Do you ever worry that what you do, or maybe what you aren’t doing, is going to permanently screw up your children for life? Do you often wonder if you’re repeating generational patterns, or if the traumas and struggles from your childhood may be affecting your parenting? Or do you ask yourself if you’re doing everything you can to have a healthy relationship with your child? At some point I think we’ve all had those thoughts and fears and concerns. Now listen, this week is my birthday week, and today I wanted to bring on my very first ever guest on the Motivation For Moms show, and it’s none other than the one and only woman who brought me into this world 31 years ago this week, and that is my beautiful mother, Juliana Cocola. Juliana is the founder and facilitator for the Empathic Arts Institute that provides resources, peer support, education, publicity and creative space for those who are engaged in fields of work that help people. Prior to starting the Empathic Arts Institute, she was a young mom at the age of only 19, she became trained as a full time minister, and later became a woman in media as a producer and director of local television programming, and has always been an educator and entrepreneur. Today, I have immense respect and appreciation for the hard-working businesswoman and the deeply emotionally attuned person she is as a mother and as a grandmother, but our relationship hasn’t always been close and connected. For most of my life, of course, I loved my mom, but I’d call our relationship very surface level. Today, my mom and I are having a very real heart-to-heart about some of the challenges and struggles that we’ve had through the years, how she made the decision to end generational patterns of disconnection, and what she has to say to moms who maybe feel like they’re failing. In this episode, we talked all about:How to be with painHow to end generational patterns of disconnection and emotional disregulationParenting from the inside outHow your child’s age might trigger past traumas you experienced when you were that ageHow to use your current relationships to clue into what you might need to heal from your own childhoodHow your therapy can radically change generations after you, how your personal work can have a ripple effect How the positive personal work you’re doing and your attempts to establish connection with your children can have even more of a powerful effect then all of the negative you might be worried about, and,How our “mistakes” as parents can actually be a blessing to our relationship with our childrenBe sure to get out your notebook for this episode because there are SO many gems that you’re going to want to jot down that I think, are going to leave you feeling empowered, encouraged, and motivated.