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April is Financial Awareness Month! And y'all know I love me some money. I'm kicking off the month with my investing story: the mistakes I made, what to do instead, common investing terms, and my favorite investing apps/recommendations. 

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"Self-Care" is Instagram's favorite buzzword and women all over are eating it up. And while I'm so happy to see so many people interested in the concept; I think the majority of us are a bit misguided in knowing what this term actually means.

Apparently the term has been around for hundreds of years; not touting the same meaning it holds today. (I'll leave you to that research; but basically self-care had a derogatory meaning) I started noticing the term on my insta feed in 2017 and right from jump I had a non-popular opinion: that what y’all think is self-care isn't really self-care!

There's Self-Care, and then there's Self-Maintenance. Most of what we see on Instagram is Self-Maintenance; incorrectly being labeled as Self-Care. Self-Care allows us to do life correctly.

It's important to know the difference and make time for both - because only one of the two actually perpetuates your growth. As a society, we need to realize that what's involved in self-care is more substantial than we initially regard it to be. 

Do you agree? 

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although I do choose to see situations as happening for me, not to me, being bombarded with depressing/scary/confusing/conflicting information damn near nonstop can easily break down "optimistic defenses". 

Let's be real, pretending everything is okay when it's really not isn't optimistic. It's sabotage [aka toxic positivity]. here's how to stop all the noise.

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The tools we use the most are the ones that need the most care; including your brain. 

In the interest of conserving energy, our brains function on a set of habitual routines and systems. Those systems don't always evolve as we do, and if left unchecked, outdated mental software can seriously sabotage our existence. 

Are you in need of an upgrade?

then you might be due for a tune up. 

Neuroplasticity tell us that our minds can easily accept new system updates at any time. press play to learn 6 ways to create a new mind!

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Thanks to findings in neuroplasticity, we have hope! You aren't stuck with your current mental programing. Need to code some new software for your hardware? Listen in for my 6 tips to creating a totally new mindset. 

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It's been a looooooooong road to self-mastery (I'm nowhere near close) but I've been able to pick up a few things in my studies and experiences with emotional development and self-management. Today's episode shares common behaviors found in people who have mastered their responses and a few tools for you to start implementing in your own journey. 

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Crucial Conversations (Tips for Talking When the Stakes are High): https://bookshop.org/books/crucial-conversations-tools-for-talking-when-stakes-are-high-second-edition-9780071771320/9780071771320?aid=20527&listref=personal-spiritual-development-cbc04339-31b1-46de-afe7-d4cd0556bd48

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If you're anything like me; making decisions is a bit difficult because 

Because I'm not the world champion of making swift decisions, and it was impacting how I move; I decided to do some research to figure out how I can be more decisive. This episode is what I learned. 

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Are you playing to win? Or are you playing to not lose? The difference between the two is vast but subtle. From the outside looking in, it might seem like these two players are striving for the same thing; but in reality, their two mindsets are completely different. Today's episode takes a dive into those differences and discusses a few ways to adopt a WINNER's mindset.

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If your life could talk, would you be embarrassed by what it had to say?

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it seems all everyone gives attention to is 'winning season' but the other three are just as crucial [and enjoyable] if you release resistance to experiencing them.

the other three seasons include:

press play to learn how to identify and maximize whatever season you're currently in. Be well and stay present <3

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