Mommying While Muslim

Fidaa Elaydi joins us today to share her personal experiences of Al Maghazi refugee camp in Gaza. A grandchild and child of Palestinian refugees to Gaza 76 years ago, she is four generations into a history of colonization and displacement, and now, genocide. As a mom of 4 herself, including a newborn, she has an acute perspective on mothers in Gaza today.

Hear about her family, delivering babies in war, losing everything, trying to evacuate, trying to reunite, and now trying to survive an impending ground invasion on Rafah where they have been seeking shelter. Mothers for 8 months and 76 years have held onto surreal hopes in Palestine, and Gazans in particular have a special coping mechanism we wish we did, too.

Tune in at 6pm EST to Apple podcasts, Stitcher, Amazon Music or head to our website to take a listen. Share this episode with someone who still doesn’t know exactly what’s going on and how to attain peace in the Middle East.

Links:

1. Help transport refugees in Rafah to AlMawasi
   1. @mohamed_elzomar endorsed by @oberlin4palestine
   2. Donate: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-us-getting-out-of-gaza-death 
2. Help reunite Fidaa’s cousin with her children, and help her other cousins reach safety:
   1. https://gofund.me/eb72560b 
   2. https://gofund.me/63a801df
   3. https://gofund.me/aec0ca32 
3. For an intro to the Palestinian struggle
   1. Said, Edward W. The question of Palestine
   2. Khalidi, Rashid. The Hundred Years’ War on Palestine: A History of Settler Colonialism and Resistance, 1917–2017
   3. Pappe, Ilan. The ethnic cleansing of Palestine
4. For a history of Palestine
   1. Doumani, Beshara. Rediscovering Palestine: merchants and peasants in Jabal Nablus, 1700–1900
5. For Nakba deniers
   1. Abdo,  Nahla, and Nur Masalha, eds. An oral history of the Palestinian Nakba
   2. Assad, Dawud. Palestine Rising: How I survived the 1948 Deir Yasin Massacre
   3. Khalidi, Walid (ed.), Sharif S. Elmusa, and Muhammad Ali Khalidi. All that remains: The Palestinian villages occupied and depopulated by Israel in 1948
   4. Masalha, Nur. Expulsion of the Palestinians. Washington, DC: Institute for Palestine Studies, 1992.
   5. Masalha, Nur. The politics of denial: Israel and the Palestinian refugee problem
6. On resistance
   1. Davis, Angela Y. Freedom is a constant struggle: Ferguson, Palestine, and the foundations of a movement

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Did you know that much of the Palestinian diaspora is forbidden by Israel to return to Palestine, despite Article 13(2) of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, which requires nations to ensure the safe return of refugees to their homeland? Unless you know a Palestinian, you probably didn’t.

Amal Fayad is one such member of this diaspora, numbering in the millions across the world, who knows Gaza,  through the stories of her family. Both of her parents grew up in Gaza, but cannot go back, even with an American passport. Hear about her dad’s survival at sea as a toddler, her grandmother’s strength, as well as what “equal” rights currently means for Palestinian “citizens” of Israel. 

Tune in at 6pm EST to Apple podcasts, Stitcher, Amazon Music or head to our website to take a listen. Share this episode with someone who insists Palestinians are equal citizens of Israel. 

 Links:

1. For an intro to the Palestinian struggle
   1. Said, Edward W. The question of Palestine
   2. Khalidi, Rashid. The Hundred Years’ War on Palestine: A History of Settler Colonialism and Resistance, 1917–2017
   3. Pappe, Ilan. The ethnic cleansing of Palestine
2. For a history of Palestine
   1. Doumani, Beshara. Rediscovering Palestine: merchants and peasants in Jabal Nablus, 1700–1900
3. For Nakba deniers
   1. Abdo,  Nahla, and Nur Masalha, eds. An oral history of the Palestinian Nakba
   2. Assad, Dawud. Palestine Rising: How I survived the 1948 Deir Yasin Massacre
   3. Khalidi, Walid (ed.), Sharif S. Elmusa, and Muhammad Ali Khalidi. All that remains: The Palestinian villages occupied and depopulated by Israel in 1948
   4. Masalha, Nur. Expulsion of the Palestinians. Washington, DC: Institute for Palestine Studies, 1992.
   5. Masalha, Nur. The politics of denial: Israel and the Palestinian refugee problem
4. On resistance
   1. Davis, Angela Y. Freedom is a constant struggle: Ferguson, Palestine, and the foundations of a movement

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We had too good a conversation not to make an episode out of it, and thank you to Shehla Faizi of @imamuslimpodcast for initiating it! Basically, like the majority of the country, we moms are asking:

1. WTH is going on on our student campuses? 
2. Why on earth would students put their education, finals, safety and futures on the line for Gazans they don’t even know?
3. Why are peaceful student encampments met with such brutal force?
4. Why is everyone vs. the students protesting genocide and not the actual genocide in Gaza?
5. What can we do in solidarity with our students?

If you take nothing else away from this conversation, SHOW UP.

Tune in to find out how to keep us safe! Stay safe out there, everyone! 👊🏽👊🏽

Links:

1. The History of Anti War Student Movements
2. Anti War Student Movements to Explain to Kids
3. The History of the Young Lords
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THANK YOU to all respondents of our survey so far. Anyone who'd like to receive a a free gift card via email, please head to the link in bio to fill that out by 5/15. Your answers helped us round out and improve the picture we have of you in our minds when we plan and pray for this podcast. 🎧

What topics do audiences want us to cover, how do they want to support us (or don't 😭😭😭), what do they want us to do better, and what comment made us outright cry? 

Tune in at 6pm EST to find out and if you are a student who needs info shared or resources sent ASAP, please let us know and we are your moms to get it done. Stay safe out there, everyone! 👊🏽👊🏽

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Today is the first of two episodes reporting the results of our Annual Survey. On this one, find out who our fellow listeners are, where they listen in from, what they do, and what this data means to us. Find out if it's true about you or not, and why this data matters to the podcasts industry itself.

Survey closes on 5/15! Click on the link in bio to fill it out and automatically enter our drawing to win egift cards for participating. Help shape the future of Mommying While Muslim Podcast with your feedback.

Tune in at 6pm EST and remember to cast your Webby People's Choice vote by midnight! Link in bio.  

Links:
1. Vote for the Webby's People's Choice Award: https://tr.ee/OENKpQ_3z3
2. Fill out the Annual Survey and try to win a prize as well as help us out: https://tr.ee/CqK2JzJe8b
3. Disparities in the Podcast Industry: https://gitnux.org/diversity-in-the-podcast-industry/

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We are in dire need of it, hence the replay of Ustadha Hosai Mojaddidi's episode about impediments to spiritual consistency in our lives. While some folks tried to white knuckle it through Ramadan, we used it to treat our broken hearts and rage. But we are still worried about how to make the essence of this month make the world make sense after Eid. How do we carry our Ramadan routines forward past this blessed month and not lose the spiritual high we SO NEED right now? 

Let’s talk about train cars, the myth of parental ownership, suhbah (spiritual companionship), acts of worship we can rely on no matter our stage of motherhood, and insha’Allah walk away feeling energized to maintain the magic of Ramadan, keeping up steam for the rest of the year. Allahuma ameen. 

☪☪Tune in to this episode and share it with a friend who needs to keep filling her cup while she hits the streets and phone banks to stop a manmade catastrophe THAT COULD HAVE BEEN AVOIDED if everyone paid more attention to ALL children, and not just their own. 

 Links:

1. Hosai Mojaddidi’s Website: http://hosaimojaddidi.com/about/ 
2. Hosai Mojaddidi on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hosaimojo/?hl=en 
3. Hosai Mojaddidi on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hosaimojaddidi/ 
4. The Golden Quran app: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=org.goldenquran.freesoft&hl=en_US&gl=US 
5. Ustadha Hosai’s book recommendation: The Jewels of the Quran Imam Ghazali
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This week's replay is Dr. Fareeha Malik, DDS, mom of 2 with a history of severe postpartum depression. PPD ended up informing her relationships and and even her reproduction.

Of course, we discuss how she she found healing. Bringing home a baby doesn’t always mean mom’s eternal happiness. Not all mothers feel “the way they should” after the baby is born, and may feel lost if they don’t know where to turn for resources. This endangers not only mom but also a newborn.

In a time when 14000 children have been unalived in a completely manmade g-cide, this episode still has its place as one of the struggles mothers face. And for those of our momsisters delivering via C-section without anesthesia, delivering prematurely due to stress, shock, and manmade famine, PPD is a real threat with deep seated claws. May Allah SWT first and foremost secure the survival of our momsisters and their newborns born in an ongoing g-cide, and protect them from every evil of the heart and mind, and destroy the enemies who threaten their physical states. Ameen.

We were so into the conversation that we didn't get to review the valuable resources we have for our community. check out the shownotes on our website or DM us.

Links:
1. Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale: http://perinatology.com/calculators/Edinburgh%20Depression%20Scale.html
2. PHQ-9 Screening Tool: https://www.integration.samhsa.gov/images/res/PHQ%20-%20Questions.pdf
3. American College of Obstetrics & Gynecology patient handout on PPD: https://www.acog.org/Patients/FAQs/Postpartum-Depression?IsMobileSet=false
4. Nisa Helpline: https://nisahelpline.com/who-we-are/ 1-888-315-NISA (6472)  available 12 hours during the day, or email [email protected] anytime
5. National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255 available 24/7 for help

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This hiatus replay features Shaykha Tamara Gray, founder of Rabata, an online institute for and by Muslim women to educate themselves in Islam. She’s also an experienced mom who has a lot to share with moms about allying with their kids as part of their mothering. 

Mic drop moment 32:36 when Shaykha Tamara reminds us about the etymological relationship of the words “umm” (mother) and “imam” (one in front of whom we study, or leader), but on a lighter note at 44:15 “Shaykha Tamara: I am green beans!” Serious butterflies and chills in this episode, so don’t miss it!

Tune in at 6pm EST and share with a momsister in search of female scholarship. Remember to pray for those memorizers of Quran and scholars we have lost in the past several months, in G@z@ especially, due to a siege that was 100% manmade and 100% avoidable.

Links:

1. Find out more about Rabata: https://www.rabata.org/
2. Rabata on IG: @rabata_org
3. Find out more about Ribaat programs: https://ribaat.rabata.org/
4. For more information on the teen program “RabaTeens”: rabateens.rabata.org 
5. For more information on the children’s program “Dragonflies”: dragonflies.rabata.org
6. Anse Tamara on IG: @tamaralgray
7. Anse Tamara’s picks for Muslimah American scholars to know

           a. Dr. Ingrid Matteson: http://ingridmattson.org/about/
           b. With reference to Dr. James Jones: https://yaqeeninstitute.org/team/dr-jimmy-jones/
           c. Dr. Zainab Alwani: http://www.zainabalwani.com/
           d. Jamillah Karim: https://berkleycenter.georgetown.edu/people/jamillah-karim
    8.  To buy Joy Jots or other titles by Muslimah authors at  Daybreak International Bookstore: https://daybreak-international-bookstore.myshopify.com/collections/all<

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Sumiya Khan, RD was recently on during our Where Are They Now series, and this is her original story from Season 2, in case you haven't heard it or don't know how to find it on your podcast app.

She shared her devastating loss and was on the path to overcoming it at the time of this recording. Her advice on the do’s and don'ts during grieving are golden and should be printed for general public use! She’s truly a model of resilience, and since like-minded folks get together, Sanctuary Kitchen was [is] her passion, outlet, and work empowering refugees. We look forward to her supportive endeavors in Muslim bereavement based on her personal experience. Trigger warning: If you've experienced profound personal loss, you may not be prepared for this.

As a role model for all, she lives life outside the box in her work and at home, showing us that through and in grief are opportunities for our growth and sanctuary. Make duaa for our sisters across oceans who  have had their love stories cut abruptly due to siege and assault that was 100% manmade and 100% avoidable. Tune in at 6pm EST and share with a momsister who is working to increase her gratitude this blessed month.

Links:

1. Sumiya on IG: @sumiyaswholekitchen
2. Donate to the awesome work of Sanctuary Kitchen www.sanctuarykitchen.org / IG @sanctuarykitchenct

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Thirteen thousand children and counting....and as you heard on our hiatus announcement, at home, moms are losing their kids, too, to the continued shock of the community. Why are we so shocked? Are we untouchable, above grief and trials from Allah? No, He's promised them to us, and we pray to pass all those tests. Ameen.

One of the moms who came on before is our beloved teammate, Saira Sufi, who even recently moved us to tears at our gala when she shared the story of her son, Hadi. She is our role model, who embodies beautiful patience and imaan while facing what we can only imagine is lifelong grief. Despite losses that we would describe as "crushing," she crushed them, and instead has built a legacy for Hadi that will make those of us who never met him, truly regretful. 

This may be a triggering episode for anyone who has suffered immense loss and grief, so maybe listen in a group so you can support each other through this episode. Remember to pray for our sisters and families abroad who are waking up every day to the wrenching reality of an unalived child or relative. Their grief is so tragic because it was 100% manmade and 100% avoidable. 

Also, let’s never forget to support medical research and to join minority blood registries in case we can ever help another family avoid illness and loss. This episode is for every mom, sibling, and family who’s ever experienced the loss of a child, and we pray for their continued healing and reward with Allah SWT. Ameen.

Links:

1. Team Watience Website: https://www.teamwatience.com/
2. Team Watience FB: https://www.facebook.com/TeamWatience/
3. Team Watience IG: https://www.instagram.com/sairasufiandteamwatience/
4. Help reach Saira’s $60K research goal by donating to the Hadi Abdu Rasheed Research Fund for Aplastic Anemia: https://aamdsif.salsalabs.org/eoyp2pfundraisingcampaign/p/hadiabdurrasheedsresearchfund/index.html 
5. Be the Match and register your bone marrow with the minority registry for a child or human in need; it just takes a cheek swab, no blood! https://bethematch.org/support-the-cause/donate-bone-marrow/join-the-marrow-registry/

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