Move With Radiance

“But if I accept + send love to myself right now, I won’t get to where I want to be.”

^ I had this mindset for a long time

That if I finally accepted myself, right now as is, then I would never reach my goals. I would just mold into my couch, scroll social media for the rest of my life, and say goodbye to my desires.

So I motivated myself with hate and shamed my way into a lifestyle that would get me there.

We as humans desire to feel enough. We desire wholeness.

And for many years I not only desperately searched externally for that enoughness but oddly enough I was also simultaneously destroying and denying that sense of wholeness within myself.

Think about that for a second. When we don’t accept ourselves... when we shower ourselves with hate and shame and the consistent “I need to change because I am not good enough,” we are rejecting the very thing we crave within our own bodies.

WE are confirming the belief of “I’m not enough…”

And that’s when we bring in the acceptance.

So on todays episode I wanted to take some time to break down what Acceptance really means and how you can start using love + acceptance to motivate yourself to reaching your goals rather than turning to shame and hate.

Please let me know what questions you have and just know I’m sending you so much love <3

Additional Resources:

Free Grounding Meditation

Confident Decision Making Meditation Series

Email me at [email protected] for podcast topic/guest recommendations, for questions, or just to say hi :)

Hang out with me on Instagram (@stephaniedankelson) for even more resources

As humans, we crave connection.⁣

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And it’s so easy to go outside of ourselves to get that need met.⁣

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While connection with other humans is SO important, I have also found that connection with ourselves can be forgotten.⁣

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Because far too often, we can be the hardest on ourselves.⁣

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It becomes default not to question tearing ourselves apart⁣

To shame our actions, thoughts, and emotions⁣

To remove ourselves and disconnect from our bodies⁣

To numb the things we don’t want to deal with or look at⁣

And push away the parts of ourselves we refuse to accept⁣

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^ But while doing so - even as we deeply crave connection - we create disconnection within ourselves.⁣

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So today I wanted to talk about how you already have everything you need to feel the way you desire. Because you are enough, exactly as you are.

Please let me know what questions you have and just know I’m sending you so much love <3

Additional Resources:

Free Grounding Meditation

Confident Decision Making Meditation Series

Email me at [email protected] for podcast topic/guest recommendations, for questions, or just to say hi :)

Hang out with me on Instagram (@stephaniedankelson) for even more resources

For so many of us 2020 has flipped our world upside down…

And even in the midst of it all, we can STILL find ourselves with expectations to have our shit together. To be able to handle it all perfectly, with a smile on our face.

^ This can lead to soooo much overwhelm and frustration when we find ourselves not feeling the way we “should” be, leaving us feeling completely depleted and unable to refill our cups.

So today I wanted to give you permission to NOT be super human. To be exactly where you are. To know it’s okay to not have your shit together all of the time. And to give you some tips to help you start to repair those energy leaks so you can refill your cup and THEN change the world ;)

Please let me know what questions you have and just know I’m sending you so much love <3

Additional Resources:

Free Grounding Meditation

Confident Decision Making Meditation Series

Email me at [email protected] for podcast topic/guest recommendations, for questions, or just to say hi :)

Hang out with me on Instagram (@stephaniedankelson) for even more resources

I am so excited to bring you this episode - I had the opportunity to interview one of my dear clients, Sarah and todays episode is all about celebrating her and her journey.

Sarah and I started working together in November of 2019 and we recently finished up 8 months of 1:1 coaching. The way Sarah has shown up for herself and this experience and the things she's been able to create for herself was so incredible to watch, I wanted to share her story with you all.

She is such a bright light in this world and I can’t wait to brag about how amazing she is and for you to get to know her :)

Today Sarah shares:

Where she was before she started coaching

The struggles of feeling overwhelmed, not good enough, and constant negative self talk

Why she decided to invest in her personal growth and how she moved through the fear of taking that leap

Her biggest ah/ha moments and experience of the program

Where she is today and how she turned the big ball of overwhelm and inner chaos into information, a map of herself, and empowerment

What she's up to now and the big dreams she is pursuing

I hope you enjoyed this conversation as much as I did! Please let me know what questions you have and just know I’m sending you so much love <3

Additional Resources:

Free Grounding Meditation

Confident Decision Making Meditation Series

Email me at [email protected] for podcast topic/guest recommendations, for questions, or just to say hi :)

Hang out with me on Instagram (@stephaniedankelson) for even more resources

Today’s episode is simple. It is okay to be feeling what you’re feeling <3

I also share some tools to help you feel into this and give yourself more grace to feel all the feels.

You are so loved.

Additional Resources:

Free Grounding Meditation

Confident Decision Making Meditation Series

Email me at [email protected] for podcast topic/guest recommendations, for questions, or just to say hi :)

Hang out with me on Instagram (@stephaniedankelson) for even more resources

It is so easy to shower ourselves with harsh words and disappointment when looking at our actions/choices in this life, past or present…

“You’re better than that, get your shit together”

I’d shame myself for certain decisions made during a night of drinking

I’d follow a binge with angry, hurtful words and forced exercise

I’d shove emotions that made me “weak” deeper down in my body followed by “you need to be strong…”

I’ve followed so many actions in my life with anger, hate, and tough love thinking it would force me to get better, to avoid that choice next time.

But in doing this deep healing work, I’ve realized that this was of self motivation DOES.NOT.WORK.

SO on today's episode I wanted to talk about why I don’t believe in this form of self motivation, what it is we are truly craving, and how to switch into a more loving form of moving forward.

Please let me know what questions you have and just know I’m sending you so much love!

Additional Resources:

Free Grounding Meditation

Confident Decision Making Meditation Series

Email me at [email protected] for podcast topic/guest recommendations, for questions, or just to say hi :)

Hang out with me on Instagram (@stephaniedankelson) for even more resources

As a collective, we have defined success as some sort of tangible, measurable outcome

Whether that be in the form of grades, performance, job title, money, how “hard” we work, the length of our to-do lists…

We receive praise + recognition for moving up the ladder of life in some way

^ and because of that so many of us have become addicted + reliant on our outcomes in order to feel something:

Worthy

Enough

Validated

Important

So on…

^ and that's when things get sticky.

SO on today's episode I wanted to talk about burnout and why your deep desire to succeed may be contributing and how to start shifting it so you can ENJOY your success and feel enough always.

Please let me know what questions you have and just know I’m sending you so much love!

Additional Resources:

Free Grounding Meditation

Confident Decision Making Meditation Series

Email me at [email protected] for podcast topic/guest recommendations, for questions, or just to say hi :)

Hang out with me on Instagram (@stephaniedankelson) for even more resources

Recently, I went mountain biking with some friends… and it wasn’t long before I fell to the (wayyyy) back of the group.

Immediately, I tried to keep up as sneaky thoughts of “geeze, why are you so slow get moving!” started passing through my head.

It wasn’t too long after I started pushing that my excitement for biking that day was replaced with frustration.

And that's when it hit me: Wait, why do I have to go fast?! Whose expectations are these?

^ This kind of situation can happen SO quickly if we aren’t paying attention.

Where our experience can quickly be taken over by expectations and pressures that have no business being there.

SO on today's episode I wanted to talk about expectations and share a few tips on how to recognize and remove them so you can ENJOY your moment more fully.

Please let me know what questions you have and just know I’m sending you so much love!

Additional Resources:

Free Grounding Meditation

Confident Decision Making Meditation Series

Email me at [email protected] for podcast topic/guest recommendations, for questions, or just to say hi :)

Hang out with me on Instagram (@stephaniedankelson) for even more resources

Higher Self. A concept that is VERY popular in the personal development world today… and one where if we are not careful can pack on even more expectations and frustration if it’s not explored correctly.

So today I wanted to break down what Higher Self means and how to apply the activity and concept to your life in a productive healthy way so that you can really live out the truest YOU.

Please let me know what questions you have and just know I’m sending you so much love!

Additional Resources:

Free Grounding Meditation

Confident Decision Making Meditation Series

Email me at [email protected] for podcast topic/guest recommendations, for questions, or just to say hi :)

Hang out with me on Instagram (@stephaniedankelson) for even more resources

Today, I wanted to take the space to address what is and what has been happening in the US...

First and foremost, for the Black community with me here (and beyond), I see you. I am standing with you. And I am fighting with you for a change.

Your emotions, everything you’re feeling and experiencing right now is so valid. Please know it’s all welcome here and if there is anything I can do to help support your further never hesitate to reach out. I am always available to listen, to hold space, and to do better.

It is my commitment to ensure that anyone who wants to be a part of this community feels safe, seen, heard, and accepted.

And I am doing the work needed behind the scenes to ensure that stays true always.

That looks like analyzing my business + making the necessary changes, continually educating myself, listening… and doing the work.

This isn’t a social media trend

This isnt a week of being silent

This isn’t sharing a hashtag or a meme

This is a commitment for change for the long run.

And I am on that road with you.

& I promise to always act from integrity, not fear.

For everyone else here, I see you too. I know that unpacking privilege and racism, admitting where we are wrong is uncomfortable. Do the work but also be compassionate with yourself.

Like I always say, shame and hate will not help create the change. Curiosity, awareness, compassion, and action is what’s going to move the needle forward.

I wanted to take today's episode to focus on how we can do better. Specifically addressing the behaviors that may be blocking us from truly listening, from truly doing the work.

Along with that, here is a link that includes resources on how to take action, on how to be on this journey for the long haul.

Please know I am here. Let’s fight this fight.