Marriage & Motherhood - How To Reconnect With Your Spouse After Kids

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Do you ever find yourself thinking, “I love my husband, but I feel so alone”?
 

After kids, so many moms quietly carry the weight of loneliness in their marriage. Feeling like everything falls on them, like they’ve lost themselves, and like they’re more roommates than romantic partners.

In this episode, we’re diving into why so many moms feel alone in marriage after having kids and how you can start turning things around.

Here’s what I cover in this episode:

• Why loneliness happens in marriage after kids
• Signs you’re experiencing disconnection
• How to rebuild connection without needing a perfect date night

If you’re ready to feel reconnected in your marriage, I invite you to schedule a free clarity call with me. We’ll get to the root of what’s going on and map out your next steps towards a more connected marriage.

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Do you feel like your life falls apart every time your routine gets disrupted?

Many moms experience burnout trying to stick to rigid routines that just don’t work for real-life motherhood. In this empowering episode, I sat down with Siobhan Bingham, motherhood coach and host of the Everwell Mama Podcast, to explore the powerful shift from routines to rhythms.

In this episode, we cover:

• The difference between routines and rhythms — and why rhythms are more sustainable for moms
• How rigid routines can fuel guilt and burnout
• How shifting your mindset around structure helps you and your kids thrive
• Simple, real-life examples of what following a rhythm looks like
• Why honoring your energy is a skill worth modeling for your children
• Small changes that make a big difference in your day-to-day experience

If you’ve been craving more peace, presence, and permission to do things differently as a mom, this episode is for you!

Connect with Siobhan!

IG: @everwellcoaching

Podcast: Everwell Mama Podcast

Download Siobhan’s FREE Tired Moms Reset Kit here!

Thank you for listening!

If you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Do you keep having the same fight in your marriage?

You’re not alone. Repetitive arguments can feel like emotional déjà vu—same topic, same tone, same result. Eventually, you start to wonder if things will ever actually change.

In this episode, I’m diving into why these same fights happen over and over again, what deeper emotional needs are often hiding beneath the surface, and what it really takes to break the cycle for good.

This conversation is for you if:

• You feel emotionally drained after every argument
• You’re stuck in the same dynamic, hoping it’ll magically change
• You’re ready to try something different—because trying harder isn’t working

If you’re feeling stuck or exhausted by the same arguments, I invite you to schedule a free clarity call with me. We’ll get to the root of what’s going on and map out your next steps toward a more connected marriage.

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Is the clutter in your home stressing you out more than you'd like?

In this episode, I welcome back clutter-free coach Deanna Yates to explore how our physical environment impacts our mental wellbeing. We dive into the emotional and practical side of clutter, why it accumulates, and how to create a more peaceful home without waiting for a huge decluttering weekend that never comes.

Tune in to hear:

- The real reasons moms buy too much stuff (it’s not just consumerism)
- How overstimulation from clutter affects your nervous system
- What clutter actually is—and why it’s different for everyone
- How to start small (and time it) so decluttering feels manageable
- How to get your kids involved—without tears or tantrums
- Why working as a family team matters more than perfection

Plus, Deanna shares her amazing new children’s book, Lenora and Her Super Duper Messy Room, which helps kids learn the value of letting go and creating space they love.

Whether your house is a total disaster or just needs some tweaks, this episode will help you start clearing physical (and mental) space—one simple step at a time.

Connect with Deanna:
https://wannabeclutterfree.com

IG: @wannabeclutterfree

Thank you for listening!

If you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Feeling disconnected from your spouse between date nights?
If you’ve ever planned a long-awaited date only to feel awkward or underwhelmed during it—or felt like the spark didn’t last—you’re not alone. This episode dives into why waiting for a big night out isn’t the answer and how to build lasting connection in your daily life instead.

As a marriage coach (and mom), I’m sharing how my husband and I stay connected without regular date nights by focusing on micro-connections.

In this episode I share:

• Why date nights aren't enough to stay connected
• What micro-connections are and how they create a strong emotional foundation
• Simple, doable ways to reconnect with your partner in the middle of your busy life
• Real-life examples of how to weave intentional moments into your daily routine
• How to shift your mindset from “we’ll connect when we can” to “we’re always building connection”

This episode is for you if:

• You feel like roommates more than romantic partners
• You’re exhausted and don’t have time or energy for grand gestures
• You want to feel smitten with your spouse again, even in the chaos of parenthood

Ready to feel like a couple again? Book a clarity call and let’s talk about how I can help: https://www.michellepurta.as.me/clarity

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Is it just you… or is making friends as a mom actually really hard?
You’re not imagining it. Mom friendships take more effort, more intention, and a whole lot more vulnerability than they did before motherhood.

In this episode, I’m joined by psychotherapist Patrice Payment, who specializes in supporting moms through anxiety and major life transitions. Together, we talk about something every mom goes through but no one really prepares you for—how friendships shift when you become a parent and how to build meaningful connections in the middle of nap schedules, carpool chaos, and mental overload.

Whether you’re a new mom, feeling lonely, or wondering how to meet other moms who just get it, this episode is here to help you take the first brave step to find your people.

What we cover in this episode:

• Why friendship dynamics shift so much after becoming a mom
• The identity loss and isolation that often go unnoticed
• How to meet new mom friends (even if you’re shy or socially anxious)
• Creative ways to nurture new friendships and expand your village
• The power of community in your mental and emotional health

You are not alone—and you’re not the only one craving deeper connection. Tune in for a mix of honesty, humor, and hope as we normalize what it means to build community in modern motherhood.

🔗 Connect with Patrice Payment:
Website: https://www.momlifewithp.com
Instagram: @momlifecounseling

Thank you for listening!

If you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Ever wonder if your marriage is supposed to feel this hard now that you have kids?

In this episode, I share the normal phases that every marriage goes through after becoming parents. Whether you're newlyweds, deep in the toddler trenches, or juggling multiple kids, this episode will help you understand what phase you're in and what your marriage needs to grow through it.

Tune in to hear me dive into:

• The 5 phases couples experience
• How parenting and pressure can change your marriage dynamic
• Why it’s normal to feel disconnected and what to do about it
• The key skills every phase requires
• When to seek support so you can reconnect and rebuild

Your marriage can thrive in every season, but it needs different things at different times. Learn how to meet your relationship where it’s at so you can grow together, not apart.

Resources mentioned:

Grab the Marriage 360 Assessment here!

Schedule your clarity call here!

Thank you for listening!

If you resonated with this episode and you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!
  
  

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Have you ever felt like your body is working against you and it’s affecting your marriage, your parenting, and your mental health?

In this episode, I am joined by functional gut health coach and family nurse practitioner Lola MacLean to explore the gut-brain connection and how your gut health might be the hidden cause of irritability, emotional instability, fatigue, and even communication breakdowns in your marriage.

Tune in to hear us chat about:

• What gut health really is and why it matters for your physical and emotional well-being
• Signs and symptoms of poor gut health (that we often normalize)
• How gut imbalances can mimic or worsen ADHD, anxiety, and depression
• How your digestive health affects you
• What perimenopause and hormone changes do to your gut microbiome
• Healing your gut

Whether you're dealing with bloating, mood swings, or you’re just plain exhausted—this episode is a must-listen. Discover how improving your gut health might just be the thing that transforms your marriage, parenting, and peace of mind.

Connect with Lola!

Instagram - @lolamacleandnp
Website- www.haelanempowered.com

Thank you for listening!

If you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Are you and your spouse just navigating a rough patch—or is your marriage calling out for help?

This is one of the most common questions I get from couples, especially after kids enter the picture. When things feel hard, it can be difficult to know whether to wait it out or to take action.

In this episode, I walk you through the signs of a rough patch vs. deeper issues in your marriage. I break down what each looks like, what questions to ask yourself, and how to tell if your marriage would benefit from getting outside support.

What's covered in this episode:

• What qualifies as a “rough patch” in marriage
• Signs your marriage may be struggling
• Key questions to help you figure out where your relationship stands
• What to do if you realize you need help

Whether you’re tired, checked out, or just not sure what’s going on—this episode will give you clarity on what to do next.

Ready to feel like a team again and set your marriage up for success?
Book a clarity call to get the support you and your marriage deserve!

Thank you for listening!

If you resonated with this episode and you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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Do you ever feel guilty for working, yelling, taking time for yourself or just wanting a break?

If so, you’re not alone. You’re a mom living with a whole lot of pressure from invisible rules you never actually agreed to.

This week on the podcast, I’m joined by intuitive coach and author Alysia Lyons to explore a powerful new way to look at mom guilt — not as something to get rid of, but as something to listen to.

Instead of trying to silence the guilt or shame yourself for feeling it, what if you could decode what it’s actually trying to tell you?

We dive into:

• Why guilt shows up even when you know you're doing your best
• The hidden "Good Mom Rules" you're probably following without realizing it
• How guilt can silently affect your relationship with your kids, your marriage, and yourself
• The two key tools for turning guilt into clarity, alignment, and peace

This episode is for you if:

• You’re tired of hearing “don’t feel guilty” when the feeling won’t go away
• You want to stop living reactively and start feeling empowered in motherhood
• You’re ready to rewrite the rules you inherited and create a motherhood experience that fits you

Connect with Alysia!

IG: @coachalysialyons

Website: www.alysialyons.com

Thank you for listening!

If you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarity

Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!

If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!

Additional Resources:

• Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)
• Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!
• Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

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