Now What

✨ What if your birthday could be the reset button you've been waiting for in midlife?

If you've ever looked in the mirror and thought, I don't even recognize this woman anymore — this episode is your permission slip to stop dreading birthdays and start celebrating them. My guest, Tamar Hurwitz Fleming, author of How to Have a Happy Birthday, shares why birthdays are our most spiritually powerful day of the year and how to:

🎂 Break old patterns of disappointment 🎂 Ask for what you want without guilt 🎂 Stop birthday sabotage (yes, even the "mystery illness" kind) 🎂 Celebrate aging with courage instead of fear

It's time to reclaim birthdays as an excuse to honor yourself, laugh a little louder, and take up space — because you deserve it.

xoxo

melis

📍 Listen now, share with a friend, and then go buy yourself the cake you actually want. 🎂💃

✨ Connect with Tamar Hurwitz Fleming 📚 How to Have a Happy Birthday — wherever books are sold 📘 How to Have a Happy Birthday Workbook — exclusively on Amazon 🌐 howtohaveahappybirthday.com

✨ Connect with me 📧 info@motivatewithmelis 📲 IG: @motivatewithmelis

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Hoops & Glossers,

It's our anniversary pod! 🎉 Papi's back—and yes, his microphone decided to go on sabbatical. Consider this your official disclaimer: I did not turn him down on purpose (tempting, but no). You can still hear him—and he is witty, even when he's whispery.

In this episode, we talk about:

• The truth about "24 long years" (said with love… and eye rolls).

• Why marriage is more blooper reel than montage—and why that's normal.

• Raising kids → living parallel lives → finding our way back (hi therapy, we love you).

• Grief & real life: losing our sweet Roxy and helping Toby (our golden) through it.

• Big goals in midlife: Melis' first bodybuilding competition (Mexico, Dec 6) and what that's really been like for both of us.

• Recreating "us" in the empty-nest era: new roles, new rhythms, and saying yes to walks (Papi… put the phone down 😜).

• Marriage is work—not punishment. It's reps. Some days feel heavy; some feel hilarious.

• Therapy helps. Shoutout to Rupa for keeping it neutral and helping us actually listen.

• Midlife reinvention is for both partners. Women and men lose and rebuild roles; make space for each other's "what now?"

1. Puppy poll: Should Toby get a sister or a brother golden?

2. Mic magic: Best budget-friendly couple-podcast mic recs? (Because… yeah.)

3. Empty-nest rituals: What weekly "we" ritual brought you back together?

Feeling blah at 2pm? Want simple food + movement tweaks that actually fit real life? DM me "RESET"—I'm taking new clients and would love to help you feel your best.

Papi's mic dips in and out (happy anniversary to us 🎧). Stick with it—his quiet one-liners still land.

If this episode made you feel seen (or made you snort-laugh), share it with your person or your bestie who's in the thick of it. Rate & review so more midlife humans find our unfiltered corner of the internet.

xoxo

melis

Hoops & Glossers!

Buckle up—today we're going where few podcasts dare to go: the messy, confusing, sometimes downright bizarre world of perimenopause.

Hot flashes? Weight gain? Brain fog? Gas that could clear a room? (Yeah, we said it.) If you've ever felt like your body came with a secret manual that no one bothered to give you, this episode is your missing chapter.

My guest, Dyna Vink, a certified Integrative Health Practitioner and founder of Holistic Nutrition Lifestyle, is here to spill the tea on all things midlife. She's walked the perimenopause path herself, turned her frustration into research, and now helps women uncover the real root causes behind their symptoms.

And here's the jaw-dropper: 👉 One hidden culprit might just be… PARASITES! Yep. Not sexy. Not talked about. But way more common than you think. From bloating and brain fog to sleep struggles and skin issues, parasites could be part of the puzzle—and Dyna explains how to spot them, test for them, and (most importantly) kick them to the curb.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why perimenopause is still wildly misunderstood (and ignored in med school 🤯)

• The surprising first signs of perimenopause (spoiler: it's not just hot flashes)

• How the gut, hormones, and parasites are all linked

• Why traditional medicine often misses the root cause—and what functional medicine can offer instead

• And yes, the truth about colonics, biofilms, and parasite cleanses 👀

If you're in perimenopause (or think you might be), this convo will give you clarity, relief, and maybe a whole new perspective on what's really going on inside your body.

Because midlife isn't a crisis—it's a plot twist. And with the right tools, you don't just survive it… you thrive.

xoxo

melis

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✨ Resources & Links:

• Connect with Dyna Vink: [Insert her discovery call link or website]

Website: https://holisticnutritionlifestyle.com/;

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dynavink/ ;

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dyna.vink/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@PerimenopauseRelief

Para Support Parasite herbal rebalancing protocol: https://equi.life/products/parasite-cleanse-protocol?irad=909171&irmp=5705922

Hey Hoops & Glossers — today's guest is proof that you can be strong, healthy, and still grow your own garlic braid worthy of a Pinterest board.

Meet Kim Eagle — fitness coach, nutrition expert, Ironman times two (yes, TWO), and the green thumb behind Grow a Healthy Garden. She's the founder of Earn That Body, where she's been helping clients ditch the diet drama since 2009 with a "real food, no gimmicks" approach. And now, she's teaching people everywhere to plant, grow, and eat organic goodness right from their own backyards (or balconies).

In this episode, we dig into:

• 🚴‍♀️ How training for an Ironman changed her everything (and why she'd do it again in a heartbeat)

• 🍠 Why perimenopause had her swapping marathons for muscle and sweet potato harvests

• 🏋️‍♀️ The myth-busting truth about weight training, carbs, and why eating more can actually help you lose weight

• 🥗 Why Ozempic isn't the magic fix most people think it is — and the ripple effects we're not talking about enough

• 🌿 How growing your own food can boost your health, your mood, and maybe your social life (neighbors love free tomatoes)

Kim's energy is contagious, her advice is practical, and her passion for helping people feel their best is next level. You'll leave this episode ready to rework your workouts… and maybe plant a basil plant while you're at it.

Links from the episode:

• Kim's fitness + nutrition programs: www.EarnThatBody.com

• Start your own organic garden: www.GrowAHealthyGarden.com

Because whether you're building muscle or growing garlic, midlife is all about planting seeds you actually want to see grow. 🌸

xoxo

melis

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Hoops & Glossers - What if your next breakthrough wasn't in another to-do list… but in the pause? This week on Now What?!, Melis sits down with the radiant and real Karen Bartholomew — life coach, speaker, and creator of The Pause Method. Her work helps women (and leaders who feel like they're juggling flaming swords) slow down long enough to actually hear themselves again.

We dive into how overachievement, past conditioning, and people-pleasing can leave us burned out and disconnected from who we really are — and how the power of intentional pause can unlock clarity, peace, and your next big move.

👠 What We Talk About:

• Karen's own "Now What?!" moment as a single mom of three

• Breakdown of the PAUSE Method — and why you'll want it in your back pocket

• The stories we tell ourselves (and how to stop believing the lies)

• How burnout, hustle culture, and childhood beliefs keep us in a loop

• The truth about being "selfish" (spoiler: it's a superpower)

• Practical ideas for reclaiming your joy, your purpose, and your peace

🌀 Karen's PAUSE Method (teaser version!):

• P – Perceive: Identify patterns and subconscious stories

• A – Acknowledge & Accept: Without judgment, see what's really there

• U – Unwind: Untangle the mental spaghetti of outdated beliefs

• S – Shift: Reframe the narrative and reclaim your voice

• E – Expand: Practice new behaviors, embody the change

💥 Hot Quote Moments:

"The brain is designed to keep you safe. Not fulfilled." "What story are you telling yourself right now — and is it even true?" "The hustle isn't a badge of honor. It's a red flag."

🌱 Want to Dive Deeper?

• Karen's free 30-day PAUSE journal: karenbartholomew.com

• DM "Sanctum" to Karen on Instagram for info about her new community circle

• Follow her on IG: @karenbartholomew

🎧 Listen Now On: Spotify | Apple Podcasts

🔁 Share this with your favorite overwhelmed overachiever She might be one pause away from her power.

xoxo

melis

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Hey Hoops & Glossers — ever find yourself eating a cold nugget off your kid's plate and wondering, "Now what?" You're not alone. In this no-shame, no-diet-culture deep dive, Melis is keeping it real (and hilarious) as she tackles one of the most asked questions: "What the heck do I eat?"

From ex-fad dieter to macro-based mindset queen, Melis shares her simple, doable approach to nutrition — without the guilt, without the gimmicks, and definitely without the 100-year-old shelf-stable snack bars. 🧃🍗🥦

You'll learn:

• Why nutrition feels so confusing (hint: $$$)

• The basics of macros (and why you don't need a PhD to figure them out)

• What to eat more of (protein is queen 👑)

• The reason you must eat to lose weight (yes, you read that right)

• Real-life meal prep tips for the busiest midlife mama

• And the free gift you didn't know you needed 👀

📩 BONUS: Get your Free Nutrition Guide — just DM Melis the word "guide" on Instagram @motivatewithmelis

Because life is complicated enough — your food shouldn't be.

xoxo

melis

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Hey Hoops & Glossers — Buckle up for a road trip recap that turns into a full-blown midsummer meltdown (with a dash of Gaga fever and Bieber breakdown concerns thrown in for good measure).

In this unfiltered solo episode, Melis recaps her California college tour with daughter Devyn (yep, the baby's driving now 😱), shares her manifestation station dreams of living that Montecito life, and spirals just a tiny bit into pop culture chaos. We're talking Justin, Britney, Gaga, and why Meghan Markle deserves a break. Oh—and yes, she's still trying to snag last-minute tickets to Gaga's Mayhem Ball. Because obviously.

✨ In this episode:

• Devyn's volleyball camp + Melis' UCSB nostalgia trip

• Mama's dream life: a future house in Montecito (watch out, Oprah)

• Lady Gaga obsession hits peak level

• Midsummer burnout and back-to-school countdown feels

• A reminder: You're not alone if this summer feels a little… unhinged

If you're feeling off, overstimulated, or just done with summer chaos, this one's for you. We're in it together.

🌀 Come hang. Laugh. Vent. Manifest something wild.

xoxo

melis

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Hey Hoops & Glossers — Happy 4th of July! Fire up the grill, grab a hot dog (mustard only, according to Papi), and buckle up because this week's episode is officially off. the. rails.

🎙️ Featuring: Shannon "Sexy Papi" Murphy — aka my husband, baby daddy, and completely unfiltered co-host for this holiday chaos special.

We're talking…

💥 Club sports: the travel, the cost, the trauma, and why we're still here 💥 The volleyball tournament that gave me a black eye (true story) 💥 A deep dive into Speedos, co-ed swim, and… high school grooming habits? 💥 A very American 4th of July trivia game (Papi shockingly nails it) 💥 Fireworks safety PSA that turns into a full-blown hot take 💥 Nutrition tip: Watching the news might be making you fat

🚨 Caution: This episode includes overshares, unfiltered memories, and a strong opinion about Piccolo Petes.

So whether you're road-tripping, BBQing, or just trying to survive family time without starting a political debate — press play, laugh with us (or at us), and celebrate this beautiful, messy, overcaffeinated American life.

🇺🇸 Happy 4th of July, friends. May your burgers be juicy, your flags un-ironed, and your Speedos retired.

xoxo

melis

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Hey Hoops & Glossers —

She's back! In Part 2 of this powerhouse conversation, Brittany Carbone returns to share what happened when she stopped waiting for the perfect time — and just did the thing. From leaving L.A. to start a new chapter in Tulum to trusting her gut through grief, fear, and big transformation, Brittany gets real about what it takes to live in alignment (even when it's scary).

This episode is full of powerful mindset shifts, emotional breakthroughs, and practical tools you can start using today to stop second-guessing and start listening to your inner knowing.

💬 In this episode:

• Why Brittany left LA to follow a bold new path

• The real reason we struggle to trust our intuition — and how to fix it

• What happens when you stop numbing and start feeling

• The "Sally Jo" strategy for shutting down your inner critic

• How grief shaped Brittany's most powerful win yet

• A mic-drop reminder: You're allowed to take up space. You belong here.

🎧 If you've ever felt stuck in fear or unsure what your next move should be — let this be your nudge. Do it scared.

xoxo

melis

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Hey Hoops & Glossers —

Ever feel like the underqualified one in the room? SAME. In Part 1 of this powerhouse convo, Melis sits down with fitness champ and mindset coach Brittany Carbone to unpack the sneaky grip of imposter syndrome — and how to shake it loose.

From body image battles and binge cycles to the bodybuilding stage and building a business, Brittany shares how she found confidence, clarity, and community.

💬 In this episode:

• The hilarious way Melis found Brittany (spoiler: Instagram stalking)

• How Brittany rewrote her story around food, fitness, and fear

• What finally helped her kick the shame spiral

• The truth bomb we all need: "You are who you surround yourself with — so own it."

🎧 If you've ever felt like a fraud in your own life, hit play. This one's for you.

xoxo

melis

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