In this episode, I am sharing thoughts on how we put people, mentors, and coaches on pedestals. A couple of things happen when we do that and neither of them helps us to create the change we are seeking in our lives. 

In this episode we discuss: 

1) When we put people on pedestals, we have no idea what their story is, just what we perceive their story to be. Our perception comes from our experience and has nothing to do with that person.  The bigger the pedestal, the larger the drop when they show their human side, or when they fall below our expectations. 2) A pedestal immediately creates an inferior/superior relationship between the two of you. You will never connect fully with this person you admire because you are not viewing yourself and them as being on the same playing field. 

3) This process increases the gap or the stories that we are telling ourselves about what we think we are capable of and only reinforces what we are telling ourselves about why we can’t achieve the same thing. 4) One way to stop putting others on pedestals is to focus on cultivating the best relationship possible with yourself, self-love, compassion, feeling good about yourself, your gifts and values, and investing in yourself every single day.  We are all on an equal playing field and the fact that this “mentor” created what she did, shows you what is possible for you too. Join the HOW Methodhttps://www.marshavanw.com/thehowmethod

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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life Coach

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.

Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life.  She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others.