece of advice was your favorite by leaving us a podcast review.
Check out our marriage resources!
Get our new book The Marriage Gift - 365 prayers for your marriage!
The Marriage Gift: 365 Prayers for Our Marriage by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Thirty-One Prayers For My Husband by Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Thirty-One Prayers For My Wife by Aaron Smith (also in our shop)
Full show notes and blog post
Connect with Marriage After God
Website: marriageaftergod.com
Shop books, devotionals, and prayer journals: shop.marriageaftergod.com
Follow Marriage After God: Instagram · Facebook · YouTube · TikTok
Follow Aaron and Jennifer: Husband Revolution · Unveiled Wife
Want to go deeper? Become a patron and help us keep creating resources for marriages that pursue God together.
If this conversation encouraged you, please share it with a couple you love, and subscribe wherever you listen.
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Smith Family Resources, Inc © 2026
57 min
December 08, 2022 How To Affirm Your Wife And Why Daily Affirmations Are So Important
Aaron reads Jennifer seven affirmations on air, and her honest reactions show why we all need words of life.
About This Episode
This world is full of discouragement, and we are really good at feeling shameful, weak, useless, and unworthy. We can all use more words of encouragement and affirmation. In this episode, Aaron reads Jennifer seven affirmations he wrote for her, and she shares how she honestly receives each one. What follows is a conversation about why we so easily believe the negative things we say about ourselves, and why spouses need to speak true, life-giving words to each other daily. Let this episode be a reminder to practice finding things to affirm your spouse with every day.
About Aaron & Jennifer Smith
Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.
In This Episode
A surprise on the air — Aaron reads Jennifer seven affirmations he wrote for her
Thoughtful and caring — Affirming her heart for others as a spiritual gift
An incredible mother — Recognizing her diligence, creativity, and growth with their children
Sixteen years together — Gratitude for his bride, friend, and lover ahead of their anniversary
Best friend and partner — Whatever we do, I want to do it with you and for God
A godly woman — Her love for God as an inspiration to family and friends
Brave and strong — Following Aaron to Africa, starting businesses, and writing books together
Honest reactions — Why Jennifer's first response to each affirmation was self-critical
Lies versus truth — How we default to inner accusations and the enemy's lies
Words of life — Speaking affirming, true words to your spouse and children every day
Scripture Referenced
Philippians 4:8
Ephesians 4:29
Resources from This Episode
This episode is sponsored by our newest book, Marriage After God (also in our shop). In this book, we have laid out for you a treasure map that leads your marriage to the greatest treasure of all, which is to know beyond a shadow of a doubt exactly why God has brought you and your spouse together.
This book is meant to take you on a journey of discovering the unique, deep and powerful purpose God has for your marriage.
The world and your flesh will tell you that the greatest end to be reached is happily ever after, but we believe that that is in fact not at all the end to which we are to pursue. Instead, God intends for you to pursue His end and for your marriage to be a powerful tool in His mighty hand to bring about glory for His Son and to grow His kingdom.
If you are ready to say yes to this journey, then please head over to Shop.marriageaftergod.com or amazon.com and grab your copy today.
Check out our marriage resources!
Get our new book The Marriage Gift - 365 prayers for your marriage!
The Marriage Gift: 365 Prayers for Our Marriage by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Full show notes and blog post
Connect with Marriage After God
Website: marriageaftergod.com
Shop books, devotionals, and prayer journals: shop.marriageaftergod.com
Follow Marriage After God: Instagram · Facebook · YouTube · TikTok
Follow Aaron and Jennifer: Husband Revolution · Unveiled Wife
Want to go deeper? Become a patron and help us keep creating resources for marriages that pursue God together.
If this conversation encouraged you, please share it with a couple you love, and subscribe wherever you listen.
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Smith Family Resources, Inc © 2026
45 min
November 17, 2022 The Power of Forgiveness in Marriage: How To Forgive Your Spouse When You Don't Feel Like It
Why Jesus commands forgiveness, why it feels so unnatural, and why reconciliation takes two
About This Episode
Forgiveness is the relief of tension in a relationship that has endured offense or conflict. Aaron and Jennifer compare holding onto an offense to stretching a band across your chest until your muscles ache, and letting go brings relief to the one who forgives. They work through the questions so many spouses wrestle with: why forgive when I feel they are wrong, how can I forgive if they have not repented, and what if they do it again? Looking at Matthew 6 and the parable Jesus told Peter in Matthew 18, they show that forgiveness goes against our natural defenses and can only be done in the power of the Holy Spirit, out of obedience to God's Word. They close by separating forgiveness from reconciliation and praying that couples would be quick to forgive and quick to reconcile.
About Aaron & Jennifer Smith
Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.
In This Episode
The band analogy — why holding onto an offense hurts the one who holds it
Hard questions — forgiving when you feel they are wrong, when they have not repented, or when it happens again
Why Jesus commands forgiveness — Matthew 6:12-15 and why forgiveness is not a natural response
Seventy times seven — Peter's question in Matthew 18 and the 490 connection to Daniel's 70-week prophecy
Forgiveness vs. reconciliation — forgiveness takes one, reconciliation takes two
Trusting God with the other person — forgiving even when reconciliation is not possible
Weekly challenge — go on a fun date night together, even when it's cold outside
Scripture Referenced
Matthew 6:12-15; Matthew 18:21-35; 1 John 2:1-2; Matthew 26:28; Acts 10:43; Ephesians 1:7; Daniel 9
Resources from This Episode
This week's episode is brought to you by our 30-day marriage devotionals. Husband and wife after god. These devotionals were written to help you grow closer to your spouse and closer to God. We invite you to join the thousands of other marriages that have already taken the journey toward a deeper and more purposeful marriage. Also, with the holidays coming up, these devotionals will make a powerful and meaningful gift for the other married couples in your life. Get them today at shop.marriageaftergod.com or on Amazon:
Husband After God by Aaron Smith (also in our shop)
Wife After God by Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Check out our marriage resources!
Sponsors: Get our new book The Marriage Gift - 365 prayers for your marriage!
The Marriage Gift: 365 Prayers for Our Marriage by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Full show notes and blog post
Connect with Marriage After God
Website: marriageaftergod.com
Shop books, devotionals, and prayer journals: shop.marriageaftergod.com
Follow Marriage After God: Instagram · Facebook · YouTube · TikTok
Follow Aaron and Jennifer: Husband Revolution · Unveiled Wife
Want to go deeper? Become a patron and help us keep creating resources for marriages that pursue God together.
If this conversation encouraged you, please share it with a couple you love, and subscribe wherever you listen.
As an Amazon Associate, Marriage After God earns from qualifying purchases.
Smith Family Resources, Inc © 2026
54 min
October 28, 2022 Doing Hard Things Together in Marriage: Lessons From Our Chicken Coop
What a 400-square-foot chicken coop taught us about counting the cost and finishing hard things together
About This Episode
This episode is not a chicken coop how-to. It is the story of what Aaron and Jennifer learned about working together to finish a hard thing. After taking in 23 chickens, they built a 400-square-foot coop out of recycled pole-barn lumber, and the project stretched them. They share the wisdom they gained in hindsight: count the cost before committing, value your spouse's wise insight, avoid throwing a wrench in the project by starting something new halfway through, and lean on each other's encouragement when you feel like quitting. Every marriage will face hard things together, whether a DIY project, a job, a ministry opportunity, or raising kids, and they hope their story helps you persevere and remember that your children are watching how you finish.
About Aaron & Jennifer Smith
Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.
In This Episode
The backstory — taking in 23 chickens and building a 400-square-foot coop from recycled lumber
Count the cost — thinking through what a project will require before you commit
Heed your spouse's wisdom — why your spouse's insight can save you time and frustration
Don't start something new mid-stream — how a landscaping detour slowed the coop down
Push through together — using encouragement when one of you wants to quit
Ministry at home — why finishing hard projects matters to the kids who are watching
Weekly challenge — write a letter of affirmation and share it with each other
Scripture Referenced
Colossians 3:23; Galatians 6:9; Proverbs 14:23
Resources from This Episode
Today's episode is brought to you by our book set 31 Prayers For My Future Husband / Wife. Now, most of our listeners are probably already married, so you won't need this set. But you do know someone who could benefit from it. A teenager, niece or nephew, a friend. These books include 31 days of prayers for a person desiring to get married one day, maybe they are currently single or maybe they are already engaged. This book set will be a blessing to read and pray through. So if you are single or in a serious relationship but not yet married, or if you know someone who would be excited to know more about these books, please go to Shop.marriageaftergod.Com or even Amazon:
31 Prayers For My Future Husband by Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
31 Prayers For My Future Wife by Aaron Smith (also in our shop)
Love Does by Bob Goff
Check out our marriage resources!
Sponsors: Get our new book The Marriage Gift - 365 prayers for your marriage!
The Marriage Gift: 365 Prayers for Our Marriage by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Full show notes and blog post
Connect with Marriage After God
Website: marriageaftergod.com
Shop books, devotionals, and prayer journals: shop.marriageaftergod.com
Follow Marriage After God: Instagram · Facebook · YouTube · TikTok
Follow Aaron and Jennifer: Husband Revolution · Unveiled Wife
Want to go deeper? Become a patron and help us keep creating resources for marriages that pursue God together.
If this conversation encouraged you, please share it with a couple you love, and subscribe wherever you listen.
As an Amazon Associate, Marriage After God earns from qualifying purchases.
Smith Family Resources, Inc © 2026
53 min
October 20, 2022 Does Your Past Baggage Affect Your Present Marriage?
The hurts, fears, and lies we carry into marriage, and four steps to let God clean them out
About This Episode
Using the picture of a backpack or laundry bag, Aaron and Jennifer discuss the kinds of baggage we might still be lugging around in life and marriage: past hurts, addictions, fears, and lies we believe about ourselves. Often these things are subconscious, but for the believer, God eventually works them to the surface. They share personal stories, including Aaron's harsh and argumentative communication style and the identity markers he held onto out of insecurity, and they talk about the difference between a thoughtful response and a quick reaction. Because it is easy to see our spouse's faults and hard to see our own, they offer four actionable steps for cleaning out baggage and invite you to let God adjust, heal, or eliminate whatever is holding you back from a peaceful, joyful marriage.
About Aaron & Jennifer Smith
Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.
In This Episode
The backpack we carry — how past hurts, fears, and lies follow us into marriage
Reacting vs. responding — why baggage triggers quick reactions instead of self-controlled responses
Aaron's baggage — a harsh communication style and the insecurity behind it
The plank in your own eye — why we see our spouse's faults more clearly than our own
Four steps to clean it out — humble yourself, confess it, pray for transformation, and request accountability
Weekly challenge — surprise your spouse, or tackle a task they haven't had time for
Scripture Referenced
2 Corinthians 5:17; Ephesians 5:8; Romans 12:2; Psalm 32:3-4; Matthew 7:1-5; 2 Corinthians 3:17-18
Resources from This Episode
This episode is brought to you by our 31 prayers for my son and daughter devotionals.
31 Prayers For My Son by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
31 Prayers For My Daughter by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Check out our marriage resources!
Sponsors: Get our new book The Marriage Gift - 365 prayers for your marriage!
The Marriage Gift: 365 Prayers for Our Marriage by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Full show notes and blog post
Connect with Marriage After God
Website: marriageaftergod.com
Shop books, devotionals, and prayer journals: shop.marriageaftergod.com
Follow Marriage After God: Instagram · Facebook · YouTube · TikTok
Follow Aaron and Jennifer: Husband Revolution · Unveiled Wife
Want to go deeper? Become a patron and help us keep creating resources for marriages that pursue God together.
If this conversation encouraged you, please share it with a couple you love, and subscribe wherever you listen.
As an Amazon Associate, Marriage After God earns from qualifying purchases.
Smith Family Resources, Inc © 2026
56 min
October 13, 2022 Questions to Ask Your Spouse: A Light and Candid Conversation
Unscripted questions about childhood, fears, parenting, and purpose, and how light talks build closeness
About This Episode
Sometimes all we need is a light and candid conversation with our spouse. In this episode, Aaron and Jennifer take turns answering questions and give their unscripted, candid answers about childhood memories, favorite foods, irrational fears, parenting, careers, and moments they would relive. They even discuss whether to have a sixth child. The format models how easy, lighthearted conversations can build closeness and quality time in marriage, no matter how long you have been together. They reflect that what makes them unique as a couple is their flexibility and willingness to throw ideas at the wall and enjoy the journey more than the end result, and they close by talking about purpose: following Christ as the one purpose that permeates marriage, parenting, and work.
About Aaron & Jennifer Smith
Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.
In This Episode
Childhood memories — favorite foods and moments from growing up
Irrational fears — honest, unguarded answers
What they would relive — memories worth going back to
A sixth child? — an unscripted conversation about their family
What makes them unique — flexibility and enjoying the journey over the end result
Purpose — following Christ as the purpose behind marriage, parenting, and work
Weekly challenge — explore a new area together or with your family
Resources from This Episode
This episode is sponsored by our 31 Prayers devotionals for husbands and wives:
Thirty-One Prayers For My Husband by Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Thirty-One Prayers For My Wife by Aaron Smith (also in our shop)
Check out our marriage resources!
Sponsors: Get our new book The Marriage Gift - 365 prayers for your marriage!
The Marriage Gift: 365 Prayers for Our Marriage by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Full show notes and blog post
Connect with Marriage After God
Website: marriageaftergod.com
Shop books, devotionals, and prayer journals: shop.marriageaftergod.com
Follow Marriage After God: Instagram · Facebook · YouTube · TikTok
Follow Aaron and Jennifer: Husband Revolution · Unveiled Wife
Want to go deeper? Become a patron and help us keep creating resources for marriages that pursue God together.
If this conversation encouraged you, please share it with a couple you love, and subscribe wherever you listen.
As an Amazon Associate, Marriage After God earns from qualifying purchases.
Smith Family Resources, Inc © 2026
1 hr 1 min
October 06, 2022 God’s Plan vs Ours
When missions, family, and business didn't go as planned, and what God was really after: obedience
About This Episode
How do you respond when your plans are not fulfilled as you hoped? Aaron and Jennifer look back on how missionary work, having five kids, and homeschooling all went differently than they first imagined, and they share a business example where orders from Hobby Lobby surged and then shrank, forcing Aaron to surrender his sense of security. Aaron pushes back on oversimplified open-door, closed-door discernment and suggests that God is mostly after our obedience and how we respond, which is our sanctification, rather than simply revealing which path to take. They offer trust, humility, and stillness as antidotes when life doesn't go to plan, anchored in Proverbs 16:9: the heart of a man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.
About Aaron & Jennifer Smith
Aaron and Jennifer Smith are the founders of Marriage After God and authors of Husband After God, Wife After God, and Marriage After God. Married since 2007 and raising six children in Bend, Oregon, they started Husband Revolution and Unveiled Wife to share what God was teaching them, not from a place of having it figured out, but as fellow travelers pointing couples back to Jesus.
In This Episode
Plans that changed — missionary work, five kids, and homeschooling
A business lesson — when Hobby Lobby orders surged and then shrank
Surrendering security — letting go of what we lean on instead of God
Open doors and closed doors — why discernment is about more than picking a path
Obedience and sanctification — what God is after in how we respond
Trust, humility, and stillness — practical antidotes when plans fall apart
Jeremiah 29:11 reframed — a fresh look at a favorite promise
Weekly challenge — outdo your spouse with random acts of kindness, then do one together for someone else
Scripture Referenced
Proverbs 16:9; Proverbs 3:5-6; 1 Peter 5:6; Psalm 46:10; Revelation 8:1; Proverbs 19:21; Jeremiah 29:11; Ephesians 2:10; Philippians 1:6
Resources from This Episode
This week's episode is brought to you by our book "Marriage After God: Chasing Boldly After God’s Purpose for Your Life Together." One of our motivations for writing Marriage After God was to help inspire couples to consider how they can use what they have to serve God together. Sometimes we need that “out of the box” thinking to get us to see the bigger picture or possibilities that lay right in front of us. Instead of seeing ministry as a Sunday service practice, we encourage couples to see their marriage as a ministry, a reflection of God’s love in this world. Grab your copy today: Marriage After God by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop)
Sponsor: The Marriage Gift: 365 Prayers for Our Marriage by Aaron & Jennifer Smith (also in our shop) · themarriagegift.com
Full show notes and blog post
Connect with Marriage After God
Website: marriageaftergod.com
Shop books, devotionals, and prayer journals: shop.marriageaftergod.com
Follow Marriage After God: Instagram · Facebook · YouTube · TikTok
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