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#Is the Mobile phone triggering arguments and unnecessary conflicts in your relationship? 

#Does your relationship need mobile phone regulation and agreed upon policy?

#In a scale of 0-10 can your relationship survive the mobile phone snooping ?

#deleted stuff are retrievable; deleting messages if it’s noIt due to storage issues attracts suspicions 

#Is it really important to have access to each other’s phones? Will the relationship collapse if you don’t?

Isn’t phone snooping  similar to tracking “godisa /govoulela” which is usually triggered by insecurity, jealousy and fear?

#if someone chooses infidelity, no amount of phone tracking, monitoring or phone-snooping will change their behaviour.

#you may not find messages or evidence on the phone, and that may not necessarily mean your partner is not cheating

#Going through someone’s phone will only increase your anxiety, so, is it really worth it?

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#There is a link between Emotions and physical wellbeing 

#Negative Emotions can be deadly

#Negative Emotions can cause diseases

#There can be no health without mental health 

#Treating physical symptoms without addressing underlying emotional root causes is counterproductive hence medications not working for some conditions you may be experiencing. 

#Identify your underlying NEGATIVE CORE  Unprocessed emotions 

#Resentment, bitterness, anger, unforgiveness, self-loathing, self-hatred may trigger diseases

#watch your thoughts and emotions

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#Cognitive impact

#Academic performance 

#Lack of focus and concentration

#academic decline

#behavioural problems; bullying/ bullied, aggression or timidity, self isolation 

#Social life impacted

#Stigma and self-esteem

#Emotions: Shame, guilt, anger, fear, resentment, bitterness etc

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# Divorce does not only impact the couple who find themselves having  to take it as the only option, it affects the children too.

#Psychological effects

#Emotional impact 

#Open communication: age appropriate 

#Family dynamics 

#Maintain structure; routine

#Shared parenting

#child-appropriate coping strategies 

#Empathy

#Avoid bad-mouthing the other parent

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Answer :  Yes OR No?

DO YOU CONSIDER ANY OF THESE CHEATING?

When you are married or in a relationship and find your partner to be doing the following, will you consider that cheating; does such behaviour qualify as cheating?

 | BEHAVIOUR/ACTION STATEMENT |  YES | NO

 | 1.Texting someone else of the opposite sex secretly. | Yes/No

 | 2. Hiding browsing history from partner | Yes/No

 | 3. Secretly Watching Pornography | Yes/No

 | 4. Masturbating | Yes/No

 | 5. Giving special attention to someone else | 
 Yea/No

 | 6. Putting a password on the phone and refusing to share it with partner | Yes/No

 | 7. Regularly communicating with ex-partner, constantly talking about Ex | Yes/No

 | 8. Adding attractive strangers on social media to friend list. | Yes/No

 | 9. Flirting with someone and giving them  mobile number. | Yes/No

 | 10. Hiding messages (in the phone back office) or deleting text for partner not to see. | 
Yes/No

Total 🟰       ?

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#Divorce.        #Children

#impact.           #effects

#psychological.     #Mental.    #Behavioural

#Financial.           #Anxiety.        #Fear

#Anger.                 #Emotional Distress

#Substance use

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#betrayal induced trauma 

#trauma caused by feeling betrayed 

#Intimate partner betrayal/romantic partner betrayal 

#Institutional betrayal  

#Interpersonal betrayal 

#effects

#betrayal blindness

#Betrayal denial 

#unconscious blocking

#choices

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#Core beliefs

#challenge negative core beliefs 

#negative core beliefs

#negative core beliefs fuel your low self~esteem

#Low self-esteem

#perceptions

#self-concept

#Self-interpretation

#self-talk

#generalization tendencies e.g “Everybody hates me”, “nobody likes me” etc. Really ? Everybody in this whole world hates you?  Is that really true? Is it realistic? Is it possible for an individual to be  liked or loved by everyone?

“Am not good at anything”, how true is that? What could be the opposite of that?  Do you honestly believe  that  there isn’t a single thing you have the ability to do?  how did you reach that conclusion, and how did you learn that? 

REMEMBER: #every learnt negative core belief can be unlearned 

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#PROS: of Substance use; whether Opioids, Stimulants, Depressants, hallucinogens or others. What are  the good things about using them;  e.g cannabis, meth, alcohol, Ecstasy, Crack Cocaine, etc

#CONS  of Substance use; what is not so good  about using substances e.g what’s not awesome about cannabis/marijuana, Methcathinone /Cathinone, methamphetamine  use ? 

#PROS  of  change ; the good things about stopping substance use, the benefits or advantages of not using the substance.

#CONS:  the not so good things about stopping use of the substance; what’s not awesome  about not using the substance?

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#SUD : substance use disorders are a global concern

#Stigma may prevent people with substance used disorders from seeking help

#It is often difficult to get parents/caregivers to know how to initiate discussions with their loved ones

#Often parent’s emotions interfere with the ability to show empathy and support their children living with SUD

#No one  intentionally develops dependency on alcohol, marijuana or any other substance/drug

#Its important to use non-labeling, non-stigmatizing words 

#Setting boundaries clarifies where you stand on drugs

#Substance use impacts family systems and often members find themselves trying to cope by functioning in different roles of either becoming:

-  Enabler, 

- Hero, 

- Scapegoat 

- Lost Child

- Mascot

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