Why is it you can be so chill and peaceful single but the second you start the talking phase or go on a single date with someone - it triggers the anxious spirals, shutdowns, and self-abandonment that leave you doubting your worth and all of the healing work you’ve been doing single?!? 

From that feeling of desperation as you wait on a text response (and the torture that ensues when more than a few minutes have passed)  to over-functioning in relationships where you turn on the charm and performative “mating ritual” of the early stages of modern dating trying to get any kind of approval, validation and a dopamine hit of attention - the nervous system hijacks connection. Add perfectionism, “earning love,” and ignoring red flags in the name of empathy or people-pleasing, and that’s a sure fire recipe for exhaustion masquerading as intimacy and “courtship”.

Enter today’s guest expert, Shaina Richardson, a dating and relationship hypnotherapist for powerhouse women. In this episode, we’ll unpack how to decode nervous system “activations” as Shaina calls it (aka triggers), how to stop gaslighting yourself, and the path to creating relationships that feel safe and soul-aligned. What all we’ll cover:

• Why your body freaks out in dating and how to translate its language

• Hypnosis as a tool to rewire reactions (yes, beyond funky chicken stereotypes)

• The meaning you attach to texts, “I’m busy,” and “not my person”... and how to shift it

• The trap of micro self-abandonment (aka putting his needs above yours)

• Vulnerability as the bridge to masculine, healthy love

 Ready to build relationships as powerful as your career?

Work with Shaina:

• Follow @hey.shainamarie on Instagram
• @hey.shainamarie on Tiktok

• Coach Tara’s Breathwork + Healing Community: www.unblockyourbs.com/saa

• Apply to Healthy Men-tality - Coach Tara’s Men’s Coaching Program: UnblockYourBS.com/healthymen or DM HEAL on Tik Tok or IG to learn more

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok 
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

A post I shared went viral on “roommate marriages” and it highlighted the same core pains from over 400,000 men: no intimacy, eggshell communication, codependency, betrayal wounds, mental health strain, financial/family entanglements, and deep isolation.

When you’re dysregulated, you can’t desire. Logic can’t land when emotions flood the brain. And people-pleasing feels “kind” or loving until you realize it’s just self-abandonment at it’s core. Stay here long enough and you’ll start calling a war “gender” that the other side is the problem - when it’s really nervous system (hers) vs nervous system (yours)  fighting for safety in the only (toxic/dysfunctional) ways they know how.

In this episode, I break down the top common themes I noticed in these types of relationships and give you a nervous-system-aware playbook that leads with curiosity over defensiveness, boundaries over control, and language that reveals AND rewires beliefs - thus hopefully… unblocking your bs ;)  Here’s what we get into:

• Why “roommate marriages” happen and how to restore safety and intimacy (that’s not just physical)

• Stonewalling/defensiveness decoded (and the “fix/advice/listen?” script)

• Codependency vs care: the exact line where kindness becomes self-abandonment

• Betrayal repair basics: trust yourself first, then rebuild together

• When to stay, when to go, and how to do the consequence math

• Why men struggle to share and how to get real support that works

Men - if you’re ready to overhaul your nervous system so you stop feeling stuck and like a ghost in your own home/marriage/life?

Apply to Healthy Men-tality and let’s see if it’s the right next step for you on your journey to stop destructive or unhealthy cycles in your relationships: www.UnblockYourBS.com/healthymen  or DM me on Tik Tok HEAL

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok 
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

For 20 years, John lived in the “nice guy” role… fawning, avoiding conflict, and losing himself in the process. His marriage looked stable on the outside, but inside he felt empty, resentful, and disconnected.  

When the relationship ended, his first instinct was to date again and fill the emotional hole with someone new. But without facing the childhood wounds and nervous system patterns that shaped his behavior, he knew he’d bring the same baggage into another relationship. Through breathwork, inner child work, and the Self Aware Army, John learned that fawning isn’t kindness - it’s survival mode. Reconnecting with himself, setting boundaries, and building a life he enjoys have made him confident, calm, and clear about what he wants in love.

 You’ll hear:

• The childhood dynamics that led to 20 years of people-pleasing

• How breathwork became the catalyst for deep emotional release

• Why vulnerability is the foundation of true connection

• The freedom that comes from building a life you love… before adding a partner

If you’re interested in learning more about Breathwork and healing your nervous system inside of our Self Aware Army healing community - check out www.unblockyourbs.com/saa 

If you’re ready to stop outsourcing your worth and start leading in life and love, apply to Healthy Men-tality at UnblockYourBS.com/healthymen or DM me HEAL on Instagram or Tik Tok.

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok 
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

When emotions run high, most people react from their wounds, not their wisdom. The result? Miscommunication, spiraling arguments, and a lot of “fixing” that doesn’t actually solve anything.

Whether it’s your partner blowing up over a text you didn’t answer fast enough or you shutting down the second you feel criticized, these moments aren’t about the present, they’re about old patterns. And unless you learn to recognize them, you’ll keep recycling the same conflicts.

In this solo episode, I break down my coaching approach: how I listen for the beliefs behind your words, why I see emotional reactions as inner child moments, and how curiosity can change the whole conversation.

You’ll learn:

• Why coaching isn’t about fixing you (because you’re not broken)

• How language reveals the beliefs driving your behavior

• The “inner child lens” for understanding emotional reactions

• Why curiosity > defensiveness in conflict

Want to work with me 1:1 or as a couple to stop cycling the same conflicts? Check out my coaching packages at UnblockYourBS.com/workwithme or DM me on Instagram/TikTok @unblockyourbs

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok 
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Healing gave her insight. Inner child work gave her peace.

In today’s episode, I sit down with Jen Peters, an internationally recognized inner child healer and the founder of a 127,000-person inner child healing community. Together, we unpack what actually creates lasting healing for our students and clients - especially for those who’ve done all the things but still feel stuck.

Inside this episode we dive into:

• How your nervous system holds onto trauma you don’t even remember

• Why your relationship issues are actually childhood wounds in disguise

• What makes somatic and subconscious healing faster and more effective than mindset work alone

• Jen shares her own story of adoption, emotional neglect, narcissistic abuse, and rebuilding her life from rock bottom

• Why healing doesn’t need to take years—and what to do when therapy stops working

Whether you’re the codependent, the avoidant, or the overfunctioner in your relationships… this episode will speak to the parts of you that just want to feel safe.

Be sure to download Jen’s free digital book , Coming Home, as an exclusive gift for our Unblock Your BS listeners and start your inner child healing journey today. https://jen-peters.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Coming_Home_-_The_Path_to_Healing_Your_Inner_Child_-_Digital_version-2.pdf

Connect with Jen Peters: 

• Instagram: @jenpeters_soulguide_healer
• Website: www.jen-peters.com

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok 
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

What if your patterns in love weren’t proof that you’re broken but invitations to finally come home to yourself?

In this powerful episode, I’m joined by Leona Schrock, a fellow coach, podcast host, and former member of the Amish community who shares her journey of leaving religious shame behind, healing after a toxic marriage, and learning how to reconnect with the version of herself she never got to be in her strict religious upbringing.

We talk about:

• Growing up in the Amish culture and navigating the trauma of leaving

• How identity loss and people-pleasing shape women from a young age

• Why dating after divorce is a mirror for emotional healing

• Being both anxious and avoidant in love—and what that looks like in real life

• The subtle ways women self-abandon in relationships (even when they think they’re helping)

• And what it means to reclaim your standards without sacrificing yourself in love

If you were raised to be quiet, “good”, self abandoning or repress who you are based on your religious upbringing and now you’re trying to figure out how to be authentic, powerful, and free to be you - this episode is going to speak directly to your soul!

🎧 Listen now and let this conversation remind you…  You don’t have to perform for love. You just have to come back home to yourself.

Listen to my episode on Leona’s Podcast Unchained and Untamed here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/becoming-aware-of-the-unaware-with-tara/id1676547980?i=1000673009492&l

Connect with Leona: 

• Follow @schrock_leona on Instagram
• Follow @schrock_Leona on Tiktok
• Visit Harmony Home Organization to learn more about Leona

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok 
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Learn More about My Men's Program: Healthy Men-tality
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

What if the way you’ve been showing up in relationships wasn’t your fault but it was your responsibility to change?

In this powerful case study, Shawn, a men-ber of the Healthy Men-tality program, shares how his fear of abandonment and ADHD led to intense relationship dynamics, shame, and people-pleasing.

But through the program, he started healing the root issues… not just the surface symptoms.

Inside this episode, we explore:

• What fear of abandonment really looks like in relationships

• How ADHD masked as “laziness” and shaped his beliefs about worth

• Why breathwork changed everything—even though he thought it was BS

• The difference between shame and accountability

• How showing up with integrity shifted how he dates now

• Why he’s no longer future-faking or seeking validation

Whether you’ve been called “too much” in love, struggle to stay present, or overthink your way out of connection… this episode is a must-listen! 

AND MEN - if you’re ready to start doing the work to radically transform your relationships (including the one with yourself!) applications for the next round of the Healthy Men-tality program are now available at: www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen  Click the link to apply and schedule a time to chat and see if this program is the next right step for you!

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok 
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Learn More about My Men's Program: Healthy Men-tality
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

He couldn’t eat. He couldn’t sleep. His wife had left, moved on, and was still emotionally entangled with him—while dating someone new. And Chris? He was stuck.

In this powerful case study episode, I interview Chris, a former firefighter and Healthy Men-tality Graduate,  about his journey through a heartbreaking ending of his 10 year marriage, the subsequent emotional collapse, nervous system dysregulation, and the slow climb toward healing, peace, and purpose.

You'll hear:

• Why traditional therapy wasn’t enough to help him move forward

• How breathwork helped him remember childhood trauma he’d blocked out

• What boundaries finally set him free from his ex-wife’s emotional grip

• The difference between surviving and living again after betrayal

• The exact moment Chris said “I feel hope again”

If you’ve ever felt lost after a breakup or divorce, like your nervous system is hijacking your healing, or like you have no idea how to rebuild your life - this episode will feel very relatable.

MEN! If you’re done pretending you’re fine and ready to actually feel like yourself again - the Healthy Men-tality program  is the container that will change your life and put you back in the driver’s seat

Applications for the next round of this program are open NOW - we kick off next month! https://www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen 

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok 
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

You ever feel like you’re the one who gets it emotionally, but still can’t stop chasing people who aren’t good for you?

In this listener Q&A episode, I answer real questions from women and men navigating heartbreak, avoidance, divorce guilt, and that all-too-familiar spiral of “why do I keep doing this?”

You’ll hear coaching around:

• Why your body craves people who are bad for you (even when your brain knows better)

• What to do when you’re drowning in guilt after leaving your marriage

• How to stop using casual sex as a substitute for connection

• What it actually means when calm feels boring and chaos feels like love

• The sneaky self-sabotage of dating emotionally unavailable people

• And how to stop punishing yourself for choosing peace

This episode is packed with nervous system insight, real-life client reflections, and hard truths delivered with heart. If you’re ready to stop repeating the same patterns in dating and start leading yourself differently in love, listen in.

Want to be coached on the podcast (for Free!) or submit a question about what you're going through? Go to unblockyourbs.com/podcast 

MEN! Ready to regulate, lead, and love differently?

We kick off the next round of the Healthy Men-tality program next month! Learn more at unblockyourbs.com/healthymen

📥 Download the FREE 5-Minute Breathwork Audio HERE

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok 
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

This isn’t a before-and-after story. This is the during. The messy middle. The part where healing actually happens.

In today’s episode, I sit down with Elizabeth, a member of my Self Aware Army, who found herself in a season of overwhelming loss, burnout, and grief from losing several loved ones in a very short period of time… and decided to do something radically brave when she had lost all hope: she chose herself.

Inside, they talk about:

• What it’s like to lose your family, marriage, and sense of self all at once
• Why traditional therapy gave her insight, but somatic work gave her freedom
• How coaching helped her take the mask off and finally feel safe again to be seen and heard
• The sneaky grip of people-pleasing and codependency and what letting go of limiting beliefs actually looks like
• Why nervous system healing accelerates change in ways mindset or therapy alone never could

Elizabeth’s story is heartbreaking and an honest invitation to reflect on your own patterns to how they are blocking you from feeling hopeful, grounded and excited about what’s to come… and I’m betting she’ll inspire the hell out of you while doing it.

🎧 Listen now, then ask yourself: What if you gave yourself permission to be happy, too?

👉 Join us inside the Self Aware Army at unblockyourbs.com/saa 

If you’d like to join the LIVE Swipe Right, Not Wrong Masterclass I’m co-hosting with dating and relationship Coach, Kayle Ersek, on July 18th - check out all the details and save your spot here: www.unblockyourbs.com/swipe 

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok 
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.