Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

Glen Olson and Terry Lee Brussels, authors of the book "Fifty Years of Polyamory in America: A Guided Tour of a Growing Movement," join us for a deep discussion about their book, the history of polyamory, influences from literature and the idea of a utopian society, and more.

Glen Olson is an author and historian of polyamory communities in America. He is a retired fire captain, paramedic, and technical writer. Over the years he has made presentations to colleges and science fiction conventions on the subject of open relationships and polyamory. Find more about Glen at glenolson.org.

Terry Lee Brussel-Rogers is an author and hypnotherapist, helping clients with everything from intimacy without jealousy to spiritual growth and poly relationship coaching. Terry co-founded Live the Dream, an education and support group for people interested in alternative lifestyles, cooperative living, open relationships and group marriage.

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

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Kathy Labriola is back to discuss her most recent book with us, "Polyamorous Elders: Aging in Open Relationships," some of the inspiration that drove her to write about aging in polyamory, cultural narratives that affect how we perceive polyamorous elders, and more.

Kathy Labriola is a nurse, counselor and hypnotherapist in private practice in Berkeley, California. Her mission is providing affordable mental health services to alternative communities. She has been a card-carrying bisexual and polyamorist for fifty years. She is a political activist and community organizer. As you can guess, she is extra crunchy and lives in a housing co-op, rides a bike, and raises chickens and organic vegetables. She is the author of four books on consensually nonmonogamous relationships: Love in Abundance, The Jealousy Workbook, The Polyamory Break-up Book, and Polyamorous Elders.

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

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It's our 400th episode! Join us for a conversation where we talk about how Multiamory is produced, all the people, money, and costs involved, and how the show has grown and changed over the years. We also discuss some of the best parts about doing this podcast, some positive AND negative stories, and finally, we wrap up this monumental episode with some discussion about the future of Multiamory.

We want to thank all of our listeners and supporters so much for making this show possible and accessible. We could never have gotten this far without you all, and we look forward to many, many more years of Multiamory!

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

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Author and professor Carrie Jenkins joins us this week to discuss her newest book, Sad Love: Romance and the Search for Meaning, and some of the principle themes in it. She goes into detail about questioning the relationship between happiness and love, eudaimonic love, "lovecrafting," and more.

Carrie Jenkins is an author and philosophy professor who lives and works on the unceded territories of the Squamish, Tsleil-Waututh, and Musqueam First Nations. Carrie’s first novel, Victoria Sees It, was published in 2021 by Penguin Random House Canada, and shortlisted for the Frye Academy Award XIII and the Ethel Wilson Fiction Prize. Her non-fiction books include What Love Is and What It Could Be (Basic Books, 2017) and Sad Love: Romance and the Search For Meaning (Polity, 2022).

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

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Today's episode is guaranteed to spark strong opinions. We're discussing relationship anarchy: can it be practiced in monogamy or is it a contradiction of terms? We'll be looking at some of the core components of relationship anarchy and how they can be applied in order to improve our relationships and work against the various normative systems that cause so many to be hurt, disenfranchised, or disempowered.

For some more background and a deeper dive into relationship anarchy, check out Episode 150: Relationship Anarchy 101, and Episode 339: The Smorgasbord of Relationships.

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

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We're back again with another Q&A episode to answer some of our listeners' questions! Today we're tackling the difficult topics of different nesting styles, different communication styles and discussing the future, discovering community in non-monogamy, unintentional impressions of hierarchy, navigating sex after a prolonged period of not having it, and polysaturation signs.

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

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Today we're joined by Michael Kaye, head of communications at OKCupid! We're thrilled to have Michael join us to discuss online dating, how it has changed over the years and over the course of the pandemic, give some specific online dating advice and insight about dating trends, and answer some questions from our listeners about non-monogamous dating on OkCupid.

Find more of Michael at @MichaelKayePR and @OkCupid on Instagram and Twitter respectively.

OKCupid has also been generous enough to offer free premier subscriptions to Multiamory listeners! Listen to the end of the episode to find out how to get access to your free premier membership!

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

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Part 2 of 50 Way to Handle Jealousy is here! Today's episode covers the final 24 out of the 50 tools we're discussing this series. Last week we discussed tools for your brain and tools for your body, and today the tools we're going over fall into the categories of tools for your relationships, and tools for your heart and soul.

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

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Everyone in a consensually non-monogamous relationship gets asked the question, "How do you deal with the jealousy?" Even people who have practiced non-monogamy for years or who never expected to experience jealousy do experience it, so it's worth building a toolkit for yourself to break into when you need it. In today's episode we're discussing it by going over 26 different tools that can be used to help us handle jealousy when it comes up (and it will come up!). Stay tuned for next week when we'll go over the remaining 24!

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

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It's time for another Q&A style episode! We're discussing some of our Patreon supporters' questions concerning polysaturation, communicating about availability, feeling homesick for an existing partner when on a date with a new one, friends with benefits, and more!

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Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.

Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by ⁠Josh and Anand⁠

Follow us on Instagram ⁠@Multiamory_Podcast⁠ and visit our website ⁠Multiamory.com⁠.

We are a proud member of the ⁠Pleasure Podcasts⁠ network.