Admiral James Stavridis is a 4-Star Navy Admiral who served as Supreme Allied Commander of NATO. Following his military career, he served as Dean of the Fletcher School of Law and Diplomacy at Tufts University. Currently he serves as Partner and Vice Chairman of The Carlyle Group, one of the world’s largest private equity firms. He also serves as Chair of the Board of Trustees of the Rockefeller Foundation.
In this episode we discuss the following:
To be a great leader, you have to be in shape. Leaders need energy and health, and sleep is a weapon. If you’re not rested, you’re not ready for battle.
Admiral Stavridis was Captain of a destroyer that failed inspection, it was his peers that had his back and saved him that day. Invest in our peer relationships because they will be honest with us and be unafraid to reach out.
Great leaders are great readers. To be a reader is to lead a thousand lives. Every book is a simulator, whether we’re learning resilience from The Old Man and the Sea or leadership from the Godfather. Since conducting this interview, I have been reading The Admiral’s Bookshelf, and I love learning the lessons he learned from his top 25 books. And because of this conversation I created my own bookshelf of the 25 books that have most influenced me. I’ve pasted these in the show notes and on my website.
The Admiral’s final lesson is timeless. Be humble.
And inspired by The Admiral's Bookshelf, I created my own bookshelf.
The Book of Mormon & BibleTaught me about Jesus Christ, love, repentance, forgiveness, and enduranceGreat Expectations by Charles DickensReminds me to avoid the superficialTuesdays with Morrie by Mitch AlbomMotivated me to become a professorRich Dad Poor Dad by Robert KiyosakiThe first book to get me excited about personal finance, one of the most important, underappreciated topics IMO.A Man for All Seasons by Robert BoltMotivates me to be honest in all thingsHow to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale CarnegieImproved my communication skills dramaticallyAnna Karenina by Leo TolstoyWarns me of the dangers of infidelityJane Eyre by Charlotte BronteMotivates me to live a life of integrityMy Personal Best by John Wooden Taught me about servant leadership and to treat friendship like a fine artThe Black Swan by Nassim TalebMade me realize the importance of long tail eventsJim Trelease Read-Aloud Handbook by Jim TreleaseMotivated me to teach my daughter to read at age 2, read tens of thousands of books to her (and our subsequent 3 children), and ultimately write my own book (Little Miss) about how to inspire children to love readingMade to Stick by Chip and Dan HeathTaught me the importance of storytelling and how to tell great storiesThe Wise Heart by Jack KornfieldTaught me about Buddhism, and the three causes of human suffering (Grasping, Aversion, Delusion)A Guide to the Good Life by William IrvineTaught me about Stoic Philosophy and the value of negative visualization and wanting the things we haveThe Coddling of the American Mind by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan HaidtTaught me to not coddle my children and the dangers of cognitive distortions (and the value of cognitive behavioral therapy)The Singularity is Near by Ray Kurzweill (published in 2005)Made me realize that AI is likely the most important invention ever, and persuaded me that Artificial General Intelligence will arrive during my lifetimePoor Charlie’s Almanack, by Charlie MungerThe greatest collection of wisdom I’ve ever come across related to investing (specifically) and decision making (generally)Thinking In Bets by Annie DukeTaught me about the dangers of resulting / outcome bias (judging a decision by the outcome rather than the process)Never Split the Difference by Chris VossTaught me the importance of seeing a negotiation from the other person’s point of view, and constantly showing them that you understand their position (by labeling, mirroring, and using an accusations audit)Elon Musk by Walter IsaacsonTaught me about elite ambition, determination, and focusEndurance by Alfred LansingTaught me about unflinching leadershipGood Energy by Casey MeansPersuaded me to eliminate processed foods and exercise 5-6 days per weekEnder's Game by Orson Scott CardReminds me how capable children areBeneath a Scarlet Sky by Mark SullivanInspires me to be courageousThe Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas AdamsReminds me to try to laugh every day, in every class, in every conversation