No One Dies from Divorce

Can I keep my inheritance safe from divorce? The short answer is yes, however you need to ensure you’re protecting money by knowing your state’s laws.  Regardless of your state, I always advise that you avoid commingling these funds, and to consider getting a trust as an added layer of protection. If you’re the recipient of an inheritance, tune in today to learn more about your options. 

Even though I’ve been a JLo fan since the beginning of her career, I’m not a huge fan of “Bennifer”. Today, Cameron and I are indulging in more salacious celebrity gossip and sharing why it’s not the best idea to get back with your ex. 

Even if you consider your divorce amicable or less complicated because you do not have children, it does not hurt to consult with a family law attorney to ensure you’re protecting yourself, property, and future.  While many people may think of hiring an attorney for a “simple” divorce without children, there are other factors to consider when proceeding, such as: refinancing and removing a party from the marital home, splitting retirement accounts, and joint debt. Access your credit report, list all of your property, and consult with an attorney before finalizing your divorce without children. 

Betrayal can affect your entire life - work, health, and even your relationships. While we’ve heard it before, “time heals all wounds”, Dr. Debi Silber joins me today with proof that this is not true. It doesn’t matter if your betrayal happened decades ago, you can still experience post betrayal syndrome today. Listen in as we discuss how to heal from betrayal in your relationship and experience freedom on the other side. 

Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert, the author of Trust Again, and is a 2-time #1 International bestselling author of: The Unshakable Woman AND From Hardened to Healed: The Effortless Path to Release Resistance, Get Unstuck and Create a Life You Love. Her podcast: From Betrayal to Breakthrough is also globally ranked within the top 1.5% of podcasts. Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show, TEDx (twice) and more, she’s an award-winning speaker and coach dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals as well as any other blocks preventing them from the health, work, relationships, confidence, and happiness they want most.

Tune in today to learn my take on the pros and cons of the hot real estate market right now, and how to deal with that while getting divorced. 

Divorce and Relationship Coach, Karen McMahon, joins me today to discuss the hardest parts of co-parenting, tips to help your kids through divorce, and how to deal with a high conflict ex. Listen in to learn how you can build a strong and lasting foundation for parenting teens and young adults.

Karen McMahon is a Certified Relationship and Divorce Coach, Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce. Karen leads a team of divorce coaches in supporting men and women around the world to become calm, clear and confident as they navigate divorce. 

Karen began divorce coaching in 2010 after recognizing that the pain of her divorce led her on a transformational journey into an incredible new life. During her three and a half year tumultuous divorce, Karen had a laser focus on healing and refining herself, she found her true voice, learned to set suitable boundaries, and surrendered what she could not control. As a result, her life began to improve exponentially. Karen has since spent the last decade helping thousands of men and women navigate the emotional and practical difficulties of relationships, breakups and divorce. Karen is the host of the acclaimed Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, co-author of ‘Stepping out of Chaos: Turning Pain to Possibility” and co-creator of JBD’s exclusive 12 Step Divorce Recovery Program. Her other accomplishments include work as a NYS Lobbyist, Health Advocate, Community Organizer, and Chairperson of a NYS non-profit organization, Director of Sales and Marketing, and successful small business owner.

It took Karen three years to decide she wanted to leave her spouse and get divorced. She describes herself as an “emotional hot mess” during that journey, which ultimately led her to building her program, Journey Beyond Divorce. 

My name is Jill Coil, and I know a thing or two about divorce. I have been a divorce attorney for the past 14 years and am licensed to practice law in Texas and Utah.  I own the domestic litigation firm Coillaw and have grown it in the past 7 years to be a multimillion-dollar law firm and one of the largest family law firms in the State of Utah. I have also written the Amazon bestselling book “No One Dies from Divorce” and am the executive producer of the docuseries with the same name.  I am the host of the podcast “No One Dies from Divorce.”  

I have seen thousands of divorces while working as a divorce attorney. I also have gone through the experience of facing divorce in my own marriage and the pain that was associated with it. Though my personal story did not end in divorce, it shocked my consciousness into understanding the pain, confusion, and hopelessness that comes with the possibility and/or conclusion that your marriage is ending. 

I have seen divorce from both sides. I hope to share both this empathy and this experience with you to help you in whatever your own situation is.  

Through the painful experience of facing my own divorce, I learned many valuable lessons. I learned that my anger could blind my rational, educated mind. I learned that I was willing to do things I knew were wrong and not in my family’s best interest, purely out of spite and anger. I learned that there are a multitude of external factors and individual needs that require constant nurturing and attention to make a marriage work. 

The stress of divorce can trigger a wide range of emotional responses, including eating disorders. Today, I’m joined by Dr. Susan Thompson, President of the Institute for Sustainable Weight Loss and the founder of the worldwide Bright Line Eating Movement, to discuss the psychology behind how and why we eat the way we do.

Susan Peirce Thompson, Ph.D. is an Adjunct Associate Professor of Brain and Cognitive Sciences at the University of Rochester and an expert in the psychology of eating. She is President of the Institute for Sustainable Weight Loss and the founder of the worldwide Bright Line Eating movement. Her first two books, including “Bright Line Eating: The Science of Living Happy, Thin, and Free,” became New York Times bestsellers and instant Hay House favorites. Her work weaves the neuroscience of food addiction with powerful insights from Positive Psychology, IFS, and 12-Step Recovery to outline a roadmap for achieving true integrity and self-authorship around food. The Bright Line Eating mission is to help one million people around the globe discover lasting food freedom and have their “Bright Transformations” by 2025.  

We all have automated our eating habits to a large extent. To retrain our brains and change these habits, it takes about 3-4 months of discipline and intense structure. Bright Line Eating works because 

1. They take food addiction seriously. 
2. They know that the solution is automaticity; you’re never going to win if it’s about choice and willpower. Automaticity is brushing your teeth in the morning and night without thinking about it. Bright Line will teach you how to tap into that part of the brain so you treat eating the same way. 

Eating disorders can be developed as a way for a person to cope with stressful situations, and can cause a person to overeat or undereat.  When it comes to the first, the idea that food can be an addiction is controversial. Bright Line addresses this idea by drawing a line around problem substances like flour and sugar.  

If you’re struggling with an eating disorder during or after divorce, tap into the psychology behind how and why you eat the way you do. If it’s time to build a new relationship with food, consider retraining your brain with a program like Bright Line, join a group, or talk to a Doctor /  therapist. 

In this mini-episode, I’m discussing a few different types of emergency orders. What issues qualify as an emergency, and tips on how to proceed. If you are in an emergency or feeling threatened, please call the cops and seek protection. 

 [TRIGGER WARNING: Mentions of self harm and suicide.] If you or a loved one need support, call the 24/7 National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

 This week I’m joined by my friend and paralegal, Michael Wise, who shares his raw and real story of divorce, and how he worked through fear, guilt, and shame to reclaim his life. It may not kill you, but in the thick of it, divorce can certainly test your will to live.  Find out the tools, keys, and things you need to do to protect yourself to find that peace of mind and ensure you come out better, stronger, and happier in the end. 

Michael began his legal career in 1994 near Los Angeles, California when he was asked to help an attorney move storage boxes the week before the Northridge earthquake. From picking up scattered papers and learning how to put files back together after the earthquake to answering phones, typing, learning to take dictation, drafting pleadings and declarations, understanding legal concepts, and meeting with clients, Michael was able to gain experience in all levels and aspects of legal assistance. He was certified as a paralegal in 1998 with a specialty in civil litigation.  

After a break from his legal career to work at the headquarters of his church (which is what brought him from California to Salt Lake City) and a too-short time as a businessman with his own retail store, he has been able to spend the past ten years working with some of the most respected attorneys in Utah’s legal community. He realizes that the community is a small one and he maintains and enjoys good working relationships with opposing staff and attorneys as well as court clerks, interpreters, court reporters, and experts in various fields. He was once honored by a nomination to the Utah State Bar as Paralegal of the Year.  

Michael is married with 4 children and a grandson, and lives in Pleasant Grove with a dachshund and a chihuahua. He speaks fluent Spanish and has professional experience as a translator and interpreter.