Gary Ware is quite simply one of my favorite people on the planet. To know him is to love him.

In this episode, Gary and I talk about how PLAY unexpectedly saved both of our lives.  You have probably heard that the opposite of play is depression and perfection. Yes, And...We go quickly and deeply into conversation about our painful and pivotal catalyst moments that lead us to a place where we value PLAY and pleasure.

Gary is masterful at encouraging companies/schools to use play to improve productivity, collaboration, and engagement. We discuss how play can even save your relationships. Couples that play together, stay together! This conversation is rich with tips on living with ADHD, pleasure/play practices, having difficult conversations, parenting, worthiness/self care, and the magical healing powers of games. Follow your compass of joy, commit to those things that bring you joy, and witness yourself saving your own life.

Gary  Ware is a creative yet strategic Play Consultant. He helps companies and professionals level up their skills. He is also an improvisational comedian AND a brilliant magician. Gary's mission is to help people become more creative, confident, and collaborative through play. He is the founder of Breakthrough Play and, most importantly, a husband and father. Gary is simply inspirational and completely lovable. I feel like he brings out the best version of everyone he meets. 

"For every job that must be done, there is an element of fun, and (SNAP!) the job becomes a game" Mary Poppins

"We are all wired for play and we need to find our way back to the playground" Gary Ware

To reach Gary: 
breakthroughplay.com
IG  @garyware and @breakthroughplay

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So, I did the scary and brave thing, Y’all. I asked Kelli Tennant to be on my podcast and she said YES! 

Yes, this is the same Kelli Tennant who was a college athlete and famous sports reporter who covered the Lakers and Dodgers. Yes, THE Kelli Tennant of “The Kelli Show” and the “Yes, Babe” podcast. Yes. The Kelli of the IG Pleasure Channel with 31.5K followers. Yes. The one with all the sexy, half-naked photos that make you drool. Yes. Kelli Tennant who is an Intuitive Facilitator, Reiki and Hypnosis Practitioner, Women’s Circle Facilitator, and plant medicine advocate!
 
Good. I am glad we got that all out of the way because all I care about is the WOMAN and the SOUL that is Kelli Tennant. I honor the woman who broke free from a lineage of toxicity and found her voice and power. I adore the woman who challenges social norms and encourages other women to create their own narrative from their evolving truth. I celebrate the woman who moved from the grief of losing her mom, dad, and puppy and slowly made her way back to self-worshipping. I want to highlight the woman who is courageous and vulnerable in sharing her stories of facing her deepest fears and accessing her deepest pleasures.
 
And, yes, I HAD to ask Kelli about THREESOMES and how they actually work. You’re welcome.
 
Actually, I had a lot of questions. Here’s some that were answered in this episode:

Can you be a “good wife” if you want to explore sex with other people?
How do you find a third, a “unicorn”, anyhow? Bumble, you say?
Can your friend be your third and would that “ruin” your friendship?
Can you be monogamous AND have a threesome? Is that monogamish?
Does it matter if I don’t know how to identify? Who do labels help anyhow?
Do you have the capacity to hold space for our fears of abandonment, grief, and sexual pleasure in the same breath? Hint: yes.
Is it possible to let go of control and simply enjoy life?
How can you surrender to asking for and receiving pleasure?
How do I practice self-worship?
What about jealousy? What about our fear of abandonment?
How do you set boundaries? How do you stick to the boundaries you set?
What if you want to change your mind?
What do you do if you are stuck in a pattern of chronic pain and illness and don’t feel sexy?
What if you keep losing people and pets and the grief makes it hard to access pleasure?
Is it normal that I always think something must be wrong because something often goes wrong, so when I can’t find anything wrong, I freak out as if there is something wrong and then I freak out because I always look for something to go wrong instead of just enjoying a single fucking moment? LOL.
This is exactly how Kelli and I conversed and laughed together. It was a blast.
Just lock the door, get naked, throw the rubber duckies aside, hop in the bathtub, and listen.
Kelli herself said “Let Pleasure be the Measure” is “an Important podcast that is fucking changing people’s lives”. Aw, shucks...and thank you, it’s true. 

IG: “slide into her DM” at @kellimtennant and listen to The Kelli Show. So good!

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Today’s episode is a whole-hearted conversation about trauma, infertility, and how creativity can be a surprising and pleasurable path to our healing. I certainly resonated with how creativity could feel life-saving, as my therapeutic comedy work proved more effective than decades of traditional medicine and therapy.

As a #1 bestseller author, Certified PTSD, CBT, and Fertility coach, Pantea Kalhor explains how she could conceive naturally over forty of age after over 2 years of struggling with fertility issues, unsuccessful fertility treatments, and been diagnosed with unexplained infertility. She started her research to find the root cause of her issue by learning about complementary medicine and creating a harmonic connection between mind and body. In this episode, Pantea shares stories about her PTSD and how learning to mother and nurture herself was paramount to her healing. We finish the episode with a powerful discussion about the power of visualization and manifestation.

Check out Pantea's Youtube channel
Her Book “Naturally Conceived”
Website: https://panteakalhor.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/panteakalhorcoach/

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If you have ever been to Maine, you have likely eaten lobster, a whoopie pie, and a HOLY DONUT.  In today’s episode “Have Your Cake and Eat it Too”, I am thrilled to bring you the founder of the Holy Donut empire, Leigh Kellis, as she reveals her new book “The Love Diet” AND details of our collaborative pleasure retreats, starting summer 2021. This episode will make you DROOL and DESIRE!

We talk about food, sex, and love. We talk about self-worth, wanting, and wanting more. We talk about having our cake and eating it too...maybe with a donut and a cookie on the side, if it is in our pleasure, thank you very much. Red wine and an orgasm at the same time? Yes, please!

Leigh is passionate about eating. She makes it a sensual practice. When she releases her old patterns of shame and guilt, she is open to receiving pleasure from other people. She wants to encourage women to eat with gusto and passion like we are not afraid of our appetite for life.

Pasha and Leigh will be leading pleasure retreats in Maine, which will include workshops around self-worth and desire and the art of receiving, massages, pleasure portraits, scrumptious food, and spectacular coastal scenery. We will be encouraging retreat participants to give themselves full permission to indulge and to let pleasure be the measure..

How to reach Leigh Kellis and learn more about the retreats, visit:
Website: thesweetsea.com
IG: @womenwhoeatdonuts

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Jeff Harry is an International Speaker & Positive Psychology Play Whisperer at Rediscover Your Play. He has worked with Google, Microsoft, Southwest Airlines, Adobe, the NFL, Amazon and Facebook, helping their staff to infuse more play into the day-to-day.
 
Jeff was selected by Engagedly as one of the Top 100 HR Influencers of 2020 for his organizational development work around addressing toxicity in the workplace. His playwork has been featured in the New York Times, AJ+, SoulPancake, the SF Chronicle, and CNN.
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Jeff believes that we already have many of the answers we seek, and by simply unleashing our inner child, we can find our purpose and, in turn, help to create a better world. 

This episode is filled with so much genius and magic, it is hard to summarize. I suggest you gift yourself the time to listen to Jeff’s brilliance and then pause the recording, allowing his words to touch your heart. SAVOR the wisdom and then INTEGRATE it into your life.

Here are the lessons I will most savor from our conversation:

Embrace positive psychology over toxic positivity.
Learn from the dying about how to live
Feel it all, the grief and the joy
All you need is 20 seconds of insane courage
FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real
On the other side of all that fear, is all the magic
The OPPOSITE OF PLAY IS PERFECTION
Rather than looking for the right way, find YOUR way
Nobody knows what they are doing! 
Savor the fact that you took a risk. 
You can slow down time simply by watching more sunsets.
Play is any joyful act where you forget about time.
Stop chasing your worth. Your worth is in the moment, not in your productivity. 
Notice if the way in which you celebrate is the way in which you cope. 
I don’t care what you do for a living. Tell me what mischief you are making.
Adults are boring
The Jones’s are miserable, so stop trying keeping up with them.
Stay curious.
Affluent Deadness:  people who are rich and famous and dead inside
Expectations are the thief of JOY
The Future is where the FUN is
FLOW: your zone of genius, your Ikagai. 
Playing at work makes you 5x more productive (see Google's 20% play rule)
Yes, AND your meetings. 
How to positively prime a meeting.
Meetings suck because they aren’t fun-engage and connect!
Know your staff’s languages of affirmation (public praise, gifts, money, acts of service)
Forced fun doesn’t work
How can it get any better than this? 
No bad days, only bad moments that you ruminate over
Ask yourself: “How can it be better than this?”
In our lives we hear “NO”148K times and we only hear “YES” 8K times.
You are “SHOULD on” by adults all the time
A revolutionary rebellious act is saying: “this is ME!”
You do you, boo boo!

Find Jeff Harry here: https://www.rediscoveryourplay.com/
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If you are a parent, teacher, or human, PLEASE give yourself the gift of listening to this episode.
You will leave feeling seen, heard, and known.
You will release shame and judgment.
You will hear that your best is enough. Believe it. Give yourself that grace.
There is pleasure in living the human experience while being held in a safe and empathetic space.

Rebecca Weiner is a dynamic educator, parent coach, and creator of Learn Play Grow Educational Consulting. She uses a strength-based approach to enrich learning through play, support children with diverse abilities, and coach families to success. Rebecca’s innovative and customized supports meet you where you are, virtually, in-home, at school, and in the community, and help you experience success beyond your imagination.

One of Rebecca’s many gifts is her ability to calmly greet each human experience with compassion and empathy, even the moments when our children are having a temper tantrum in Target. I have told her on many occasions, I wish she lived in my head.
She is good for the soul. She allows me to take deep breaths of self-worthiness. She values play! She is as close to Mary Poppins as I have ever met. Just listen.

Email: [email protected]
Web: www.learnplaygrowconsulting.com

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Emily Aborn is a content writer, the owner of the She Built This community, and a WICKED FUNNY friend.

This episode will feel like you are at a slumber party with a couple of your best girlfriends, talking about marriage, work, animals, self-care, and of course, PLEASURE. Emily talks about how she enjoys pleasure through all of her senses (especially sound), movement, and playing jeopardy.

Our conversation is also an accurate behind-the-scenes perspective of what it is like to be an entrepreneur and podcast host while learning to be our own best client. Just as we empower women to practice self-care, Emily and I continue to practice stillness and healthy daily rituals.

Emily vulnerably and courageously shares her experiences of crying on the floor of her own mattress store, hating her work, and wanting more from her life. Now that she has found pleasure in her work, she is expanding her dreams, facing her French inner critic, and standing TALL in her power.

To reach Emily Aborn:
emilyaborn.com
@shebuiltthisgroup
@emilyaborn

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Ari and Pasha have a lively conversation about sex and intimacy when one or both partners has ADHD. Pasha embarrassingly, and not surprisingly, overshares about her own marriage, as both she and her husband live with ADHD. Ari refers to his fascinating 2015 study on sex and ADHD and outlines key principles for great sex life.

He suggests being as intentional about your sex life as you are in your exercise routine. Keep reminding yourself, he says, that the first few sets of weights don’t necessarily feel good, but after a while, you get into it. Likewise, the best thing to enhance your sex life is to...well, keep having sex.

It all sounds so clear and easy when he explains it! Now, if I could only remember to exercise and have sex before I get too tired! Someone bring me a sticky note!
Oh, and he shared a mathematical equation about how acts of service are good for your relationship: dishwasher+laundry=sex. Indeed!

Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST, is a certified sex therapist and psychologist specializing in the diagnosis and treatment of ADHD in children and adults. A prolific writer and international presenter, he recently released his fourth book on ADHD, “ADHD After Dark”. He also hosts the popular podcast "More Attention, Less Deficit'' for adults with ADHD.

For more information and inspirations from Ari, check out http://adultadhdbook.com/

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Janice is one of my favorite inspirational speakers. She wears her heart on her sleeve and is so deeply in touch with her emotional body, she is often close to tears when she speaks. Janice goes directly to the places that scare her and enjoys busting through her limiting beliefs, trying radical things like working through body shame by entering a bodybuilding competition or working through her beliefs about her sense of humor by joining a comedy group.

We have a fascinating conversation about competition, comparison, people-pleasing, trauma responses, and female friendships. We laugh about how neither of us is any good at small talk, even with new friends. What is the last thing on Earth you’d want to talk about? Cool. Let’s talk about that!

Janice says to let fear rest on the sidelines, pick yourself for your own team, step up to the bat, and play your own game. When you play full out, that is fulfillment and pleasure.

No more playing small!

You can reach Janice at Janiceburt.com

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Pasha is back with another solo episode. Deep breaths...this one is intimate and expansive. She reveals secrets about her recent coming out process and her new book “My Next Husband Will be a Lesbian”. While sharing radical truths is empowering and liberating, it is also vulnerable, courageous, and terrifying. Despite it all, Pasha is ready to expose the “messy middle” as she reads the first chapter of her book, a personal account of her sexual revelations.

If lines like “fantasies of scissoring plague me” freak you out, you may not want to listen to or watch this episode.

No, we take that back. “Do the thing that scares you most”, Pasha says, “that’s where the growth and magic happens”. Go ahead and listen and, if it shocks you, notice why.
Open your mind to possibilities and pleasure beyond measure.

At the end of the episode, Pasha shares her many offerings, including her therapeutic comedy work and 1:1 coaching opportunities.

Available on amazon, “My Next Husband Will be a Lesbian”

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