Melancholy Minutes

Once introduced by Sakichi Toyoda of Toyota fame, this quality control method of questioning why can help get to the bottom of many manufacturing issues.

This also can apply to the mental health world as well. Five Whys can help you look for answers you cannot understand at the moment or things you have forgotten about. It can help you see things from another perspective and perhaps get you pointed in the right direction for change.

While you don't have to do this daily, doing it when needed can help you find direction in a directionless world.

If you want to find out more about the 5 whys, click here

The easiest answer is they are fixated on their own lives and their own health. 

People think of themselves and their own situation 99% of the time.

This is why people never hear you when you tell them what is wrong. This is why people will check out in the middle of the conversation because you are not appealing to their sensibilities. This is why they will always tell you what worked for them because they can't handle the cognitive dissonance in their own life.

So, the next time you hear this, you will know they are trying to fix themselves, not you.

And I don't know if I want something to show me.

While I am not being a monk like some of the others out there, I am trying my best to limit what I can do and how I can do it. Of course, this means operating within constraints, which is always difficult.

In this year of the time, we are always vying for control. Control of our situation, control of our attitude, control of our families as they go on and on about how much of a failure we are.

Control is a myth, it is a lie set up by the need to control the past and change the present. At least, it is for me. The need to be in control while also damaging myself is the justice needed in order to make up for being sold as a commodity.

When I think about it, I know this is my attempt at a self-imposed justice.

Yes, this is the chaos episode or why I need to be a little restless. 

It is a deep routed issue where my life is about trying to use instability to prevent death. Twisted logic, but when you had to parent yourself since you were 13, it is an apt idea.

Also, my parents blew barrels of whales.

This is where we start finding out about some of my own issues with sabotage. Of course, it isn't all about self-sabotage, but this assessment helps with the idea of getting in my own way more often than not. I recommend you check out your profile as well at positiveintelligence.com

Sometimes you have to understand that the world isn't against you. Sometimes you have to accept that even in your lowered mental health state, the world doesn't care enough to register what happened.

When you are aware of the narrative, you understand what happens in the world and also know that you are not the focal point of the issue.

Simple as the name on the tin says!

What sort of person attempts to get out of confrontation by using this phrase, "We are like family?"

While we might get frustrated with them, we also have to accept that not everyone gets involved with conflicts well. It is their worst fear, being hated and upset.

Even though it is considered a real skill to navigate those waters, it is interesting to note what Manager Tools often says about this situation: Conflict is two people in the same county.

The next time you struggle with conflict, consider why.