Me, Myself & I ZA

The hustle and bustle of this year has been REAL and I’m already feeling the effects. That’s why I really wanted us to focus on self-care this month because when we’re on the move, I think we sometimes forget to really take care of ourselves because we’re so busy, often, due to responsibilities towards everything else but ourselves.

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It’s the month of love and on Me, Myself & I, when February comes around, we usually focus on prioritising loving yourself better and this year we’re actually looking at loving yourself better through self-acceptance. 

So according to an article on the Harvard Health Publishing website, self-acceptance is defined as “an individual’s acceptance of all of his or her attributes, positive or negative” and this is a very important discussion to have because sometimes you can definitely love yourself but whether you love yourself, flaws and all is the real question. 

You see, it’s easy to love yourself based on all the positive things you like about yourself but loving yourself with your mistakes, flaws and weaknesses can be a little harder to do because these things are a little harder to accept.  

On this episode, we’ll chat more about it with Rox Marthinussen, a women’s lifestyle coach and founder of The Staple Life and she helps women take back ownership of their lives so that they can essentially show up as their best in all areas of their lives

I’m super excited to share this conversation with you because she touches on so many amazing nuggets that have not only been spoken about on previous episodes but nuggets that can really help all of us on our own journey of self-acceptance

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Women are naturally born nurturers. They’re often taking care of everything and everyone around them, even to their detriment, and sadly, this is passed down through generations, over time – not always intentionally - but somehow this perception that a woman needs to take care of everyone and everything is just a given.

Even though things are vastly different now, with women often juggling work and home life, sometimes they’re still expected to fulfil the exact same role that women fulfilled years ago, leaving even less room to take care of themselves. This leaves them feeling incredibly overwhelmed and exhausted.

In this episode, I’ll be speaking to the woman who’s tired and feeling guilty for not being able to juggle it all. Who’s feeling guilty for needing and yearning for rest.

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We’re halfway through the year and if you work in an industry that’s constantly on the go, it’s probably BEEN a year. If I had to ask you how you’re feeling, you’d probably something along the lines of:

"I’m tired"

"I’m over it"

"I’m done"

But while you may be feeling quite negative towards your work life right now, are you actually taking the time to rest? To take things a little more slower in your daily work routine? Or are you constantly pushing yourself to the point where your body will eventually force you to rest?

"When you know, you do better," is a famous quote by Maya Angelou. It’s a quote that has become really relevant in my own life because I’ve intentionally made the decision to do better now that I know better. But reaching this point where you can intentionally and, at times, instinctively, just do better based on past experiences is a process and, sometimes, we actually don’t do better even if we know better. In this episode, I’ll be breaking down 7 reasons, in my view, why that might be the case and how that's actually sabotaging your growth.

Becoming can mean a lot of different things to different people. Becoming is, of course, the title of Michelle Obama’s memoir and, to sum it up, she defines it as always, continually evolving because there is never ever a point where you arrive at a thing and you stop learning or stop growing.

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Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you knew you should be leaving or ending a bad relationship but you find yourself staying? And the reason you stay is because you tend to make up all these excuses about why it’s better to stay. These can include excuses like:

Or, you tell yourself, “But you love them” or “You’ve been through so much together”

Or, you simply wonder: ‘what if this is the last chance at my happily ever after?’

You worry whether you’d actually find anyone better than this person because, despite the poor treatment, they do treat you well – sometimes.

But have you ever wondered that, while you’re so worried about whether you can actually find someone better out there after this person, sometimes being alone could be the upgrade?

In this episode, I outline some key signs to look out for that indicate that maybe being alone is better – and it gets really personal.

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Being single can so easily be associated with being lonely because society often believes that in order to be happy and feel complete, you need to be with someone. But the real secret is that feeling happy and complete doesn’t lie in being with someone but it actually lies in how well you do without someone, which takes a lot of work. So, this episode is something that I'd like to label this as the art of not feeling lonely.

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It’s the month of love and it's a month that usually has us so wrapped up in the love we should be showing someone else but we never actually speak about the love we should be giving ourselves instead and how we can actually love ourselves better. In 'Journeying Toward Self-Love', I look at 12 lessons I learnt that brought me closer to loving myself better over the past few years. 

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