114 Racism, Healing, and Health with Dr. Shadeiyah Edwards

Guest: Dr. Shadeiyah Edwards

Topics Covered: Racism, the negative effects of incarceration on family members, self-care, stress management, developing a vision board, visualization techniques for success, healing in the black community, her personal “power morning” routine, contagious resilency and her non-profit work in South Los Angeles.

“We have to be knowledgeable and prepared for our calling” -Dr. Shadeiyah Edwards

Dr. Shadeiyah Edwards is the Founder and Chair of Together Lets Rise, which is a non-profit organization aimed at serving children, high-risk youth, and those affected by incarceration and gangs in South Los Angeles. She is a self-mastery coach, consultant, mother, speaker, professor, and the author of two books. 

Dr. Shadeiyah Edwards has a Doctorate in Clinical & Forensic Psychology and uses it to serve underrepresented and underprivileged youth in her area. What I loved about our conversation was that she supplied many resources for people interested in learning more about racism in America and she provided a great perspective for people who want to fight against racism but cannot support the Black Lives Matter organization. 

I learned from talking to Shadeiyah that there are many small non-profit organizations fighting against racism. If you are a listener who wants to fight against racism but you cannot support the Black Lives Matter organization, I encourage you to listen to Shadeiyah’s answer to my last question. In essence, she encourages listeners to find a local non-profit organization that is fighting against racism. Her organization is a great example of a local South Los Angeles organization serving those in their immediate area. 

References:

Together Lets Rise Website https://www.togetherletsrise.org

Together Lets Rise Instagram https://instagram.com/_togetherletsrise?igshid=10wkyuo8nuyu2

Dr. Shadeiyah Edwards, Psy.D https://drsedwards.com

Kenisha Edwards exposed non-profit organization https://www.instagram.com/exposinghomelessyouth/

Lora King https://instagram.com/rodneykingfoundation?igshid=lx63vdeukxjt

Book by Dr. Shadeiyah Edwards “A Balanced Life: Stress Management for Mothers” https://www.amazon.com/BALANCED-LIFE-STRESS-MANAGEMENT-MOTHERS/dp/0578444186

Ryan Holiday “Stillness is the Key” https://www.amazon.com/s?k=stillness+is+the+key&i=stripbooks&ref=nb_sb_noss_2

Gratitude App : 365 Gratitude 

Victor Frankl “Man’s Search for Meaning” https://www.amazon.com/Mans-Search-Meaning-Viktor-Frankl/dp/0807014273/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=mans+search+for+meaning&qid=1594673277&s=books&sr=1-2

Movies about racism in America:

“When they See Us”

Books about racism in America:

“White Fragility” Robin Diangelo https://www.amazon.

Guest: Wayland Cubit

Topics Covered: Gang violence, drug use, race relations, community outreach, the importance of using relationships as an intervention, Mentoring at-risk-youth, and an amazing adoption story. 

Wayland Cubit pioneered and developed a one-of-a-kind mentoring program in the heart of Oklahoma City called FACT mentoring. Wayland Cubit is a Lieutenant for the OKC Police Department where he has served for over 23 years. He is currently running for Sheriff of Oklahoma County. He has been featured on TEDx where he delivers a great talk about racial bias and police work. Since he is both black and a police officer, he offers a unique perspective into the bias issues that disrupt our racial justice and police work. 

Wayland and his team of police officers operate from an alternative approach to police work. They use relationship and community outreach as the primary intervention to help at-risk-youth steer clear of gang affiliation. You can visit his website here https://www.cubitforsheriff.com/meet-wayland and view his TED Talk here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_U5JOIx-XqI

He talks about how police officers who serve in FACT mentoring are always “10-8,” meaning they are never off of work. He talks about how FACT mentoring has become a replacement family for many gang members. We cover the concept of walking the game of mentoring and not just “teaching” and “talking” the “talk.” 

References:

John Sowers “Fatherless Generation” https://www.amazon.com/Fatherless-Generation-Redeeming-John-Sowers/dp/0310328608

Mentoring Project http://www.thementoringproject.org

Rabit-Duck Illusion https://www.illusionsindex.org/i/duck-rabbit

Malcome Gladwell “Talking to Strangers” https://www.amazon.com/Talking-Strangers-Should-about-People-ebook/dp/B07NDKVWZW

Gritty Business Spot:

Casa De Reyes https://www.facebook.com/CasaDeReyesSweetHome/

Phone 541-818-8948

Oregon Tree Professionals, LLC https://www.facebook.com/pages/category/Business-Service/Oregon-Tree-Professionals-LLC-121581972569519/

Brandon Oswalt 541-248-9038

Westfall Photography

Westfall-photography.com

Willammette Valley CrossFit

https://willamettevalleycf.com

https://www.instagram.com/willamettevalleycrossfit

Street Art:

Langston Allston https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/ppvbw9/a-black-lives-matter-painter-explains-how-art-can-be-activism

“It’s interesting how different people react to crisis like this… we have to keep our heads and we have to work together…” -Dr. Timothy Johanson, MD

Guest: Dr. Timothy Johanson, MD

Topics Covered: Keeping calm during COVID-19, what makes good doctors, Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), epigenetics, why we should establish deep relationships before challenging people, parenting, the importance of flexibility in the medical profession, and why he conducts piano concertos with no one present in the room besides himself.

This episode features a deep-dive into the story, life, and work of Dr. Timothy Johanson.

Timothy Johanson fits as the perfect guest for this podcast. He exemplifies someone who was an at-risk-youth growing up, suffering through early childhood trauma, but had three men, who be calls his surrogate-mentor-fathers come into his life and provide the modeling, mentoring, and care he needed. He now serves as a mentor, coach, teacher, and professor to pediatric residents at the University of Arizona.

He recently published a book called “Gist: The Essence of Raising Life-Ready Kids” and has been honored with many awards such as The Community Pediatrics Teacher of the Year Award and Best Doctor Award from the Minneapolis State magazine.

You will hear him talk about having a mother who died by suicide, living with his alcoholic and abusive father, but speckled through the entire episode you will hear him talk about the hope, honor, joy, and privilege he feels in his work mentoring the next generation of pediatricians.

Ultimately Tim is the success-mentor story that I want for our at-risk-youth. Someone who was brought-in, raised-up, and loved-on by mentors, now devotes his life to doing the same for others.

Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) Survey:

https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/03/02/387007941/take-the-ace-quiz-and-learn-what-it-does-and-doesnt-mean

References:

“Gist: The Essence of Raising Life-Ready Kids” by Timothy Johnson and Michael Anderson

Tim Johnson’s website gistparenting.com

Microphone Sponsorship:

Absolute Ministries, CEO Cameron Birk http://absoluteministries.org

Guest: Chris Moore

Topics Covered: Emotional contagion, why meditation matters, how to attune with children and co-workers to reduce fear and anxiety in the workplace, neuroscience, contemplation, epigenetics, and humanism.

Chris Moore is a School Psychologist in the Salem-Keizer School District and functions as a professor at Oregon State University’s School Counseling Program. Chris covers over 30+ schools in his service to educators and students in Salem-Keizer. His work is heavily centered on consultation. He discovered in the midst of his consulting work a way to serve others by eloquently balancing hard-nosed science with the mystery and human components of working with people in a helping profession. From this balance, he formulated a theoretical orientation he calls “neuro-contemplative-epigenetic-humanism.” The theory balances the head and the heart. It balances science with humanity and provides a helpful framework for anyone in the helping profession.

This episode is expansive and covers wide-ranging territory. As you will hear, Chris Moore is a impressive and widely-read individual. If your work involves people, this episode will be a helpful resource as you learn to balance your  knowledge of science with the real demands of being a human in a helping profession.

References: 

Carl Rogers Client-Centered Model to Therapy https://www.simplypsychology.org/carl-rogers.html

“try again, fail again, fail again better” -Samuel Beckett/Cornel West

Calm.com

stopbreaththink.com

stopbreaththink.com/educators

headspace.com

headspace.com/educators

Dan Siegel “Brain Storm”

Dan Siegel “Mind Sight”

Chip and Dan Heath “Switch”

Covey Foundation “Four Disciplines of Execution”

Adverse Childhood Experience Scores (ACE) Score https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/childabuseandneglect/acestudy/index.html

Street Art:

Thepinkbear.rebel photo by Crawford Jolly on Unsplash

Microphone Sponsorship:

Steelhead Fitness. Visit them at Steelheadfitness.com

Guest: Dakotah Keys

Topics Covered:

Track and field, Pac-12 Championships, faking an injury to avoid further competition, succumbing to other’s standards, and an amazing story of how speaking into a person’s life came back to Dakotah in an unusual way. 

This episode concludes our three-part series on mentoring: Showing-up, living-out, and speaking-in. Dakotah Keys talks to a live audience at this year’s Mentored Up Event. 

Dakotah Keys won four state championships in high school, setting state-records in the decathlon. Then he took his talents to the University of Oregon where he won three Pac 12 Championships in the Decathlon and was named a 5-time all-American. He performed at the highest level of track and field, having opportunities to compete at the national and Olympic level. 

Dakotah credits much of his success to a unassuming, meek counselor named Jim Kistner who took Dakotah in as a mentee in high school and has been there for him ever since. Dakotah now serves as an Oregon State Police officer. 

In this episode you will hear him open up about his fear of letting people down, examples of good and poor mentors in his life, how he allows his student-athletes room to fail, and he opens up about his time at the University of Oregon and the immense pressure he placed on himself which eventually led him to fake an injury so he no longer had to compete. His story is an example of bravery, vulnerability, and an honest reflection why we should allow those around us to fail and fail hard. 

References:

Fail Harder motivational video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vEVd0QMjCc8

Street Art:

Photo by Wiredforlego at https://www.flickr.com/photos/wiredforsound23/15439138047/in/photolist-pwiBRi-23ejWjT-22UehuA-J1aPAr-oAozu3-DinVuc-4VNLrj-21SiFqu-nDppL3-nDC3E2-2h77i8i-hrTAuW-fKdYFW-nPU9Yy-7XkMkz-eaAUct-jgED4q

Business Partnership:

Gorilla Graphix https://www.facebook.com/Gorilla.Graphix.Salem

http://gorillawrapz.net

Transcript:

Dakota Keys:

Thank you guys for having me here today. What a blessing it was to have Skyler contact me and asked me to do. For those of you that don’t know me, I don’t very well at public events, speaking in front of people. I usually keep to myself and so just kinda bear with me as I work through this.

As I was preparing this, I believe a kind of testimony today, I kept trying to make it less and less personal so I could get through this and that hopefully you guys will walk away with something and not judge me for who I am and the things that I went through the things that I felt about myself over the years of competing. But the more times I tried to do that the more I prayed about it, God just kept putting these words into my heart to share a true story, a true testimony of what mentorship should be could be and what I experienced being good and then what I experienced to being really poor mentorship and how that affected me as a person, as husband at the time, soon to be father, a brother, son. So as you guys just kind of bear with me through this, I’m going to try to work through it. Not Super organized. I’m going to have everything written down here, so just bear with me.

As Skyler mentioned, some people in here know of my past experience with athletics. If you guys would have had me here and I I wouldn’t have come to talk at this five years ago, four years ago at this point. With all that success, the thing that I would have seen most is actually all my failures. The embarrassment that I went through,

Guest: Donald Lewis, PhD. 

Topics Covered:

How you can be more helpful than a psychiatrist, a secret formula to mentoring, a criticism of Jordan Peterson, when to comfort vs. when to challenge, and why you should refer your depressed friend to a doctor. 

Donald Lewis, PhD. is a professor of Christian History at Regent College in Vancouver, Canada. He is the author of numerous books, including having his thumbprint on at least 11 books on Amazon as author or editor. Over the years he has served as a secret-agent in the art of mentoring. Historian and professor by trade; international mentor by night. Donald Lewis travels the world encouraging, mentoring, and praying for Christian leaders. In this episode you will hear his secret formula to mentoring: Pick your mentees; Listen with your eyes; ask follow up questions; Pray; Follow up. 

People Referenced:

Phil Ryken

Jordan Peterson

Books Referenced:

“Deep Mentoring: Guiding Others on their Leadership Journey” by Randy Reese and Robert Loane 

“Safe People” by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

“The Mentored Life: From individualism to Personhood” by James Houston

Street Art:

Photo by Joey Zanotti Find him on Flickr https://www.flickr.com/photos/45958601@N02/6603236671/in/album-72157624246746491/

Transcript

Skyler Bascom:

Hi, you’re listening to the Mentored Podcast and I am your host, Skyler Bascom. This January we organized a Mentored-UP Event. The goal of the event was to inspire and challenge men to show up, live out and speak in as mentors in our community. To accomplish this we brought in Dakotah Keys, Donald Lewis, and Justin Meier as guest speakers. Dakotah Keys is a back to back to back, three time Pac-12 Champion. He shared about the importance of failing hard and allowing those around us to fail. Donald Lewis is a well known author, historian, and professor by day, but moonlights as a Secret Agent mentor to Christian leaders, worldwide by night. Justin Meier is a personal friend and aspiring author. He shows how God was the Ultimate Mentor in mind, body and spirit.

This episode is a live recording of Donald Lewis, PhD., historian and professor. He highlights the profound impact that all of us can have as trusted friends. He leans on his personal experience of being a mentor to over hundreds of men worldwide. Donald is a Secret Agent Mentor. He is disguised as a historian and Professor at Region College, but in fact travels around the world to pray and encourage Christian leaders. In his talk, you’ll hear him share about a secret-five-part-formula of being a trusted friend. Number one, pick your mentee. Number two, listen with your eyes. Number three, ask follow up questions. Number four, pray and number five, follow up.

As you’ll hear in my introduction, introducing him to this live talk, he has been a personal mentor to me. I suffered depression in 2014 and he came alongside me as my personal mentor, and ever since he’s guided me through ups, downs, through valleys and hills in my personal walk. He’s been nothing but support and encouragement and I’m very privileged I was able to share him with this live audience and also very privileged to share him with you. I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I have.

Skyler Bascom:

When the student is ready, the teacher appears. In 2014, I was studying up in Canada, in British Columbia and I worked at a library. My job was just to check in books. One time, this older gentleman came up and checked in books and he said, “hey, can I pray for you?” And right away I said, “like right now?” He’s like,” Well, how about we go into your back office there, and I’ll pray for you?” He appeared at just the right time in my life. I happen to get diagnosed with depression that week.

“People listen when I am cutting hair”-Eric the Barber

Guest: @ET.TheBarber, Eric Tolento

Co-Host: Mason McKendry @ya_boii_2019

Topics Covered:

Movie mapping, visualization techniques, time management intervention, Mind-Body-Spirit connection, 1:30am arm workouts, Morning routines, Hair design mentoring, meditation, maintaining creativity, workout plan, hypnotism, and the importance of reading. 

Eric The Barber @ET.TheBarber is an elite barber who has cut the hair of NBA superstars like Damien Lillard, Giannis Antetokounmpo, and Zion Williamson. He talks about the art behind the profession and how mental and physical routines, rituals, and habits launch his barber skills to the elite level. He has a heart for at-risk-youth and during the episode you will hear him challenge Mason in real-time about his schedule and time management. Eric is a life-long learner when it comes to self-development and personal-performance. He shares a must-hear story how he manifests a meeting with Zion Williamson. 

Mason McKendry is a 18 year old student at Ralston Academy. Mason has been to Oak Creek, Boy’s Correction Facility 8 times but plans on becoming a parole officer for at-risk-youth after he graduates from Ralston Academy. Mason dreams about his five year plan and explains the challenges he faces when it comes to time management. Mason has a bright future ahead of him. In this episode you he listens intently to what Eric had to say. It was amazing to see mentoring 101 happen right infant of me during the recording. 

Resources Referenced:

Eric’s Instagram @et.thebarber

“The One Thing” Gary Keller

Tony Robbins “Business Mastery.”

“What to Say when you Talk to yourself” Shad Helmstetter

Debbie Millman’5 5 year exercise https://tim.blog/2018/06/21/the-tim-ferriss-show-transcripts-debbie-millman/

Tim Ferriss Episode #399  “Adam Grant” https://tim.blog/2019/12/05/adam-grant/

Adam Grant’s Challenge team https://tim.blog/tag/adam-grant/

Scott Adams on Affirmations https://tim.blog/2015/09/22/scott-adams-the-man-behind-dilbert/

“Inside Bill’s Brain: Decoding Bill Gates” (Netflix) 2019

“When I fall on the ground, instead of kicking dirt in my face, how about you point me to the direction of town” Jacob Wheeler

Guest: Ralston Academy Student Jacob Wheeler

Topics Covered:

Drugs, Jiu-Jitsu, astrophysics, education reform, government, Shepherd Fairey’s Obey brand, enneagram, talking on taboo subjects, and EGO.

Jacob Wheeler is an alternative education student at Ralston Academy. Jacob confesses that a drug dealer will know he smokes weed because he “looks the part.” In spite of this outward appearance Jacob grants listeners a tour into his mind. What you find is a student who studies astrophysics on his own time, knows Jiu-Jitsu, and has a wide-ranging belief system on government, education, and freedom of speech. Jacob is a student of hip-hop and hopes to produce a major album in the future. 

Resources referenced:

Netflix Documentary “Obey Giant” (2018)

Movie “They Live” (1988)

Book “Astrophysics for people in a hurry” Neil deGrasse Tyson

Book “Ego is the Enemy” Ryan Holiday

Book “12 Rules for Life” Jordan Peterson

Podcast “Joe Rogan Experience” 

Adverse Childhood Experience Research statistics https://scholar.google.com/scholar?q=adverse+childhood+experience+studies&hl=en&as_sdt=0&as_vis=1&oi=scholart

Street Art:

Ankita Siddiqui

https://pixabay.com/users/ankitasiddiqui-1669165/?utm_source=link-attribution&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=image&utm_content=1457375

“Coming alongside of somebody, being willing to face the difficult with somebody, has been grilled into me since I was a kid” Nancy Randall

Guest: Nancy Randall

Co-host: Dawn Marie Rose

Topics covered:

Finding your why, CrossFit, fatherhood, goal setting, suicide support groups, challenge teams, working on weaknesses, self-compassion, overcoming failures, Willamette Valley Crossfit, and mentoring

Nancy Randall is the owner of the newest CrossFit gym in the Willamette Valley. A former Behavior Support Person at Lebanon High School where she was trained to de-escalate the most explosive students in the school. Nancy is a L-1 CrossFit coach, CrossFit box owner, works at Santiam Excursions, and holds a real estate license in Oregon. She sets high goals, loves a good challenge, and pushes those around her to be their best. In this episode she talks about how CrossFit has changed her life and explains how the people around her have pushed her to be the person she is today.

Dawn Marie Rose is an alternative education student at Ralston Academy. Dawn has overcome massive obstacles in her 17 years of life. To hear her full background story and the massive obstacles she has overcome listen to episode 103. Dawn Marie has goals of starting a support group for suicide and dreams to open an animal shelter for abused animals and children. She dreams big and does not hold back. In this episode you get to hear her full vision of the future and the plans she has to get there.

Resource Referenced:

Kristen Neff’s Selfcompassion.org

Ron Heagy’s Daily Creed for success

Books referenced:

“AMRAP Mentality”-Jason Khalipa

“Chasing Excellence”- Ben Bergeron

Podcast Referenced:

-Tim Ferriss’s show episode #399 with Adam Grant https://tim.blog/tag/adam-grant/

-AMRAP Mentality with Jason Khalipa

Willamette Valley Crossfit follow on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/willamettevalleycrossfit/

Willamette Valley Crossfit follow on Facebook @Willamettevalleycrossfit

Street Art:

“Never too Young to Dream” Banksy https://www.instagram.com/banksy/

“10 million people didn’t get sober from doing it his way or her way, they got sober through the Book of Alcoholics Anonymous” -Wendell Bascom

Guest: Wendell Bascom

Topics Covered:

Alcoholism, drug use, Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, Al-anon, Alateen, Fatherlessness, mentoring, and sobriety

This episode was recorded live at a Men’s Breakfast designed to raise awareness for mentoring in Lebanon and Sweet Home. In front of 30-35 men I invite my father Wendell Bascom to the stage to share his fatherless backstory, alcohol addiction, and seven year triumph over alcoholism with the help and support of Alcoholics Anonymous. This episode is great for anyone who struggles with addiction or has been affected by someone with an addiction. 

Websites Referenced:

https://al-anon.org/newcomers/teen-corner-alateen/

Episode Street Art:

“Reality of Alcohol” by Anonymous