Why is it you can be so chill and peaceful single but the second you start the talking phase or go on a single date with someone - it triggers the anxious spirals, shutdowns, and self-abandonment that leave you doubting your worth and all of the healing work you've been doing single?!?

From that feeling of desperation as you wait on a text response (and the torture that ensues when more than a few minutes have passed) to over-functioning in relationships where you turn on the charm and performative "mating ritual" of the early stages of modern dating trying to get any kind of approval, validation and a dopamine hit of attention - the nervous system hijacks connection. Add perfectionism, "earning love," and ignoring red flags in the name of empathy or people-pleasing, and that's a sure fire recipe for exhaustion masquerading as intimacy and "courtship".

Enter today's guest expert, Shaina Richardson, a dating and relationship hypnotherapist for powerhouse women. In this episode, we'll unpack how to decode nervous system "activations" as Shaina calls it (aka triggers), how to stop gaslighting yourself, and the path to creating relationships that feel safe and soul-aligned. What all we'll cover:

• Why your body freaks out in dating and how to translate its language

• Hypnosis as a tool to rewire reactions (yes, beyond funky chicken stereotypes)

• The meaning you attach to texts, "I'm busy," and "not my person"... and how to shift it

• The trap of micro self-abandonment (aka putting his needs above yours)

• Vulnerability as the bridge to masculine, healthy love

Ready to build relationships as powerful as your career?

Work with Shaina:

• Follow @hey.shainamarie on Instagram
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• Apply to Healthy Men-tality - Coach Tara's Men's Coaching Program: UnblockYourBS.com/healthymen or DM HEAL on Tik Tok or IG to learn more

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• Watch the episodes on YouTube
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• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
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• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
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• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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