I've grown to really loathe the phrase "hot mess" but not for the reason you might think. 

See, we've come to believe that WE are the messes, but here's the deal: you are not a mess. You are a person that experiences messes. You observe. You see. You even contribute, because we're human and we make messes. 

Today, I want to give you permission to NOT call yourself a hot mess anymore if it doesn't make you feel good. You are so much more than a mess, friend.