Mommying While Muslim

You thought we wouldn't be fair and present all sides of the poly argument? Sorry, we must not have met before....
Ustadha Saba Syed joins us to discuss her personal and professional experiences of polygyny in Islam and how it won't work. Let's explore the history of Islamic polygyny, the hadeeth of Fatima a follower wanted to know more about, origins of immigrant misgivings, men's rights (and ahem, women's), and more. For those of you who know WHO Ustadha Saba knows, this episode has a couple of truth bombs you weren't ready for, so brace yourselves!
But then, she's never come on the podcast before without dropping our jaws!
Tune in at 6pm EST and share this episode with your college girlfriends who may want to spill the tea with you.
When you visit Houston, TX and want an AUTHENTIC hammam experience go to Oasis Moroccan Bath: https://oasismoroccanbath.com/ Loving Muslim Marriage video series from Muslim Matters: https://muslimmatters.org/lmm/ Pay special attention to episodes 2, 3, and 5There’s a 21-part series! Look out for all of them and watch!Sex Matters: Love, Marriage, and the Sunnah by www.muslimmatters.org “Hysteria” the movie is available on Amazon Prime: https://www.amazon.com/Hysteria-Hugh-Dancy/dp/B009CPGQHASaba’a novel for young adults An Acquaintance: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/an-acquaintance-saba-syed/1126967439Re-examining Polygyny in Islam in The Muslim Women Times: https://themuslimwomentimes.com/2021/01/13/re-examining-polygyny-in-islam-exegesis-and-clarification/ Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.comEmail: [email protected]FB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim groupIG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrrdKxpBdBO4ZLwB1kTmz1w

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Coach Fatimah and Coach Nyla of Outstanding Personal Relationships join us today to talk about their lives as cowives. Anything that rhymes is our cup of tea, as are these two ladies who teach us what sisterhood can look like if we get good with Allah SWT first. It’s a conversation you don’t want to miss, especially when we talk about how polygamy is practiced in the Black Muslim American community for reasons that some of us from immigrant roots have not considered before. 
Again, no one is trying to convince Muslim moms to be co wives. But listen to these ladies talk about how they focus on their individual faith, support women, and use their advice to support a momsister in your life; and see what changes can come for both of you. Life could be beautiful if we applied what we learn from OPR to our own (monogamous) lives.
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Outstanding Personal Relationships on the Web: https://www.outstandingpersonalrelationships.com/ Outstanding Personal Relationships on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/outstandingrelationships/ Outstanding Personal Relationships on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/outstandingpersonalrelationshipsOutstanding Personal Relationships on YouTube: www.Youtube.com/OutstandingPersonalRelationships.com Get a Polygamy Road Map Ebook for men and one for women: www.PolygamyRoadMap.com  Polygamy questions: https://www.musawah.org/blog/rethinking-polygamy-lets-talk-about-the-consequences/Private polygamy in America: https://www.npr.org/2008/05/27/90857818/some-muslims-in-u-s-quietly-engage-in-polygamy Info on polygamy: https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2020/12/07/polygamy-is-rare-around-the-world-and-mostly-confined-to-a-few-regions/ Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.comEmail: [email protected]FB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim groupIG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrrdKxpBdBO4ZLwB1kTmz1w

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The CoWife Coach Mecca Nandi breaks down her family unit and how it’s evolved to its present place, addressing important topics such as jealousytrust and beliefemotional work of momssisterhood (what’s it mean to you?)women’s empowermentstrong marriages
If you’re coming with criticism of polygyny in Islam to this episode, you might find yourself laying your biases down at the end of it. That’s what we need: new POV or different POV from our own experiences and knowledge.
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Will Perry represents the men of the masjid for us today and boy is he gracious about it because we really dug into him: Where are all the men when it comes to DV in the Muslim community? Good news! The urban legend of the Muslim American Posse is well and alive, so sisters, you have your soldiers available to you if you’re willing to call on them. Brothers, build more posses.
Unique POV we gain from Brother Will who takes us upstream to remind Muslim men, and in many cases teach for the first time, their role as protectors of women in Islam (if you want to scream, “We don’t need protection,” please relax and take a decaf. No bigger feminists than us here). MIDC works with many middle aged men who have never been married and have to re enter the ummah after decades of incarceration and trauma that fuels the dysfunction of some marriages. This happens to Muslim and non Muslim FYI.
How do we prevent another Muslim mom from dying when we can prevent it?  Find out what MIDC is doing and help them continue this work through the community’s trauma after Alwiya's untimely death, and ask how to support the affected family. May Allah SWT grant her the highest level and protect her daughter from any harm seen or unseen. Ameen.
As always this month, if you’re not safe, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233, DM or email us [email protected].
Learn more about Milwaukee Islamic Dawah Center: https://www.dawahcenter.org/ If you are in an unsafe situation please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233RYOC that Br. Will mentions to help young men re enter community: https://doc.wi.gov/Pages/OffenderInformation/AdultInstitutions/RacineYouthfulOffenderCorrectionalFacility.aspx Peaceful Families Project Imam Training: RYOC that Br. Will mentions to help young men re enter community: https://doc.wi.gov/Pages/OffenderInformation/AdultInstitutions/RacineYouthfulOffenderCorrectionalFacility.aspx  Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.comEmail: [email protected]FB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim groupIG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrrdKxpBdBO4ZLwB1kTmz1w

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Hope comes on anonymously today to discuss her experience of emotional abuse–the scars that NO ONE SEES. Find out the walls that women in this situation run into: from perpetuating cycles of emotional abuse, cultural toxicity and the dearth of healing resources (including finances) that don’t permit them to leave.
Have you ever wondered if what you’ve experienced is abuse? Hear what Hope has to say and understand that what an abuser considers benign, he (10X more likely to be “he”) will make her believe it is, too.
If you need help, call the National Domestic Hotline just to talk and explore what you’re experiencing: 1-800-799-7233. As always, you can DM us or email [email protected] if you don’t know about the culturally competent, Muslim-friendly local hero organizations near you.

1. If you are in an unsafe situation please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 
2. Nisa Helpline for ANYONE but specifically geared to help Muslim women: 1-888-315-6472
3. A Continuous Charity Women’s Empowerment program: https://youtu.be/rCIOy3VaMzM 
4. Narcissists by Dr. Judith Joseph: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CkGR2tgA8Yy/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= 
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This is a special REPLAY of Madiha Schader’s experience of hiding the painful details of her emotional abuse from family and friends. The cultural reasons she did this are very clear in her story. She’s not unique, especially because her lived domestic violence wasn’t always physical. Mental, emotional, verbal abuse, financial/social isolation, witholding necessary care, and unreasonable demands from a place of control that endanger a person’s psychosocial wellbeing are equally suffocating, and a matter of life and death. Madiha’s freedom came through her own son and her body. Find out how her closest friends identified what was happening and supported her until she was able to decide it was time to save herself. If you know someone you suspect is in danger of physical violence or mental oppression, help her using the resources listed below. Don’t wait until your phone rings with the worst news ever; text her and let her know you’ve got a listening, non judgmental ear and shoulder for her. If you’re someone who is in danger, having kids WILL NOT change an abuser towards you and might direct abuse toward your kid(s).
NISA helpline for Muslim women’s helpline: 1-888-315-NISA (6472)National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.comEmail: [email protected]FB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim groupIG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcast

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Program Director of Nisa Homes, Yasmine Youssef joins us today to inform us about the differences between transitional homes and shelters, how to set them up in your own community, and how we can work together to put them out of business. Who else goes to work everyday wishing they don’t have to, any more than a domestic violence worker?
Nisa Homes has to open a 9th and 10th transitional home in Canada ASAP and you can help by visiting them @nisahomes. Donate right now so every victim has a choice, a literal safety net. She could be a momsister you know.
Tune in at 6pm EST tonight and share this with a friend who thinks they have no way out. Allah always makes a way.
Learn more about Nisa Homes and the services they can provide: https://nisahomes.com/ If you are in an unsafe situation please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 Nisa Homes on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nisahomes/ Nisa Homes on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nisahomesYasmine’s book recommendation: Dare to Lead by Brene BrownWeb: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.com Email: [email protected] FB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim groupIG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrrdKxpBdBO4ZLwB1kTmz1w 

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If you don’t know Mona Kafeel of Texas Muslim Women’s Foundation, you have to hear this one. Her wisdom and insight regarding women’s safety and empowerment, allyship, and raising Muslim men plucks our heartstrings, and it’ll do yours too.
Why do we continue to fight domestic violence as Muslims? If we are following our religion correctly, there shouldn’t even BE a fight! What TMWF provides to Dallas metro Muslims, and how it’s grown with Mona is a model for all community resources, especially those tackling DV.
As a recipient of AMWGC’s grant last year, TMWF is above and beyond deserving of support and we hope y’all lend it. Check the shownotes for links to donate ASAP and share this with a momsister at 6pm EST tonight.
Learn more about The Muslim Women’s Foundation and the services they can provide: https://tmwf.org/ If you are in an unsafe situation please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233Mona’s book recommendation: See No Stranger by Valarie KaurUzma’s letter to Muslim men featured on the Haute Hijab blog this month: https://blog.hautehijab.com/post/dear-muslim-men-when-will-you-really-show-up-for-victims-of-domestic-violence Web: www.mommyingwhilemuslim.comEmail: [email protected]FB: Mommying While Muslim page and Mommyingwhilemuslim groupIG: @mommyingwhilemuslimpodcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrrdKxpBdBO4ZLwB1kTmz1w

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Janan Sarwar of now Global Bookshelves discusses leaving a six figure career for what really makes her heart sing: books. Well, they make our hearts sing, too. Learn about some of the mindset shifts moms may need to make if they’re leaving the workforce for kids, or find that the careers they trained for in school no longer work.
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 | This is not-to-be-missed episode where we learn about investment paths and products to help generate wealth, courtesy of Investment Advisor Rezwana Abed of Sharia Portfolio. Find out which ones to avoid as a Muslim, which ones to pursue whether or not you’re risk averse, and alternative money generators, some of which we’ve never heard of, like sakk.  Tune in at 6pm EST, especially if investing intimidates you!
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