Mommying While Muslim

Whoa, is this late! Did y’all notice?

Ashlea Angel joins us to discuss how lightning struck her (or her tubes) twice, affecting her choices of infertility treatments. Not only does she share her experience with retrievals and transfers, but shares that embryos get report cards! 🤯Tiger moms to be, this is the first of many grades your baby to be is gonna get. 

You’ll note some recurring themes and behaviors of moms with fertility struggles, but this is an episode where the ins and outs of testing and treatment are very clear in Ashlea’s case. Please remember that every BODY is different and everybody is different, so Ashlea’s experiences may not resonate with everyone else. Learn what you can and move on.

The most poignant moments in this episode are Ashlea’s journey to Islam and the effect of infertility on her faith, as well as the toll it takes on a marriage. Keep listening for a surprise about ⅔ of the way into the episode and remember to remember all our sisters in your duaa.

Tune in at 6pm EST on Apple podcasts, Stitcher, Amazon Music, or head directly to our website. Find the Shownotes on your podcast app for the helpful links you’ll want for resources and links. 

Links:
1. Embryo Grading in Infertility
2. IVF & Islamic POV white paper by Fordham University
3. How IVF Works
4. Ethics of Surrogacy
5. Islamic POV on IVF by Sh. Yasir Qadhi
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Aneesa Husain is as proactive a Muslimah as we’ve ever met, and we LOVE it. She joins us on our Muslim Moms Overcoming Infertility series this month and has the deets on a few of the reasons why women pursue egg freezing, how to get the process started, and special considerations. We apologize for the coughing because #allergies, and the slight echo because #audiotech sometimes stinks. You can totally stand both because this is MUST KNOW info.
We are getting A LOT of DMs and comments about the legality of fertility options in Islam, and we continue to urge everyone to find their trusted imam for those answers. WE are not qualified to speak on that. But we give space to everyone to share her story, and if it offends you, then it’s probably not for you. If it worries you, it’s meant to. If we aren’t worrying about these issues as Muslim Americans, then we are doing something wrong. Please don’t drop your fatawa here because we have imams who do that for us when we ask them for help.
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Links:
1. Learn more about Kindbody IVF & Islamic POV white paper by Fordham University
2. How IVF WorksEthics of SurrogacyIslamic POV on IVF by Sh. Yasir Qadhi
3. Sign up for Moms Demand Action to reform gun legislation
4. Aneesa’s book recommendation: The Moment of Lift by Melinda Gates
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Warning: Language

Sarah Khan joins us to discuss her journey finding and following through with a gestational carrier not just once, but TWICE 👶🏽👶🏽. What's a gestational carrier? You'll have to listen to find out. 🎧

We learned some new things in this episode about the emotional pathos a mom goes through in this situation BEFORE and during pregnancy 💔. It definitely makes us think there's more to mothering after fertility issues than we knew, and we are so grateful for the insight. Finally, the discussion of "to surrogate or not to surrogate..." is what you've been asking for!🎺🎺

We apologize in advance for the sound in this episode but we did the best we could! A little late to the ball, but dance with us anyway on Apple podcasts, Stitcher, Amazon Music, or head to our link in bio.

Links:

1. Find Sarah’s chronic care company online: https://phamily.com/
2. Email Sarah for any questions or considerations about surrogacy: [email protected]
3. IVF & Islamic POV white paper by Fordham University
4. How IVF Works
5. Ethics of Surrogacy
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Trigger warning!

Listen again to Abeeha Hassan's experience of stillbirth after her IVF journey. All that heartbreak, anticipation and work to come home empty-handed.  Early on in her recovery, she wanted us to broadcast normalizing grief. In this episode, she taught us sabr (patience), shukr (gratitude), and tawwakul (unshaking faith in Allah SWT). 

Her process of closure may seem familiar to someone else who has gone this journey alone, and we are so touched that Abeeha chose to share her story with us. We pray a momsister finds comfort in knowing there’s someone sharing her story of loss and is available to talk about it. Say her name: "Jannah."

Tune in at 6pm EST for this important replay wherever you listen to podcasts, or head to our website (link in bio).

Note: 

1)    Miscarriage-pregnancy loss before 20 weeks

1)    Stillbirth-pregnancy loss after 20 weeks (intrauterine fetal demise)

2)    Neonatal death-death within the first 28 days of life

 Links:

1. Discrimination vs. hijab in Kansas City, MO: https://apnews.com/article/73d2c6104c891672e4d9cad88290a8f6 
2. Find Abeeha on IG: @mamaofalittleangel
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 | Rabia Rajab is a survivor of infertility and IVF 🌟. Call it mother's intuition, but she knew before the doctors did about how tough her journey was going to be and initiated a decade long trip that would make most of us cut and run. Certainly, the Force (and the 4th) are with her.  💰 The costs of treatments are not only financial, but as you'll hear, social and emotional as well. For anyone considering it, this is a MUST listen💕.  👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Rabia and her husband did not have a supportive community of Muslims going through the same process. That's on all of us, y'all.  That is not okay. We need to fix that by speaking up about infertility awareness and treatments🤝.  Note: Make sure you swipe left.  Tune in at 6pm EST on Apple podcasts, Stitcher, Amazon Music, or head to our website landing page and listen there.  #IVFjourney #Infertility #MuslimsAndIVF #HopefulParents #EmotionalSupport #CommunityLove #FindYourVoice #notalone #muslimmoms #muslimfamily #musliminfertility   

1.     Follow Rabia’s journey on IG: @ivf.x7
2.     IVF & Islamic POV white paper by Fordham University
3.     How IVF Works
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That had to be a record for Ramadan--over before it started subhanAllah. Here are our short reflections on the month and prayers for you, our wonderful audience. Eid Mubarak!

Tune in for our message tonight and then next week for a full length episode. 

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Rabia Faisal of Chaishaiusa comes on to satisfy all our chai craving questions. Uzma and Zaiba fell onto their blends a few years ago and have been devout drinkers since. It’s the company they share with friends who ask which chai to buy. Learn the international chai curating process Rabia uses as well as the custom blending secrets she shares today.  @chaishaiusa is SUPER generous to our loyal listeners and is giving away THREE freebies to the first 3 people who get the code word back to us by emailing [email protected] or DM us ASAP.  Make duaa for @chaishaiusa for their generosity this Ramadan and we promise, you’ll be sending Rabia more prayers after your first sip!  Tune in at 6pm EST on Apple podcasts, Stitcher, Amazon Music, or head to our website to take a listen.
1.     Find the Chai Shai on the web:  https://www.chaishaiusa.com/
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 ​Fatmah Muhammad founder of Knafeh Queens is on the podcast for making knafeh konverts of Uzma and Zaiba. This is a dessert that can be daunting for anyone who doesn’t know about it, and your favorite podcast duo avoided knafeh like the plague until they encountered Fatmah’s unique family recipe. From her refreshing mommying philosophy, commitment to family, and commitment to spreading joy and unity through her culinary creations, you will NOT be sorry you hear about Knafeh Queens and its origin story.  Don’t forget to tune in for the code word and be the first one to report it back to us at [email protected] or DM us to get a FREE half dozen knafeh cupcakes, courtesy of @knafehqueens. We hope you get them in time for Eid al Fitr because it will just make the holiday sweeter.  There’s also a BIG ANNOUNCEMENT from Fatmah to her knafeh krew you will hear right here first! Tune in at 6pm EST on Apple podcasts, Stitcher, Amazon Music, or head to our website to hear the episode.
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 | Subhaan Ashrafi, founder of Sabr app, joins us today to tell us why he developed this for Muslim audiences and how it can help our families. His story of making a dream required resiliency and relationship-building, which he speaks on at length, an inspiration to us and to our kids. With persistence, he was able to create a unique app of its kind that is serving our families at the podcast so well.  In these times of increased mental health and spiritual needs in our community, we need quick coping skills at hand and to teach them to our children who’ve been born into social media FOMO culture. Sabr app serves this purpose and our kids use it to center themselves, focus on shukr, or gratitude, when things get rough, and it’s made a huge difference in our home lives.   Don’t forget to get back to us with the code word mentioned in the episode to win one free premium yearlong membership, courtesy of Sabr app. Email us at [email protected] or DM us ASAP because it’s first come, first served!  Tune in at 6pm EST on Apple podcasts, Stitcher, or check it out on our website.   
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 | Artist Natalia Dar describes her journey toward healing personal losses via art and the resulting devoted following of admirers she has now. At least this podcast is a devoted follower! We love watching her process, which she shares at length on IG and you could watch those videos FOREVER. We discuss her choice of the hardest things to paint and draw in the art world, which include architecture, her link to her parents, may Allah SWT be pleased with them. Let’s also touch on. the loss of patrons of the arts in the Muslim world and how to fix that.   Listen to this episode for the code word and one lucky listener will win one of her most popular prints, which you will hear are not really prints at all! All you have to do is be the first to DM us or email [email protected] and we will pass on your info to Natalia so she can send you your win. We are so grateful to all of our guests this month for their generosity and what they make for us in this world, may Allah SWT increase and reward them!  Tune in at 6pm EST on Apple podcasts, Stitcher, or check it out on our website. 
| 1.     Find Natalia on IG: @nmdsart 2.     Check out her gallery on the web: www.nataliadar.com 3.     Nadia’s book recommendation: Gone with the Wind 4.     Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com 5.     Email: [email protected] 6.     FB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim group 7.     IG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast 8.     YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrrdKxpBdBO4ZLwB1kTmz1w

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