MediatorPodcast.com - Mediation, Negotiation & Collaboration

Hi Welcome to MediatorPodcast.com - A podcast and video series about mediation, negotiation, and collaboration.  My name is Melissa Gragg, a divorce valuation and mediation expert in St. Louis Missouri.  

During this episode we will discuss How To Make Uncomfortable Situations Comfortable with Mike Gregory. Mike is a mediator in Minneapolis Minnesota, author of 13 books regarding various topics and creator of the collaboration effect ®. He is a frequent speaker and uses mediation techniques to deescalate situations. 

Welcome Mike!!

1. When did you first learn about collaboration?
2. What is collaboration versus communication?
3. What is The Collaboration Effect?
4.  What happens in our brains when we are angry and how can we stop from getting angry?
5. How can you de-escalate and help others de-escalate?
6. How does your attitude impact the process?
7. Do you address beliefs or values?
8. What type of communication works best and why to make situations more comfortable?
9. How can you build trust?
10. How can you be an active listener?
11. Why do you say "lead with compassion and listen with empathy?"
12. Do you want to share any bonus items with our audience? (The Asking Formula by John Baker and the course on Happiness from Yale University free online.)

Melissa Gragg
CVA, MAFF, CDFA
Expert testimony for financial and valuation issues
Bridge Valuation Partners, LLC
[email protected]
http://www.BridgeValuation.com
http://www.ValuationPodcast.com
http://www.MediatorPodcast.com
https://www.valuationmediation.com
Cell: (314) 541-8163 

Michael Gregory
NSA, MBA, ASA, CVA
Michael Gregory Consulting, LLC
Founder/Owner
Conflict Resolution Specialist | Speaker| Author
651.633.5311
mikegreg.com

Hi Welcome to MediatorPodcast.com - A podcast and video series about mediation, negotiation, and collaboration.  My name is Melissa Gragg, I provide online valuation, divorce and mediation services in St. Louis, Missouri.  

Today we will discuss Forensic Psychology and Mediation with Shari Belitz. Shari is an attorney, trial, jury and litigation consultant in New York. She also owns educational company that teaches psychology to litigators. 

 
Welcome Shari!

1. Tell us about your background and how you are helping attorneys.
2. How does Social Psychology play into litigation and mediation?
3. What is cognitive bias?
4. What is Anchoring?
5. What is Adjustment?
6. How does “Anchoring” and “Adjustment” show up in mediation and settlement negotiations?
7. What are some strategies to counter balance these cognitive biases?
   1. Refute the anchor
   2. Offer data as to why the anchor is incorrect
   3. Set your own data-backed anchor
8. Can we walk through an example using these strategies – when a business valuation is involved and maybe there is an offer on the table that is really low?
9. What are some other ways to use psychology in the mediation or negotiation process?
10. Tell us how attorneys and mediators can work with you. 

Melissa Gragg
CVA, MAFF, CDFA
Expert testimony for financial and valuation issues
Bridge Valuation Partners, LLC
[email protected]
http://www.BridgeValuation.com
http://www.ValuationPodcast.com
http://www.MediatorPodcast.com
https://www.valuationmediation.com
Cell: (314) 541-8163 

Shari Belitz
Litigation Strategist | CEO of Shari Belitz Communications | Founder of EnPSYCHLAWpedia™ | Best Selling Author | Keynote Speaker
Email : [email protected]
Telephone: 1 (929) 457-3030
https://www.linkedin.com/in/shariebelitz/

Hi Welcome to MediatorPodcast.com - A podcast and video series about mediation, negotiation, and collaboration.  My name is Melissa Gragg, I provide online valuation, divorce and mediation services in St. Louis, Missouri.   

Today we will discuss Independent Legal Advice and Divorce Mediation with Lauren Hunt. Lauren is family law attorney who focuses on divorce, prenuptial agreements, child support, child custody and parenting time, and adoption in New York. 

Welcome Lauren!

1. What are the benefits to hiring legal counsel in addition to a mediator?
2. Do both parties have to hire independent counsel when going through mediation? Can only one party hire an attorney in mediation?
3. What are a few similarities and differences between mediation and collaborative divorce?
4. What does it mean to live under a separation agreement?
5. How does an uncontested divorce differ from a separation agreement?
6. How can couples save on attorney fees when they decide to separate?
7. If a spouse contacts you for divorce purposes and pays in cash, what do you suggest for next steps? At what point do they need to tell the other spouse?
8.  After a high conflict couple is officially separated, is there any need for mediation after the fact?
9. Can you explain what BIFF is?
10. Tell us more about you and your firm!

Melissa Gragg
CVA, MAFF, CDFA
Expert testimony for financial and valuation issues
Bridge Valuation Partners, LLC
[email protected]
http://www.BridgeValuation.com
http://www.ValuationPodcast.com
http://www.MediatorPodcast.com
https://www.valuationmediation.com
Cell: (314) 541-8163 

Lauren L. Hunt, Esq.
125 Wolf Road, Suite 503-10
Albany, NY 12205
T: 518-282-7300 
F: 518-734-0749
https://www.laurenhuntesq.com
[email protected]

Hi Welcome to MediatorPodcast.com - A podcast and video series about mediation, negotiation, and collaboration. My name is Melissa Gragg, I provide online valuation, divorce and mediation services in St. Louis, Missouri.  

Today we will discuss Divorce, Mediation and Grief: Why Healing is Important with Karen Millon. Karen is the Founder of Healin, Experienced Entrepreneur in the Healthcare Space, Transformational Coach, Host of the HealIN Podcast, and Author of An Amazing Divorce.  

Welcome Karen!! 

1. Tell us a little how you got into your current space of healing after divorce? 
2. How do you think grief relates to the divorce process? 
3. Why do you think couples skip over the healing process pre and/or post-divorce? 
4. What are the benefits for a person to start the healing process during and after divorce? 
5. Do both parties need to take steps towards healing to have a successful divorce? 
6. Couples are looking more and more for alternative ways to separate – such as mediation. Why do you think the narrative of divorce is changing? 
7. Do you think business partners or couples who are considering mediation to settle a dispute should begin some sort of healing process prior? 
8. What are a few ways a person can heal from divorce, besides traditional counseling? 
9. Do you have any success stories of clients who found healing through your coaching services? 
10. Tell us more about you and your coaching services 

 
Melissa Gragg
CVA, MAFF, CDFA
Expert testimony for financial and valuation issues
Bridge Valuation Partners, LLC
[email protected]
http://www.BridgeValuation.com
http://www.ValuationPodcast.com
http://www.MediatorPodcast.com
https://www.valuationmediation.com  
Cell: (314) 541-8163 

Karen Millon  
Transformational Coach
Host of the HealIn Podcast
Author of An Amazing Divorce
www.healin.net
New York, New York 10004
Karen Millon on LinkedIN
@healinwithkaren on Instagram/FB
e: [email protected]
p: 848 303 0143 

Hi Welcome to MediatorPodcast.com - A podcast and video series about mediation, negotiation and collaboration.  My name is Melissa Gragg, I provide online valuation, divorce and mediation services in St. Louis, Missouri.  

In this week’s episode we will discuss the book “How to Live Forever: A Guide to Writing the Final Chapter of Your Life Story” with Kimberly Best, a registered nurse, mediator, and conflict coach based in Franklin, TN and author of the book we will discuss today. 

Welcome Kim!! 

1. Why did you write this book? 
2. What can I learn from reading the book? 
3. Let’s talk about dying…... 
4. What decisions do people struggle with around end of life?  
5. How can mediation help? 
6. Any stories of mediation helping families finish well? 

Melissa Gragg
CVA, MAFF, CDFA
Expert testimony for financial and valuation issues
http://www.BridgeValuation.com
Cell: (314) 541-8163
Bridge Valuation Partners, LLC
[email protected]
https://www.valuationmediation.com 
https://www.mediatorpodcast.com
https://www.valuationpodcast.com  

Kimberly Best
RN, MA
Best Conflict Solutions
318 Canton Stone Dr.
Franklin, TN 37067
615.438.6942
[email protected] 
bestconflictsolutions.com 

Hi Welcome to MediatorPodcast.com - A podcast and video series about mediation, negotiation and collaboration.  My name is Melissa Gragg, I provide online valuation, divorce and mediation services in St. Louis, Missouri.  
 
In this week’s episode we will discuss  How to be Financially Prepared for Mediation with Karen Chellew. 
 
For over 30 years, Karen has worked in the legal field as a paralegal and business manager. She is an affiliate member of the American Bar Association (ABA) Dispute Resolution Committee, and a certified QDRO Administrator. The My Divorce Solution team includes a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) to develop your financial portrait, the document containing the financial data any couple would need to make clear financial decisions for their future. As a Legal Liaison and QDRO Administrator, she helps support your legal team and facilitate connections with critical resources. With our combined professional and personal experience, we are uniquely qualified to assist clients through the divorce process. 
 
 
Welcome Karen! 
 

1. What are five ways to be financially prepared for mediation? 
2. Access – what do you have and what documents are missing? 
3. What are the components of your marital estate? 
4. How are the financial components handled in court? 
5. Do you know your options? 
6. Do you know where you can and/or want to compromise? 
7. What is a QDRO or Qualified Domestic Relations Order? 
8. How does a couple work with you? Or attorney or mediator? 

 
Melissa Gragg
CVA, MAFF, CDFA
Expert testimony for financial and valuation issues
http://www.BridgeValuation.com
Cell: (314) 541-8163
Bridge Valuation Partners, LLC
[email protected]
https://www.valuationmediation.com 
 
 
Karen Chellew 
Legal Liaison
https://mydivorcesolution.com  
[email protected] 
215.486.8347 | 843.929.0399

Hi Welcome to MediatorPodcast.com - A podcast and video series about mediation, negotiation and collaboration.  My name is Melissa Gragg, I provide online valuation, divorce and mediation services in St. Louis, Missouri. 
 
In this week’s episode we will discuss  do you have What It Takes To Be a Mediator with Kimberly Best, a registered nurse, mediator, and conflict coach based in Franklin, TN and author of How to Live Forever -  A guide to writing the final chapter of your life story and Elliot Herland, a mediator focused on workers’ compensation cases, based in Minneapolis, and Vice Chair of the ABA Section of Dispute Resolution Membership Committee.
 
Welcome Kim and Elliot!!

1. How did you all get into mediation?
2. What training and continuing education is required or recommended?
3. What skills are helpful to a successful mediator?   
4. What would you like to see for the future of mediation?
5. What can a mediator do to pull in business?
6. How do you use the virtual world via social media and online networking?
 
 
 
Melissa Gragg
CVA, MAFF, CDFA
Expert testimony for financial and valuation issues
http://www.BridgeValuation.com
Cell: (314) 541-8163
Bridge Valuation Partners, LLC
[email protected]
https://www.valuationmediation.com 

Kimberly Best, RN, MA
Best Conflict Solutions
318 Canton Stone Dr.
Franklin, TN 37067
615.438.6942
[email protected] 
bestconflictsolutions.com

Elliot A. Herland
Herland Mediation Services
3881 Evermoor Parkway
Rosemount, Minnesota 55068
952-240-4005
Email: [email protected]
Website: www.herlandmediation.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/herlandmediation/
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/elliot-herland-mediation-services

Hi Welcome to MediatorPodcast.com - A podcast and video series about mediation, negotiation and collaboration.  My name is Melissa Gragg, I provide online valuation, divorce and mediation services in St. Louis, Missouri. 
 
In this week’s episode we will discuss  do you have What It Takes To Be a Mediator with Kimberly Best, a registered nurse, mediator, and conflict coach based in Franklin, TN and author of How to Live Forever -  A guide to writing the final chapter of your life story and Elliot Herland, a mediator focused on workers’ compensation cases, based in Minneapolis, and Vice Chair of the ABA Section of Dispute Resolution Membership Committee.
 
Welcome Kim and Elliot!!

1. How did you all get into mediation?
2. What training and continuing education is required or recommended?
3. What skills are helpful to a successful mediator?   
4. What would you like to see for the future of mediation?
5. What can a mediator do to pull in business?
6. How do you use the virtual world via social media and online networking?
 
 
 
Melissa Gragg
CVA, MAFF, CDFA
Expert testimony for financial and valuation issues
http://www.BridgeValuation.com
Cell: (314) 541-8163
Bridge Valuation Partners, LLC
[email protected]
https://www.valuationmediation.com 

Kimberly Best, RN, MA
Best Conflict Solutions
318 Canton Stone Dr.
Franklin, TN 37067
615.438.6942
[email protected] 
bestconflictsolutions.com

Elliot A. Herland
Herland Mediation Services
3881 Evermoor Parkway
Rosemount, Minnesota 55068
952-240-4005
Email: [email protected]
Website: www.herlandmediation.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/herlandmediation/
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/elliot-herland-mediation-services

Hi Welcome to MediatorPodcast.com - A podcast and video series about mediation, negotiation and collaboration.  My name is Melissa Gragg, I provide online valuation, divorce and mediation services in St. Louis, Missouri.   

In this week’s episode we will discuss  Family Mediation: A Unique Way to Get Divorced with Daryl Weinman, a family law attorney and mediator in Austin, Texas. Daryl has been board-certified in family law by the Texas Board of Legal Specialization since 2000, an honor granted to less than 1% of Texas attorneys, and part of the Austin Bar Association - Family Law Section, State Bar of Texas - Alternative Dispute Resolution, and the Texas Family Law Foundation. Member of American Academy of Certified Financial Litigators 

Welcome Daryl!! 

1. Mediation is a required step in Texas, do you see this as a good thing? Do divorcing couples try to stay in mediation after first experiencing it or go straight to court? 
2. What benefits do you see in mediation? 
3. How do you remain neutral throughout a mediation? 
4. What does a typical divorce mediation process look like at Weinman & Associates? 
5. How has Covid-19 changed the way you see your practice? 
6. You offer a very unique way to handle divorce. Can you tell us more about Divorce Resort and how you came up with the idea? 
7. What is the importance of a mediator continuing their education throughout their career? 
8. Tell us more about you and your firm!  

Melissa Gragg
CVA, MAFF, CDFA
Expert testimony for financial and valuation issues
http://www.BridgeValuation.com
Cell: (314) 541-8163
Bridge Valuation Partners, LLC
[email protected]
https://www.valuationmediation.com 
https://www.mediatorpodcast.com
https://www.valuationpodcast.com  

Daryl Weinman
Austin, TX
P (512) 472-4040
Fax 512-472-4086 
[email protected]
https://www.weinmanfamilylaw.com 
http://divorceresort.net  

Hi Welcome to MediatorPodcast.com - A podcast and video series about mediation, negotiation and collaboration.  My name is Melissa Gragg, I provide online valuation, divorce and mediation services in St. Louis, Missouri.  

In this week’s episode we will discuss the benefits of Divorce Mediation: Co-Parenting, Child Support and Future Expenses with Erika Englund a family law attorney in California, trained divorce mediator, founder of Divorceably, and the current CSO at Support Pay. 
 

Welcome Erika!! 

1. How did you get into mediation? 
2. What were some of the benefits of mediation in divorce matters? 
3. What are your tips to developing a successful co-parenting plan? 
4. How does someone get emotionally ready to get divorced or work through mediation? 
5. How do you work with CDFAs to understand the financial situation of the couple? 
6. What have been some unique ways to deal with parenting conflicts regarding decisions about the kids post divorce?  
7. What are your best tips on tracking the kids costs or splitting costs in the future? 
8. Tell us more about your current focus on the technology side of divorce. 

Melissa Gragg
CVA, MAFF, CDFA
Expert testimony for financial and valuation issues
http://www.BridgeValuation.com
Cell: (314) 541-8163
Bridge Valuation Partners, LLC
[email protected]  

 
Eika Englund
[email protected] 
916-790-5500
https://supportpay.com