Midlife Confidence

Have you ever felt guilty because you wanted to do something with your life that doesn’t fit what you think is an approved, worthy purpose - like building schools in South America or making quilts for refugees? If so, you’re suffering from purpose guilt. So listen in! Let’s release that shame and let you get on with creating a meaningful life by doing what you really want to do.

In this episode:

• Purpose guilt come from what we’re thinking is approved and worthy
• A meaningful purpose doesn’t have to be volunteering for a humanitarian cause
• The 3 elements a purpose needs to have

Show notes:

• Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavis
• Midlife Confidence Coach website
• Email [email protected]

How would it feel to be in alignment in your life? What if your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions were all lined up and going in the same direction to reach your goals? I’ve gained some insight about life alignment from – surprise! – getting my teeth straightened up. Let’s talk about the value of  incremental progress, commitment to the process, and vision for the final result. 

In this episode:

• Recognizing when you’re out of alignment and might need some professional help
• Trusting your ability to change and grow
• Discomfort is evidence of progress 

Show notes:

• Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavis
• Midlife Confidence Coach website
• Email [email protected]

As we seek deep meaning and purpose at this time in our life, spiritual imagination is a practice that can help you envision your most fulfilling and powerful life. In my experience spiritual imagination can change our reality by actually shifting our thoughts and feelings, leading us to take action and create the results we want. So come along with me for a belief walk …

In this episode:

• An intentional vision that helps me honor and trust my grown-up kids journeys
• Inviting God to co-create our life with us, through spiritual imagination
• We might as well imagine the best possible outcome since the future is all a story anyway

Show notes:

• Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavis
• Midlife Confidence Coach website
• Email [email protected]

Do you keep a report card in your head? One that usually shows that you got a C- or unsatisfactory in some life skill or personal quality or something? Who wrote that report card, and why are you still using it to judge yourself? Now that we’re grownups, we get to decide what success looks like for us and let go of comparing ourselves to others. In this coaching session with Emily, you’ll hear how she is learning to create her own report card for what she wants out of her education as she returns to school for a Master’s degree - after 20 years as a full-time mom. (3 of 3 with Emily)

In this episode:

• How coaching has influenced her for the past 2 years
• How it could be good for her children to see her return to school
• Respecting your own gifts

Show notes:

• Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavis
• Midlife Confidence Coach website
• Email [email protected]

What you really want when you wish you had more money, is actually a certain feeling that you think more money would give you. That’s the main point of today’s coaching session with my awesome friend Emily. It turns out that one of the reasons she wants to get a degree and become a therapist is to have her own money to spend without guilt. We dive in to why it's more powerful if she creates that feeling of freedom and independence now instead of waiting. So if you have expectations and wishes around money, this is for you! (2 of 3 with Emily)

In this episode:

• We all have a relationship with money
• If we’ve trained our brain to worry about money it will keep doing it even if we get more money – until we intentionally change that pattern
• Keys of a healthy money relationship in marriage

Show notes:

• Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavis
• Midlife Confidence Coach website
• Email [email protected] 

For mothers, when the time comes to create some more space in your life for your own growth and goals, it creates a new – and sometimes uncomfortable – dynamic with your children. Finding the balance between meeting their needs and your own can be tricky! Mom guilt can create self-doubt unless you’re aware and intentional about what’s best for everyone involved. Listen in to this coaching session with Emily, a mom of 7 who is starting an educational journey to become a therapist. (1 of 3 with Emily)

In this episode:

• Choosing to not go on a guilt trip
• Giving yourself permission to meet your needs
• Being an example to your family of pursuing your interests and caring for your family too

Show notes:

• Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavis
• Midlife Confidence Coach website
• Email [email protected]

Sometimes in midlife we can come down with a condition called purpose anxiety! It’s when we stress over figuring out what our mission should be and how to make it happen. What if designing your destiny could be more fun? Listen in to hear about how you can make living a purposeful life simpler and easier by engaging in small micro-missions. 

In this episode:

• What is purpose anxiety and why do we get it?
• Examples of micro-missions
• Both volunteer and for-profit work can be life-changing and valuable

Show notes:

• Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavis
• Midlife Confidence Coach website
• Email [email protected]

We’ve all been confused and overwhelmed before by projects or situations that seem complicated with a lot of things to figure out, and a lot of things to do. In this coaching session with my guest client, Bonnie, we talk about ways to tame the overwhelm step-by-step just like a dot-to-dot puzzle. Not only that, but we dismantle her old painful story about how hard her project is and rewrite a new story that is more reassuring and energizing. Bonnie has some great insight of her own to share with you too. So don’t miss this conversation because you’re going to learn something about motivating yourself for sure. So when you’re overwhelmed … just start with dot number one. (3 of 3 with Bonnie)

In this episode:

• Bonnie’s most painful thought that kept creating overwhelm
• Getting clarity on a big decision about continuing to keep working in a contract position or not

Show notes:

• Bonnie's website Works for Her
• Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavis
• Midlife Confidence Coach website
• Email [email protected]

While a to-do list is helpful to manage the actions you take, a belief plan goes even deeper. It helps you feel the way you need to feel in order to do what you want to do. It’s a living guide that grows with you and builds your confidence and motivation. You’ll hear how gathering powerful thoughts and saving them in a belief plan will help Bonnie with her goals. When self-doubt is slowing you down … build a better belief system to rev up your progress. (2 of 3 with Bonnie.)

In this episode:

• Awareness of tension in your body and how that affects your mind
• Why Bonnie is better for her audience than Harvard professors
• Your unseen dream team

Show notes:
Bonnie's website Works for Her

• Vauna’s Instagram   @vaunadavis
• Midlife Confidence Coach website
• Email [email protected]