Notes on Vulnerability

In the final solo episode of this season of Notes on Vulnerability, Alex makes the case for why "I just don't care anymore" isn't a red flag - it's often the first sign of real freedom.

Alex breaks down why not giving a fuck isn't about becoming selfish or numbing out, but about redirecting your energy away from fear, approval-seeking, and performative "adulthood" milestones, and toward what actually matters to you. Drawing on years of coaching experience (and her own life), she explores:

• Why "I don't care anymore" is usually a sign something's shifting, not a red flag
• The difference between giving up and becoming free
• Why so many "adults" still run their lives on fear, not maturity
• The subtle but powerful swaps that change everything (approval vs. self-approval, being liked vs. being authentic)
• A closing question to help you figure out what deserves your fucks — and what doesn't

This episode wraps up a season that's covered burnout, shame, boundaries, the nervous system, identity, and more, with guests ranging from barristers to the world's strongest disabled woman. If you've been following along, this is the thread tying it all together.

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If you're exhausted, running on empty, and wondering why you can't seem to cope the way everyone else does - this episode is for you.

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In this episode of Notes on Vulnerability, resilience coach Alex explores one of the most misunderstood truths about burnout: it's not just about doing too much. It's about doing too much while constantly abandoning yourself in the process.
Alex unpacks why the people who burn out are rarely the lazy ones - they're usually the reliable ones, the capable ones, the ones everyone turns to. And why, for those people, simply resting is not going to be enough.

In this episode you'll learn:

• Why burnout is a self-abandonment problem, not a workload problem
• What your nervous system is actually doing when you burn out - and why it makes complete sense
• Why rest alone often doesn't fix burnout (and what needs to change instead)
• How burnout shifts your identity in a dangerous way, and how to reclaim it
• Why recovering without changing your patterns just sends you right back to square one

If you've ever thought "what's wrong with me?" or "why can't I cope?" - Alex has a reframe that might just change everything.

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What if the key to emotional healing wasn't found on a therapist's couch, but on a dance floor?

In this episode, I'm joined by Ronnie - aka the Dancing Therapist - an integrative therapist in training who has spent years exploring the profound connection between movement, music, and mental health. From a life-changing retreat rooted in somatic dance, to eight and a half years of sobriety, Ronnie's journey is a powerful reminder that our bodies know things our minds haven't caught up with yet.

We talk about:

• Why the opposite of depression might be expression
• What somatic therapy actually is and how movement fits in
• The science of "collective effervescence" - and why dancing together is healing
• How to start moving for healing, even if you're self-conscious
• Navigating sobriety in a drinking culture - and building a social life without alcohol
• Why you are not broken, and what it means to come back to yourself

Whether you're curious about therapy, exploring sobriety, or just feel like you've lost touch with your body —-this conversation will leave you wanting to move.

Find Ronnie on Instagram: Ronnie Traynor

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We've become so fluent in the language of healing - boundaries, protecting our peace, doing the work - but what if some of what we're calling healing is actually hiding?

In this solo episode, Alex explores one of the most important distinctions in resilience: the difference between healing and hiding. They look, without judgement, at the places where wellness language can quietly become a cover for avoidance, fear, and staying stuck - and why it's often so hard to spot when you're in it.

You'll hear about:

• Why healing and hiding can feel almost identical from the inside
• The role of the nervous system and capacity in keeping us small
• Common ways hiding disguises itself as self-awareness
• What healing is actually supposed to do (hint: make your life bigger)
• Six signs you might be on the hiding side of things
• How to start asking better questions of yourself

This episode is honest, warm, and full of the kind of insight that might just hold up a mirror - in the best possible way.

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Celebrity stylist Rachel Gold has spent 35 years dressing some of the most recognisable faces in entertainment - and what she's learned goes far deeper than clothes.

In this episode, Rachel joins us to talk about why so many women over 40 lose their sense of style identity, and why that loss is rarely actually about fashion. We explore how body changes, menopause, people-pleasing, and decades of putting everyone else first can quietly erode the way we show up - and how something as simple as getting dressed can be the first step back to yourself.

We cover:

• Why the most confident people in the room are often the most insecure
• How your wardrobe reflects your self-esteem (not the other way around)
• The "chicken and egg" of body confidence and dressing well
• Why the people around you might not want you to change
• The three A's: Acceptance, Action, and Authenticity
• Why you should stop saving your best things for a special occasion
• What a monk's perspective on mortality has to do with your sequin dress

This is a warm, honest, and surprisingly profound conversation about style, self-worth, and what it really means to take up space as you get older.

Find Rachel on Instagram:  Rachel Gold

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Being called "reliable" sounds like a compliment - but what if it's actually costing you everything?

In this episode of Notes on Vulnerability, resilience coach Alex unpacks the hidden cost of being the strong one, the dependable one, the person who always holds it all together. While reliability can feel like a strength, over time it can quietly become a cage - leading to exhaustion, resentment, disconnection, and a creeping sense that you've lost touch with who you really are.

Alex explores:

• Why the "reliable one" identity is often built on self-abandonment
• How this pattern tends to surface in your 30s and 40s - and why
• The link between nervous system capacity and burnout
• Why letting go of this identity can feel like loss — and why that's okay
• What real resilience actually looks like

If you've spent years being everything to everyone else and something inside you is starting to feel deeply tired of it - this episode is for you.

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 Business mentor and "business alchemist" Pandora Paloma doesn't think so. After making millions in sales, she's become convinced that strategy is only part of the picture - the real work is in expanding your capacity, challenging your identity, and being honest about what's really holding you back.

In this episode we talk about:

• How your business can never outgrow the person running it
• The identities entrepreneurs need to let go of to reach the next level
• How nervous system regulation affects everything from sales to confidence
• Why feeling dysregulated isn't a problem - and how building capacity changes everything
• The biggest shifts happening in content and marketing in 2026
• Why your point of view matters more than simply sharing information in the age of AI
• Balancing authority with vulnerability without falling into performative authenticity
• The mindset shifts that make selling feel natural instead of uncomfortable

Whether you're growing a business, creating content, or simply navigating your own next chapter, this conversation is a reminder that sustainable success starts with the person behind it. Honest, practical and full of moments that will make you stop and think, this episode might just change the way you approach both business and yourself.

Find Pandora on Instagram: Pandora Paloma  

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Why do so many people feel lost in their 30s and 40s, even when life looks successful on paper?

If you've ever found yourself wondering, "Is this it?" or feeling strangely disconnected from the life you've worked so hard to build, this episode is for you.

In this solo episode, resilience coach Alex explores the identity crisis that so many people experience in midlife - but that hardly anyone talks about. You'll discover why feeling lost isn't a sign that something is wrong with you, but often a sign that you've outgrown the version of yourself that was built to survive, achieve and keep everyone else happy.

Alex explains why the traditional life milestones we've been taught to chase can leave us feeling empty, how "identity fatigue" develops, and why authenticity is one of the missing ingredients in resilience.

In this episode you'll learn:

• Why your 30s and 40s can trigger an unexpected identity crisis
• The hidden cost of building your life around achievement, reliability and approval
• Why feeling lost doesn't mean you're failing
• How your nervous system influences your sense of identity
• Why authenticity is essential for resilience, confidence and self-trust
• How to stop asking "What's wrong with me?" and start asking "Who am I, underneath all the roles I've been playing?"

If you're ready to stop performing the version of you that no longer fits and reconnect with who you really are, this episode will give you a completely different way of understanding what you're experiencing - and why it could be the beginning of something much bigger than you realise.

If you'd like support with this, you can book a free introductory coaching call here.

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What does it look like to actually live on your own terms - not just talk about it? Agnes, known on Instagram as The Ginger Witch, is the woman doing all the things a lot of us only dream about. From 10 days of silent meditation in a Vipassana retreat (twice!) to seven weeks training at a kung fu school in the mountains of China, Agnes has made a life out of leaning into discomfort - and she wouldn't have it any other way.

In this episode we talk about:

• How Agnes found her path and what she's building towards
• The Vipassana silent meditation retreat - what it is, what it costs you, and why she recommends it to everyone
• Her kung fu experience in China, and how it changed her relationship with discipline and her own mind
• Why fear and excitement are the same thing - and how to choose which one you feel
• Self-actualisation, side quests, and why being a "jack of all trades" isn't a flaw
• The surprising freedom that comes from routine
• Her philosophy on joy, vulnerability, and connecting with the world around you

Agnes is living proof that the biggest barrier between you and the life you want is usually just the decision to go for it. This one will stay with you.

Find Agnes on Instagram: @gingerwwitch

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It's easy to assume the answer is discipline, motivation, or confidence - but in this episode, resilience coach Alex reveals what actually makes the difference, and it's none of those things.

Alex explores the concept of capacity - why some people have more of it, where it comes from, and crucially, how you can build more of it. She breaks down the real reasons change can feel harder for some people than others, including the often-overlooked roles of financial background, emotional stability in childhood, and nervous system regulation.

In this episode you'll learn:

• Why feeling stuck is not a reflection of your character - and what it actually means
• How your money mindset (and where it came from) is shaping your financial reality right now
• The connection between emotional stability, attachment, and your ability to make change
• Why your nervous system has a bigger role in your life than your mindset does
• Practical first steps to start expanding your capacity and moving forward

If you've ever looked at someone who seems to change their life with ease and wondered what do they have that I don't? - this episode is for you.

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