Marriage and Intimacy Tips for Christian Couples: Secrets of Happily Ever After

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Feeling the pressure of life's relentless to-do list and summer bucket list?

In the finale episode of my third season, I'm revealing exactly how to ensure all of your relationships flourish, even when life throws chaos and overwhelm at you.  I'll teach you with my number one HACK to keep your calm and carry on, regardless of the hustle and bustle that may come your way. Get ready to fortify your bonds and strengthen all of your relationship with these simple and practical thoughts and gestures.


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I'm taking a short break for the summer to love on my family, but I'll be back soon with brand new and improved episodes and interviews you won't want to miss. So, here's to a summer of love, laughter, and gratitude, and I can't wait to engage with you when I return for an exciting fourth season starting in August.

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Ever wonder how some couples seem to navigate the ebbs and flows of marriage with grace and a smile? 

This week, I'm chatting with Brian and Jen Goins from Family Life, who join us to share their 27 years of wisdom on building a relationship that thrives.  We discuss the everyday skills essential for cultivating both individuality and unity in marriage. This episode isn't just about the dos and don'ts—it's an exploration of the delicate art of compromise, the celebration of our partner's uniqueness, and the passion that can be ignited through embracing our differences.

Laughter and code words might sound like the ingredients for a spy novel, but in this episode, they're the secret spices for a strong marriage. We're not only talking about the romantic side of things but also about how to handle tough conversations with grace and love.  And for those moments when challenges arise, we discuss the transformative power of seeking guidance and the strength found in having a community to support your marital journey.

Brian and Jen provide real-life examples of how to keep the spark alive.  If you're looking to strengthen the foundation of your marriage with compassion, laughter, and a good dose of reality, this episode will equip you with the tools to not just weather the storms but also to dance in the rain. Join us for this enriching episode that's as much about friendship and fun as it is about love and loyalty.

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Wondering what it takes to keep passion burning HOT  in the hustle of daily life?

Alex and Katie Dutton join me this week to share the sparks of truth behind their EveryLove adventure—a service that's rekindling the fire in marriages through creative date night packages and model-free lingerie.

They tell their story of entrepreneurship entwined with the commitment to nurturing a deep, intimate bond amidst the beautiful chaos of raising children and juggling careers.

We go over the critical steps to prioritize intimacy, stressing the importance of defining its meaning for each individual.  We also cover aligning expectations and fostering open communication as well as how to schedule intimate moments without losing spontaneity, but ensuring that the love between you and your partner gets the attention it deserves.

As we wrap up, the focus shifts to the power of community in supporting a happy marriage.  We leave you with an invitation to not just listen but to actively engage with us, as we champion the notion that 'Happily Ever After' isn't just a fairytale ending—it's a reality crafted with intentionality, love, and a little help from friends.

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Have you ever felt like your conversations with loved ones are getting a little dry?

This week's interview with Emmy Award-winner, Topaz Adizes shatters that pattern, unveiling "12 Questions for Love" to revolutionize our understanding of intimate dialogues. 

Topaz is known for his work on The { } And project and shares how carefully crafted questions can peel back the layers we often unintentionally wrap around those closest to us, liberating our relationships from the confines of the metaphorical boxes we've built.

My discussion with Topaz sheds light on the magic of road trip-like environments that encourage raw, uninterrupted conversation, showing us how to replicate this space in our daily lives. Through anecdotes and insights, we unlock the secret to nurturing conversations that evolve as our relationships deepen, emphasizing the role of intentionality and the settings we create for fostering openness and vulnerability.

This episode serves as a gentle reminder to approach our loved ones with empowering questions that inspire growth and understanding. 

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Ready to become the author of your own love story?

In this week's episode, I tackle the dreaded 'intimacy death traps,' dissecting the root causes that lead to disconnection and providing a comprehensive 5-step framework to navigate your way back to a fulfilling partnership. 

This isn't your run-of-the-mill relationship advice; it's a deep dive into taking responsibility, fostering judgment-free communication, and why initiating change can be your romantic game-changer.

 I'll be guiding you through the intricacies of assuming responsibility for the passion that's slipped through the cracks and how a simple shift towards curiosity and acceptance can transform your relationship dynamics. 

Discover the 'cheat code' to involving a third party in rebuilding intimacy, and learn why expressing love without restraint could be your ticket out of complacency. 

This episode isn't just about falling back into love—it's about creating a love that's going to grow, no matter how many anniversaries you've celebrated. Join me on this intimate journey towards happily ever after.

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As a seasoned relationship coach and intimacy expert, I've seen firsthand how easily couples can fall into intimacy death traps, letting the initial spark of their relationship dim. But fear not! I'm here to arm you with the knowledge to identify these traps and the strategies to avoid them. 

This week's episode is for anyone hoping to breathe new life into their intimate relationship. I invite you to reflect and engage with me by sharing your experiences and challenges. 

Your stories and feedback are the heart of our community, and together, we'll overcome the traps that keep couples trapped for decades. So, if you're ready to transform your marriage from mediocre to extraordinary, tune in and let's start crafting your love story with the skill and intention it deserves. 

For ongoing support in how to sidestep these intimacy death traps, be sure to check out the Passionate Marriage Club here --> https://monicatanner.com/club

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Have you ever wondered what it's like to trade in the hustle and bustle of city life for the compact serenity of an Airstream? 

Join me as I sit down with Caley Rose and Karl Walker, a Billboard charting singer-songwriter and a user experience designer, who did just that. Embarking on a life less ordinary, they've navigated the highs and lows of transforming a trailer into a home, all while keeping their relationship thriving. Their story isn't just about shared space; it's about shared dreams, from music to design, and the delicate dance of supporting each other's creative ambitions without losing sight of family values.

Caley and Karl open up about the intricacies of a partnership where career paths diverge—Kaylee's melodies filling venues and Carl's tech expertise shaping user interactions. How do they do it? By crafting their unique blend of support, understanding, and adaptability, they reveal the secret sauce to pursuing individual passions while maintaining a fulfilling relationship.

As we wrap up, they share exciting news about the future as they prepare to add another member to their family and entertain the idea of installing solar panels. Their journey of growth and empowerment is a testament to the importance of finding a partner who champions your aspirations. Caley and Karl's love story is one for the modern age, proving that with the right person by your side, the adventure never truly ends—it just evolves.

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Today I'm serving up an episode that reveals how the team spirit of volleyball can spike the joy in your marriage. Imagine applying the same strategies that lead a volleyball team to victory to your own partnership; think encouragement, well-defined roles, and celebrating every win together. I'll share with you the secrets of a successful team—secrets that can transform your marriage into a partnership where gratitude is the net, acknowledgment is the ball, and positivity is the winning play.

Full of puns and analogies from spending a weekend in a giant convention center in Las Vegas surrounded by hundreds of volleyball games going simultaneously, I had some strong thoughts of how elite teams work together towards victory and how this applies to marriage.

I'm also thrilled to introduce the Passionate Marriage Club, an exclusive membership designed to help couples like you strengthen their bond and actively work towards their very own happily ever after. Become part of a community that believes in learning new relational skills and practicing them until it becomes second nature. Learn more about the Passionate Marriage Club here --> https://monicatanner.com/club

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Could your marriage become stronger if you considered divorce as a viable option? 

Today, I'm chatting with relationship coach Sharon Pope, as we uncover the paradoxical notion that acknowledging the possibility of divorce can actually reinforce a marriage. 
We delve into the power of choice and how it can lead to a more intentional and fulfilling partnership. Throughout our conversation, we emphasize the importance of setting healthy boundaries and reveal why trying to control our partner's commitment often backfires, leaving a trail of unhappiness and discontent.

As societal roles evolve, so do the dynamics within a marriage. Sharon and I discuss the new terrain of gender expectations and responsibilities, dissecting how modern marriages are adapting—or struggling—to keep pace. We cast light on the silent signals that a relationship may be veering off course and stress the urgency of addressing issues promptly. Whether it's cultivating a space for open dialogue or recognizing when it's time to seek professional help, we guide you through the critical choices that can either rejuvenate your relationship or lead you to part ways with grace and certainty.

This episode addresses the complexities of maintaining intimacy amidst the demands of parenthood. We share strategies for nurturing your connection and why it's essential to remain curious about your evolving spouse. In addition, we explore how relationship coaching can provide the toolkit needed for couples to flourish through adversity. 

So, whether you're looking to reignite the spark in your marriage or contemplating the crossroads of "stay or go," this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice for embracing the continuous journey of love and partnership.

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How many times have you said something like, we'll work on our marriage when... the kids get a little older, our business is more successful or we have more money/time? 

I'm here to share why this approach may cost you more than you think. This heartfelt episode peels back the layers on the myth that there's a "right time" to focus on your spouse and kids, revealing how this mindset can lead to emotional disconnection and even conflict. 

I'm offering practical strategies to ensure your marriage thrives no matter what stage of child-rearing, business or financial stability you are in.  Discover how to intertwine a relationship-first philosophy into your busy schedule, avoiding the pitfalls that many ambitious parents or entrepreneurs fall into.

It's all about action – realigning your daily priorities to put your marriage and family front and center.  We'll talk about gratitude practices, the magic of date nights, and the irreplaceable value of quality time with your family. And for those who find striking this balance challenging, I open up about how professional help, like the services I provide, can revolutionize your relationships. 

Tune in for a powerful reminder that your greatest achievements should never come at the cost of the relationships that mean the most.